Sexuary 2022 - Backyard BBQ - Anal Play - Day 19 Continued

Take it easy to start.  I generally start with a finger, then two, then when I can stretch the 2 fingers some I'll start with my cock.  Even then it's not a slam bam thing, Take it easy getting inside.  Loosen that muscle up slowly and your time in there will be much more enjoyable for everyone. Once it's loosened up, if your partner is ok with it you can pick it up.  This time Jackie wanted me to pound her harder after we got going, "yes ma'am" as I gave it to her like she wanted. 

 So while you always read about me and getting my ass played with you don't often read about us playing Backyard-BBQ with Jackie.  It's not that she doesn't enjoy it, she'll cum all over the place as we play, in her case it's the repercussions the next day.

Let's face it, when you're playing with someones ass there are several things that can happen -  

    1) You can aggravate an existing hemorrhiod, or for that matter create one if you're not gentle enough starting out. No one needs anything to do with that. Bleeding, pain, etc are not what anal play is about.   

    2) There's the STD issues that seem to be worst in anal play.  The ass is definitely more sensitive to rip/tear and exposed to the STDs.  

    3) If you're prone to stomach issues, like Jackie, you would have repercussions in the bathroom later. In Jackies case she winds up getting backed up and it takes her a painful day or two to get relief.  For others it might cause just the opposite issue.  

How to prevent most of that? First us lube and lots of it.  If you think you've got enough lube then add more and you might almost have enough.  There is just no such thing as to much lube when playing with an ass. 

If you're not monogamous and know it's 100% safe, put a fucking condom on!!! There is no reason to pass anything to or get anything from your partner over pride, or some lame ass excuse.  Use a condom and stay safe. 

Now there is a lot of reasons for anal play in my books.  One the rectal muscle is just super freaking tight.  Ok, Jackie is so tight that she'll push me out of her vagina, but the anal is a different tight of tightness that I love.

Their is a 'I'm giving you everything' when someone allows you to put on a backyard bbq in their ass.  They are allowing you in the one place most are against.  I know, I'm the exception to the rule as I actually LOVE my ass played with. But I truly appreciate that Jackie is literally giving me her ass when we have anal play.  

After taking pictures all day I asked Jackie if she might be up to it, and oh yeah!! I got the green light.  

Lots of lube, take it easy to get started, then it was Katy bar the door as we went after it.  I know Jackie would do it more if she could, her orgasms were amazing and she was floating when we were done, but repercussions just prevent it from happening all the time.

Hope you get to enjoy a backyard bbq on occasion, and take all the necessary precautions to make your partner enjoy it as much as you do.  

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Jackie tops - Day 2

 Sexuary 2022 day 2 started off with an email from me - 

I love that even in your submissiveness, you will be a servant sub on days like today.  I LOVE days like today, and my ass can’t wait to be yours tonight. - 143

During the day Jackie sent me a couple of pictures, and while one didn't turn out like she wanted, it was still great to get a couple of pictures from her.  Something for me to drool over as the day went by. 

A couple of text through out the day about the excitement of what was to come without revealing anything, but encouraging the excitement and fun throughout the day.  

When work was done, she sent me to clean out my ass and get ready.  I did as I was told and thoroughly cleaned my ass out.  I then climbed into the bed and let her know my ass was ready. 

She ran her nails up and down my back, dragging them down and leaving good red streaks down my back.  They hurt soooo good!

She then came and took my ass with her fist.  Pushing as much as she could deep in my ass and feeling  my ass stretch nice and wide.  Again the pain was exciting and to say my cock got hard would be an understatement.  I kept stroking it hard while she worked my ass over and over.  

When she was done, she put a favorite vibrator in my ass and blew it up and turned the vibrator on high while she kept leaning into me, pushing it deeper and deeper.  

When I finally blew inside her, she set a new rule for the month, "that's the last time on your days (Wednesdays) that you can blow in my pussy.  You have to find some place else every other week."  She had offered to let me cum anywhere I wanted, but at the time I was ready to blow in her pussy and didn't want to open her ass for that short of a period...I'm ready to bury deep in her ass, and don't want hurt her for some 2 second job.  That day will come though! 

So I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when Jackie is in charge again, and what she has in store!

Ok so as a reminder Sexuary is been our annual exploration of sex between the 2 of us.  The original challenge was to do SOMETHING, ANYTHING different in the month of Sexuary that you normally wouldn't do.  For some that's have sex this month...or hold your partner even.  Some that try something different, sex in the kitchen, 2x in a day, we did 28 days straight, but do SOMETHING that you don't normally do.  It's your chance to break the endless cycle of sameness a relationship can easily slip into.  If you want to ask us about things, ask us here, or jackieanddane@gmail.com or DaneandJackie on Fetlife. We respond to eveyone, though it might take us a few to get back to you. 

Happy Sexuary 2022
Dane

 

Sexuary - Dungeon Party

So to end Sexuary we had a birthday party for me at the Austin Dungeon. It's the beauty of having a birthday at the end of Sexuary. So in November Jackie and I decided that this years birthday party would be at the Dungeon.  You can't imagine how excited I was when the decision was made and the deposit was made for the day.

Then comes the next fun decision....who the hell can you invite?  It's not like you can just put out on Facebook that there is a birthday party where we are going to get wild and kinky.  But we have met friends that we knew were in the lifestyle and might just not consider us totally freaky and block us forever.  So the list of 13 people were invited.  Some were unable to come right from the beginning and some backed out for 1 reason or another up until the day of party.  We still wound up with 6 of us there.

I of course was naked as people arrived...cause that's just me.  We had found a Dominatrix outfit for Jackie to start out in. Of course she had to have something to show up in, then she changed, leaving her high heels on and her new cock we got that morning for fucking me with.To say she was fucking hot would be an understatement.

We got to the Dungeon a bit early to set up and get ready.  We didn't have a whole lot of set up, bringing in towels and a bit of food.  More would show up but we just wanted to get started, and let's face it this was a party I didn't want to be late to this party!

The rest of the couples showed up and since not everyone knew everyone we went over a couple of rules. One of the things we've really adapted is the consent rules of if someone says "No" 1x that's the last time you can ask for the day.  A "Maybe" means you can ask 1 more time, but 2 "Maybes" means a no for the day...see rule 1.  After that the fun started.

Now we'd never played with Gomez and Morticia, but we had some 'moments' with them and spent some time with them.  Jackies first french kiss with a woman was with Morticia around a campfire.  So we were hopeful things would work out. Gomez was a bit shy at first, but after a little liquid encouragement even he jumped right in.

We started with me on the spanking bench, bent over while Jackie used the new vibrating cock in my ass.  Others came around and my hands found pussy's and cocks to play with while my ass got pounded.  Thomas and Kitty worked their magic with my ass and mouth and eventually after a while and plenty of satisfaction we took a break. 

After a short break I put Jackie up on the cross where we flogged her.  Several of us took turns and I got to show Morticia just how hot Jackie gets while being flogged.  We drenched the floor with her cum.  I'm not sure why no one believes us, but Jackie seriously squirts when she's orgasmic.  After that we started with other groups forming and group hugs, feeling each other up, licking, sucking, and fucking for the next several hours.   We had the Dungeon for 4 hours and we used every minute of it.  When we left I don't think there was 1 genital that wasn't satisfied. A couple of them were a little raw, and the next day there were some abs that were sore from all the fucking and orgasms.

I think my tongue was the happiest it's ever been.  That night there were several first for different people.  It was a total no judgement zone where everyone was there to have a good time and celebrate my birthday.  I can't imagine a better birthday party every.   Great friends, great sex, and just a totally wonderful day.

I know there are Dungeons for rent in many large cities. Go for it! Figure out that handful of friends you can invite and rent a Dungeon for your next birthday party! Honestly I'm thinking of doing it 2 - 4 times a year I had so much fun!

Dane

Sexuary 2019 - Anal Fisting

Ever since our first Sexuary that we went out on a limb and started trying 'kinky' stuff, anal fisting on me has been 1 of my absolute favorites.  Honestly Jane has confided that there is something about having her hand and wrist deep in my ass that's pretty hot for her too. It's one of those that not only gets me off, but has a long lasting calming for me.  It will embrace my entire body and release all the tension from the top of my head to my toes. 

This year, once again, life tried to get in my way of this favorite of favorite nights.  It's hard make sure your sex life is a number 1 priority, and that's part of what Sexuary is about, putting it back as a priority in our relationship.  But instead of saying 'fuck it' because it got late and because Jackies day had started with her throwing up from migraines, we made it happen. I did NOT regret it. 

We tried some new lube we'd been recommended for fisting, J-Lube.  Gotta tell you, if you want to deal with cold stringy cheese that will create a spiders web of lube then this stuff will work.  One container will make a ton of lube, but so far we're not impressed.  So Jackie quickly switched back to our favoirte for this Elbow Grease.  In fairness to J-Lube I did read where you can microwave it ahead of time and it will change that 'snottiness'.  We'll try that another time when I can premix it earlier in the day. 

But Jackie caressed my asshole into opening up after a little work and sure enough she reached in and hit that spot.  There is NOTHING like when someone hits that spot deep inside of me.

So a few "FAQs" that we always get:

1) Yes, I always take about an hour ahead of time and 'clean out'.  Multiple flushes of enemas until I'm getting clear fluid.  Sometimes that's 45 minutes, sometimes that 90 minutes, but it's well worth the time for me.  And while I actually get off a little on enemas, I'll admit the 90 minute times are a lot.  

2) Yes, we use TONS of lube.  If you think you've used enough you're probably only 1/2 way there.  This is an ass, and it's not self lubricating and normally you're not putting large objects in it, so LOTs of lube is probably an understatement. 

3) Yes, sometimes it will still make a bit of a mess.  But I keep a towel under me, a towel on the side for all the toys to sit on, and a towel for Jackie to use to wipe anything she needs.  Even if it's just the mess of the lube it requires a bit of preplanning to prevent a mess. 

4) Does it hurt?  I'll admit there is 1 point right before her hand slides completely in that stretches me to my limit.  It's a bit uncomfortable and a twinge of pain...but my mind knows that little bit of pain is about to bring a lot of joy.  And honestly it's only the first time her fist goes in.  After that she can go in and out without any problem.  Once her hand has been in there my muscles relax and you could drive a Mac truck in there I think.  

5) After effects? This is the odd one to me, honestly, except for the entire body euphoria, within 5 minutes of us finishing up, my ass feels nothing out of the ordinary.  NOTHING! It doesn't hurt, it doesn't tingle, it's like it never happened.  Now we only do this every 6 - 12 weeks, so there's been no other side effects either.  Ok, honestly I'd do it more often, but it is a lot of work.  

This time Jackie surprised me by taking a couple of pictures with her hand deep in my ass.  She knows how much I love pictures, and I didn't ask, she just did it. Gotta love a partner who surprises you like that! 

You know when we started, I already loved anal play, but let's face it fisting brings it to a whole other dimension.  It was out of the box and definitely a 'kink' play for us.  AND if you read through the 2013 blog, it didn't 'just happen'.  It took us several times before my ass accepted it and her knowledge of what's back there allowed it to happen.  But we went there and tried it and today it's definitely top of my list. 

So get out there, try SOMETHING different.  You don't have to stick a hand up someones ass, though if you do bravo to you.  Maybe some finger play in an ass is a new and fantastic sensation.  Maybe just touching all over your partners body is different.  But go there and try it! Do something different and get out of that rut. 

Dane

Using Imagination

So there are something that I like the idea of but know will never happen.  I love the idea of tattoos, but don't see it happening on me.  Now Jackie has several, so it's not an anti-tattoo thing, it's a personal thing.  I would love to see some intimate piercings for Jackie, but don't really see that happening (though it could).  The idea of a dog involved in our sexcapeds intrigues both Jackie and I.  But I never see us getting to that point.  Those are just a few examples of things we've pillow talked about but haven't and probably won't act upon them.  But that doesn't mean we ignore them. 

One of the things we've learned is that our imagination is the best aphrodisiac there is.  We can pretend to do things and sometime improvise so that we have the sensations of without actually 'going there' and yet our minds will let us pretend it's so.

For example, there are dildos that will 'blow up' inside of you that will act like a dogs knot.  Non piercing nipple rings allow Jackie to go out on the town with dangling jewelry on her nipples.    Fake tattoos allow me to be a 'bad boy' for the evening.  Most of these things take planning on your part to make them happen.  But when you've not done your homework there is still the power of suggestion. 

With eyes closed and your partner 'walking your through' something you can feel those sensations just as if they were happening.  Allow your imagination run wild and you get the sexual satisfaction from the talking your partner is doing. 

And if you're alone, then you can be with anyone or anything if you'll allow your mind to open up and accept it.  Maybe you're tapping your ass with a finger as you feel someone take you there.  Maybe your wet hands are that blow job from the girl next door....just let your imagination run wild. 

Dane

Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3)

OMG OMG OMG OMG, on day 3 of our Sexuary attempt to fist me we succeeded!!!  How incredible that felt going in, being in, and even coming out.  Because of the patience and process we went through I"m not sore one bit right now.  It was everything I had hoped it would be and more.  Just freaking incredible. 

I did want to go over a couple of things here though.

First of all it's taken us several days to achieve this goal.  It was NOT a wham bam slam it in thing.  I'm saying three days, but even before that I had been working with the large butt plug to make it happen several days.  It doesn't matter which hole you're trying to fist, you have to take your time so you don't tear anything. That's just to get comfortable enough that you could accept such a large object.

Then the day of you again have to take it slowly.  I went through 4 dildos before finally getting there.  Working my way up slowly.  It doesn't matter if you're fisting an ass or a vagina it's a slow process, and you work back and forth until all of a sudden you're there. 

Second, we used tons of lube.  As a matter of fact just before it slid in I had Jackie put more lube on and then plop there it went.  Lube, lube and more lube.  Again, it doesn't matter which hole you're fisting, lube is a major key to pleasurable success.  For the anal fisting we actually got some cream lube.  We ordered "Elbow Grease" and it made a difference.  It stayed longer doesn't dry out like KY, Wet or Astoglide type lubes we've tried in the past.  Now from personal experience I can tell you the liquid lubes were fine for vaginal fisting, but you have to use plenty of it and relube as needed.  The only caution is that Elbow Grease and those like it are oil based and will not work with most condoms.

Last, for us it was best when I was in control.  Jackie would hold herself tightly against me and wait for me to push back to her.  She would apply some pressure, but I was in control.  I was the one pushing back when it was time to go further.  I was also rocking some to help loosen me up.  But I was in control.

We had safe words and the first day I hit my limit and had to stop. You have to totally trust your partner, and I totally trusted Jackie and in doing so I succeeded in having one of my fantasies come true.

For the record she told me she creamed as it went that last little bit in.  It was totally exciting for both of us, and definitely a highlight for the day.  It also means we'll be changing plans for Wednesday and Thursday since we've succeeded.  I can't wait to see what we wind up putting in those 2 slots.

Dane

Houston we have lift off....is what went through my mind the minute it slid in.  We have been working on this day for 3 days! I just kept trying to be patient. You have to be, like Dane said this is not something you can rush.  You must take your time, and work inch by inch until bam your in. Its pretty incredible.  I am not sure what he really felt but it was really exciting to see it go in.   I am was not joking when I told Dane that I creamed myself as it went into him. I swear I heard the Rocky theme going off in my head! woohooo we did it! Geez now what are we going to do on our calendar for those days we were still supposed to play....

Its all about communication and flexibility.  I am sure we will figure out something to do! We have made it 11 days now! Almost half way through it all...The halfway mark is around the corner.....Keep reading...its going to a great 17 days....

Jackie