Sexuary 2024 - DOM/sub Part 2

 

Please read Long Term DOM/sub Play - Prep and Day 1 first

Monday morning Jackie came out and started the day with my 5 minutes, kneeling in front of me. I have to admit, I could live my life starting every day with a 5 minute blowjob.  

Of course work got into the way, but during the day I would go into her office and rub her ass.  Now I have to say, Jackie doesn't wear hose very often, and I don't really ever suggest anything for her to wear, other then when I purchase stuff for her.  And over the years, I've purchased dozens of pairs of fishnet stockings and other hose, that for the most part sit in her dresser.  But her ass looks fantastic in those hose and stockings!!! And I truly enjoyed just rubbing her ass in them. 

After work, and her free time, I blindfolded Jackie and put her up on the St Andrew's Cross, with her back to the cross.  I ran the wartenberg wheel, over her chest, and then I went and started with the UV Candles from PanHaven.  I started dropping the hot wax over her chest, belly and legs.

Normally I use wax on Jackie on the bed, and wasn't thinking about it actually being different this way.  The wax will drip more, it's definitely less predictable as to where it's going, but she actually enjoyed it more. 

After the pain, I bent her over the bed and once we were finished, we jumped into the shower together. 

We ended the night up in the hot tub. 

Now one of the things we've done this week, is we've showered together every night.  Between the playing together, lubricants, and just over all hygiene, and while hygiene is always utmost important, if you ever do something like this, I recommend you add this to your routine.  One showers can be fun together, two, they keep you fresh.  We've taken up to 3 showers together in a day this week. 

Day 3 started out with Jackie sneaking out of bed before me, and waking me up with my cock in her mouth.  What a way to start the day!!! 

I have to admit, the outfit I picked for Jackie wasn't my favorite for the week.  It was to large, and while I liked the patterns on her skin, it wasn't at all form fitting, and just not as flattering on her as the others I'd picked. She still looked hot, don't get me wrong, but I wouldn't pick that outfit again. 

Again, throughout the day either I would go into her office and rub on her ass, or if she came out of the office I would take advantage and rub on her. I had her come in after lunch and put in a set of Ben Wa balls into her.  I'd see these that were on a TV show that were rubber and chained together, and easier to get out than our normal Ben Wa balls. I got them from Wish (Kegal Ball Kit from Wish)

I again put Jackie on the cross and flogged her severely.  One of the things I liked was the blue light in the room, showed where the flogger would strike on her skin. After 20 or so minutes I bent her over the bed and put a small butt plug into her ass and then fucked her with the Ben Wa balls still in her.  I eventually pulled them out and finished after several "Thank you, Sir" came from her mouth and she was well satisfied.  I rolled her onto the bed and finished up, both of us very satisfied.

Since I mentioned it, I had added the "Thank you sir" into the rules for the week.  OK, Jackie's vagina is very active.  It will squeeze you out, it will squirt all over you, and you can tell how Jackie is doing during sex by her reactions.  With all that said, I wanted to hear the words, "Thank you, Sir" after every orgasm this week.  Now Jackie at times, has dripped those words, making it sexy as hell, but just overall, I have appreciated hearing these words.  I've always been conscious about making sure Jackie always has hers first and more often than me, hearing those words have been very endearing to me. 

Afterwards, we laid in bed for a bit, then I had Jackie go start the shower for us. 

The next day was Valentine's Day. I had picked out a set of red lingerie.  When I originally set it out, I had put another set of cloths by accident with it (honestly I didn't realize I had done it,) and the night before when Jackie was looking at them I told her to wear the lingerie, and not the other set, and she did put it on at first, but later she came out in the other set.  She really liked it, and I didn't say anything at the time, but that was definitely grounds for a punishment later. 

On her desk was a dozen chocolate dipped strawberries, and on Monday I had picked up 2 dozen roses for her, that were in a vase behind her desk. I had run out for work, and wasn't around for my morning blowjob. Jackie rectified that after I got home and she got a break. 

At lunchtime I took Jackie out for a steak lunch.  There was no underwear on, and her dress was semi revealing without being over revealing.  

Right after Jackie's free time I pulled her into the bedroom and got her all excited.  I then went for her ass.  This is something that Jackie has gotten more and more accepting on, and since some of her medical issues have been taken care of, she doesn't have as much after issues with.  I love it, and don't push for it very often, but tonight I asserted my dominance with sliding into her ass.  Jackie went crazy (in a good way) and I got to hear, "Thank you sir," over and over again as she reached orgasm after orgasm. What a great Valentine's gift, blowjob, pussy, and ass all in the same day.

We rested a bit, and I sent Jackie to start the shower.  

Afterwards, I had her put her dress back on, and off we went to Hump Day Comedy at Rozco's Comedy Club.  They took stories from the audience and read them about bad dates.  Jackie put in a card saying, "When you've been married as long as we have, you have to do things to keep your relationship fresh, so we blog about our sex life on oursexuary.com (and yes, it's a real website).  They read out card, and asked who the card belonged to, from the front row we raised our hand.  The comic was blown away it was us.  "How old are you?" he asked, and when we told them our ages (almost 60 and 50), "You robbed the craddle I see," we all laughed as I nodded yes.  "So do you have a sex swing?" Of course we do.  He asked about a couple of other things and then I really shocked him when I mentioned I was co-owner of Texas Kink Fest.  Later, another comedian looked over after us after making the comment, "She was in handcuffs, Dane, you know about those don't you?" 

At the end of the show, the first comedian came back out and asked if we also were swingers, when we said yes, he asked if we'd ever had a bad experience.  We let him know we definitely had, and explained to him why (See Swingers Club / Couple Swap).

We got home late and went straight to bed. 

So a couple of takes, first I really love Jackie when she takes the time to get sexy for me. Second, I love hearing "Thank you, Sir" after orgasms.  Even with dominance, humor is important. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Spanking, Flogging, Caning, etc

 Today I spoke with Jackie before we started. "I'm going to push your limits tonight.  You can use your safe words, and nothing is new, but I'm going to push how far we go with those things."  She still didn't know what I had plan, but I did.  

I laid out all the tools I wanted to use tonight.  Again, everyone of the tools on the bed have been used time and time again, but today I was going to use them to an extreme. 

Before we got started, I went over again with Jackie her colors, green, yellow, and red.  I would ask her many times throughout the night where she was at, and how she was doing. 

So we got started, I blindfolded her, and then led her to the spanking bench.  I had put extra padding on the bench on her recommendation from the last time we used it.  I put a cover over the pillows to make it more comfortable. 

I started with Thor's hammer, that's the purple yoga block with a 1" dowel stuck into it.  Thor is a good start and a good thudder.  I warmed Jackie up with Thor and my fingers running up and down her back and ass cheeks.  There were lines from my nails and Jackie was moaning as I was thudding away and getting Jackie ready for the real stuff. 

I took a little detour at this point.  We don't do a lot of ass play with Jackie, but tonight I wanted to push her.  I lubed her up and put a small butt plug into her.  A pretty little thing with a pink gem shining out of her ass. It was beautiful and she took it like a champ. 

I then broke out the new heavy duty flogger and started flogging on Jackie.  Normally I'm pretty gentle, flogging for therapy, not for pain.  Tonight, I was swinging for somewhere in between.  I wasn't swinging to welp Jackie, but was wanting her to feel the stings of the flogging. Her back was very red and her ass was starting to glow a bit. 

From there I went to the riding crop.  I started at her feet and worked my way to her ass cheeks. 

I broke the bamboo cane out.  Here is where I laid 10 good hard swats, 5 from each side of the spanking bench.  Nice pretty red whelps started to form where the 10 swings hit. 

Now several times through out I would check on color.  Even a couple of times with each instrument I used just to make sure Jackie was good.  She had remained 'green' throughout the whole ordeal.  I also would reach back and finger her to an orgasm a couple of times, and would even bend down and fuck her till she'd have another orgasm and start again.  

So I bent over and I did something I had planned from the beginning but normally would not do.  Anyone who's read our blog knows that Jackie has been triggered by her mom's teacher paddle.  This paddle is one of my prized BDSM possessions, but it's really been a 'off-limits' item for Jackie.  I bent over though and whispered, "I normally wouldn't renegotiate in the middle, but I want you to let me spank you with your mom's paddle 3 times.  You absolutely may say no!" It didn't take her long and she had agree.  I asked her again if she was sure and she reassured me she was. 

I wend and grabbed it off the wall and took aim.  Paddle swat one lifted her ass and I knew it took it's toll on the already very red ass.  The second swat came and I stopped.  "Color?"  ...."Yellow"..."is it ok for the third swat still?" ...it seemed like forever, and I was just about to put the paddle down when she told me yes, she was ready.  I gave her the 3rd and final swat and then moved her to the bed.

What was the first thing she surprised me with? "Do we have a larger butt plug?" Now I know she means just a bit larger, the next size up.  I run to the 'never use toy drawer' (after all it's way to small for me) and pull out a new plug and replace it with the pretty pink gemstone that was there.  

We finished up the night with the vibrator on her butt plug and both of us in a very good place. 

Afterwards we spoke, and Jackie liked the fact I'd given her the number 3 to know the limits of the paddle.  That almost immediately after I was done with the paddle she went back down to green.  

I had to stop Jackie from putting more and more into her ass.  It's not a regular play for us and I didn't want her to regret going to far to fast.  I would really like to add this to our play more regularly, and didn't want to push to far in one night.  I want to build her up to more and more. 

Over all Jackie was in a fantastic place when we were done.  Her only complaint? She would of liked more canning.  The 10 swats were not enough for her.  Noted! But she purred the rest of the night.  I swear she wanted me to fuck her some more as we were trying to go to sleep.  I had her in a very good place, and that is always a win for me. 

Dane

PS - The next day Jackie didn't have any issues what so ever.  Her red ass is all gone and the night before is all gone except for a desire to do more ass play, and another session with the play toys.

Sexuary 2019 - Sensation

So Sexuary 2019 started off with the worst day I've had in a long time.  From 6 am in the morning till 8 pm when we shut the bedroom door it seemed like the world was against me. And yet, the 1 thing that kept me from curling into a ball and just crying was the fact that today was the start of Sexuary and no matter what things would happen.  Sanity was maintained this way.

So on our calendar was Sensations for Jackie.  This is an oldie but goodie that we don't bring out very often, yet Jackie really does like it. It takes some patience, and a little bit of planning, but the rewards can be outstanding. 

So I prepared by getting different sensations together. We have a soft blanket we bought for this years ago, a rabbit fur we got from Tandy Leather for a few bucks, a bottle of oils, corn starch, some nipple claps, a paddle we have that has a smooth and rough side, a bucket of ice, a blindfold, and some Japanese rope secured to the headboard and some candles. I searched "romantic" on Pandora and hit play. 

With the blindfold on I caressed Jackie with each of these items.  With the nipple clamps on I used both ice and wax on her. I caressed every inch of her body with the rabbits pelt.  The blanket was run over her several times, and when I was working up top, it was used to keep her warm below. The oils smell good and the corn starch makes your fingers feel soft as you run them over your partners body. 

By the time we got to the sex, Jackie was very ready.  Thinking about it I should of had something for her to eat too.  I think I have in the past, but then I would of had all the senses (touch sight smell taste and sound).  I've never played music while doing this before and it had some unexpected side effects.  When you engage all the senses like that it can be a lot and hopefully can make your experience that much better.

All in all it was a great start to Sexuary....how about you? Anything? Any plans? Anything to make this month better with your partner than what's been happening? I just gave you a list of ideas that are easy to put together in any household.  Improvise with your surroundings, but there is plenty around you that could be used to turn an ordinary night into an extraordinary night.

Dane

Sexuary 2018 - Being Tied Up

So life kind of got in the way of Sexuay 2018.  We'd gone through 4 months of family issues and weren't able to celebrate like we normally do.  But that doesn't mean we won't try to do something later this year for a couple of weeks or a month.  It also doesn't mean that we haven't had some fun in the mean time pushing limits again.

In the past I've done some light tying up and BDsm.  We've played with cuffs that Velcro to sheets, and Japanese ropes to tie her hands, but to give full trust like this is something new for Jackie.  This weekend Jackie gave me permission to go all out and no limits with the rope, something that has literally been 2 decades since I've had that opportunity and I wasted no time getting excited and start planning.  New rope was purchased and the blood was flowing. Jackie was very apprehensive.

When we started it was almost a bit comical.  My rope skills have definitely slacked over the years.  I couldn't get anything to stay tight.  After a couple of attempts though things started to tighten up and stay in place.  Her breast were tied tight with nipple clamps placed on her nipples. Then her arms were tied behind her back, all while on her knees and blind folded.  She was a beautiful site.  A trusting wife who went well beyond her boundaries and learned she had a new limit.
 

Ok, so my rope work still has lots to be desired, but you have to admit she is beautiful all tied up like this.  When we were finished we took a break, I rubbed her shoulder and we just relaxed.  I'll fill you in on more of our weekend adventure soon.  But what did it take?  I purchased some 3/16" rope that was nice and soft (100 ft) and a willing partner.  That's it. 

So I've heard it time and again about BDsm and its' many subcategories that's it's just about abuse.  While it could be without 2 loving, trusting people, it's far from it when done the right way. BDsm is about bringing 2 people closer.  The trust between 2 people to perform this type of act is incredible. The literally "giving of oneself" is giving everything can only brings you closer when done right.  The accepting that gift and taking on that responsibility opens up parts that just doesn't happen in ordinary sexual relationships.  It took a lot for Jackie to open up and allow me to tie her up like that.  But she's come a long way over the years where just tying up her her hands was a push for her.  Me? I'll have to make sure I didn't break that trust in any way. You have to know your partner and their deepest fears and joys.  In my case, I made sure her hands were the last to be tied making it easier on her.

From here? I've already remembered some of the things I didn't do right that would of made the ties better.  I will probably do a bit of research making sure that next time the comical side of our encounter doesn't happen again.  Also we talked about a couple of things that would make it more enjoyable for both of us.  We didn't get to 'celebrate Sexuary 2018', we definitely had a Sexuary type weekend (so yeah, more to come).  

Dane

Sexuary 2017 - Sensations

Ok, so I know we have talked about sensations in the bedroom before, but that's how we kicked off Sexuary 2017, with Jackie tied to the bed, blindfolded and me adding different sensations to her body.  It's amazing how different textures, different elements and some very simple things can make a difference.

So let me start at the beginning.  We've had Japanese ropes for years (I think we got our first one at Spencers).  If you don't have a pair I highly recommend them.  They are cheap, comfortable and easy to use.  Before that I used my neckties to  tie Jackie up with.  This year I added a couple of d-links to the back of our headboard so I could just snap the rope in and it would hold.  I use to tie a rope to the bedframe and then our Japanese rope to that.  So not much excuse to not do something if you'd like to try other than some prep work.

Second, if you don't have a blindfold GET ONE!  They are cheap.  You can get them on Amazon for $5, or delivered in 2 days for $8.  There is a sensation when you don't know what's coming next that is exciting.  Every house should have a blindfold or 10.  We have several.

So then I've had to collect things that feel different on Jackie.  I picked up a piece of material a couple of years ago for Sexuary that she loves.  It's soft.  Very soft.  And when I drag it across her body it feels good.  So I got a piece that I can use to cover her and slooooooowwwwwwwlllllyyyyyyy drag off of her.  Her nipples will get hard doing this.  I love it.

A bottle of corn starch is then opened and I lightly drop it over her in places I'm going to rub.  First you get the sensations of the mini explosions as I drop it on her.  The she gets the silky smooth sensations as I rub on her body.

A few drops of warming liquid on each nipple will make her jump just a bit as each unannounced drop finds its way down and starts to spread.  Oh but then I get to rub it in better, suck on it, blow on it, each causing it's own sensation for Jackie to endure.

Over the years we've used candles, I'd recommend a soy candle here, ice, warming up your dildos in a bucket of hot water, feather boas, tracer wheels, massage oils, and more for different sensations.  It takes some work, you have to look around and see and think, 'hmmmm I wonder how that would work' and come up with a few different sensations, but they are out there and you don't have to spend a fortune at the adult toy store to do it. Not that we have anything against adult toy stores, we LOVE them, but you don't always have to go there for your sexual party favors when they are all around us.

So go do something unexpected for your significant other TODAY!  Surprise them with something new.

Dane

I know what your thinking....Corn Starch? Really?  I don't know why or how Dane found this but its like powder but its not, its smooth and feels great...I am always surprised when he tells me he used the Corn starch.  Oh that piece of material...just thinking about that makes me shutter...its incredible.

Sometimes its not the what is being used, its the not knowing what will be used and the sensations that is brought on with just touch.  He loves to see me cream and squirt but it doesn't always show in an outward way but sometimes its very intense inside my body like the endorphins release and body tenses and it explodes all in my head, all inside...not much outside to leave the mess...but it happens...And let me tell you it  was pretty intense  

Try something new with your partner!  Its worth it...

Jackie

Sexuary 2016 - Ben Wa Balls

Jackie and I have started out Sexuary 2016 with a big bang..and bang again...and well you get the picture, we're celebrating our sexuality and reminding ourselves that sex has to be one of those priorities in our relationship.  Let's face it life gets in the way all the time and if we allow it, before we know it the only time we use the bed is when we drag our tired asses into it to sleep.  Work, kids, stress, and money all seem to zap us of our energy and we forget that the closeness of a good sex life will actually energize us both physically and emotionally to make it through all those hard times.

This is actually Jackies and my 5th year to celebrate Sexuary!!! We'd been struggling at least in part because of some medical issues with Jackie and after she was feeling back on track we got on board with Christine Moers on her welcometomybrain.net.  And while she's no longer blogging on there, there is still a lot of good, honest and open information on honest and real sex questions along with a lot of life issues we all face.  But back to Jackie and I.  So 5 years ago we took the challenge to do something above and beyond what we normally do.  Maybe something that made us a bit uncomfortable in trying it, but to do it.  So we weren't the bravest, but we strove to have sex 7 days in a row.  Easy right? Yeah, not so much.  We still were lacking our communication skills and just real frankly it didn't happen.  A mere 7 days couldn't be achieved.  Year 3 was our first year to decide WE WERE GOING TO DO THIS!!!! After literally months of working together (and lots of fun in discussions) we put together "The Calendar".  It was a 28 day calendar with some different kink we either wanted to try, or might be interested in, or something we just didn't do regularly.

So what did we learn?  We learned to communicate more than we ever have.  We found out that some kinks aren't for the 2 of us.  We found we REALLY liked some others.  We found that 28 days in a row was an incredibly difficult task, but it could be done (remember all those outside factors listed above, well they didn't slack off just because we left them off the calendar).  Will we ever do it again? I don't know, but we have made it a tradition that Sexuary is a time for us to reignite our sex life and do a systems check on our relationship.  And this blog?  Well this blog was to show that men and women like you, that's ordinary next door neighbors have some of the same issues you have.  That we miscommunicate and it causes problems.  That we want to try stuff and sometimes are a bit scared of even attempting it.  That sometimes it just doesn't go anything like you'd hoped or planned.  And then there are those times that it's over the top great and you wonder why you didn't try it before!  But we're not porn stars.  We're not strippers or anything in the sex field, we're a manager and a business owner who have dreams and have been tempted to try some of the things we've read about, seen or heard about over the years.  Again, the couple next door you just didn't know was into trying anything that comes their way.

So this year, 2016, we have taken our calendar and put 15 dates down on it.  That's every other day and an extra for Valentines day.  We've put down some of our favorite things that take a little effort and spread them over the calendar this year.

Some of it might sound mundane, but it's the fact we're doing SOMETHING to make sure our sex life doesn't go stale and whither away.  And as always we're flexible if something comes up to make sure we get the most out of it all.

In our case since Jackie has started running so on Wednesday she was rather sore and so we swapped Wednesday for Friday.  But Friday is what I wanted to talk about some.  This Friday was Jackies turn to be the center of attention if  you will.  Tied up and blindfolded and different sensations from hands, cloths, metal clamps, silk, ropes and all.  It really sets Jackie off when we take the time to do all these things to her.  But yesterday I added  a new twist for her.  Ben Wa Balls.

So I've had these Ben Wa Balls for probably 40 years.  My (don't laugh) but my grandmother brought them back from Singapore and gave them to me (God bless grandma in all her ignorance of all things sexual).  They are decorative and fairly large (2").  They've sit in our toy drawer for lots of years now and never been used.  We changed that on Friday.  After lots of stimulation I lubed and inserted one in.  The second one had more issues and while it went in when it came out we left it out.  But even the one added new sensations for both of us.  While Jackie couldn't necessarily feel the one in her (she actually thought it was out) she could feel different sensations inside and from my perspective the drenching she gave me and the bed told me we definitely were on the right track.  Additionally I could feel the Ben Wa Ball massaging me when I was inside of her.  Definite win win for both of us and something we'll add in the future.

Ok, so the downside to these Ben Wa Balls?  Well as you can see there are no ropes or anything to help pull them out.  Now mind you they can't go anywhere that will harm or get stuck forever or anything, but it did take some serious effort on Jackies part to get the second one to come out.  So we might try some smaller ones (these were 2") or some with a rope between them that one of us can reach in and pull out.  

So now it's your turn.  Go do something to make this year, Sexuary 2016 better than your day to day relationship.  Make sure it's getting the nourishment it needs to not only survive, but to thrive!

Dane

Our Toy Chest

1 of the 2 drawers of toys we have

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane

Being Flexible

So today was suppose to be "Vincilagnia (tied up),  Blindfold,  Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie", but after the events of last night and the fact we could have better no kids time (read Jackie could stream louder if she wanted to) on Monday instead of today, and massages would be tonight.  We just thought it would be better overall for both of us.

We like massages.  Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years.  Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner.  Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex.  Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it.  I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them.  And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.

I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better.  I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.

We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady.  We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys.  We also found some non-piercing nipple ring  The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it.  You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys.  The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert. 

Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings.  Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight.  First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points.  A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes.  Then next score was hers.  Next would be mine.  Then hers.  Didn't matter which team scored, just a score. 

I love oral sex!  I love to receive and give oral.  I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much.  I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times).  But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.

YEAH!!! 7 points scored first!  Damn I'm a lucky guy.  Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much.  Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown.  While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.

We had fun.  We both got some much needed relief.  And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night.  Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.

We have 4 days down, 24 days to go.  We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship.  It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.

What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting.  Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps.  Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going.  Make up your own game.  I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance.  Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.

Dane

Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc.  However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do.  I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be.  So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day.  And part of this month is open communication.  I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.

I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages.  They are very relaxing for me to give them.  I know how much Dane loves them.  I really had intended to give him one.  I am not sure why I changed the game again.

So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story.  One of our favorites is Megaplexx.  Its not your average toy store.  Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing.  This is great store.  The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced.  Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them.  I really wanted to see them on.  I wanted to see how easy they would be.  The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car.  We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay.  I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again. 

I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score.  We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE.  We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him.  I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score.  I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all.  So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes.  I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close.  I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me.  I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth.  I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy.  Today though I was OK with him playing with me.  I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs.  I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him.  I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going.  I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened.  I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day.  FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.  

Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to.  If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)

So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start.  We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track.  We will talk and communicate more than we ever had.  We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!

Jackie