Sexuary 2024 - All Day Sex

Periodically, even when it's not Sexuary, we'll have a day of sex.  I mean sex 4, 5, maybe even 6 times in the day.  Now this might seem like it's a wham bam type thing, but for us, that means every time we walk into the bedroom, it's going to be 100% different.  

We had just run some errands, so I wanted to start the day with a quickie.  I gave Jackie a couple of options, and a 10 minute blowjob was how we started the day!  What a great start to the day.  No, I didn't finish, but I knew there was a lot more to come, and I'll take 10 minutes of my cock in Jackie's mouth any day of the week!  

We were done about noon, so I told Jackie to be bent over the bed at two.  

At 2 sharp I walked into the bedroom and Jackie was waiting.  I set my alarm for 20 minutes, it was the first go around, and I didn't want to wear her out.  So I scrapped her back with my nails, I swatted her with one of my floggers (a serious thudder), and then I went to work on her.  Jackie went crazy after all the prep.  When my alarm went off, I pulled out and told her we'd pick back up at 4.  

During our break, I texted her asking if she wanted anything particular? "Some more sensation play and breath play" was her response.  So I went and prepared.  I pulled some balls I had gotten from Wish, and pulled a robe tie and some lube and put it under my pillow.  

When we started I started rubbing the first one over her belly and thighs.  I wound up with one under one of her breast and pressed, hard.  She reacted very favorably to it.  I started with my hand on her throat, something we do regularly, and when I released, I ran the balls hard in places.  

I placed a couple of balls between her thighs and then went to holding her nose and mouth a couple of times, again, she reacted well.  I put a couple of the big balls underneath Jackie's sides and had one under each breast, and then started to choke her with my robe.  She tapped out and I immediately let go.  I was ready to stop, but she wanted to continue with the balls.  

So I continued, and fingered her while playing with the balls.  Eventually I had enough and went for my pleasure.  When we were both done, the 20" circle of cum underneath Jackie was proof that session 3 was successful.  

"At 6:30, be leaning over the bed, with your ass cheeks spread," where the marching orders I gave as I left the room and let her rest some.  She deserved some rest after that session.  

Ok, she was a minute late, and her cheeks were spread, but she did make it to leaning over the bed and I placed her hands on her ass cheeks to spread them.  I then started to insert the anal vibrator I recently got for her and have used once before.  She started creaming almost instantly.  I was fisting her as I was changing the settings on the vibrator periodically.  "Go deeper" as she pushed back against my hand, sliding me as far as I could go inside her.  

After she came down from an extreme stream of orgasms, I flipped her onto the bed and then went in myself, leaving the vibrator in place.  The end of the bed, and the floor were soaked from her.  Her eyes were still in the back of her head and I could tell she was ready for a breather.  So I pulled the plug out, and just slowly slid over her.  

After a minute, I was able to slowly slide into her ass, and fuck her to another couple of orgasms.  After my 30 minute timer went off I stopped and we spooned for a bit.  We were waiting for a phone call sometime that night, so I told her right after that we'd finish for the night.  

I'll explain the rest when we get to bed."  Now I know in her researching now to be a Femme Dom, she'd been watching some porn, and had gone down some rabbit holes in fascination on a couple of topics.  Normally we're not big into porn, but it's not 'forbidden' in our house, just not something we've really gotten into.  So while she was outside enjoying herself, I sent a text, "I want you to find a 15 - 30 minute porn video and send me the link.  I want it to be something you've been watching (not necessarily that you've watched, but in one of the categories you've watched, and looks interesting to you."  She sent back this link.  The Femme Dom uses a vacuum bed to control her sub. After our call we went to bed.  I gave her 2 options, to assist me in masturbating, or we would just both masturbate while watching the movie together.  She wanted to finish the night with a bang too, so we both got what we needed and started the movie.  

We finished the night with multiple orgasms and quickly went off to sleep!  What a wonderful way to celebrate the 3rd day of Sexuary though. Sometime you just need a day of sex, I mean a day that sex is the center of everything, and you're constantly looking forward to 15 minutes from now because you know you're going to be back at it.  I can tell you that when we do this for non-Sexuary weekends, it's calming to me for days.  It gives me a sense of belonging, and knowing that our relationship is in a great place, and that we will go the extra for each other to make sure the other knows we are here for each other. About the only thing that would of made the day better was we didn't have anything else to do, and it was raining outside, so you never really wanted to get out of bed.  

It's only Day 3 of Sexuary, are we giving you any ideas of what you might bring into your sex life to get you out of a rut? I hope so, but even more so I hope you'll act on it and start something new with your parnter this Sexuary!

Dane 

Sexuary 2023 - Romantic Day 4 - Sensations

 

On the 4th week or I started out by sending Jackie to get her nails and feet done.  This is a treat for Jackie that I know she loves and makes her feel special.  It's not an 'us' thing, but it's a treat for Jackie and makes her know I was thinking of her.  

Afterwards we did our annual sensations play.  I cover her eyes and laid her back in bed and started.  I'd pulled out a dozen or so things we've collected over the years and had them handy. 

I start with a soft piece of cloth that we use as a seat cover for our rope play and run it down the length of her body.  It sends the goosebumps starting.  

I took a glass dildo that had been sitting in ice water and splashed it on Jackie. 

I run a wartenberg wheel over her, I'd purchased a new rubber glove that had 'tentacles' all over it.  I'm certain it had an odd feel as I ran it over her body. 

A rabbits fur we picked up at Tandy Leather for $5.  

Corn starch is extremely soft as you toss it on skin and slide your hands over it.  

Then came the wax.  The first drop did NOT go where I was wanting it.  I was aiming for around her nipple area and it dripped down the candle and hit her shoulder area.  This was an area with no corn starch, and just not where I was aiming.  We both took a deep breath and started over.  I generally hold the candle at shoulder height so that the wax has a bit of time to cool before it hits the skin. 

We also recently purchased a 3D printed plastic 'knife'.  It will not cut, but feels like it will.  It will also scrap the wax off of skin and bed sheets when you're done.  I used that to draw on Jackie's skin.  The knife cost us $10 at TKF, so I'm assuming you can find them for that or less if you look around. 

Soft, smooth, sharp, cold and hot are all sensations that can be used in sex, and on special occasions you can use them all at once to heighten the senses before playing further.  Hope this gives you some new ideas for fun in the bedroom that doesn't have to break the bank but is a lot of fun. 

Dane

Sexuary 2017 - Sensations

Ok, so I know we have talked about sensations in the bedroom before, but that's how we kicked off Sexuary 2017, with Jackie tied to the bed, blindfolded and me adding different sensations to her body.  It's amazing how different textures, different elements and some very simple things can make a difference.

So let me start at the beginning.  We've had Japanese ropes for years (I think we got our first one at Spencers).  If you don't have a pair I highly recommend them.  They are cheap, comfortable and easy to use.  Before that I used my neckties to  tie Jackie up with.  This year I added a couple of d-links to the back of our headboard so I could just snap the rope in and it would hold.  I use to tie a rope to the bedframe and then our Japanese rope to that.  So not much excuse to not do something if you'd like to try other than some prep work.

Second, if you don't have a blindfold GET ONE!  They are cheap.  You can get them on Amazon for $5, or delivered in 2 days for $8.  There is a sensation when you don't know what's coming next that is exciting.  Every house should have a blindfold or 10.  We have several.

So then I've had to collect things that feel different on Jackie.  I picked up a piece of material a couple of years ago for Sexuary that she loves.  It's soft.  Very soft.  And when I drag it across her body it feels good.  So I got a piece that I can use to cover her and slooooooowwwwwwwlllllyyyyyyy drag off of her.  Her nipples will get hard doing this.  I love it.

A bottle of corn starch is then opened and I lightly drop it over her in places I'm going to rub.  First you get the sensations of the mini explosions as I drop it on her.  The she gets the silky smooth sensations as I rub on her body.

A few drops of warming liquid on each nipple will make her jump just a bit as each unannounced drop finds its way down and starts to spread.  Oh but then I get to rub it in better, suck on it, blow on it, each causing it's own sensation for Jackie to endure.

Over the years we've used candles, I'd recommend a soy candle here, ice, warming up your dildos in a bucket of hot water, feather boas, tracer wheels, massage oils, and more for different sensations.  It takes some work, you have to look around and see and think, 'hmmmm I wonder how that would work' and come up with a few different sensations, but they are out there and you don't have to spend a fortune at the adult toy store to do it. Not that we have anything against adult toy stores, we LOVE them, but you don't always have to go there for your sexual party favors when they are all around us.

So go do something unexpected for your significant other TODAY!  Surprise them with something new.

Dane

I know what your thinking....Corn Starch? Really?  I don't know why or how Dane found this but its like powder but its not, its smooth and feels great...I am always surprised when he tells me he used the Corn starch.  Oh that piece of material...just thinking about that makes me shutter...its incredible.

Sometimes its not the what is being used, its the not knowing what will be used and the sensations that is brought on with just touch.  He loves to see me cream and squirt but it doesn't always show in an outward way but sometimes its very intense inside my body like the endorphins release and body tenses and it explodes all in my head, all inside...not much outside to leave the mess...but it happens...And let me tell you it  was pretty intense  

Try something new with your partner!  Its worth it...

Jackie

Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie

Japaneese ropes, blind fold, feathers and nipple clamps to start.  Of course there will be dildos, fire (wax) or ice, or various other unrelenting actions while you're tied down. (done to Jackie)

So today was about sensations.  Either taking them away or enhancing them.  It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy.  This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do.  A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around.  A bucket of ice.  A candle.  A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.

In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance,  that you can strap someone down to the bed with.  In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe.  It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.

The blindfold is to take away an entire sense.  If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses.  If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.

I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed.  Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her.  I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin).  I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.

After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body.  A boa to tickle her.  Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples.  Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).

Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge.  The new sheets got a great christening.  I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation.  While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.

The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again.  The boa was new and she liked that too.  The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much.  We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved.  All of these things to enhance what we've already done.

So what could you do to stimulate your partner?  Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work.  Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away.  Either way you can have the time of your life.

I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day.  We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day.  There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.'  This year we've planned every day out.  We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of.  But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.

Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way.  I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous.  But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for.  I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do.  Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning.  I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month.  All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.

I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are.  That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us.  I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged.  But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with.  Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen.  A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones.  But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget.   The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top.  After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at.   It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on.  I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me. 

Dane


Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited.  I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin.  I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.

So the afternoon started with some anxiety.  I was nervous yet excited.  I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits.  I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok.  So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.

I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready.  However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too.  He walked me upstairs, blindfolded.  I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were.  He then took me and strapped me down.  He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place.  It takes alot of trust...I mean  A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you.  That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough. 
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings.  It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.