This was saved for last because we don't know the repercussions and I wanted time to recuperate. I would like you to use the electricity/TENS on me. Maybe we can find an anal probe, or see how they use it on a cock and nipples. I will leave it up to you if you'd like to try the same thing that day or save it for another day. This will be our last official day of Fetish Sexuary, so along with the electric you have free reign for ANYTHING you'd like to try on me.
So Jackie has this TENS unit from when she hurt her shoulder years ago. We've kept it around, lost it, found it, lost part of it, found it, lost it, found it...you get the drift. But I know that electricity can be a huge turn on for some, and very orgasmic for others.
Being a bit of a country boy I know that to get the seed from a bull, you stick an anal probe in and turn it on, and seaman will come flowing out. I'd never seen it done on a guy before Sexuary, So wasn't sure how it would work. But we were willing to try it.
We even watched a couple of videos where a guy came using a TENS unit and a girl went orgasmic with one. They were pretty hot and Jackie and I had a great round of sex after watching those videos.
So we break out the unit and Jackie decides to go first. Now anyone who knows Jackie knows she's not the overly adventurous type and it really surprised me she went first. So we put 1 set of pads on her and started it up. At first there wasn't much you could tell or see. She could feel it, but it wasn't all there. So we put a second set of pads on, further south, and bingo she started to vibrate a bit more. I could see her clit start to appear and her lips were definitely swelling.
She played with the controls till she got where she wanted and then closed her eyes and let it flow. I could see her react much the same as if I had her favorite vibrator on and was waiting for her to gush any second.
When she'd shuttered enough she cut the controls and just tried to catch her breath. I reached in and she was definitely wet. Not drenched as she can get but wet. She said it was not the most monumental but definitely orgasmed a couple of times.
Then was my turn. We started with one set of pads and turned it on. At first I didn't think it was working, then I hit level 4....5....6...7...OMG every time I went up a level it was like someone squeezed the head of my cock a bit tighter. But it wasn't going to make me cum. So we added a second set of pads. I could barely feel them even though I was all the way up to max on those (60) and about a 30 on the one attached to my head. But still no real, going over the top sensation.
So Jackie moved the pads around. This time I was feeling it all over. From the bottom of my sac to the top of my cock I could feel it vibrating. It pretty quickly took me to the edge. That feeling you get right before you cum. I had both controls at max setting of 60. It was right there....I waited...I could feel the urge.....it was sooooooooooo close.........but after a few minutes it just wasn't going to cum.
We finished me off quickly. I'll try it again. It wasn't painful at all. It was uncomfortable at times, and I'm sitting here tingling still an hour later, so not sure how long that will last. I enjoyed watching Jackie get off and liked the feeling, just couldn't get that release I needed with it.
Today was day 28 for us. Jackie has to leave at 5:30 in the morning for some training so we started 1/31 instead so we could get our 28 days in. I'll follow up with another post on a wrap up. Additionally we'll be going back and trying the fetishes we had to forgo for one reason or another and we'll post our adventures there. So while Sexuary is officially over with for us (ok, we still have pillow talk tonight but the sex is over unless Jackie is going to be overly generous and surprise me), we'll be updating our blog here and there as we live out Sexuary in our day to day lives. Follow along. Leave us a comment. Tell us if there was something you tried because we brought it up. Tell us you did something this Sexuary that made a difference in your relationship,because bottom line that's what this exercise was all about.
Dane
TENS/Electricity...the thought was scary, yet exciting at the same time. Something you are told not to play with yet really want to...well this is the safest way to play with it without getting totally fried.
We watched a few videos, have looking at 100's of toys. Wondering all the what if questions. I knew I already had a TENS unit a medical grade one, so we didnt want to go and buy one. However when the month started I wasnt sure where it was. We hunted for several days until finding the box that it was still packed in. So we got it out and left it alone. Scared to let the lion out of that cage. Well until today, I had an appointment out of town this morning, so I was on my drive home when I was thinking about it, it got me stirring, did I want to go first? Or should he? I decided to go first in case I needed time to rest and get myself under control. We started with 2 pads, and I had them turned up to 40 and while I could certainly feel it, it wasn't taking me to the place I wanted to go. So we added another 2 pads. Now this took me where I wanted it go. Looking back I probably could have taken it higher however I knew I would be gone until Saturday at a conference in which I could not be uncomfortable in(if ya know what I mean) so after it got intense, I laid back and let it do what it was supposed to do, and it did. While I didn't squirt like I am known to, it did take me into a multi-level orgasim that I could feel from my neck to my toes. It also went into my "we ARE going to do this again" list! I think practice is needed to get the best orgasim, so will try again!
Next was Dane, I helped get his pads on, one set at a time, he leaked a good round or two of pre cum but never really had a mind boggleing shoot cum all over. I think for him we will need to try again too, you have to get the pads in the right place or they do nothing and we were quickly running out of time before the kids got home from school. Even though he didn't finish with the TENS until he did finish, and it was pretty intense.
Did I mention this is going on my "do this again" list...There are several things on there from this month. I can't believe this was the last day, we made it...while we had 2 days that not much if anything happened, I am still calling it 28 days!! WE nailed our list, and nailed each other ;) WE talked and talked and talked...well you get the picture. We discovered new things, old things, things we liked and things we didn't, but we did it.
I am doing a happy dance...happy dance....loud music(even if its just in my head) we did it...(insert Dora"WE did it, WE did it..." song here) lol
Keep following though, we aren't finished. We are going to keep blogging and keep doing....We will go back to our every 3 days calender(which was another Sexuary goal) and I will go into that at another time. We will keep communicating and keep smiling, and I will get a jersey or tshirt with "28"on it and not care whose name it is, but I will know what "28" is about...
Jackie
Showing posts with label fetish. Show all posts
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Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Friday, February 22, 2013
Manicures
Ok, not sure how this will be 'erotic' or leading to sex, so I'm going to take your lead here. I'm ok giving and receiving manicure and pedicures
So a regular treat for Jackie is to go and have her nails done and her feet done. I'm assuming she likes the hands on attention to her hands and feet. I enjoy being able to give her this luxury when ever we can. So like the notes to our stated, I wasn't sure how this would turn sexual at all, but it would make Jackie happy and I'm game.
So we had gotten a pedicure kit and Jackie had some finger nail stuff (I know technical terms from a guy with no clue). So Jackie did my pedicure and then I did hers. Then she wanted some stickers put on her fingernails so I did that to finish up.
Sexual? I'm not sure you could call it sexual, but I could see where it would be a form of foreplay especially in this Sexuary where we're trying different things. It's hands on the other persons body. It's caressing. It's rubbing. So yeah, I could see some of it. Not something that is going to make me hot, heavy and ready to shoot a load, but I like any time I can get my hands on Jackie. So I can see where someone would call it a Fetish and get excited about it.
Dane
Wow what lady doesn't love a mani/pedi day...I was a bit nervous since I do go on a regular mani/pedi at least once a month, sometime 2 times a month if its been a stressful month. It really does relax me, I really love it when they can work on my feet and hand at the same time. So Dane and I went shopping, we went looking for a pedi kit. While I wasn't sure it was a sexual thing, I just knew it was humbling to wash someone feet, to show love by washing, drying and rubbing on them. I started first with his feet, so he would have an idea on what to do. We filled a tub, and added our stuff to it and took turns with each other.
While it wasn't a super horny, wet kind of activity but it did help, we still had a great rest of the evening together. Lots of hands on and lots of touching and who doesn't like that!
This month has been going great!We are having lots of fun!
Jackie
So a regular treat for Jackie is to go and have her nails done and her feet done. I'm assuming she likes the hands on attention to her hands and feet. I enjoy being able to give her this luxury when ever we can. So like the notes to our stated, I wasn't sure how this would turn sexual at all, but it would make Jackie happy and I'm game.
So we had gotten a pedicure kit and Jackie had some finger nail stuff (I know technical terms from a guy with no clue). So Jackie did my pedicure and then I did hers. Then she wanted some stickers put on her fingernails so I did that to finish up.
Sexual? I'm not sure you could call it sexual, but I could see where it would be a form of foreplay especially in this Sexuary where we're trying different things. It's hands on the other persons body. It's caressing. It's rubbing. So yeah, I could see some of it. Not something that is going to make me hot, heavy and ready to shoot a load, but I like any time I can get my hands on Jackie. So I can see where someone would call it a Fetish and get excited about it.
Dane
Wow what lady doesn't love a mani/pedi day...I was a bit nervous since I do go on a regular mani/pedi at least once a month, sometime 2 times a month if its been a stressful month. It really does relax me, I really love it when they can work on my feet and hand at the same time. So Dane and I went shopping, we went looking for a pedi kit. While I wasn't sure it was a sexual thing, I just knew it was humbling to wash someone feet, to show love by washing, drying and rubbing on them. I started first with his feet, so he would have an idea on what to do. We filled a tub, and added our stuff to it and took turns with each other.
While it wasn't a super horny, wet kind of activity but it did help, we still had a great rest of the evening together. Lots of hands on and lots of touching and who doesn't like that!
This month has been going great!We are having lots of fun!
Jackie
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Forced Servitude (Day 2)
Jackie Dom - So this is the day 2 of the servitude. Same 4 hours 7:45 - 11:45 and the opposite person will be Dom. Anything can be asked/demanded, you can't say no without repercussions (spankings, insertations, others???)
So today is the 3/4ths the way there day. Twenty-one of twenty-eight days done after today. That's a lot of days of planning and being intimate with Jackie. The planning has been half the success of this. I wonder how many times we just try to 'let things happen' instead of planning something. When you plan, you make the intimacy a priority. When you're making that a priority, you're telling your partner that they are a priority. This month of Sexuary, Jackie and I have moved each other to the top of the priority list. It's been fun. It's been interesting, but most of all it's brought us closer together.
So on to the day.
It was to be a day of servitude. Jackie really just wanted to play with one of her new toys on me. She wasn't really into the servitude/Mistress stuff, but I was going to do what ever she wanted. It was fun, it was hot and we had a great time.
Afterwards she waxed me and then we went about our daily stuff. But in the mean time we spent a couple of purposeful hours together. Today was planned for the fetish, but what we had was a great time. And what we did would be considered very fetishy for many I'm sure. For us it's enjoying ourselves in the bedroom.
The whole Dom/sub thing just isn't Jackies thing. She likes the tie up and have fun, but that's the extent and that's ok, cause I still get more than most guys could ever hope for. I get understanding that I'm who I am and it's ok. She gets the same from me in return. Have you created that safe space in your bedroom for your partner?
One week left...*sigh*...Will be interesting to see how this winds up. We have some of the most 'out of the box' stuff planned for this coming week after tomorrow. Should be very interesting.
Dane
Well we just hit the 3 week mark, and have one week to go! This month has just flown by, I can tell you that the last 2 sexuaries were like pulling teeth. Which tells me we didn't plan enough...we just tried to do exactly what we normally did, and this time we planned for months...And it worked...this really has been a great month. We have talked more, understood more, relaxed more, and tried new things. That IS what this month is about.
Today was Forced Servitude, something that is a hard limit for me. Both receiving and giving. I don't mind being tied up or being spanked in the heat of the moment. I just don't like the forced thing, "You will do this, and if not there will be punishment" I don't like that. I like having a bit of control like when I tell him "Be ready for me when I get home from work with your ass up in the air" and I will spank him, But that's not the lady in leather snapping the whip. I am just not that type of person, think part of it is it takes me to a dark place. I have been in abusive relationships and that's what it reminds me of.
So we talked about this the night before, here is what I wanted: I wanted to use my new toy, so he will need to get himself ready, that I wanted to to get him from behind with my new strap-on. We tried, the strap-on was not what I had hoped, although we will use it again because you need to keep trying to get it correct. That being said I still got him good, I got to spank him and got to run my nails up and down him to send him over the top.
It was a lot of fun! I had a great day with him. And with his job like it is I enjoyed having a bit of uninterrupted time with him!
Jackie
So today is the 3/4ths the way there day. Twenty-one of twenty-eight days done after today. That's a lot of days of planning and being intimate with Jackie. The planning has been half the success of this. I wonder how many times we just try to 'let things happen' instead of planning something. When you plan, you make the intimacy a priority. When you're making that a priority, you're telling your partner that they are a priority. This month of Sexuary, Jackie and I have moved each other to the top of the priority list. It's been fun. It's been interesting, but most of all it's brought us closer together.
So on to the day.
It was to be a day of servitude. Jackie really just wanted to play with one of her new toys on me. She wasn't really into the servitude/Mistress stuff, but I was going to do what ever she wanted. It was fun, it was hot and we had a great time.
Afterwards she waxed me and then we went about our daily stuff. But in the mean time we spent a couple of purposeful hours together. Today was planned for the fetish, but what we had was a great time. And what we did would be considered very fetishy for many I'm sure. For us it's enjoying ourselves in the bedroom.
The whole Dom/sub thing just isn't Jackies thing. She likes the tie up and have fun, but that's the extent and that's ok, cause I still get more than most guys could ever hope for. I get understanding that I'm who I am and it's ok. She gets the same from me in return. Have you created that safe space in your bedroom for your partner?
One week left...*sigh*...Will be interesting to see how this winds up. We have some of the most 'out of the box' stuff planned for this coming week after tomorrow. Should be very interesting.
Dane
Well we just hit the 3 week mark, and have one week to go! This month has just flown by, I can tell you that the last 2 sexuaries were like pulling teeth. Which tells me we didn't plan enough...we just tried to do exactly what we normally did, and this time we planned for months...And it worked...this really has been a great month. We have talked more, understood more, relaxed more, and tried new things. That IS what this month is about.
Today was Forced Servitude, something that is a hard limit for me. Both receiving and giving. I don't mind being tied up or being spanked in the heat of the moment. I just don't like the forced thing, "You will do this, and if not there will be punishment" I don't like that. I like having a bit of control like when I tell him "Be ready for me when I get home from work with your ass up in the air" and I will spank him, But that's not the lady in leather snapping the whip. I am just not that type of person, think part of it is it takes me to a dark place. I have been in abusive relationships and that's what it reminds me of.
So we talked about this the night before, here is what I wanted: I wanted to use my new toy, so he will need to get himself ready, that I wanted to to get him from behind with my new strap-on. We tried, the strap-on was not what I had hoped, although we will use it again because you need to keep trying to get it correct. That being said I still got him good, I got to spank him and got to run my nails up and down him to send him over the top.
It was a lot of fun! I had a great day with him. And with his job like it is I enjoyed having a bit of uninterrupted time with him!
Jackie
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
Anal, Dildos, Fisting
I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites. You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard. If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie
Japaneese ropes, blind fold, feathers and nipple clamps to start. Of course there will be dildos, fire (wax) or ice, or various other unrelenting actions while you're tied down. (done to Jackie)
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
Saturday, February 2, 2013
Lingerie, Dance, Tease
So day 2 of our Sexuary journey starts. The calendar posted on the back of our bathroom wall reads - Lingerie, Dance, Tease. YEAH!
Look, over the years my wife has had her ups and downs on how she feels about herself. She's a BBW and I'm great with that, but she's not always so great. But there are times she can get into a groove and she's jusr freaking HOT! All day she can have me running around like a little puppy ready to hump her at any given moment. Those are the days she feels sexy and teases me.
It might be a picture sent to my phone of her in her lacy panties and bra (her matching purple ones on day 2 were devine). It might be the text she sends saying, 'remember the time I did .....? well who knows what could happen tonight'. It might be she just comes in and flashes me then sits down like it's nothing. It could be that my zipper gets unzipped and for 60 seconds I'll get a blow job and then with a smile I'll get "more where that cums from later." or just as good coming out of the bath laying on the bed and giving me 60 seconds to get her all wet before she pushes me away and tells me I'll have to wait to finish..that was just the appetizer. Every time she makes physical contact, text me, or walks into the room now becomes a game. She wants to know she still has what it takes to make me hard. She does!
So I put this day on the calendar. First because I LOVE the tease, and second because Jackie looks HOT when she dresses up sexy for me.
She started the morning off as we were getting dressed in her closet. That's not normal for her, so I knew she was up to something. Don't worry, her closet is a small office, so plenty of room. And honestly I was a bit disappointed when she came out all dressed ready to go. Really, where's the dress up? And then she did it, at the door as we're ready to walk out she lifts up her shirt and says, "oh I've got something special on" and flashes me her purple, lacy bra and panties set, and then walks out the door.
Ahhhh...wait a minite..I'm suppose to get to feel those up and ...and ...and ....the tease was on!
I got text through out the day, and a couple of pictures with various poses of her in her bra and panties as she went to take a bath. Another pictures just so I knew she still was wearing her lacy stuff after the bath. DAMN she was HOT. I had a perpetual hard on that was ready to be played with and she made me wait ALL DAY LONG! It wasn't till after 9 she finally sat in my lap and said it was time to go upstairs. Do you know how wet my jeans got throughout the day from all of her teasing?
Picture Jackie sent me from her bath
Ok, I know everyone knows guys are visual oriented. We like to see things. A picture of a leg in the bathtub is good for a few strokes, trust me on this. Ok, I have a slight fetish for the foot too, so I get a double whammy with this picture.
So when the covers get pulled up and I get free reign, I'm thinking about all the teasing that's been going on. Her text and flashing me. I'm thinking about the half a dozen pictures on my phone that only I get to sneak glances at. I'm thinking of her shaveness that I was able to do yesterday and ....whew...where's a cigarette?
I'm betting most women have a set of bra and panties, or a baby doll or something that makes them feel sexy that has been sitting in the bottom of their drawn forever. Hell I don't ever remember seeing this purple set Jackie had on yesterday, and we've been together almost 10 years. And I'm not naive enough to think that she feels sexy all the time, as I stated before I know she doesn't. But I see her as my sexy lady. It doesn't matter what mood she's in, it only takes a wink, a caress, a flash, a whisper in my ear, a provocative text to my phone and she's got me hooked! Guys think their wives are sexy regardless of your mood. Regardless of how much laundry has to be done, and regardless of our finances. Jackie is my one constant that will keep me going when nothing else seems to be going right, and I know it's not always easy for her. It's not natural for her to feel sexy all the time. She doesn't feel 'worthy' of my doting and panting, and being like a teenager ready for sex, but she does it for me. And I think (and I'm sure she'll tell you later) then when she allows it to happen, it makes her feel good too. For at least a moment she does feel sexy, and worthy and all those things I KNOW she is.
So day 2 is crossed off the calendar and we're on to day 3. Oh day 3...that's should be an interesting one.
Dane
Day 2...Lingerie, Dance, Tease, man this really made me super nervous..I am not sure why but it did. I know he loves me just the way I am but I still have my self doubts...I often wonder why in the world he loves my body when there are days I HATE my body! I sucked it up and went into my closet to find something..I have a slew of bras and panties...I have pushem' up bra's..I have lacy bras...stripped bras you name it I have them. I personally like the pushem' up bra because my girls are big and this bra puts them where they should be not where mother nature has them hanging..He hates those bras! Hates them...so for today I went with a lacy purple bra and matching boy shorts(which fit a bit like wide thong on a BBW) and quickly get dressed in a non sexy outerwear...Partly becuase all my lower cut front shirts would show the bra all the time. And while Im ok with it when we go out of town for some reason, I am not ok with it in town where we live...I stepped out into the bedroom where he was dressing and I could see little dissapointment but its my day to tease, I can make this last all day...I decided to lift my shirt and show the bra and just pull on side of pants down to see they matched as I walked out the door.
After lunch, I really wanted another bath...I love love love baths..so I decided to take a few pictures to send to Dane while he was working....WE have a full length mirror in our bedroom so I played around taking pictures....I sent him 3 with texts teasing about what might happened. He tells me I am making him hot and wet...he asks me if he has told me I was hot...I told him "Ummm I well I'm not sure..you can tell me again..in case I missed it" So he did...several times...I would text back things of what I have done before to him...An awesome blow job...a night of great hotel sex even if we were at home. I knew our kids would be leaving for the weekend so we could have some uninterupted time.
I get into my bath, and see all those bubbles, I decided to take a picture of my view and send to him. There is something sensual and sexy when it comes to bubbles...I love a good bubble bath..its usually where I shave my pussy for Dane, its our "Pavlov Dog theory" (I take a nice hot bath, shave my pussy and he gets a great night of sex) I think we have only have had a few times where we haven't. The picture above is the one I sent him.
I continued to text him little teases through out the rest of afternoon and evening...It was almost 9 when I decided to "get things rollin' " I went to the bathroom and came out with no clothes on. I did a twirl for him...then went and just sat on his lap...its still hard to "be sexy" it really goes moment by moment for me. We kissed and decided to move up to our room. Once there I played with him hairless chest, and worked my way down to give him a blow job. I moved around after a bit and he asked if I wanted him to eat me or what...I told him he needed to check out his shaving...if he did a good job...he went down and ate me out, while I did a hand job on him. I know this was just a "normal" night of sex but I did enjoy the teasing of him. Its a nice to know that after the many years we have been together I can still turn him on with a text, a kiss, or a wink.
What have you done for your partner? Have you reminded them that you find them sexy? Have you done something to let them know you feel sexy for them? Its amazing how a sexy bra and matching panties can make you feel even when your in your mom jeans or sweat pants...try it you might like it...
Jackie
Look, over the years my wife has had her ups and downs on how she feels about herself. She's a BBW and I'm great with that, but she's not always so great. But there are times she can get into a groove and she's jusr freaking HOT! All day she can have me running around like a little puppy ready to hump her at any given moment. Those are the days she feels sexy and teases me.
It might be a picture sent to my phone of her in her lacy panties and bra (her matching purple ones on day 2 were devine). It might be the text she sends saying, 'remember the time I did .....? well who knows what could happen tonight'. It might be she just comes in and flashes me then sits down like it's nothing. It could be that my zipper gets unzipped and for 60 seconds I'll get a blow job and then with a smile I'll get "more where that cums from later." or just as good coming out of the bath laying on the bed and giving me 60 seconds to get her all wet before she pushes me away and tells me I'll have to wait to finish..that was just the appetizer. Every time she makes physical contact, text me, or walks into the room now becomes a game. She wants to know she still has what it takes to make me hard. She does!
So I put this day on the calendar. First because I LOVE the tease, and second because Jackie looks HOT when she dresses up sexy for me.
She started the morning off as we were getting dressed in her closet. That's not normal for her, so I knew she was up to something. Don't worry, her closet is a small office, so plenty of room. And honestly I was a bit disappointed when she came out all dressed ready to go. Really, where's the dress up? And then she did it, at the door as we're ready to walk out she lifts up her shirt and says, "oh I've got something special on" and flashes me her purple, lacy bra and panties set, and then walks out the door.
Ahhhh...wait a minite..I'm suppose to get to feel those up and ...and ...and ....the tease was on!
I got text through out the day, and a couple of pictures with various poses of her in her bra and panties as she went to take a bath. Another pictures just so I knew she still was wearing her lacy stuff after the bath. DAMN she was HOT. I had a perpetual hard on that was ready to be played with and she made me wait ALL DAY LONG! It wasn't till after 9 she finally sat in my lap and said it was time to go upstairs. Do you know how wet my jeans got throughout the day from all of her teasing?
Picture Jackie sent me from her bath
Ok, I know everyone knows guys are visual oriented. We like to see things. A picture of a leg in the bathtub is good for a few strokes, trust me on this. Ok, I have a slight fetish for the foot too, so I get a double whammy with this picture.
So when the covers get pulled up and I get free reign, I'm thinking about all the teasing that's been going on. Her text and flashing me. I'm thinking about the half a dozen pictures on my phone that only I get to sneak glances at. I'm thinking of her shaveness that I was able to do yesterday and ....whew...where's a cigarette?
I'm betting most women have a set of bra and panties, or a baby doll or something that makes them feel sexy that has been sitting in the bottom of their drawn forever. Hell I don't ever remember seeing this purple set Jackie had on yesterday, and we've been together almost 10 years. And I'm not naive enough to think that she feels sexy all the time, as I stated before I know she doesn't. But I see her as my sexy lady. It doesn't matter what mood she's in, it only takes a wink, a caress, a flash, a whisper in my ear, a provocative text to my phone and she's got me hooked! Guys think their wives are sexy regardless of your mood. Regardless of how much laundry has to be done, and regardless of our finances. Jackie is my one constant that will keep me going when nothing else seems to be going right, and I know it's not always easy for her. It's not natural for her to feel sexy all the time. She doesn't feel 'worthy' of my doting and panting, and being like a teenager ready for sex, but she does it for me. And I think (and I'm sure she'll tell you later) then when she allows it to happen, it makes her feel good too. For at least a moment she does feel sexy, and worthy and all those things I KNOW she is.
So day 2 is crossed off the calendar and we're on to day 3. Oh day 3...that's should be an interesting one.
Dane
Day 2...Lingerie, Dance, Tease, man this really made me super nervous..I am not sure why but it did. I know he loves me just the way I am but I still have my self doubts...I often wonder why in the world he loves my body when there are days I HATE my body! I sucked it up and went into my closet to find something..I have a slew of bras and panties...I have pushem' up bra's..I have lacy bras...stripped bras you name it I have them. I personally like the pushem' up bra because my girls are big and this bra puts them where they should be not where mother nature has them hanging..He hates those bras! Hates them...so for today I went with a lacy purple bra and matching boy shorts(which fit a bit like wide thong on a BBW) and quickly get dressed in a non sexy outerwear...Partly becuase all my lower cut front shirts would show the bra all the time. And while Im ok with it when we go out of town for some reason, I am not ok with it in town where we live...I stepped out into the bedroom where he was dressing and I could see little dissapointment but its my day to tease, I can make this last all day...I decided to lift my shirt and show the bra and just pull on side of pants down to see they matched as I walked out the door.
After lunch, I really wanted another bath...I love love love baths..so I decided to take a few pictures to send to Dane while he was working....WE have a full length mirror in our bedroom so I played around taking pictures....I sent him 3 with texts teasing about what might happened. He tells me I am making him hot and wet...he asks me if he has told me I was hot...I told him "Ummm I well I'm not sure..you can tell me again..in case I missed it" So he did...several times...I would text back things of what I have done before to him...An awesome blow job...a night of great hotel sex even if we were at home. I knew our kids would be leaving for the weekend so we could have some uninterupted time.
I get into my bath, and see all those bubbles, I decided to take a picture of my view and send to him. There is something sensual and sexy when it comes to bubbles...I love a good bubble bath..its usually where I shave my pussy for Dane, its our "Pavlov Dog theory" (I take a nice hot bath, shave my pussy and he gets a great night of sex) I think we have only have had a few times where we haven't. The picture above is the one I sent him.
I continued to text him little teases through out the rest of afternoon and evening...It was almost 9 when I decided to "get things rollin' " I went to the bathroom and came out with no clothes on. I did a twirl for him...then went and just sat on his lap...its still hard to "be sexy" it really goes moment by moment for me. We kissed and decided to move up to our room. Once there I played with him hairless chest, and worked my way down to give him a blow job. I moved around after a bit and he asked if I wanted him to eat me or what...I told him he needed to check out his shaving...if he did a good job...he went down and ate me out, while I did a hand job on him. I know this was just a "normal" night of sex but I did enjoy the teasing of him. Its a nice to know that after the many years we have been together I can still turn him on with a text, a kiss, or a wink.
What have you done for your partner? Have you reminded them that you find them sexy? Have you done something to let them know you feel sexy for them? Its amazing how a sexy bra and matching panties can make you feel even when your in your mom jeans or sweat pants...try it you might like it...
Jackie
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