Jackie Dom - So this is the day 2 of the servitude. Same 4 hours 7:45 - 11:45 and the opposite person will be Dom. Anything can be asked/demanded, you can't say no without repercussions (spankings, insertations, others???)
So today is the 3/4ths the way there day. Twenty-one of twenty-eight days done after today. That's a lot of days of planning and being intimate with Jackie. The planning has been half the success of this. I wonder how many times we just try to 'let things happen' instead of planning something. When you plan, you make the intimacy a priority. When you're making that a priority, you're telling your partner that they are a priority. This month of Sexuary, Jackie and I have moved each other to the top of the priority list. It's been fun. It's been interesting, but most of all it's brought us closer together.
So on to the day.
It was to be a day of servitude. Jackie really just wanted to play with one of her new toys on me. She wasn't really into the servitude/Mistress stuff, but I was going to do what ever she wanted. It was fun, it was hot and we had a great time.
Afterwards she waxed me and then we went about our daily stuff. But in the mean time we spent a couple of purposeful hours together. Today was planned for the fetish, but what we had was a great time. And what we did would be considered very fetishy for many I'm sure. For us it's enjoying ourselves in the bedroom.
The whole Dom/sub thing just isn't Jackies thing. She likes the tie up and have fun, but that's the extent and that's ok, cause I still get more than most guys could ever hope for. I get understanding that I'm who I am and it's ok. She gets the same from me in return. Have you created that safe space in your bedroom for your partner?
One week left...*sigh*...Will be interesting to see how this winds up. We have some of the most 'out of the box' stuff planned for this coming week after tomorrow. Should be very interesting.
Dane
Well we just hit the 3 week mark, and have one week to go! This month has just flown by, I can tell you that the last 2 sexuaries were like pulling teeth. Which tells me we didn't plan enough...we just tried to do exactly what we normally did, and this time we planned for months...And it worked...this really has been a great month. We have talked more, understood more, relaxed more, and tried new things. That IS what this month is about.
Today was Forced Servitude, something that is a hard limit for me. Both receiving and giving. I don't mind being tied up or being spanked in the heat of the moment. I just don't like the forced thing, "You will do this, and if not there will be punishment" I don't like that. I like having a bit of control like when I tell him "Be ready for me when I get home from work with your ass up in the air" and I will spank him, But that's not the lady in leather snapping the whip. I am just not that type of person, think part of it is it takes me to a dark place. I have been in abusive relationships and that's what it reminds me of.
So we talked about this the night before, here is what I wanted: I wanted to use my new toy, so he will need to get himself ready, that I wanted to to get him from behind with my new strap-on. We tried, the strap-on was not what I had hoped, although we will use it again because you need to keep trying to get it correct. That being said I still got him good, I got to spank him and got to run my nails up and down him to send him over the top.
It was a lot of fun! I had a great day with him. And with his job like it is I enjoyed having a bit of uninterrupted time with him!
Jackie
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Public Spaces
So this will be sex in one of the vehicles. We talked about XXXSX as a last resort (safe space), but I would really like to keep an eye out for some place a bit riskier. A 90% safe place that would add some real excitement that we really could be caught (even though I don't want to be). Do we take out the seats of the van and put the blow up mattress in it?
Ok, I have to start out by saying that if allowed I would just walk around naked all the time. Around the house, around town, to go shopping, etc, etc, etc. I love being naked and have NO and I mean NO hang ups about being naked around other people. In high school I was always the kid who jumped into the lake and skinny dipped while everyone else was drinking. Never bothered me. I'm overweight, I'm not anything great to look at, but I don't care, I LOVE being naked.
So with that said we added this to the list. Now ultimately I'd like to have sex in a display window at the mall, but realize that's not going to happen. So the next best thing is to go out and have sex outside of the house (no, not in a motel room). I almost fainted when I saw Jackie hadn't scratched it off her Sexuary fetish list. It's just now she's comfortable walking around the house naked when no one else is home.
So we have a spot we knew would be safe. Ok, there was a very small chance someone would show up, but not really. But we could be outdoors and have some great sex. Originally I figured Jackie would want to go in the cover of night, but it was her idea to go during the day...YIPPEEEE! I'm all in! So I packed the tarp and a blanket and off we went.
Now I have to say I was a bit taken back when the buzzard was flying around at first checking us out. No we're not dead, go away! Geez. But we spent 45 minutes or so out there naked and having fun. Next time I have to remember a pillow or two and a towel to wipe down before we get back dressed. At least I'm hoping there will be a next time.
Several of the 'good things in life' all rolled into one great package today enjoying sex outdoors.
Dane
Sex in public spaces...while I know I am really not that type of person, I know Dane is. He loves being naked, and would all day long if he could. He would live a nudist lifestyle if given the chance. I on the other hand want a little on, its take almost 6 years to get to where I will even walk around the house naked if there is no one home. Even now I still wonder...is there someone going to come knock on door? Our old house we had plenty of "Hiding" places to go if someone knocked, but in the new place not so much.
So getting back to public spaces. We talked and talked about the where we wanted to go. We compromised and found a place. A place we knew there prolly would not be anyone there but there was a small/slight chance someone might drive in. So I get home from work today and Dane has all of the stuff packed in the little car. I kinda freaked out since I had thought we were taking the van and were going to be in it. I got myself collected and off we went. We got to our spot and he laid out a tarp and a blanket. That's it nothing else...I was like maybe you should have brought another blanket or something to cover us in? He being how he is really did not think it was that big of deal. So we undressed and layed down. Things got hot and heavy and orgasm were made. He asked me about the Buzzard, I told him nope didn't see it...All in all it was nice, the weather was perfect! Temperature was in upper 70's, sun was totally out, a small breeze...I really could have laid there longer but we had to get back into the real world, and I was a bit concerned that "my girls" who don't usually see sunlight would get burned....
So all in all it was a great day, we did something out of the norm, and while I am not wanting to do that all the time, I would do it again. IF I knew for certain we wouldn't be disturbed.
WE are almost 3 quarters of the way through...I cant believe it! Wow what a month. We have some great things on the calender for the rest of the month.
Jackie..
Ok, I have to start out by saying that if allowed I would just walk around naked all the time. Around the house, around town, to go shopping, etc, etc, etc. I love being naked and have NO and I mean NO hang ups about being naked around other people. In high school I was always the kid who jumped into the lake and skinny dipped while everyone else was drinking. Never bothered me. I'm overweight, I'm not anything great to look at, but I don't care, I LOVE being naked.
So with that said we added this to the list. Now ultimately I'd like to have sex in a display window at the mall, but realize that's not going to happen. So the next best thing is to go out and have sex outside of the house (no, not in a motel room). I almost fainted when I saw Jackie hadn't scratched it off her Sexuary fetish list. It's just now she's comfortable walking around the house naked when no one else is home.
So we have a spot we knew would be safe. Ok, there was a very small chance someone would show up, but not really. But we could be outdoors and have some great sex. Originally I figured Jackie would want to go in the cover of night, but it was her idea to go during the day...YIPPEEEE! I'm all in! So I packed the tarp and a blanket and off we went.
Now I have to say I was a bit taken back when the buzzard was flying around at first checking us out. No we're not dead, go away! Geez. But we spent 45 minutes or so out there naked and having fun. Next time I have to remember a pillow or two and a towel to wipe down before we get back dressed. At least I'm hoping there will be a next time.
Several of the 'good things in life' all rolled into one great package today enjoying sex outdoors.
Dane
Sex in public spaces...while I know I am really not that type of person, I know Dane is. He loves being naked, and would all day long if he could. He would live a nudist lifestyle if given the chance. I on the other hand want a little on, its take almost 6 years to get to where I will even walk around the house naked if there is no one home. Even now I still wonder...is there someone going to come knock on door? Our old house we had plenty of "Hiding" places to go if someone knocked, but in the new place not so much.
So getting back to public spaces. We talked and talked about the where we wanted to go. We compromised and found a place. A place we knew there prolly would not be anyone there but there was a small/slight chance someone might drive in. So I get home from work today and Dane has all of the stuff packed in the little car. I kinda freaked out since I had thought we were taking the van and were going to be in it. I got myself collected and off we went. We got to our spot and he laid out a tarp and a blanket. That's it nothing else...I was like maybe you should have brought another blanket or something to cover us in? He being how he is really did not think it was that big of deal. So we undressed and layed down. Things got hot and heavy and orgasm were made. He asked me about the Buzzard, I told him nope didn't see it...All in all it was nice, the weather was perfect! Temperature was in upper 70's, sun was totally out, a small breeze...I really could have laid there longer but we had to get back into the real world, and I was a bit concerned that "my girls" who don't usually see sunlight would get burned....
So all in all it was a great day, we did something out of the norm, and while I am not wanting to do that all the time, I would do it again. IF I knew for certain we wouldn't be disturbed.
WE are almost 3 quarters of the way through...I cant believe it! Wow what a month. We have some great things on the calender for the rest of the month.
Jackie..
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Speculum and Anal
So let's order and purchase a speculum. I want to look and play down below. I'd really like one for your pussy and ass. While it's in I plan on using your vibrator and watching what happens inside too. This is NOT about pain. If I cum in your pussy I might want to look a second time to see the difference. Do I need to dress up in a white coat and pretend to be a doctor?
Ok, because Jackie is finishing up with a yeast infection we decided to forgo this for the moment. I didn't want to spread anything or rekindle what we are finally getting under control. But I did want to explain this a bit in case we have to wait till next month to bring it back (cause eventually I will get to play doctor).
And that's probably the first of it. I'm not really the medical type. I mean I know some medical things, but I'm not the one watching doctor shows and all. But after watching the doctor use the speculum on Jackie during a check up after surgery was a bit of a turn on. So we've ordered speculums for this. I look forward to getting a peak in there.
So last night we got back into gear. Nothing over the top special, but still was great to get both of us satisfied again. We'll get back into our list today with Public Spaces, oh I can't wait. And if todays doesn't happen this month it will just give me something to look forward to in March.
Dane
Speculum and Anal....Dane really wanted to do this. We bought all the things we would need. I know he has seen it being used when I have gone for my well woman checkups. I don't understand it but again this month is out of our box...so this will be out of the box. Right now though until the yeast infection is gone I certainly don't want him lookin' at my insides
LOL
However all this being said I did say the favorite words a man likes to hear from his wife...."I am horny!" All these days with getting some has been hell going without some...I didnt care if I still have the infection or not dang it I needed a release. So we got back on the horse last night!!! YEAH!! I got the release I needed and he did to...
Now bring on the "Public sex" day...as I bite my lip and fight with myself on all the what if's that could happen...
Jackie
Ok, because Jackie is finishing up with a yeast infection we decided to forgo this for the moment. I didn't want to spread anything or rekindle what we are finally getting under control. But I did want to explain this a bit in case we have to wait till next month to bring it back (cause eventually I will get to play doctor).
And that's probably the first of it. I'm not really the medical type. I mean I know some medical things, but I'm not the one watching doctor shows and all. But after watching the doctor use the speculum on Jackie during a check up after surgery was a bit of a turn on. So we've ordered speculums for this. I look forward to getting a peak in there.
So last night we got back into gear. Nothing over the top special, but still was great to get both of us satisfied again. We'll get back into our list today with Public Spaces, oh I can't wait. And if todays doesn't happen this month it will just give me something to look forward to in March.
Dane
Speculum and Anal....Dane really wanted to do this. We bought all the things we would need. I know he has seen it being used when I have gone for my well woman checkups. I don't understand it but again this month is out of our box...so this will be out of the box. Right now though until the yeast infection is gone I certainly don't want him lookin' at my insides
LOL
However all this being said I did say the favorite words a man likes to hear from his wife...."I am horny!" All these days with getting some has been hell going without some...I didnt care if I still have the infection or not dang it I needed a release. So we got back on the horse last night!!! YEAH!! I got the release I needed and he did to...
Now bring on the "Public sex" day...as I bite my lip and fight with myself on all the what if's that could happen...
Jackie
Remember the Goals
Well the dreaded yeast infection hit a all time high over the weekend. There was absolutely no way I could play. Ugg, I really wanted to use some new toys. I was totally disappointed that we could not play. I know that we still had a great weekend. Part of this month is for us to talk, to listen, to try new things, to have quality time with each other. That is exactly what happened this weekend. We had talked a lot,and discussed things over the first half of the month. What we liked, and what we didn't. What did we want to do again, what did we look forward to that was in the next half of the month. It really is a month of communication, we have a crazy month and if we DON'T communicate it would not happen. We have talked about it in the dark, we have talked about it over supper, we have talked more than we have in the last 7 years! That is what this month is about.
So fast forward to this Sunday, another couple who we know is doing Sexuary in their own way, told me that while they haven't done it like we have and that they didn't understand why we were doing it the way we were and that they didn't agree with the whole "tshirt" and beating someone else. That it was not the point of Sexuary. So I got to share with her that our month was our month. WE decided on 28 things we wanted to try, that we would try willingly and that we would NOT judge each other. That we would communicate the how, what, when and what for's. She looked at me like a light bulb went off, and said Oh I had not thought of it that way before. Now keep in mind that couple have been married almost 25 years, and they still struggle with their sex lives. In fact the last 3 years we have encouraged them to do Sexuary. I thought we had talked about what the goals where about, that each person/couple just needed to make goals. If they did something more that normal then they when doing exactly what this month was supposed to be about.
So we are on the back-hill slide of our month. Things have come up that are beyond our control, but you know what that's ok, WHY? Because I have had a great 18 days with my husband! That we are closer than ever, that we can keep adding great things to our lives and to our sex lives. That I LOVE my hubby more today then the day we married...
I cant wait until the end of Sexuary, so we can sit and decide how we are going to change our monthly calenders....woohooo wonder what will get added for the next 11 months..
Jackie
Jackie hit the highlights of our weekend. Websites checking out cures and running to Wholefoods to make sure she got to feeling better as fast as possible. One of the worst things for a guy is to have a problem we can't fix. It's what we do, we fix things. So when it's out of our control, be it a yeast infection, or one of our kids sick, it takes a mental toll on us. I was glad when Sunday morning Jackie said she was 100x better.
We have talked and talked. It's fun to plan things out and work on the things that didn't work. Understand that we when we talk about the things that didn't work we have to create those safe spaces that our partner will know it's ok to talk about it and they aren't going to be chastised for it. I thought it would always be the guy whos wanting more, but I know that's not the case. I've known several women over the years that want more in the bedroom and the husband just won't give in. I don't understand it, but I know it's true. So in those cases the guy might figure it's been this way so long she'd never 'forgive me' anyway, so why try. It's in these times the safe space is imperative. But we CAN talk about the good the bad and the ugly of this month and have, making sure the rest of the year is going to be just as much fun.
So this weekend was highly modified but we pushed through. Honestly if I were the kiss and tell type guy I think I'd have most guys scared rather than jealous. Lots on our plates still as we count down the last of our month.But this isn't our first Sexuary and we're ready to rock and roll to the very end!!!
Dane
So fast forward to this Sunday, another couple who we know is doing Sexuary in their own way, told me that while they haven't done it like we have and that they didn't understand why we were doing it the way we were and that they didn't agree with the whole "tshirt" and beating someone else. That it was not the point of Sexuary. So I got to share with her that our month was our month. WE decided on 28 things we wanted to try, that we would try willingly and that we would NOT judge each other. That we would communicate the how, what, when and what for's. She looked at me like a light bulb went off, and said Oh I had not thought of it that way before. Now keep in mind that couple have been married almost 25 years, and they still struggle with their sex lives. In fact the last 3 years we have encouraged them to do Sexuary. I thought we had talked about what the goals where about, that each person/couple just needed to make goals. If they did something more that normal then they when doing exactly what this month was supposed to be about.
So we are on the back-hill slide of our month. Things have come up that are beyond our control, but you know what that's ok, WHY? Because I have had a great 18 days with my husband! That we are closer than ever, that we can keep adding great things to our lives and to our sex lives. That I LOVE my hubby more today then the day we married...
I cant wait until the end of Sexuary, so we can sit and decide how we are going to change our monthly calenders....woohooo wonder what will get added for the next 11 months..
Jackie
Jackie hit the highlights of our weekend. Websites checking out cures and running to Wholefoods to make sure she got to feeling better as fast as possible. One of the worst things for a guy is to have a problem we can't fix. It's what we do, we fix things. So when it's out of our control, be it a yeast infection, or one of our kids sick, it takes a mental toll on us. I was glad when Sunday morning Jackie said she was 100x better.
We have talked and talked. It's fun to plan things out and work on the things that didn't work. Understand that we when we talk about the things that didn't work we have to create those safe spaces that our partner will know it's ok to talk about it and they aren't going to be chastised for it. I thought it would always be the guy whos wanting more, but I know that's not the case. I've known several women over the years that want more in the bedroom and the husband just won't give in. I don't understand it, but I know it's true. So in those cases the guy might figure it's been this way so long she'd never 'forgive me' anyway, so why try. It's in these times the safe space is imperative. But we CAN talk about the good the bad and the ugly of this month and have, making sure the rest of the year is going to be just as much fun.
So this weekend was highly modified but we pushed through. Honestly if I were the kiss and tell type guy I think I'd have most guys scared rather than jealous. Lots on our plates still as we count down the last of our month.But this isn't our first Sexuary and we're ready to rock and roll to the very end!!!
Dane
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Tattooing and Piercing
Ok, this one might be a bit more imagination than real. We could go 2 ways on this. We could order some henna tattoos and 'fake' percings. I was thinking though we could be in Austin and go to some tattoo and piercing shops and who knows….but remember we have 13 more days to go. If we do go to town you can do the very slutty dressing up....you tell me what you want me to dress as. *** Ok since we've discussed it, we'll go to some shops, maybe some 'real tattoo' shops and some henna ones, and get tattoos. I know you want a butterfly, what is your bad boy going to get? Help me out said the tattoo virgin. We've ordered the hells gate, did you want some sort of piercings (fake or real)? Nipples? Clit?
Oh so many lines of thoughts going on here.
I guess I'll get the 'bad' news out of the way. Our dreaded anticipated visitor finally made it. No, not Auntie Flow, much worst, the yeast infection. At 11 pm on Valentines Day I went to go get some cream for her. I really feel bad for her. I'm not sure a womans parts are made for the kind of abuse we've given it this month, and we're just barely over 1/2 way there. So all day today off and on she's been fighting this battle. We're hoping by tomorrow she'll be better, but past results haven't been so lucky. I'm betting our weekend will be modified some to accommodate her current condition and then she'll get to the doctor. So with that in mind we made sure to give the first round of meds a chance and have no morning playing around.
So why Tattooing and Piercing? First of all Jackie has several tattoos and I think if I let her would have many more. Ok, let her isn't the right word, but in case you didn't know, nice tats cost serious dollars. And the tattoo really has to just beg for Jackie to want it, so it's not like she's ready to put just anything on her body. But she loves them. She's said many times that one of the best orgasms she had was when she was getting her tramp stamp on her back. There goes that pleasure pain thing again. A needle poking you over and over again, piercing into you and you have an orgasm. Isn't the mind a great thing?
Additionally we've talked about a piercing for her clit and for my penis off and on for 5+ years I guess. I'm not sure either of us will ever have one, but that's been the thought.
So there it goes on day 16 of the calendar.
In preparation we've ordered several new pieces of jewelry, all of them for just a couple of dollars each. Nothing was over $5 or $6 with the exception of a piece for me that was $12. We ordered 2 or 3 sets of nipple rings that clamp on and have beads hanging down. We ordered a clit clamp with beads on it. We ordered a 'bull nose' nipple ring. And last but not least for me we ordered a "Gates of Hell" cock ring set. I think we've had as much fun trying on the new toys leading up to today as we would today.
Jackie has been almost obsessed with her nipples this month. It's funny because normally she could care less one way or the other about them. Ok, she doesn't want me to neglect them, but it's more my obsession than hers. Not this month. It's like all of her nerve endings have decided to reroute themselves and terminate in her breast. Yeah for me!!! Every time I look over she's putting on a nipple clamp and trying it on. She spend an entire day looking online for new ones. It's like she just discovered she has these things and they can feel good too. Yeah for Sexuary and the discovery of new things.
As we were packing Jackie had me try to put on the 'bull ring' clamp. Not today. They seriously pinch and after all the play she's had over the last 2 weeks her nipples couldn't handle it. It really disappointed her though.
So we decided to get a hotel room (have I mentioned how much we love "hotel sex"? ) and check in for the weekend. We gear up and head out knowing that only the 2 of us know we're wearing jewelry underneath our cloths. For the reason mentioned at the beginning of this Jackie decided to forgo the clit clamp for the night, but has promised me that she'd wear it another night after Sexuary was all over with.
So we go to eat and grab a booth. Jackie excuses herself and when she comes back she whispers in my ear that she removed her bra so the jewelry was now showing through her shirt. Oh my. What a turn on that was for me. I asked her if she felt naughty knowing her nipples were clamped like that in public? I knew I did knowing my cock and balls were tightly packaged and encased. She was really getting turned on and an adult version of strawberry lemonade didn't hurt the cause.
We got to talking about what the best experiences were so far, and maybe what could of been done differently on the ones that didn't go so well. While we weren't talking loud or anything I got to wondering if the woman on the backside of the booth was wondering what the hell we were talking about. I mean have you ever been sitting somewhere and you haven't heard a single word of a conversation but then the word 'penis' or 'pussy' or 'nipples' come up? Our radar takes over and we have to listen now. We kind of chuckled and hoped maybe she'd get into the Sexuary act that night with her man if she did hear our conversation.
After eating we found a tattoo parlor Jackie wanted to visit. We found out earlier that the henna tattoo places all were by appointment only, so we missed out there. It is a shame too, because I was ready to freak out our kids with a tattoo on Sunday. But we went in, looked around. Nothing seemed to really hit Jackie. But there is something about being 'bad' in those places. The outside the box. The other side of our every day lives when we go visit those. I've taken Jackie several times to different parlors when we're in a big town just as foreplay. Damn right it works every time.
So we headed back to the hotel to finish the night off. It was different. It was fun. It was harmless. And most of all it was a turn on for both of us. Oh and for the record Jackie is seriously thinking of getting her nipples pierced. Now this is NOT prompting from me, but from her new found obsession with them. We're going to wait a month or so though to see if she still feels that way or if it's just a Sexuary obsession.
Oh did I mention that Jackies right nipple decided to get soft and drop her clamp in the Target parking lot? We got a laugh out of that, especially as a mom was telling her young boy to 'just put it in your pocket' as we were looking for her lost nipple ring. We still found the clamp in the parking lot, but we could just imagine if the boy had found it what his mom would explain that one away with. Tweezers? lol
What have you done to create laughter and fun in your relationship this month? Have you done anything 'bad' that would be oh so good for the two of you? If so, good for you! If not, why not? What are you waiting for? Make it your goal today to do something to help you and your partner laugh and have fun in the bedroom.
Dane
Bad news...even with tons of Vitamin C, and multi-vitamins I now have a full blown yeast infection. I am on round 2 of OTC remedies and so far, not much help. I am still taking tons of VC and not helping as of yet. I do NOT want to cancel any plans, I am thinking we can still play, I don't want to change anything...(insert a cry and whimper here)
Yeah tattoo and piercing night! I love Tattoo's I have 4 already and Dane is right I would have a bunch more if they didn't cost so dang much! I am very select when it comes to tattoo. I really think about the big picture...what is it that I am going to want to see for the rest of my life. Can it be covered easily if I ever go back to the work place? Right now a tall pair of socks or long pants and a shirt will cover all of mine. I know I want a Butterfly...I went through a spiritual awakening over the last year and have felt like a Butterfly coming out of its shell, and I want a reminder..I also want a word,,but what word do I want to see on me forever...I have thought about a set of rings we own where the Bible book of Ruth is written out in Hebrew...your God my God, where you go I will go etc...that is the theme of our lives..or does that fall into the "never put a guy or girls name on your body" list...uggg decisions decisions...what to decide. So we went to a tattoo place spent about an hour looking through pictures, 1000+ of pictures, and never finding the "perfect" one. The last one took me 4 tattoo places to finally find the right one.
Now its also piercing night. We bought several "fake" piercings some just slide on the nipple and some clamp. I do not know why they excited me like they do but I swear there is a nerve that runs from my nipple to my clit that sends electricity down and around in my body. Which is totally not like me, since my breast are not a usual turn on. I could care less about having them sucked on or played with. I know he likes it so I never say not to. So tonight as we went to supper I put on my rings. Dane tells me after supper when we are going to Tattoo places NO BRA. I decided to surprise him and took it off in the bathroom at the resturant. Now keep in mind, I am a 42DDDD so its very hard to let my boobs hang...I hate that they sag, and I want them up! So I am sitting in resturant and I have no bra, and I have my nipple clamps on. The ones I like the most are twizzer type that have an adjustable ring on them. We made it all the way through dinner with both. Then we had to go to the store for more medicine...Was hoping another night with all the medicine and I would be better. Well unknown to me as I stepped out of the car one of my nipple clamps has fallen off. Went we into the store looking some different lubes, and I realise I have dropped one. We back tracked through the store to see where I lost it. Never found it, we walked out to car upset it was gone. We walked by a family with 2 little boys, with the mom saying "Just put it in your pocket and leave it there" we chuckled and said well hopefully its NOT my nipple clip. Well low and behold about 10 steps back there it was on the ground! Yeahhhhhhhh
I would like to say we came back to our hotel and had awesome hotel sex, but with my yeast infection that is a no go right now. That's not to say we didn't enjoy ourselves, we did play but we just didn't have intercourse..
All in all it was great day, we had quality time together, we had great conversation over great food, and ended the night cuddled together. Reminding each other that even after Sexuary is over we need to schedule in time for us. Alone time and extra time to push our limits :)
Jackie
Oh so many lines of thoughts going on here.
I guess I'll get the 'bad' news out of the way. Our dreaded anticipated visitor finally made it. No, not Auntie Flow, much worst, the yeast infection. At 11 pm on Valentines Day I went to go get some cream for her. I really feel bad for her. I'm not sure a womans parts are made for the kind of abuse we've given it this month, and we're just barely over 1/2 way there. So all day today off and on she's been fighting this battle. We're hoping by tomorrow she'll be better, but past results haven't been so lucky. I'm betting our weekend will be modified some to accommodate her current condition and then she'll get to the doctor. So with that in mind we made sure to give the first round of meds a chance and have no morning playing around.
So why Tattooing and Piercing? First of all Jackie has several tattoos and I think if I let her would have many more. Ok, let her isn't the right word, but in case you didn't know, nice tats cost serious dollars. And the tattoo really has to just beg for Jackie to want it, so it's not like she's ready to put just anything on her body. But she loves them. She's said many times that one of the best orgasms she had was when she was getting her tramp stamp on her back. There goes that pleasure pain thing again. A needle poking you over and over again, piercing into you and you have an orgasm. Isn't the mind a great thing?
Additionally we've talked about a piercing for her clit and for my penis off and on for 5+ years I guess. I'm not sure either of us will ever have one, but that's been the thought.
So there it goes on day 16 of the calendar.
In preparation we've ordered several new pieces of jewelry, all of them for just a couple of dollars each. Nothing was over $5 or $6 with the exception of a piece for me that was $12. We ordered 2 or 3 sets of nipple rings that clamp on and have beads hanging down. We ordered a clit clamp with beads on it. We ordered a 'bull nose' nipple ring. And last but not least for me we ordered a "Gates of Hell" cock ring set. I think we've had as much fun trying on the new toys leading up to today as we would today.
Jackie has been almost obsessed with her nipples this month. It's funny because normally she could care less one way or the other about them. Ok, she doesn't want me to neglect them, but it's more my obsession than hers. Not this month. It's like all of her nerve endings have decided to reroute themselves and terminate in her breast. Yeah for me!!! Every time I look over she's putting on a nipple clamp and trying it on. She spend an entire day looking online for new ones. It's like she just discovered she has these things and they can feel good too. Yeah for Sexuary and the discovery of new things.
As we were packing Jackie had me try to put on the 'bull ring' clamp. Not today. They seriously pinch and after all the play she's had over the last 2 weeks her nipples couldn't handle it. It really disappointed her though.
So we decided to get a hotel room (have I mentioned how much we love "hotel sex"? ) and check in for the weekend. We gear up and head out knowing that only the 2 of us know we're wearing jewelry underneath our cloths. For the reason mentioned at the beginning of this Jackie decided to forgo the clit clamp for the night, but has promised me that she'd wear it another night after Sexuary was all over with.
So we go to eat and grab a booth. Jackie excuses herself and when she comes back she whispers in my ear that she removed her bra so the jewelry was now showing through her shirt. Oh my. What a turn on that was for me. I asked her if she felt naughty knowing her nipples were clamped like that in public? I knew I did knowing my cock and balls were tightly packaged and encased. She was really getting turned on and an adult version of strawberry lemonade didn't hurt the cause.
We got to talking about what the best experiences were so far, and maybe what could of been done differently on the ones that didn't go so well. While we weren't talking loud or anything I got to wondering if the woman on the backside of the booth was wondering what the hell we were talking about. I mean have you ever been sitting somewhere and you haven't heard a single word of a conversation but then the word 'penis' or 'pussy' or 'nipples' come up? Our radar takes over and we have to listen now. We kind of chuckled and hoped maybe she'd get into the Sexuary act that night with her man if she did hear our conversation.
After eating we found a tattoo parlor Jackie wanted to visit. We found out earlier that the henna tattoo places all were by appointment only, so we missed out there. It is a shame too, because I was ready to freak out our kids with a tattoo on Sunday. But we went in, looked around. Nothing seemed to really hit Jackie. But there is something about being 'bad' in those places. The outside the box. The other side of our every day lives when we go visit those. I've taken Jackie several times to different parlors when we're in a big town just as foreplay. Damn right it works every time.
So we headed back to the hotel to finish the night off. It was different. It was fun. It was harmless. And most of all it was a turn on for both of us. Oh and for the record Jackie is seriously thinking of getting her nipples pierced. Now this is NOT prompting from me, but from her new found obsession with them. We're going to wait a month or so though to see if she still feels that way or if it's just a Sexuary obsession.
Oh did I mention that Jackies right nipple decided to get soft and drop her clamp in the Target parking lot? We got a laugh out of that, especially as a mom was telling her young boy to 'just put it in your pocket' as we were looking for her lost nipple ring. We still found the clamp in the parking lot, but we could just imagine if the boy had found it what his mom would explain that one away with. Tweezers? lol
What have you done to create laughter and fun in your relationship this month? Have you done anything 'bad' that would be oh so good for the two of you? If so, good for you! If not, why not? What are you waiting for? Make it your goal today to do something to help you and your partner laugh and have fun in the bedroom.
Dane
Bad news...even with tons of Vitamin C, and multi-vitamins I now have a full blown yeast infection. I am on round 2 of OTC remedies and so far, not much help. I am still taking tons of VC and not helping as of yet. I do NOT want to cancel any plans, I am thinking we can still play, I don't want to change anything...(insert a cry and whimper here)
Yeah tattoo and piercing night! I love Tattoo's I have 4 already and Dane is right I would have a bunch more if they didn't cost so dang much! I am very select when it comes to tattoo. I really think about the big picture...what is it that I am going to want to see for the rest of my life. Can it be covered easily if I ever go back to the work place? Right now a tall pair of socks or long pants and a shirt will cover all of mine. I know I want a Butterfly...I went through a spiritual awakening over the last year and have felt like a Butterfly coming out of its shell, and I want a reminder..I also want a word,,but what word do I want to see on me forever...I have thought about a set of rings we own where the Bible book of Ruth is written out in Hebrew...your God my God, where you go I will go etc...that is the theme of our lives..or does that fall into the "never put a guy or girls name on your body" list...uggg decisions decisions...what to decide. So we went to a tattoo place spent about an hour looking through pictures, 1000+ of pictures, and never finding the "perfect" one. The last one took me 4 tattoo places to finally find the right one.
Now its also piercing night. We bought several "fake" piercings some just slide on the nipple and some clamp. I do not know why they excited me like they do but I swear there is a nerve that runs from my nipple to my clit that sends electricity down and around in my body. Which is totally not like me, since my breast are not a usual turn on. I could care less about having them sucked on or played with. I know he likes it so I never say not to. So tonight as we went to supper I put on my rings. Dane tells me after supper when we are going to Tattoo places NO BRA. I decided to surprise him and took it off in the bathroom at the resturant. Now keep in mind, I am a 42DDDD so its very hard to let my boobs hang...I hate that they sag, and I want them up! So I am sitting in resturant and I have no bra, and I have my nipple clamps on. The ones I like the most are twizzer type that have an adjustable ring on them. We made it all the way through dinner with both. Then we had to go to the store for more medicine...Was hoping another night with all the medicine and I would be better. Well unknown to me as I stepped out of the car one of my nipple clamps has fallen off. Went we into the store looking some different lubes, and I realise I have dropped one. We back tracked through the store to see where I lost it. Never found it, we walked out to car upset it was gone. We walked by a family with 2 little boys, with the mom saying "Just put it in your pocket and leave it there" we chuckled and said well hopefully its NOT my nipple clip. Well low and behold about 10 steps back there it was on the ground! Yeahhhhhhhh
I would like to say we came back to our hotel and had awesome hotel sex, but with my yeast infection that is a no go right now. That's not to say we didn't enjoy ourselves, we did play but we just didn't have intercourse..
All in all it was great day, we had quality time together, we had great conversation over great food, and ended the night cuddled together. Reminding each other that even after Sexuary is over we need to schedule in time for us. Alone time and extra time to push our limits :)
Jackie
Friday, February 15, 2013
Corset and Plugs
Since I anticipate being in Ausitn the night before then we can bring your corsette and for me a butt plug for public wearing. I would think maybe a trip to Lucy in Disguise….some public making out. Thinking you wont be wearing any underwear and I can at least finger you in a public area and if the opportunity exist public sex. As for me, I would want you to rub on m ass and remind me there is a butt plug in my ass (i bet you'll see my cock get hard when you do) and remembering my ass is probably sore from the week before tease and treat me.
Originally this was for this coming Sunday, but because of other obligations we moved it to Valentines Day. We always take the day to get away anyway, we both put work aside as much as possible and focus on each other.
Today was about 2 different things. In Jackies case it was to flaunt a bit of what she has, and in my case it's about doing something sexual right in front of everyone, without them even knowing about it. Both have their sexual charge.
So picture Jackie in her corset and a very low cut dress. I thought it was very sweet her belt matched the corset and really looked hot! I on the other hand had a butt plug firmly planted in my rear, that only Jackie and I knew was there and off we went.
Oh wait, phone rings and I had to go to work for a few minutes. So butt plug firmly planted in my ass, my cheeks holding on tight, I went in, fixed the problem and we headed on to Austin.Of course the whole time I'm wondering what they would think if they knew I had a butt plug firmly planted in my rear.
So we go by the Megaplexx and Jackie finds a great toy for both of us. A 2 sided, vibrator with a strap and a remote control. She's in heaven.
Next I take her to get her pampering at the nail shop, where they proceed to comment on her 'attire' and the hickies (on her boobs). "Your husband a lucky man", don't I know it!!! The poor guy who works there was red faced. Did I mention Jackie was HOT?
We then went to a nice lunch. It was hot knowing that Jackie was showing off some of her great assets and I was hiding the fact I was playing sexually with my rear. HOT! HOT! HOT!
Ok, so afterwards we did something we use to do more often, and we both love. I don't know what it is about checking into a cheap hotel for a great 1 or 1 1/2 hour hot sex session. I don't know if it's the sneaking off to do it. I don't know if it reminds us of when we were dating and we'd sneak off during the day for a quickie. I don't know what it is, but it's hot for both of us.
We then headed back to an event back home we were obliged to attend. It didn't matter, we had spent the day together and had explored some exhibitionism, some public toy play and last but not least great hotel sex. Oh and a package of toys we ordered came in. what a great Valentines Day!
Dane
PS - Of course she got chocolates and roses too! Geez, what do you take me for?
Yeah Valentines day! If you haven't noticed our calender has totally changed lately. Its our crazy lives that we have to move stuff around, but that is what its all about.
We decided today would be corset and butt play. I have several corsets, one because we are avid Renaissance faire people and another one I got on clearance this summer and had been waiting for the perfect time to wear it. Today was the day! Its a nice Patton leather one adjustable, and over all pretty darn comfortable and easily removed ;) So take one shiny leather corset, low cut dress, and a town that is used to the "weird" I fit right in. First off was a new set of nails and a pedi. The ladies were teasing me so much about my girls showing and a hickey showing too. The lone gent in the place was really red over some of the comments and the fact that my girls were screaming to be looked at. It made me laugh too! We went to lunch at a great restaurant then off to a cheap hotel for fast hot hotel sex. We have not gotten to do that as often as we used to. WE had a great time, its was even more exciting to make a mess in the room and then head off wondering if the maids noticed we left so quickly.
Our day ended with "life" taking up the rest of the evening but when I got home there were a dozen red roses, chocolates and teddy bear waiting for me...We had a great day and cant wait to see what the end of our month brings..
Jackie
Originally this was for this coming Sunday, but because of other obligations we moved it to Valentines Day. We always take the day to get away anyway, we both put work aside as much as possible and focus on each other.
Today was about 2 different things. In Jackies case it was to flaunt a bit of what she has, and in my case it's about doing something sexual right in front of everyone, without them even knowing about it. Both have their sexual charge.
So picture Jackie in her corset and a very low cut dress. I thought it was very sweet her belt matched the corset and really looked hot! I on the other hand had a butt plug firmly planted in my rear, that only Jackie and I knew was there and off we went.
Oh wait, phone rings and I had to go to work for a few minutes. So butt plug firmly planted in my ass, my cheeks holding on tight, I went in, fixed the problem and we headed on to Austin.Of course the whole time I'm wondering what they would think if they knew I had a butt plug firmly planted in my rear.
So we go by the Megaplexx and Jackie finds a great toy for both of us. A 2 sided, vibrator with a strap and a remote control. She's in heaven.
Next I take her to get her pampering at the nail shop, where they proceed to comment on her 'attire' and the hickies (on her boobs). "Your husband a lucky man", don't I know it!!! The poor guy who works there was red faced. Did I mention Jackie was HOT?
We then went to a nice lunch. It was hot knowing that Jackie was showing off some of her great assets and I was hiding the fact I was playing sexually with my rear. HOT! HOT! HOT!
Ok, so afterwards we did something we use to do more often, and we both love. I don't know what it is about checking into a cheap hotel for a great 1 or 1 1/2 hour hot sex session. I don't know if it's the sneaking off to do it. I don't know if it reminds us of when we were dating and we'd sneak off during the day for a quickie. I don't know what it is, but it's hot for both of us.
We then headed back to an event back home we were obliged to attend. It didn't matter, we had spent the day together and had explored some exhibitionism, some public toy play and last but not least great hotel sex. Oh and a package of toys we ordered came in. what a great Valentines Day!
Dane
PS - Of course she got chocolates and roses too! Geez, what do you take me for?
Yeah Valentines day! If you haven't noticed our calender has totally changed lately. Its our crazy lives that we have to move stuff around, but that is what its all about.
We decided today would be corset and butt play. I have several corsets, one because we are avid Renaissance faire people and another one I got on clearance this summer and had been waiting for the perfect time to wear it. Today was the day! Its a nice Patton leather one adjustable, and over all pretty darn comfortable and easily removed ;) So take one shiny leather corset, low cut dress, and a town that is used to the "weird" I fit right in. First off was a new set of nails and a pedi. The ladies were teasing me so much about my girls showing and a hickey showing too. The lone gent in the place was really red over some of the comments and the fact that my girls were screaming to be looked at. It made me laugh too! We went to lunch at a great restaurant then off to a cheap hotel for fast hot hotel sex. We have not gotten to do that as often as we used to. WE had a great time, its was even more exciting to make a mess in the room and then head off wondering if the maids noticed we left so quickly.
Our day ended with "life" taking up the rest of the evening but when I got home there were a dozen red roses, chocolates and teddy bear waiting for me...We had a great day and cant wait to see what the end of our month brings..
Jackie
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Half Way There
So out of everything that has concerned me during the preparation for this month was that Jackie would get sick or worst yet a major yeast infection and kill the rest of the month. I'm generally healthy as a horse and rarely get sick. But in prevention Jackie and I have been on vitamins, Activa has been regular in both of our diets. We both had flu shots. All this in preparation for a Sexuary of Sexuaries. The bar was set high and we wanted to make sure that yucky, itchy, blahs wouldn't hit us in the middle of the month.
So yesterday right after Jackie and I had been playing I started to feel bad. Honestly I wasn't 100% earlier, and it could even explain some of my mental state yesterday morning. But shortly after we played I got sick. I'm talking 101F sick. Now don't think that 90% of what I was worried about was if I didn't get to feeling better our streak would be blown. Ok, at least when I was coherent enough to think.
I don't know what it was, but today I was better. My temp broke in the middle of the night and while I've been weak I've been much better and ready to continue on.
So we had vanilla sex while the kids were out this evening. You know what? It was actually pretty exciting! After all the extras we've been going through for the last 13 days it was actually pretty great that 14 was vanilla.
So we're 1/2 way there (remember we started 1/31 so a day ahead), and looking good. We are 2x our own personal best (yes, we went from 7 straight days to 28 as a goal). And I have to tell you, the 14 days, even with the ups and downs we've been through, has been a lot more fun the the 7 in a row, or the 15 days (every other day) last year. I've enjoyed the exploring, the nightly pillow talk, the extra text I get on my phone telling me what fun Jackie had, or what she's anticipating, and honestly I think both of us have enjoyed the blog and sharing with everyone the ups and downs of this month.
Tomorrow if Valentines day. We're off for a day of adventure and romance. If you haven't started your Sexuary adventures then tomorrow is a great day for it. Everyone is a bit more open on Valentines Day to romance, communication, and love. Don't pass up this opportunity.
Dane
We have been going and going and going. Working on this calender, its been crazy, so ups and some downs. Some good, some not so good. The good news is we are half way there! We managed to fend off yeast infections, sickies, and everything else in between. Until Tuesday, then it hit. It hit Dane hard! Thank goodness we decided to play that morning or we would not have played. Even if our day started off rough and we did not do anything that was on the list. I say it ended up at pretty good day. We actually had 4 hours of un-interupted time together. The phone never rang, and with Dane's job that was a miracle in itself!
Sure we resorted to "vanilla" as he said but you know what....its what we both needed! I enjoyed our very vanilla day.
I know this month has been to work on the spice of life, but sometimes its good to take a step back and go back to what you know...I enjoyed it to the max...Spice or not I love Dane and wouldn't trade this month for anything! 14 days down...we are half way there baby!
Jackie
So yesterday right after Jackie and I had been playing I started to feel bad. Honestly I wasn't 100% earlier, and it could even explain some of my mental state yesterday morning. But shortly after we played I got sick. I'm talking 101F sick. Now don't think that 90% of what I was worried about was if I didn't get to feeling better our streak would be blown. Ok, at least when I was coherent enough to think.
I don't know what it was, but today I was better. My temp broke in the middle of the night and while I've been weak I've been much better and ready to continue on.
So we had vanilla sex while the kids were out this evening. You know what? It was actually pretty exciting! After all the extras we've been going through for the last 13 days it was actually pretty great that 14 was vanilla.
So we're 1/2 way there (remember we started 1/31 so a day ahead), and looking good. We are 2x our own personal best (yes, we went from 7 straight days to 28 as a goal). And I have to tell you, the 14 days, even with the ups and downs we've been through, has been a lot more fun the the 7 in a row, or the 15 days (every other day) last year. I've enjoyed the exploring, the nightly pillow talk, the extra text I get on my phone telling me what fun Jackie had, or what she's anticipating, and honestly I think both of us have enjoyed the blog and sharing with everyone the ups and downs of this month.
Tomorrow if Valentines day. We're off for a day of adventure and romance. If you haven't started your Sexuary adventures then tomorrow is a great day for it. Everyone is a bit more open on Valentines Day to romance, communication, and love. Don't pass up this opportunity.
Dane
We have been going and going and going. Working on this calender, its been crazy, so ups and some downs. Some good, some not so good. The good news is we are half way there! We managed to fend off yeast infections, sickies, and everything else in between. Until Tuesday, then it hit. It hit Dane hard! Thank goodness we decided to play that morning or we would not have played. Even if our day started off rough and we did not do anything that was on the list. I say it ended up at pretty good day. We actually had 4 hours of un-interupted time together. The phone never rang, and with Dane's job that was a miracle in itself!
Sure we resorted to "vanilla" as he said but you know what....its what we both needed! I enjoyed our very vanilla day.
I know this month has been to work on the spice of life, but sometimes its good to take a step back and go back to what you know...I enjoyed it to the max...Spice or not I love Dane and wouldn't trade this month for anything! 14 days down...we are half way there baby!
Jackie
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Dom/sub
Ok let's try this. It can go either way and we probably need to decide now who will go first. There will be a second one later in the month to reverse the rolls. So we can do it by a roll of the dice or you can decide if you'd like to be Dom first or sub first. 4 Hour time limit - 7:45 - 11:45 in the morning. Anything can be asked/demanded, you can't say no without reprecutions (spankings, insertations, others???) - *** Decided Dane will Dom 1st***
So in a land far far away and many years ago I had a girlfriend of sorts that was into some BDSM. It wasn't like she lived every day of her life that way, but she liked a good scene. We went to several munches (meetings of like minded BDSM members) and were invited to a couple of parties that had sceneing. We would leave and have hot sex.
I loved the control. I loved not only the willingness of her to comply but the desired to do her best to send me over the top with her actions. I can picture in my dreams Jackie fulfilling those wants and desires and it's a huge turn on for me.
I've tried over the years to bring 50 Shades of Gray to our bedroom, and have some very mild success, but that's it. The success I've had has been fleeting and very sporadic. I saw this as an opportunity to, on a very limited and safe scale, bring it to the next level. Create a scene and go through it. It's not like she doesn't like many of the components of the scene, but the scene itself seems to just lock her up and shut her down.
Now today was a bit different. I had a very early meeting in which we were suppose to start right after an errand I had to run after the meeting. I come home though and things aren't the way they are suppose to be with our kids and I got upset. Then Jackie is upset or bothered or ...I don't know but it's not right. I told her let's just cancel it all because of the happenings. She insisted, though not with enthusiasm, that we continue when I got back.
I got back and I"m still not right in my head, and it appears to me that every step she takes is trodden with fear. Anyone who knows BDSM knows that is NOT how it's suppose to be. We went upstairs where she had drawn me a bath per instructions and I pulled her close and called our safe word. Before we go any further I was stopping it. I still had 4 hours set aside of us time, and we'd spend them together, but it wouldn't be a scene. My head wasn't wrapped tightly around it and neither was hers and someone would of gotten hurt either physically or mentally because of it.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed in the outcome of the last 2 days. I knew they were at Jackies very limits if not exceeded them, and was kind of surprised to see them still on the list when we were done with the 'hard limit' removals. I knew I would be lucky if one of these days went as planned.
But with all that said and done, it's more important that she and I are ok than for me to relive an old dream. Oh don't get me wrong, I could live in Anne Rices Beauty world. I have no doubt with my demeanor that I would fit in...though I'm not always certain if I'd be a Top or bottom. But as we've learned several times this month of Sexuary, my dreams and fetishes don't always overlap with hers. There is a very large center where both do overlap, and for the most part that's where we'll stay.
Oh, we did take the 4 hours together. She still bathed me and we spent the rest of the morning in bed. So don't feel sorry for me. And while we haven't decided what goes into tomorrows slot, the rest of the week is much more to Jackies taste buds and should go much better.
Dane
So today was totally out of my comfort zone. Sure I love to read and watch it but have never really dreamed of doing anything Dom and certainly NOT Sub. Its a mind game, one that makes me feel small. I kept it on the calendar because I knew Dane really wanted to try. Its so new to me I needed guidance. I wanted to know the rules, what was going to happen, the black the white, so I could chew over it and ask questions. I did not "say" it out loud. I just thought it was what would happen. I thought I would get them ahead of time, instead I got them the morning of. Now those who know me know I am ADD. I need a few rules and I need time to read read and reread and work through them so I know the rules. I got a list of 6 and in some of those you would think Oh that's common sense. I got my rules this morning about 15 minutes before he got home and I was supposed to be ready, I really needed them weeks ago. I needed to be able to wrap my, progressive 'no man is gonna tell me what to do' brain around them.Well its only common if its common, and these in my eyes were not common.
I had a hard time getting ready let alone trying to get my head in the game when I still had to do "life" I tried, I really did but once again I wasnt showing enough. I didnt react enough. "Life" got in the way. Maybe 4 hours was too much. Maybe we need to step back and do 30 mins at a time. And work up to it. This month is about pushing limits..I do feel bad because the things that I havent reacted to is what he wanted to try. That he always does what I want to make me happy, and this was what he wanted to try. I don't know why when I dislike something I cant get past the head game.
We still did spend 4 hours together, I rubbed on him, sucked on him, and layed with him, slept with him. Had a great morning, I am sorry that I wasn't able to enjoy this like he had hoped. Who knows what will happen in the future. I think it might just be where I am right now in my life. Who knows where I will be next year. Its hard when making a calender of fetishes, you need stuff you both like. I told him when we first started this in November if I had given him the list to begin with NOTHING would have been on it. I am trying to expand my box. I still love my box, but I am willing...Sometimes the lid slams shut but its not locked...How are you doing? Are you pushing your limits? Are you finding something new you like? Are you communicated the right way? I know I still have struggles with that. Danes magic ball doesn't work and it wont work, I have to tell him what I need, I can't expect him to know whats going on in my head.
So in a land far far away and many years ago I had a girlfriend of sorts that was into some BDSM. It wasn't like she lived every day of her life that way, but she liked a good scene. We went to several munches (meetings of like minded BDSM members) and were invited to a couple of parties that had sceneing. We would leave and have hot sex.
I loved the control. I loved not only the willingness of her to comply but the desired to do her best to send me over the top with her actions. I can picture in my dreams Jackie fulfilling those wants and desires and it's a huge turn on for me.
I've tried over the years to bring 50 Shades of Gray to our bedroom, and have some very mild success, but that's it. The success I've had has been fleeting and very sporadic. I saw this as an opportunity to, on a very limited and safe scale, bring it to the next level. Create a scene and go through it. It's not like she doesn't like many of the components of the scene, but the scene itself seems to just lock her up and shut her down.
Now today was a bit different. I had a very early meeting in which we were suppose to start right after an errand I had to run after the meeting. I come home though and things aren't the way they are suppose to be with our kids and I got upset. Then Jackie is upset or bothered or ...I don't know but it's not right. I told her let's just cancel it all because of the happenings. She insisted, though not with enthusiasm, that we continue when I got back.
I got back and I"m still not right in my head, and it appears to me that every step she takes is trodden with fear. Anyone who knows BDSM knows that is NOT how it's suppose to be. We went upstairs where she had drawn me a bath per instructions and I pulled her close and called our safe word. Before we go any further I was stopping it. I still had 4 hours set aside of us time, and we'd spend them together, but it wouldn't be a scene. My head wasn't wrapped tightly around it and neither was hers and someone would of gotten hurt either physically or mentally because of it.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed in the outcome of the last 2 days. I knew they were at Jackies very limits if not exceeded them, and was kind of surprised to see them still on the list when we were done with the 'hard limit' removals. I knew I would be lucky if one of these days went as planned.
But with all that said and done, it's more important that she and I are ok than for me to relive an old dream. Oh don't get me wrong, I could live in Anne Rices Beauty world. I have no doubt with my demeanor that I would fit in...though I'm not always certain if I'd be a Top or bottom. But as we've learned several times this month of Sexuary, my dreams and fetishes don't always overlap with hers. There is a very large center where both do overlap, and for the most part that's where we'll stay.
Oh, we did take the 4 hours together. She still bathed me and we spent the rest of the morning in bed. So don't feel sorry for me. And while we haven't decided what goes into tomorrows slot, the rest of the week is much more to Jackies taste buds and should go much better.
Dane
So today was totally out of my comfort zone. Sure I love to read and watch it but have never really dreamed of doing anything Dom and certainly NOT Sub. Its a mind game, one that makes me feel small. I kept it on the calendar because I knew Dane really wanted to try. Its so new to me I needed guidance. I wanted to know the rules, what was going to happen, the black the white, so I could chew over it and ask questions. I did not "say" it out loud. I just thought it was what would happen. I thought I would get them ahead of time, instead I got them the morning of. Now those who know me know I am ADD. I need a few rules and I need time to read read and reread and work through them so I know the rules. I got a list of 6 and in some of those you would think Oh that's common sense. I got my rules this morning about 15 minutes before he got home and I was supposed to be ready, I really needed them weeks ago. I needed to be able to wrap my, progressive 'no man is gonna tell me what to do' brain around them.Well its only common if its common, and these in my eyes were not common.
I had a hard time getting ready let alone trying to get my head in the game when I still had to do "life" I tried, I really did but once again I wasnt showing enough. I didnt react enough. "Life" got in the way. Maybe 4 hours was too much. Maybe we need to step back and do 30 mins at a time. And work up to it. This month is about pushing limits..I do feel bad because the things that I havent reacted to is what he wanted to try. That he always does what I want to make me happy, and this was what he wanted to try. I don't know why when I dislike something I cant get past the head game.
We still did spend 4 hours together, I rubbed on him, sucked on him, and layed with him, slept with him. Had a great morning, I am sorry that I wasn't able to enjoy this like he had hoped. Who knows what will happen in the future. I think it might just be where I am right now in my life. Who knows where I will be next year. Its hard when making a calender of fetishes, you need stuff you both like. I told him when we first started this in November if I had given him the list to begin with NOTHING would have been on it. I am trying to expand my box. I still love my box, but I am willing...Sometimes the lid slams shut but its not locked...How are you doing? Are you pushing your limits? Are you finding something new you like? Are you communicated the right way? I know I still have struggles with that. Danes magic ball doesn't work and it wont work, I have to tell him what I need, I can't expect him to know whats going on in my head.
Whipping, Spanking, Mild Pain, etc
I want to spank your ass till it's red while you lay across my lap. Using the whips, my hand, etc, then when it's hot and red I want to fuck you good and hard doggie style and/or at the end of the bed.
It just didn't worked for us. Ok, I got to spank Jackies bottom with my hand, but there was no reaction. No satisfaction. No ...I don't know. I was excited with the site of her red butt laying across my lap, but ...
Jackie didn't react to any of it except when I used the paddle for one stroke and she said that was beyond her limits. I couldn't judge what was going on, I couldn't read her mind, I couldn't see a reaction. So I stopped and went to plan B. It was safe and easy.
Jackie later told me it was totally different in the height of passion to be spanked then it was today. She enjoys her rear spanked when we're going at it, but this was different.
This Sexuary has been a month of ups and downs. We've done things we've never tried, and this was one of them. We learn not all of our passions lay together, and that's ok. And there maybe times (like this month has been) that we give to the other the gift of trying something out. Opening ourselves up to new experiences so that our partner can have theirs. It's part of being in a relationship. I would say though that this will probably go along the way of the foot fetish, not to be broken out very often if ever again.
Dane
There is a fine line between pain and pleasure. We have really been working on some new things to liven up our sex lives. We have tried new things, pushing our hard limits. Today was one of those. I already knew this was a hard limit for me. I had told him up front.
So I bent over his lap and let him spank me. It was not exciting for me, it just did not do anything. I had no reaction, no grunts, no squirm, looking back I am not sure I knew what I was supposed to do. This was so out of my box, but I had no clue. What is the correct response??This is twice now that we have done something so out of my box that I don't know what I should do or how to do it....Dane always thinks I am heading into my dark place, my place where I went to during the years of abuse I suffered at the hand of a babysitter, and an ex that was very verbally abusive. I have only gone there once the whole month and that was our couples weekend, but I didn't stay long.(which is a HUGE improvement)
I also told him that is was not the same thing as it is when we are in the heat of passion. That is a HUGE turn on for me, so it really this was a huge surprise that I did not enjoy it. I told him that I really had not gone to my dark place at all. So I highly doubt I will be laying over him and letting him spank me but there will be sometimes that I ask for him to while we are in the heat of the moment.
WE are almost half way through our month, we have pushed limits, and moved in directions I did not know was possible. We are growing closer and our communication between the two of us seems to be better. We still have our struggles but all in all so far so good.
Jackie
It just didn't worked for us. Ok, I got to spank Jackies bottom with my hand, but there was no reaction. No satisfaction. No ...I don't know. I was excited with the site of her red butt laying across my lap, but ...
Jackie didn't react to any of it except when I used the paddle for one stroke and she said that was beyond her limits. I couldn't judge what was going on, I couldn't read her mind, I couldn't see a reaction. So I stopped and went to plan B. It was safe and easy.
Jackie later told me it was totally different in the height of passion to be spanked then it was today. She enjoys her rear spanked when we're going at it, but this was different.
This Sexuary has been a month of ups and downs. We've done things we've never tried, and this was one of them. We learn not all of our passions lay together, and that's ok. And there maybe times (like this month has been) that we give to the other the gift of trying something out. Opening ourselves up to new experiences so that our partner can have theirs. It's part of being in a relationship. I would say though that this will probably go along the way of the foot fetish, not to be broken out very often if ever again.
Dane
There is a fine line between pain and pleasure. We have really been working on some new things to liven up our sex lives. We have tried new things, pushing our hard limits. Today was one of those. I already knew this was a hard limit for me. I had told him up front.
So I bent over his lap and let him spank me. It was not exciting for me, it just did not do anything. I had no reaction, no grunts, no squirm, looking back I am not sure I knew what I was supposed to do. This was so out of my box, but I had no clue. What is the correct response??This is twice now that we have done something so out of my box that I don't know what I should do or how to do it....Dane always thinks I am heading into my dark place, my place where I went to during the years of abuse I suffered at the hand of a babysitter, and an ex that was very verbally abusive. I have only gone there once the whole month and that was our couples weekend, but I didn't stay long.(which is a HUGE improvement)
I also told him that is was not the same thing as it is when we are in the heat of passion. That is a HUGE turn on for me, so it really this was a huge surprise that I did not enjoy it. I told him that I really had not gone to my dark place at all. So I highly doubt I will be laying over him and letting him spank me but there will be sometimes that I ask for him to while we are in the heat of the moment.
WE are almost half way through our month, we have pushed limits, and moved in directions I did not know was possible. We are growing closer and our communication between the two of us seems to be better. We still have our struggles but all in all so far so good.
Jackie
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3)
OMG OMG OMG OMG, on day 3 of our Sexuary attempt to fist me we succeeded!!! How incredible that felt going in, being in, and even coming out. Because of the patience and process we went through I"m not sore one bit right now. It was everything I had hoped it would be and more. Just freaking incredible.
I did want to go over a couple of things here though.
First of all it's taken us several days to achieve this goal. It was NOT a wham bam slam it in thing. I'm saying three days, but even before that I had been working with the large butt plug to make it happen several days. It doesn't matter which hole you're trying to fist, you have to take your time so you don't tear anything. That's just to get comfortable enough that you could accept such a large object.
Then the day of you again have to take it slowly. I went through 4 dildos before finally getting there. Working my way up slowly. It doesn't matter if you're fisting an ass or a vagina it's a slow process, and you work back and forth until all of a sudden you're there.
Second, we used tons of lube. As a matter of fact just before it slid in I had Jackie put more lube on and then plop there it went. Lube, lube and more lube. Again, it doesn't matter which hole you're fisting, lube is a major key to pleasurable success. For the anal fisting we actually got some cream lube. We ordered "Elbow Grease" and it made a difference. It stayed longer doesn't dry out like KY, Wet or Astoglide type lubes we've tried in the past. Now from personal experience I can tell you the liquid lubes were fine for vaginal fisting, but you have to use plenty of it and relube as needed. The only caution is that Elbow Grease and those like it are oil based and will not work with most condoms.
Last, for us it was best when I was in control. Jackie would hold herself tightly against me and wait for me to push back to her. She would apply some pressure, but I was in control. I was the one pushing back when it was time to go further. I was also rocking some to help loosen me up. But I was in control.
We had safe words and the first day I hit my limit and had to stop. You have to totally trust your partner, and I totally trusted Jackie and in doing so I succeeded in having one of my fantasies come true.
For the record she told me she creamed as it went that last little bit in. It was totally exciting for both of us, and definitely a highlight for the day. It also means we'll be changing plans for Wednesday and Thursday since we've succeeded. I can't wait to see what we wind up putting in those 2 slots.
Dane
Houston we have lift off....is what went through my mind the minute it slid in. We have been working on this day for 3 days! I just kept trying to be patient. You have to be, like Dane said this is not something you can rush. You must take your time, and work inch by inch until bam your in. Its pretty incredible. I am not sure what he really felt but it was really exciting to see it go in. I am was not joking when I told Dane that I creamed myself as it went into him. I swear I heard the Rocky theme going off in my head! woohooo we did it! Geez now what are we going to do on our calendar for those days we were still supposed to play....
Its all about communication and flexibility. I am sure we will figure out something to do! We have made it 11 days now! Almost half way through it all...The halfway mark is around the corner.....Keep reading...its going to a great 17 days....
Jackie
I did want to go over a couple of things here though.
First of all it's taken us several days to achieve this goal. It was NOT a wham bam slam it in thing. I'm saying three days, but even before that I had been working with the large butt plug to make it happen several days. It doesn't matter which hole you're trying to fist, you have to take your time so you don't tear anything. That's just to get comfortable enough that you could accept such a large object.
Then the day of you again have to take it slowly. I went through 4 dildos before finally getting there. Working my way up slowly. It doesn't matter if you're fisting an ass or a vagina it's a slow process, and you work back and forth until all of a sudden you're there.
Second, we used tons of lube. As a matter of fact just before it slid in I had Jackie put more lube on and then plop there it went. Lube, lube and more lube. Again, it doesn't matter which hole you're fisting, lube is a major key to pleasurable success. For the anal fisting we actually got some cream lube. We ordered "Elbow Grease" and it made a difference. It stayed longer doesn't dry out like KY, Wet or Astoglide type lubes we've tried in the past. Now from personal experience I can tell you the liquid lubes were fine for vaginal fisting, but you have to use plenty of it and relube as needed. The only caution is that Elbow Grease and those like it are oil based and will not work with most condoms.
Last, for us it was best when I was in control. Jackie would hold herself tightly against me and wait for me to push back to her. She would apply some pressure, but I was in control. I was the one pushing back when it was time to go further. I was also rocking some to help loosen me up. But I was in control.
We had safe words and the first day I hit my limit and had to stop. You have to totally trust your partner, and I totally trusted Jackie and in doing so I succeeded in having one of my fantasies come true.
For the record she told me she creamed as it went that last little bit in. It was totally exciting for both of us, and definitely a highlight for the day. It also means we'll be changing plans for Wednesday and Thursday since we've succeeded. I can't wait to see what we wind up putting in those 2 slots.
Dane
Houston we have lift off....is what went through my mind the minute it slid in. We have been working on this day for 3 days! I just kept trying to be patient. You have to be, like Dane said this is not something you can rush. You must take your time, and work inch by inch until bam your in. Its pretty incredible. I am not sure what he really felt but it was really exciting to see it go in. I am was not joking when I told Dane that I creamed myself as it went into him. I swear I heard the Rocky theme going off in my head! woohooo we did it! Geez now what are we going to do on our calendar for those days we were still supposed to play....
Its all about communication and flexibility. I am sure we will figure out something to do! We have made it 11 days now! Almost half way through it all...The halfway mark is around the corner.....Keep reading...its going to a great 17 days....
Jackie
Autovampirism , Biting, Hair pulling
Let's play vampire. Sucking, biting, hair pulling, ..maybe find some fangs???
So I want to start out by saying that even with all the communications and experiences of the 2444 days we've been married, and the 2 years before that I still misread, misunderstand and misinterpret the words and actions of Jackie. Now this isn't the first time, and I'm sure it won't be the last time I take a comment and run in the wrong direction in my head.
So let me explain. It had been a long day. We'd been up since 5:30 AM and we got home about 9 PM. Hundreds of miles on the vehicle. Oh and did I mention it was almost midnight the night before when we got to bed?
So we finally crawl into bed and the question comes "Do you want to play tonight, or have a double session tomorrow and play in the morning and afternoon tomorrow?" Ok, it's a clear question, but let me tell you what my testosterone infested brain hears - "I don't want sex tonight". Yeap, that's the translation that is clear as day in my head.
Oh this isn't the first time. In the past it's been, "my sinuses are killing me", "my shoulder is bothering me", "I'm totally wiped out", and many others all said within the hour before or while we're in bed and everyone of them translated exactly the same in my head, "I'm just not up to it tonight, so no sex tonight". Yeap, loud and clear that's the word for word translation that my brain gives those statements. Ok, in my defense that's because I was married previously to a woman that would of meant that exact translation, and it's hard to learn the same phase in a second language sometimes.
Now in the beginning I think Jackie would just roll over and go to bed frustrated not knowing what just happened. I'm certain there were times she didn't have a clue what had just hit her. Somewhere along the way we talked and I explained some of this to her. When it was all said and done I basically told her she had permission to call me an idiot, smack me upside my head and demand that I perform any and all duties that were expected of me.
Last night was one of those times.
I was tired too, but had been looking forward to this night, just like I've looked forward to every day since Sexuary has started. But being the martyr I can be I rolled over and laying on her chest just laid there figuring I'd just go to sleep. Jackie was like "WTF? I just asked a question. I didn't know how to start this, and wanted to see if you wanted to wait till tomorrow morning."
So before I get into the fetish side of things I want to just make it clear how easy it is for your partner to mistake an innocent comment. It's not hard for a partner to mistake an innocent comment. I really think most guys are programmed for rejection, especially when it comes to sex. So when we hear those nonchalant words from our partner we just assume (make all the "ass out of you and me" jokes you want) that it's just the excuse and we might as well not even try. Shy of the slap across the backside of the head I'm not sure what will every 'fix' that problem. So if your guy seems hot and heavy and then all of a sudden it's cold as ice you might ask yourself what I just said and then think like a man (read, what could of I said that might of been misinterpreted to read 'no sex tonight, don't even try') and then smack him upside the head and tell him to get back to work!
So we put this day on the calendar partially because Jackie is a vampire fanatic. Ok, she's into all the vampire, wolverines, shift changers, and ghost type stuff. Ann Rice hasn't written anything she hasn't read (yes even her BDSM stuff, though I joined her in those). So biting and hair pulling it was.
Now first thing you might say is I'm not going around with a bunch of hickies on my neck. But there are 2 things you don't know. First in the world of hickie givers, I'm the worlds worst. I mean I could suck till my jaw sucks in and there wouldn't be a mark, especially on the neck. I've never understood it, but it's the truth. Second, when we first got together Jackie told me she didn't like any hickies on or above her neck. Her boobs are free for marking up but not her neck or face. DEAL!
So as I was biting around she'd get worried and pull away. It took some of the fun away, but I still continued. Her ear lobes, her neck, her boobs, her shoulder, her back, her bottom all got my attention. During those times I'd tug on her hair. Eventually she flipped me over and got her 2 (or 20) bites in. Again the fine line between pleasure and pain taken to the limits. It excites me to no end.
Afterwards, during our pillow talk she told me she loves how I react. And I react knowing how turned on it will get her. "I don't want you to fake it" she told me. "Fake it?" oh you misunderstand, it's one of those things that I'm excited, and knowing that I can get you even more excited makes me even more excited. I hold a key to getting you over the top excited, what guy doesn't want that???
Ten days of sexuary come and gone and even with all our planning and talking we're still human. We still get tired. We still have miscommunications. We still have to schedule that time, and keep it a priority, or it will easily be taken over by ANYTHING else that's available. We can make excuses not to be intimate with our partner with thousands of excuses. We can justify it in our head all we want. But if we don't put our relationships at the top of our list then the relationship itself is in jeopardy. And the problem is that once we've gone down that path, it's really hard to get back on the right path.
I'm very lucky to have a woman like Jackie that we can be open and honest with. But think about it, not many people are so open and honest that they would be writing this blog and putting this month out there for all to read. But we do, and we do because "WE" are a priority in both of our lives. It took one of us reaching out and the other to follow. But someone has to start it all. There are no magic wands that just 'poof' fix it all, and even when it's 'fixed' there are problems....daily...sometimes hourly.....heck there are times I'm afraid to breath because I'm afraid I'll screw up again. But we talk, we work through them one by one, and hey before we know it there's a hickie on her boob.
So is today the day you do something different to improve your relationship? The day you realize he's misunderstood your off the wall comment and smack him on the back of the head? Heck do it twice and then tell him to get on his knees and .......sorry was having a flash back, but it was an exciting one.
Dane
Vampire day...lots of biting and some hair pulling. Two things I like to read about and daydream about. And I am not talking about "twlight" vampires...I am talking about TruBlood or others. I am talking about great sex, great bites and list goes on and on....I could easily turn this into a book blog with all the series I have read of the years that are "paranormal romance"
So yesterday was a busy busy busy and long day. We left the house around 730 in morning and got back at 9. 200 miles on the van we finally got home. We were both just exhausted. I know Dane won't ask for any time off, heck he is even more horny after a crazy exhausting kind of day. I wanted him to decide to he wanted to go ahead and play or just do a double banger day on Sunday. I knew we had a few hours in morning and evening that we would have alone. So I gave him the choice. Now keep in mind the whole last 2 hours on way home he has commented over and over how tired he was, and how hard it was drive us without falling asleep. So I asked him, well I thought I had asked him...and he gave me 2 answers...One was I really wanted to play but if your tired then I guess we can wait, then the other answer was you decide. I only heard "you decide" which aggravates me that he gives me this answer. If I ask a question, I don't want the answer to be for me to decide, I don't know so that's why I am asking! UGG I hate that answer. If I knew what I wanted I wouldn't ask.
So then I asked, how exactly do we get started....I know what the calender says but how does one start this? I rolled over on my back and proceeded to roll on me with his head on my chest. I was antsy because I knew if I slowed down for one minute I would be asleep then he would be upset that I fell asleep. I waited and waited and waited wondering when he was going to start...I didn't know how to start it...I was waiting for direction. I finally said, I thought you wanted to play tonight so I don't know what to do. HE then says well you gave an option and sure I wanted to play but I just figured that meant you didn't. I told him I asked him and he said he wanted to play so I thought we were going to play. I never said we were not going to play, just asked what he wanted. Communication died tonight, the rose glasses, the blue glasses, the assuming, can make life confusing. I never said I didn't want to play, all I did was ask if he wanted to wait and have a double day or play. I thought I was clear, he thought a totally different clear thought. We were NOT on the same page. It wasn't until I said "I thought we were going to play tonight" did we finally get on the same page.
Ok so now we are on the same page, he starts biting and sucking on me. As you know I have a fear or unwant of hickies on my neck. I don't mind them any other place it's just what we do is between us, no one else needs to see that! I hate seeing them on people. Its very hard to enjoy when it makes me very nervous of him kissing or sucking on my neck. I will fight tooth and nail when he comes near my ear or neck. He thinks its a trust issue, while it is some that's just not the whole reason. I just think that there are other places that are more of a turn on for me than my ears/neck. I think part of it is old memories of the ex trying to play with my ear and I swear it was like a freakin hurricane, lots of moisture, and blowing and pure nastiness that I have not been able to get past that for it to be enjoyable.
He continued to bite and suck on me. There was one time he got me good, I had to ask him to stop,(I even have a small bruise from it) He did, of course that was talked about from the beginning. Then when enough is enough you have to stop. You don't want your partner to go into a dark place. I have a lot of them, so I really try not to go into one, and we never know what will send me in a cliff of pure enjoyment or a cliff of pure hell. After he really enjoyed the biting, it was my turn. I listen for vocal cues, I listen to breathing, for movements to know when enough is enough. I know there is a fine fine line between pleasure and pain. I really do get more excited the more excited he becomes. I listen for cues on if I am doing it alright.
We tried several positions, so he could pull my hair, some more successful than others since my body still has some aches and pains from the last 10 days, and muscle groups waking up that aren't used very often.
All in all it was enjoyable. I did ride the pain/pleasure roller coaster then whole time. I swear it was minute to minute on the ride. There are no other words to describe it but a roller coaster.
What are you doing right now? Are you talking with your partner about what you want/need? Are you making sure that your desires are showing, are you assuming they know what you mean? Be sure to remember to double check your question and your answer if your not getting the response you thought you should. ASK THE QUESTION AGAIN, don't go to bed upset when you weren't being clear in the asking
Lessons learned today: don't assume, ask questions, don't freak out, and remember you are pushing your personal limits, but always remember you are safe.
Jackie
So I want to start out by saying that even with all the communications and experiences of the 2444 days we've been married, and the 2 years before that I still misread, misunderstand and misinterpret the words and actions of Jackie. Now this isn't the first time, and I'm sure it won't be the last time I take a comment and run in the wrong direction in my head.
So let me explain. It had been a long day. We'd been up since 5:30 AM and we got home about 9 PM. Hundreds of miles on the vehicle. Oh and did I mention it was almost midnight the night before when we got to bed?
So we finally crawl into bed and the question comes "Do you want to play tonight, or have a double session tomorrow and play in the morning and afternoon tomorrow?" Ok, it's a clear question, but let me tell you what my testosterone infested brain hears - "I don't want sex tonight". Yeap, that's the translation that is clear as day in my head.
Oh this isn't the first time. In the past it's been, "my sinuses are killing me", "my shoulder is bothering me", "I'm totally wiped out", and many others all said within the hour before or while we're in bed and everyone of them translated exactly the same in my head, "I'm just not up to it tonight, so no sex tonight". Yeap, loud and clear that's the word for word translation that my brain gives those statements. Ok, in my defense that's because I was married previously to a woman that would of meant that exact translation, and it's hard to learn the same phase in a second language sometimes.
Now in the beginning I think Jackie would just roll over and go to bed frustrated not knowing what just happened. I'm certain there were times she didn't have a clue what had just hit her. Somewhere along the way we talked and I explained some of this to her. When it was all said and done I basically told her she had permission to call me an idiot, smack me upside my head and demand that I perform any and all duties that were expected of me.
Last night was one of those times.
I was tired too, but had been looking forward to this night, just like I've looked forward to every day since Sexuary has started. But being the martyr I can be I rolled over and laying on her chest just laid there figuring I'd just go to sleep. Jackie was like "WTF? I just asked a question. I didn't know how to start this, and wanted to see if you wanted to wait till tomorrow morning."
So before I get into the fetish side of things I want to just make it clear how easy it is for your partner to mistake an innocent comment. It's not hard for a partner to mistake an innocent comment. I really think most guys are programmed for rejection, especially when it comes to sex. So when we hear those nonchalant words from our partner we just assume (make all the "ass out of you and me" jokes you want) that it's just the excuse and we might as well not even try. Shy of the slap across the backside of the head I'm not sure what will every 'fix' that problem. So if your guy seems hot and heavy and then all of a sudden it's cold as ice you might ask yourself what I just said and then think like a man (read, what could of I said that might of been misinterpreted to read 'no sex tonight, don't even try') and then smack him upside the head and tell him to get back to work!
So we put this day on the calendar partially because Jackie is a vampire fanatic. Ok, she's into all the vampire, wolverines, shift changers, and ghost type stuff. Ann Rice hasn't written anything she hasn't read (yes even her BDSM stuff, though I joined her in those). So biting and hair pulling it was.
Now first thing you might say is I'm not going around with a bunch of hickies on my neck. But there are 2 things you don't know. First in the world of hickie givers, I'm the worlds worst. I mean I could suck till my jaw sucks in and there wouldn't be a mark, especially on the neck. I've never understood it, but it's the truth. Second, when we first got together Jackie told me she didn't like any hickies on or above her neck. Her boobs are free for marking up but not her neck or face. DEAL!
So as I was biting around she'd get worried and pull away. It took some of the fun away, but I still continued. Her ear lobes, her neck, her boobs, her shoulder, her back, her bottom all got my attention. During those times I'd tug on her hair. Eventually she flipped me over and got her 2 (or 20) bites in. Again the fine line between pleasure and pain taken to the limits. It excites me to no end.
Afterwards, during our pillow talk she told me she loves how I react. And I react knowing how turned on it will get her. "I don't want you to fake it" she told me. "Fake it?" oh you misunderstand, it's one of those things that I'm excited, and knowing that I can get you even more excited makes me even more excited. I hold a key to getting you over the top excited, what guy doesn't want that???
Ten days of sexuary come and gone and even with all our planning and talking we're still human. We still get tired. We still have miscommunications. We still have to schedule that time, and keep it a priority, or it will easily be taken over by ANYTHING else that's available. We can make excuses not to be intimate with our partner with thousands of excuses. We can justify it in our head all we want. But if we don't put our relationships at the top of our list then the relationship itself is in jeopardy. And the problem is that once we've gone down that path, it's really hard to get back on the right path.
I'm very lucky to have a woman like Jackie that we can be open and honest with. But think about it, not many people are so open and honest that they would be writing this blog and putting this month out there for all to read. But we do, and we do because "WE" are a priority in both of our lives. It took one of us reaching out and the other to follow. But someone has to start it all. There are no magic wands that just 'poof' fix it all, and even when it's 'fixed' there are problems....daily...sometimes hourly.....heck there are times I'm afraid to breath because I'm afraid I'll screw up again. But we talk, we work through them one by one, and hey before we know it there's a hickie on her boob.
So is today the day you do something different to improve your relationship? The day you realize he's misunderstood your off the wall comment and smack him on the back of the head? Heck do it twice and then tell him to get on his knees and .......sorry was having a flash back, but it was an exciting one.
Dane
Vampire day...lots of biting and some hair pulling. Two things I like to read about and daydream about. And I am not talking about "twlight" vampires...I am talking about TruBlood or others. I am talking about great sex, great bites and list goes on and on....I could easily turn this into a book blog with all the series I have read of the years that are "paranormal romance"
So yesterday was a busy busy busy and long day. We left the house around 730 in morning and got back at 9. 200 miles on the van we finally got home. We were both just exhausted. I know Dane won't ask for any time off, heck he is even more horny after a crazy exhausting kind of day. I wanted him to decide to he wanted to go ahead and play or just do a double banger day on Sunday. I knew we had a few hours in morning and evening that we would have alone. So I gave him the choice. Now keep in mind the whole last 2 hours on way home he has commented over and over how tired he was, and how hard it was drive us without falling asleep. So I asked him, well I thought I had asked him...and he gave me 2 answers...One was I really wanted to play but if your tired then I guess we can wait, then the other answer was you decide. I only heard "you decide" which aggravates me that he gives me this answer. If I ask a question, I don't want the answer to be for me to decide, I don't know so that's why I am asking! UGG I hate that answer. If I knew what I wanted I wouldn't ask.
So then I asked, how exactly do we get started....I know what the calender says but how does one start this? I rolled over on my back and proceeded to roll on me with his head on my chest. I was antsy because I knew if I slowed down for one minute I would be asleep then he would be upset that I fell asleep. I waited and waited and waited wondering when he was going to start...I didn't know how to start it...I was waiting for direction. I finally said, I thought you wanted to play tonight so I don't know what to do. HE then says well you gave an option and sure I wanted to play but I just figured that meant you didn't. I told him I asked him and he said he wanted to play so I thought we were going to play. I never said we were not going to play, just asked what he wanted. Communication died tonight, the rose glasses, the blue glasses, the assuming, can make life confusing. I never said I didn't want to play, all I did was ask if he wanted to wait and have a double day or play. I thought I was clear, he thought a totally different clear thought. We were NOT on the same page. It wasn't until I said "I thought we were going to play tonight" did we finally get on the same page.
Ok so now we are on the same page, he starts biting and sucking on me. As you know I have a fear or unwant of hickies on my neck. I don't mind them any other place it's just what we do is between us, no one else needs to see that! I hate seeing them on people. Its very hard to enjoy when it makes me very nervous of him kissing or sucking on my neck. I will fight tooth and nail when he comes near my ear or neck. He thinks its a trust issue, while it is some that's just not the whole reason. I just think that there are other places that are more of a turn on for me than my ears/neck. I think part of it is old memories of the ex trying to play with my ear and I swear it was like a freakin hurricane, lots of moisture, and blowing and pure nastiness that I have not been able to get past that for it to be enjoyable.
He continued to bite and suck on me. There was one time he got me good, I had to ask him to stop,(I even have a small bruise from it) He did, of course that was talked about from the beginning. Then when enough is enough you have to stop. You don't want your partner to go into a dark place. I have a lot of them, so I really try not to go into one, and we never know what will send me in a cliff of pure enjoyment or a cliff of pure hell. After he really enjoyed the biting, it was my turn. I listen for vocal cues, I listen to breathing, for movements to know when enough is enough. I know there is a fine fine line between pleasure and pain. I really do get more excited the more excited he becomes. I listen for cues on if I am doing it alright.
We tried several positions, so he could pull my hair, some more successful than others since my body still has some aches and pains from the last 10 days, and muscle groups waking up that aren't used very often.
All in all it was enjoyable. I did ride the pain/pleasure roller coaster then whole time. I swear it was minute to minute on the ride. There are no other words to describe it but a roller coaster.
What are you doing right now? Are you talking with your partner about what you want/need? Are you making sure that your desires are showing, are you assuming they know what you mean? Be sure to remember to double check your question and your answer if your not getting the response you thought you should. ASK THE QUESTION AGAIN, don't go to bed upset when you weren't being clear in the asking
Lessons learned today: don't assume, ask questions, don't freak out, and remember you are pushing your personal limits, but always remember you are safe.
Jackie
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Anal, Dildos, Fisting (Day 2)
Ok, I know this is a repeat, but i think it will take a few times this month to stretch my ass to fist. Once we've acchieved it we might change a couple of the future ones. I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites. You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard. If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.
While you're on my backside I'd like you to vary it some, push me as much as you can in what ever you decide to do that day, here's a couple of ideas:
1) The hot oils on my genitals
2) Spank my ass, I'm talking really spank it. If you'd like to use a paddle or something like that please do. I'm even ok if you want to use the whip or something on my back. A whelp or 2 (or 10) is ok for this month.
3) You can use clothes pins on my sack, or penis, or where ever you'd like
4) One of the days you might cuff me(I have a pair of handcuffs, I just need to make sure I have the key)
5) Each day you can decide if you want to tie me down, gag me, blindfold me, etc. or just bend me over.
6) I know we'd have to move bring stuff downstairs, but it might actually be easier for you to bend me over the sofa arm and attacking me.At least once or 2x *hint hint*
So today was day 2 of the anal/fisting on me. Jackie added a vibrating egg underneath her strap on so that she would get some good vibs too. I never expected that I would feel those vibrations as well as I did too. I'll be modifying her her strap on with a pocket so she can add her egg when we play in the future. .
She tried some new positions for her that sent me over the top quickly. Amazing what a good prostate massage will do for a guy. It didn't take me long to scream that I was there and was definitely well satisfied with the session.
Unfortunately I've found no matter how much lube we use, and we apply it very liberally, the motion will eventually get to me more than the trying to stretch me will. So it's easier to try to fist me first then have her use her strap on on me then it is to go the other way around. Now the burn goes away quickly (within an hour) and honestly it feels amazing as it 'calms down' so I don't mind, but we weren't able to try fisting today.
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Oh, and did I mention that she took me up on #2? First she spanked me with her hand, then a ping pong paddle we bought for the occasion. OH MY! She would swat my bottom then kiss where she spanked. It was the truest sense of pleasure and pain. The fine line between Ouch that !@#$$% hurts and OUCH that feels !@#$% fantastic. She said my bottom was nice and red before she bent me over and had her way with me. I just know it was hot. Giving her control like that was great!
We tried several new things this afternoon and we both enjoyed it. On the excitement scale it ranked right up there off the chart. It was new. It was different. It was mutually enjoyable. That's just a small benefit to what this Sexuary is all about for Jackie and I. Are you doing something to help you make a change in your relationship? We're 1/3rd of the way done with Sexuary, don't wait do something today!
Dane
Man what a day...it just seemed to go on and on and on. I really thought we might not get to play today. I have been battling a headache for 2 days. I have managed to push through them and while I get some relief for an hour or so they do come back with a vengence.
I normally I tell Dane, to be ready when I get home from work, and be ass up waiting for me. Today, I told him to get ready but he did not have to be ass up. I swear I was waiting forever but in reality it was only a few minutes. I was anxious, even though he thought I was not "into it" I really was, I just wasn't sure what I was supposed to do while waiting. He usually has stuff all set out that he wants to me use, or hints on what he wants to do to him. I really was like a fish out of the water. I floundered around, going through our toy drawer, looking and shuffling around trying to "feel the right thing". I took out some things and put them on the side table, went and strapped on my dildo, got some new batteries for a new egg I had just gotten.
I just had this urge to come up behind him and play with him with him on his side. He had a nice butt plug in and man was it hot! There is NOTHING that beats giving him a nice ass fuck...I decided to just try some new things, I spanked him with my hand and then asked him if he would like me to use the paddle. OMG it was awesome, as I spanked him and he would shiver with pleasure, I would get a good whack then bend down kiss and caress and bite where I just spanked...It sent me OVER the edge...OH my...I know he wanted me to try and get that fist in him but damn I just really really did I say really wanted to ram that ass! And boy did I! Between my egg and my orgasm it was a night I would not forget. My body hasn't let me forget either, I have sore muscles that I had no idea I had that reminded me all day long the great play session we had yesterday.
Jackie
While you're on my backside I'd like you to vary it some, push me as much as you can in what ever you decide to do that day, here's a couple of ideas:
1) The hot oils on my genitals
2) Spank my ass, I'm talking really spank it. If you'd like to use a paddle or something like that please do. I'm even ok if you want to use the whip or something on my back. A whelp or 2 (or 10) is ok for this month.
3) You can use clothes pins on my sack, or penis, or where ever you'd like
4) One of the days you might cuff me(I have a pair of handcuffs, I just need to make sure I have the key)
5) Each day you can decide if you want to tie me down, gag me, blindfold me, etc. or just bend me over.
6) I know we'd have to move bring stuff downstairs, but it might actually be easier for you to bend me over the sofa arm and attacking me.At least once or 2x *hint hint*
So today was day 2 of the anal/fisting on me. Jackie added a vibrating egg underneath her strap on so that she would get some good vibs too. I never expected that I would feel those vibrations as well as I did too. I'll be modifying her her strap on with a pocket so she can add her egg when we play in the future. .
She tried some new positions for her that sent me over the top quickly. Amazing what a good prostate massage will do for a guy. It didn't take me long to scream that I was there and was definitely well satisfied with the session.
Unfortunately I've found no matter how much lube we use, and we apply it very liberally, the motion will eventually get to me more than the trying to stretch me will. So it's easier to try to fist me first then have her use her strap on on me then it is to go the other way around. Now the burn goes away quickly (within an hour) and honestly it feels amazing as it 'calms down' so I don't mind, but we weren't able to try fisting today.
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Oh, and did I mention that she took me up on #2? First she spanked me with her hand, then a ping pong paddle we bought for the occasion. OH MY! She would swat my bottom then kiss where she spanked. It was the truest sense of pleasure and pain. The fine line between Ouch that !@#$$% hurts and OUCH that feels !@#$% fantastic. She said my bottom was nice and red before she bent me over and had her way with me. I just know it was hot. Giving her control like that was great!
We tried several new things this afternoon and we both enjoyed it. On the excitement scale it ranked right up there off the chart. It was new. It was different. It was mutually enjoyable. That's just a small benefit to what this Sexuary is all about for Jackie and I. Are you doing something to help you make a change in your relationship? We're 1/3rd of the way done with Sexuary, don't wait do something today!
Dane
Man what a day...it just seemed to go on and on and on. I really thought we might not get to play today. I have been battling a headache for 2 days. I have managed to push through them and while I get some relief for an hour or so they do come back with a vengence.
I normally I tell Dane, to be ready when I get home from work, and be ass up waiting for me. Today, I told him to get ready but he did not have to be ass up. I swear I was waiting forever but in reality it was only a few minutes. I was anxious, even though he thought I was not "into it" I really was, I just wasn't sure what I was supposed to do while waiting. He usually has stuff all set out that he wants to me use, or hints on what he wants to do to him. I really was like a fish out of the water. I floundered around, going through our toy drawer, looking and shuffling around trying to "feel the right thing". I took out some things and put them on the side table, went and strapped on my dildo, got some new batteries for a new egg I had just gotten.
I just had this urge to come up behind him and play with him with him on his side. He had a nice butt plug in and man was it hot! There is NOTHING that beats giving him a nice ass fuck...I decided to just try some new things, I spanked him with my hand and then asked him if he would like me to use the paddle. OMG it was awesome, as I spanked him and he would shiver with pleasure, I would get a good whack then bend down kiss and caress and bite where I just spanked...It sent me OVER the edge...OH my...I know he wanted me to try and get that fist in him but damn I just really really did I say really wanted to ram that ass! And boy did I! Between my egg and my orgasm it was a night I would not forget. My body hasn't let me forget either, I have sore muscles that I had no idea I had that reminded me all day long the great play session we had yesterday.
Jackie
Friday, February 8, 2013
Oils and Massages
Normally I would post our calendars explanation here, but because of crazy scheduling we had to move the Dom/sub to next week and come up with another one that wouldn't take all day and wouldn't wake up the kids. So Jackie came up with rubbing oils on me and giving me a mini massage.
I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday. !@#$% Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday. I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday. So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around. Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can". Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved. After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday. Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.
So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom. It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.
I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me. I've had lots of massages but never with oils.
First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect. I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that. She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation. Pretty cool!
I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me. She teased certain areas as she passed by. She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot. Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body. I love that intimate touch. It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that. I love anytime Jackie caresses me. The oils are just a bonus. The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus. Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.
Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great. At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep. Who could want any more than that?
Dane
Man what a day. We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way. I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit. I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day. So I thought about it all day. I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.
I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged. I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body. I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.
I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together. It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)
Jackie
I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday. !@#$% Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday. I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday. So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around. Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can". Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved. After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday. Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.
So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom. It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.
I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me. I've had lots of massages but never with oils.
First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect. I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that. She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation. Pretty cool!
I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me. She teased certain areas as she passed by. She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot. Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body. I love that intimate touch. It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that. I love anytime Jackie caresses me. The oils are just a bonus. The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus. Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.
Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great. At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep. Who could want any more than that?
Dane
Man what a day. We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way. I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit. I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day. So I thought about it all day. I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.
I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged. I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body. I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.
I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together. It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)
Jackie
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Podophilia (Feet)
Start with the wonderful feet. Suck on them, maybe slide my cock through your toes and definitely between your feet…with oils maybe to help it slide, massage them..just all things feet. Might be interesting if you can think of things with my feet, though i'm not sure how that would work (other than maybe sucking toes and massaging). Start with stocking??? If so will they have a hole i can tear?
Just incase you're keeping up with the calendar and noticed it changed some it's because of doctor appointments and work, so we moved feet to today. All the days will be done, we just have to adjust for life
So feet is one of those new fetishes that we've delved into just a bit. I've rubbed Jackies in a manner of foreplay, I've sucked on her toes. She's rubbed my cock while I'm busy between her legs with one of her feet. It's been interesting. It's never been orgasmic, but it's been a bit exciting. So we put it on the calendar to explore it a bit more. What are the things other people do with feet that we could?
Jackie doesn't normally wear any hose so we purchased a pair at Walmart for her. The first thing I have to say is there have got to be hose that feel better on skin than those! Jackie said she's never had any, but those were a bit rough on the skin. Don't they make them in silk and other materials that a woman would want to wear? Okay I wouldn't expect them to cost $5 for 2 pair, but really! I'll have to put that on the need to find out more about list unless one of our readers want to enlighten me.
I did enjoy rubbing her legs some, and before hand I rubbed some oils on her feet which I enjoyed.
I slide myself between her feet in various manners, and rubbed her feet in the stockings. I did eventually take a pair of scissors and cut the toes out and suck on them. I put oils on them and slide between her toes and feet in various angles and foot configurations.
The mechanics of it felt ok, but Jackie just didn't seem to be getting anything out of it, so I didn't stay terribly long there. She had receives some new non-piercing nipple rings and we moved to there and eventually finished up.
Jackie felt bad that I was disappointed in the foot thing. Yes, I was a bit disappointed because I've spoken to people to have true foot fetishes and to them it's like "OMG it just doesn't get any better than that", and I wanted to experience some of that. And while it's by no means my biggest thing, I can definitely appreciate a foot. But the thing I pointed out to Jackie last night is that we have several things on our list we've never tried, and I don't have a clue if we're going to like it or not. That's part of the reason we're doing this. On top of that if everyone in the world like the feet play it wouldn't be called a fetish. Many of the things we have scheduled are really fetishes that either they do something for you or they don't. This one didn't for Jackie and that's okay. Really, it's okay!
What I am seeing though is that Jackie has found a new attraction to her nipples. We ordered some new nipple clamps that came in yesterday and she immediately went and put them on, and also wore them last night. She love the different sensation she got when I paid them attention. It seems this whole last week she's had a new found appreciation for her nipples. I'm good with that. :) And really isn't that part of what we set out to do this month? Find new things we like and don't like?
We're 1/4 of the way through Sexuary and still running strong. Podophilia wasn't a hit out of the park, but it was still time I spent with Jackie and that's always a good time.
Dane
Foot day,...I was a bit worried about it. I know we had had some success before. I am not sure why tonight, I just was not there. I don't know if it was the hose( I never wear them). I don't know if it was the what if's, or the unfamiliarity of it all. I have heard all the stories and how many people love feet. I have played some with Dane with my toes and my feet, but really it was by accident. He has had some times that my feet and my toes turn me on. I don't know why last night it was just not there. I know we tried several positions with my feet but when one foot just doesnt bend as it should its hard. I could go on and on however I will not. I hope we can try again because who knows what would happen.
However so far this month, we have tried a lot of things. One thing I have discovered are nipple clips. I am enjoying them so much I am almost positive that I will be getting my nipples pierced in March. I would get them done now but I don't want to be sore for the rest of this month. I had begun to think I had lost all feelings in my boobs and nipples but this is beginning to really turn me on.
So the challenge this month is to do something with your partner...anything...well Dane and I have a calendar of stuff to do, and we might bomb one thing but that is NOT going to stop us from going on to the next. Somethings we will have to retry because how many times in life do you try something one time and fail miserably so you have to try again! That is what this about...Learning new things, trying new things, and finding out what you and your partner like or don't like....try try and keep on trying..that what we are doing...
Jackie
Just incase you're keeping up with the calendar and noticed it changed some it's because of doctor appointments and work, so we moved feet to today. All the days will be done, we just have to adjust for life
So feet is one of those new fetishes that we've delved into just a bit. I've rubbed Jackies in a manner of foreplay, I've sucked on her toes. She's rubbed my cock while I'm busy between her legs with one of her feet. It's been interesting. It's never been orgasmic, but it's been a bit exciting. So we put it on the calendar to explore it a bit more. What are the things other people do with feet that we could?
Jackie doesn't normally wear any hose so we purchased a pair at Walmart for her. The first thing I have to say is there have got to be hose that feel better on skin than those! Jackie said she's never had any, but those were a bit rough on the skin. Don't they make them in silk and other materials that a woman would want to wear? Okay I wouldn't expect them to cost $5 for 2 pair, but really! I'll have to put that on the need to find out more about list unless one of our readers want to enlighten me.
I did enjoy rubbing her legs some, and before hand I rubbed some oils on her feet which I enjoyed.
I slide myself between her feet in various manners, and rubbed her feet in the stockings. I did eventually take a pair of scissors and cut the toes out and suck on them. I put oils on them and slide between her toes and feet in various angles and foot configurations.
The mechanics of it felt ok, but Jackie just didn't seem to be getting anything out of it, so I didn't stay terribly long there. She had receives some new non-piercing nipple rings and we moved to there and eventually finished up.
Jackie felt bad that I was disappointed in the foot thing. Yes, I was a bit disappointed because I've spoken to people to have true foot fetishes and to them it's like "OMG it just doesn't get any better than that", and I wanted to experience some of that. And while it's by no means my biggest thing, I can definitely appreciate a foot. But the thing I pointed out to Jackie last night is that we have several things on our list we've never tried, and I don't have a clue if we're going to like it or not. That's part of the reason we're doing this. On top of that if everyone in the world like the feet play it wouldn't be called a fetish. Many of the things we have scheduled are really fetishes that either they do something for you or they don't. This one didn't for Jackie and that's okay. Really, it's okay!
What I am seeing though is that Jackie has found a new attraction to her nipples. We ordered some new nipple clamps that came in yesterday and she immediately went and put them on, and also wore them last night. She love the different sensation she got when I paid them attention. It seems this whole last week she's had a new found appreciation for her nipples. I'm good with that. :) And really isn't that part of what we set out to do this month? Find new things we like and don't like?
We're 1/4 of the way through Sexuary and still running strong. Podophilia wasn't a hit out of the park, but it was still time I spent with Jackie and that's always a good time.
Dane
Foot day,...I was a bit worried about it. I know we had had some success before. I am not sure why tonight, I just was not there. I don't know if it was the hose( I never wear them). I don't know if it was the what if's, or the unfamiliarity of it all. I have heard all the stories and how many people love feet. I have played some with Dane with my toes and my feet, but really it was by accident. He has had some times that my feet and my toes turn me on. I don't know why last night it was just not there. I know we tried several positions with my feet but when one foot just doesnt bend as it should its hard. I could go on and on however I will not. I hope we can try again because who knows what would happen.
However so far this month, we have tried a lot of things. One thing I have discovered are nipple clips. I am enjoying them so much I am almost positive that I will be getting my nipples pierced in March. I would get them done now but I don't want to be sore for the rest of this month. I had begun to think I had lost all feelings in my boobs and nipples but this is beginning to really turn me on.
So the challenge this month is to do something with your partner...anything...well Dane and I have a calendar of stuff to do, and we might bomb one thing but that is NOT going to stop us from going on to the next. Somethings we will have to retry because how many times in life do you try something one time and fail miserably so you have to try again! That is what this about...Learning new things, trying new things, and finding out what you and your partner like or don't like....try try and keep on trying..that what we are doing...
Jackie
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
Anal, Dildos, Fisting
I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites. You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard. If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie
Japaneese ropes, blind fold, feathers and nipple clamps to start. Of course there will be dildos, fire (wax) or ice, or various other unrelenting actions while you're tied down. (done to Jackie)
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
Monday, February 4, 2013
Being Flexible
So today was suppose to be "Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie", but after the events of last night and the fact we could have better no kids time (read Jackie could stream louder if she wanted to) on Monday instead of today, and massages would be tonight. We just thought it would be better overall for both of us.
We like massages. Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years. Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner. Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex. Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it. I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them. And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.
I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better. I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.
We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady. We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys. We also found some non-piercing nipple ring The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it. You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys. The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert.
Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings. Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight. First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points. A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes. Then next score was hers. Next would be mine. Then hers. Didn't matter which team scored, just a score.
I love oral sex! I love to receive and give oral. I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much. I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times). But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.
YEAH!!! 7 points scored first! Damn I'm a lucky guy. Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much. Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown. While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.
We had fun. We both got some much needed relief. And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night. Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.
We have 4 days down, 24 days to go. We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship. It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.
What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting. Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps. Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going. Make up your own game. I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance. Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.
Dane
Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc. However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do. I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be. So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day. And part of this month is open communication. I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.
I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages. They are very relaxing for me to give them. I know how much Dane loves them. I really had intended to give him one. I am not sure why I changed the game again.
So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story. One of our favorites is Megaplexx. Its not your average toy store. Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing. This is great store. The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced. Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them. I really wanted to see them on. I wanted to see how easy they would be. The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car. We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay. I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again.
I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score. We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE. We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him. I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score. I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all. So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes. I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close. I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me. I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth. I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy. Today though I was OK with him playing with me. I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs. I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him. I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going. I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened. I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day. FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.
Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to. If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)
So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start. We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track. We will talk and communicate more than we ever had. We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!
Jackie
We like massages. Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years. Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner. Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex. Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it. I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them. And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.
I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better. I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.
We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady. We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys. We also found some non-piercing nipple ring The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it. You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys. The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert.
Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings. Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight. First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points. A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes. Then next score was hers. Next would be mine. Then hers. Didn't matter which team scored, just a score.
I love oral sex! I love to receive and give oral. I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much. I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times). But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.
YEAH!!! 7 points scored first! Damn I'm a lucky guy. Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much. Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown. While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.
We had fun. We both got some much needed relief. And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night. Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.
We have 4 days down, 24 days to go. We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship. It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.
What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting. Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps. Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going. Make up your own game. I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance. Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.
Dane
Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc. However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do. I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be. So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day. And part of this month is open communication. I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.
I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages. They are very relaxing for me to give them. I know how much Dane loves them. I really had intended to give him one. I am not sure why I changed the game again.
So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story. One of our favorites is Megaplexx. Its not your average toy store. Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing. This is great store. The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced. Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them. I really wanted to see them on. I wanted to see how easy they would be. The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car. We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay. I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again.
I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score. We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE. We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him. I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score. I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all. So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes. I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close. I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me. I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth. I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy. Today though I was OK with him playing with me. I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs. I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him. I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going. I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened. I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day. FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.
Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to. If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)
So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start. We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track. We will talk and communicate more than we ever had. We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!
Jackie
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