Sexuary 2022 - Woken up - Day 11

By the time you’re reading this we’ve should of already had sex.  While I don’t always want morning sex, it really does make my day.  It puts me in a better frame of mine and I can handle so much more. That’s all because of you - 143

The plan was to wake up Jackie about 6 and start the day off with a good hard fucking.  But after the night before it didn't happen.  So no early morning sex.  We had lots to do that day, and would be with friends camping that night.  So I suggested to Jackie she wake me up when she came in (she always stays up later than I do when we camp with this group).  

So about 130 in the morning Jackie came in the trailer, crawled into bed and warmed up just a bit, then reached for my cock and stated playing with me.  I'd been asleep about 3 or 4 hours so was well rested by then and we immediately got after it. 

 I love the idea that Jackie will wake me up at any time at night to play.  It's out of the norm.  It's normally unexpected.  It's fun because it's different. 

We made a huge mess on the bed in the camper and then crashed and slept hard till the morning when Jackie had to get up and go to another meeting.  

Have any suggestions on how to surprise your significant other with sex?  Some place or time they wouldn't expect you to start something?  Go for it!!! After all it's Sexuary 2022!

 For the record, I LOVE morning sex too...how can you have a bad day when you started off with an orgasm before you get out of bed. 

Dane 

 

Sexuary 2021 - Sex On The Living Room Floor

 

 

Ok, I get it, you plop into bed, rollover, get a bit and go to sleep.  That was our life for the most part prior to Sexuary coming into our lives.  And if you think we went from that to where we are overnight then you haven't been reading the struggles we have along the way too. So now we have sex just where ever we are, whenever we are, with whatever we have handy and it brings us closer together.  One of the things we enjoy is sex in every room of the house (yes we are empty nesters have have that privileged).  But tonight's draw was to have sex in the living room, in front of the fireplace. 

When Jackie got off of work I had the fireplace going.  It's been about 33F all day here, so the fire was a nice touch.  When Jackie when outside for a bit I pulled several blankets and laid them out in front of the fireplace, tossed a couple of pillows down for us. 

It's so easy to get in a rut. The same pats, the same kisses, the same location, the same sex.  Don't get me wrong, I've rarely had bad sex, but it can be so much better than when we're in a rut.  

So tonight the kisses were on the floor, the rubbing of her thighs had the cold from the floor and the heat from the fireplace.  The flickering light of the fireplace lit up Jackie's' body as I caressed her.  When she rolled over the feeling of the floor under me instead of the bed just makes it different some how. 

It's the little things that makes the difference, we've all heard that. So for us, today, it was moving into the living room for our nightly Sexuary romp in the hay. 

Dane
 

Sexuary - Sometime it's not as planned

So Monday is Jackies day to pull and she pulled my favorite, ass play.  If you've been reading our blog for any time what so ever, you know I love a good fisting on occasion.  Well we get going, and things are a bit tight, and things just didn't happen.  It doesn't all the time, especially when you're talking ass play, or peoples moods, or just sex in general.  Over the years I've had a million plans in my head that just don't make it there for a million and one reasons.  Today was one of them.  

So here's where the problem can happen.  I got a bit frustrated, Jackie felt bad (which she shouldn't have, as it wasn't her fault) and the mood just went south for a bit, even though Jackie really did try to get me out of my funk.  

I did come around and apologize later for my funk, but by then it was way to late to do anything. The good thing is the next day came and things were back on track. We didn't let 1 bad experience ruin our sex life.  As they say we got back on the horse and rode the next day. I listen to so many people that years go by and they don't have that relationship with their significant other. Maybe it was one bad day that turned to two, that just never could turn around, and now it's years later, and we don't even really know why, just that we are here, but it's been that way so long we can't get out of the rut.  Sexuary has been Jackies and my guarantee to stay out of the ruts sexually, which we all know leads to other issues in our lives so many times.  

It's still plenty of time to make a change in your sex life.  Sexuary still has plenty of time to do something different.  Be the bold one...take the first step...get out of that comfort zone and make something happen this Sexuary. 

Dane

Sexuary 2017

Ok, it's 24 days till Sexuary 2017. Anyone else thinking/doing anything?

Jackie and I have just finished up our calendar. Of course there is plenty of kink involved (cause that's who we are), but we are actually trying something different this year. While the sex and kink will be several days a week (no 28 days straight this year but we are looking about 4 days a week), everyday, above and beyond the sex itself will be a 5 - 15 minutes of intimate touching.

For us that could be making out, it could be a short massage, it could be some intimate touching. maybe some licking or the like.  And timers will be set, not so much for a minimum, but for a maximum. Why? We want this to be as much of a tease and a time of excitement as it is about sex. We want to remember how excited we can make each other even when we know sex is not going to happen right then. We want to be thinking of the other person and that they still have 'that touch'. I expect there will be a few hickies during Sexuary. A horrid price to pay I know. hehehe Seriously, I know we try on days we know we are having sex, but we wanted to push that this Sexuary.

So anyone else got anything going?  Oh and the kink and sex?  I'm sure you'll be reading about our adventures if you follow this blog, the good, the bad and the orgasmic.

Dane

Speculum

So during Sexuary we had purchased some speculums to play with.  Let's face it there are several good things about this.  One I get to see what I get to play with all the time.  I knew what I expected but I'd never really looked in there to see what's there.  I don't care what your sex-ed classes were it's not the same as looking there.

Second you could always play doctor and be a GYN if you're into role playing.

So we had these speculums for me to play with.  We have both vaginal and anal speculums.  I didn't know there was a difference, but there is a huge difference.  We decided today was going to be the day we played with the vaginal speculum.

Lots of lube, and then I slipped it in and opened it up, tightening up the screw to hold it open.  I moved it about some till I got the view I wanted and was able to reach in from the side and see what I normally only feel, and generally with my penis.

Now Jackie is the only woman I've ever been with that can squeeze so tight and push from inside out to push anything in there when she's having an orgasm.  I mean penis, vibrator, it doesn't matter and I wanted to see how that all worked.  So I got the speculum so I could see what was going on inside.  It was pretty remarkable and very clear to see.  I now see why doctors use them.  So then Jackie suggested she use her favorite vibrator so I could actually watch her have an orgasm.  What a great idea!!!  Almost immediately I watched her inside move and engorge. Oh my this was pretty hot.  She came and squirted and I got to watch the whole show from the inside out.

Then as long as we're stretched and open we continued out fisting exercise.  My knuckles actually slipped in, and it was more a question of depth then it was of girth, but with just a bit to go it was to much for Jackie and we stopped.  We were a good 2 inches further in then we were last time we tried, and so freaking close!!!

We talked about it afterwards.  I think I'm going to have to curl my fingers as my knuckles clear to make it a shallower fisting.  We'll see next time.  But I know sooner or later we'll get that fist inside of her.

In the mean time another fetish scratched off our list.

Dane


Speculum...to be honest this really bothered me. I knew it was something he wanted to do.  I know how I feel when I have to go for a well woman check up, its not very comfortable, and certainly not "a turn on" but again last month was about fetishes and trying things outside the normal box.  So we ordered them.  I laid down and let him take a look..  I tried to relax so he could look how he wanted.  I knew he wondered what was happening when we were making love and what all he was feeling, so I decided to suggest to get out a toy and he could watch how my pussy reacts during an orgasm.  It was not a big turn on for me.  I know he liked what he saw and it really turned him on.  

We then continued to have him fist me.  WE have been slowly working on this.  This is our 3rd attempt and we are making progress.  Its taking a while, I tell him that it takes HOURS to birth a baby, so its hard to put something in there that is a big as a baby's head! We made it about 2 inches more than the last time, and really his knuckles were in, but just couldn't past there.  

I hope this day was a great Birthday present for Dane. That's is why I was willing  to go the "extra" mile today. All in all its a great day, lots of excitement and new knowledge.  

Jackie 

Sexuary Summary

So I'm setting here, Jackie just left a bit ago for her training and I'll have 3 days by myself.  No kids, no wife, just myself.  So I thought it might be a good time to reflect a bit on what Sexuary meant to me.  I'm sure when Jackie gets back she'll put in her two cents worth too.

Let me start by saying this is year three for Jackie and I to 'celebrate' Sexuary. The first year we wanted to try to have sex 7 straight days.  It didn't happen.  Then came last year.  We were in a better place, but 7 days in a row was a lot to ask still, so we went for every other day on even days.  While we didn't exactly succeed we did much better, though by the end we were really struggling.  I really mean it was a struggle for us to have sex one more time. ugghhhh

You know we've done a lot of soul searching and working in our marriage over the last 3 or 4 years.  We've a lot learned about each other and what makes the other one tick.  We've learned to compromise, though as you've read this month we still struggle through some every day issues in communicating those compromises.  We have really focused on being better individuals so that we can be a better couple.  And we've made time for ourselves as a couple regardless of what 'disaster of the moment' is going on outside of our bedroom door.

I know that sex does not resonate near as high on the 'got to have it' scale for Jackie as it does on mine.  Yet I also know that she can get just as excited about it as I can be once we're there.  It's getting her out of her head and the other things going on to get her there that is the issue.  She's come a long way working on that over the last 3 years.  She now realizes how important it is to me to be that intimate with her and has gone out of her way, even when I'm being an ass, to make sure I get that time with her.  I know she has to struggle sometimes over that, hell I would.

Jackie says all she ever has to do to get me in the mood is take off her shirt and I'm ready.  Makes it difficult at night where we're getting ready for bed, cause I really do find my wife that attractive and that fun to be around.   Her kisses will set me off.  Her caress will definitely excite me.  And just the site of her in the shower gets me excited.  She's hot and sexy and she's mine and I love it.

So this year we decided to try a 28 day trek.  Not an easy task.  We know the Moers and know they had struggles last year with their 31 days.  Days they'd of preferred hall sex (you know as you pass each other in the hall you say "fuck you") then to have bedroom sex.  And these are people we look up to and respect, so how mere mortals like ourselves going to stand a chance to succeed?

So back in November, yes 3 months before Sexuary started, we started talking about this all.  It wasn't all pretty.  My 'box' of what I'm willing to try is huge compared to the average person.  Basically if I haven't tried it and dislike it I'm willing to try it.  Don't know if I'll like it, but I'll try it.  And there are things I'll try just because the other person I'm with wants to try.  VERY few hard limits. Jackies box is more of a 'normal' box.  Don't get me wrong, she tried a lot of things this month not in her box, but I know she struggled with several of them, but if it weren't for me pushing her to push herself some she'd fit into her box and be pretty happy with it.  So November to January were lots of discussions on what would and would not be acceptable.  We created list.  We talked about those list.  We modified list.  We talked more.  We talked more.  And then we talked more.

Finally in January we got 'The Calendar' that we've posted.  Now this was a major change to Sexuaries of the past.  In the past we've alternated who was in charge of making the day special.  If the day was a bad day then sex might of been mundane at best. This would have a who was in charge, but most of the pre-planning was already done, so even in a bad day everything was there to complete the task and you knew what we were doing.  I personally think this calendar was what made this year so successful for us.  It took a lot of pressure off of us on a daily basis.  Meant even on a crappy day we knew what was going to happen and that we had the supplies already in our bedroom.  I'm sure glad our kids don't come in our bedroom.  If they ever looked in our 'drawers of toys' they'd die of embarrassment. And if they saw everything we put in there for this month I'm not sure they'd ever look us in the eyes again. 

So as you've read, we made it through the month.  Not all days were 'successful' in their goal of enjoying something new, but they were all successful  in bringing Jackie and I together.  Even during the struggles of a massive yeast infection we were able to work through things and have a great time together.  Words like compromise and understanding come to mind after those days.  The couple swap day that didn't go anything like we expected.  The spanking and Dom/sub that when over like lead balloons.  We HAD to talk through those to get past them.

But there were other days that we were flying high after our sexual encounter for the day.  Sensation, fisting, piercings, and others were high on our list and will go on our 'must try again' list.  Jackie really wants a piercing or two.  I knew she'd want another tattoo.  We're working on fisting her.  Now that we've tried she knows how exciting that can be.  So her 'box' got bigger this month. 

I know there are all kinds of scientific studies that show that after sex couples release chemicals that bring them closer.  Well imagine how close you'd get after 28 days of sex.  And while we had one couple of friends tell us they didn't understand just going for 28 straight days, they understood it when we explained that it wasn't about the act of sex, it was about EVERYTHING that comes with it.  The pillow talking that gets started again.  The wanting to be with your partner.  The desire to make them as happy as you've been.  The open communications.  The flattery.  The kissing.  The simple "I love you" text for no reason other than they came to your mind for that moment during your busy day.  For 28 days I didn't have to do anything and I knew I was going to get sex, and yet I was more than happy to help more around the house because I KNEW I didn't have to do anything to get sex.

I remember a self help study a couple of years ago that was popular. In it the goal was to strengthen your marriage. One of the first things it said was someone has to cross the lines in the sand that you 2 have drawn so that the entire fence can come down.  Sexuary is all about that.  We crossed LOTS of lines this month.  Many sections of fence came tumbling down.  And WE are a better couple because of it.

This year we went 17 straight days of sex with no breaks and 26 out of 28 days we had sex.  That shattered our previous 7 days in a row of sex and 16 days in a month.  Shattered them.  And on the 2 other days it didn't mean that we didn't snuggle and caress, it was just intimate non sexual days.  So all in all 28 straight days. How can that be bad for any relationship?

So what did Sexuary mean to me?  It means I fully appreciate my wife for all she does for me.  It means I still get excited when I see her.  It means that I've had 28 days to show her how much I appreciate all she does for me.  It means we've spent 28 nights, laying in our bed talking about sex, life, kids, sex, and anything else that popped up (did I mention sex?) until we drifted to sleep. It meant we rekindled our love for each other. We made ourselves the priority this month.

I know there is no way to keep the every day pace up.  I'm almost 50 and damn proud of getting 28 days in. But seriously that pace while great is not sustainable without itself becoming mundane. But it can be a treat once a year for Sexuary.  And I truly believe that the other 337 days of the year will be much closer and better for us because of this exercise during Sexuary.

We don't expect everyone is where we are as a couple.  But understand we weren't always here either.  There were times we fought about sex.  Times we definitely weren't talking.  Times I wasn't sure this marriage was going to last, no matter how much we wanted it to.  Times were intimacy, communications, and sex were not in our couples vocabulary.  And we've gone from that to a month of it.  So I don't care if it's been 3 months since the last time you were intimate with your partner or 3 days, there is hope, I know because we're proof.  But someone has to take that first step.  Something has to change.  Priorities to your relationships have to change.  And honestly it's not easy.  But the rewards are great.

So on this, the last official day of Sexuary 2013 I have a challenge to you.  If you haven't done anything this month that is out of your box do it.  Call your partner and tell them you love them and hang up...that's it nothing else.  Or meet them at the door naked.  Or if the kids are an issue, after they are in bed go put on something that makes you feel as sexy as he thinks you are and be waiting on the bed for him.  Text him to come find you.  Send her flowers just because you love her.  Wash the dishes tonight or help dry them.  Instead of rolling over in bed roll into bed and wrap your arm around your loved one.  Get it? DO SOMETHING!

And heaven forbid you let today go by with nothing happening this Sexuary...don't wait another 11 months for Sexuary to come back around....take tomorrow and start your own Sexuary! Sexuary is a state of mind.  It's a matter of making a difference in your relationship.

It's part of the reason this blog isn't over with.  Oh the intensity of it will definitely die down some.  But we still have a list of fetishes we haven't tried.  We have another list of 'OMG we have to do that again' fetishes.  We have some that were borderline we have to go decide which side of the fence will they fall on.  And who knows as we grow we might go revisit some of those we weren't ready for the first time. So keep following.

You want to help us out some?  Let us know if any blog post made a difference for you. Email or comment.  We've allowed anonymous comments so you can be honest with us.  Let us know that you've done SOMETHING for Sexuary, especially if something you read here pushed you over the edge to make the difference.  Let us know if something you read got you so hot and bothered you had to go and surprise your partner.  Just let us know, it really is a turn on to us to hear from others that are in our boat of wanting to make their relationships better.

Happy Sexuary to all...and we're already looking forward to 2014!

Dane

TENS, Electricity

This was saved for last because we don't know the repercussions and I wanted time to recuperate.  I would like you to use the electricity/TENS on me.  Maybe we can find an anal probe, or see how they use it on a cock and nipples.  I will leave it up to you if you'd like to try the same thing that day or save it for another day.  This will be our last official day of Fetish Sexuary, so along with the electric you have free reign for ANYTHING you'd like to try on me. 

So Jackie has this TENS unit from when she hurt her shoulder years ago.  We've kept it around, lost it, found it, lost part of it, found it, lost it, found it...you get the drift.  But I know that electricity can be a huge turn on for some, and very orgasmic for others.

Being a bit of a country boy I know that to get the seed from a bull, you stick an anal probe in and turn it on, and seaman will come flowing out.  I'd never seen it done on a guy before Sexuary, So wasn't sure how it would work.  But we were willing to try it.

We even watched a couple of videos where a guy came using a TENS unit and a girl went orgasmic with one.  They were pretty hot and Jackie and I had a great round of sex after watching those videos.  

So we break out the unit and Jackie decides to go first.  Now anyone who knows Jackie knows she's not the overly adventurous type and it really surprised me she went first.  So we put 1 set of pads on her and started it up.  At first there wasn't much you could tell or see.  She could feel it, but it wasn't all there.  So we put a second set of pads on, further south, and bingo she started to vibrate a bit more.  I could see her clit start to appear and her lips were definitely swelling.

She played with the controls till she got where she wanted and then closed her eyes and let it flow.  I could see her react much the same as if I had her favorite vibrator on and was waiting for her to gush any second.

When she'd shuttered enough she cut the controls and just tried to catch her breath.  I reached in and she was definitely wet.  Not drenched as she can get but wet.  She said it was not the most monumental but definitely orgasmed a couple of times.

Then was my turn.  We started with one set of pads and turned it on.  At first I didn't think it was working, then I hit level 4....5....6...7...OMG every time I went up a level it was like someone squeezed the head of my cock a bit tighter.  But it wasn't going to make me cum.  So we added a second set of pads.  I could barely feel them even though I was all the way up to max on those (60) and about a 30 on the one attached to my head.  But still no real, going over the top sensation.

So Jackie moved the pads around.  This time I was feeling it all over.  From the bottom of my sac to the top of my cock I could feel it vibrating.  It pretty quickly took me to the edge.  That feeling you get right before you cum.  I had both controls at max setting of 60.  It was right there....I waited...I could feel the urge.....it was sooooooooooo close.........but after a few minutes it just wasn't going to cum.

We finished me off quickly.  I'll try it again.  It wasn't painful at all.  It was uncomfortable at times, and I'm sitting here tingling still an hour later, so not sure how long that will last.  I enjoyed watching Jackie get off and liked the feeling, just couldn't get that release I needed with it.

Today was day 28 for us.  Jackie has to leave at 5:30 in the morning for some training so we started 1/31 instead so we could get our 28 days in.  I'll follow up with another post on a wrap up.  Additionally we'll be going back and trying the fetishes we had to forgo for one reason or another and we'll post our adventures there.  So while Sexuary is officially over with for us (ok, we still have pillow talk tonight but the sex is over unless Jackie is going to be overly generous and surprise me), we'll be updating our blog here and there as we live out Sexuary in our day to day lives.  Follow along.  Leave us a comment.  Tell us if there was something you tried because we brought it up.  Tell us you did something this Sexuary that made a difference in your relationship,because bottom line that's what this exercise was all about.

Dane

TENS/Electricity...the thought was scary, yet exciting at the same time.  Something you are told not to play with yet really want to...well this is the safest way to play with it without getting totally fried.

We watched a few videos, have looking at 100's of toys.  Wondering all the what if questions.  I knew I already had a TENS unit a medical grade one, so we didnt want to go and buy one.  However when the month started I wasnt sure where it was.  We hunted for several days until finding the box that it was still packed in.  So we got it out and left it alone.  Scared to let the lion out of that cage.  Well until today, I had an appointment out of town this morning, so I was on my drive home when I was thinking about it, it got me stirring, did I want to go first? Or should he? I decided to go first in case I needed time to rest and get myself under control. We started with 2 pads, and I had them turned up to 40 and while I could certainly feel it, it wasn't taking me to the place I wanted to go.  So we added another 2 pads. Now this took me where I wanted it go.  Looking back I probably could have taken it higher however I knew I would be gone until Saturday at a conference in which I could not be uncomfortable in(if ya know what I mean) so after it got intense, I laid back and let it do what it was supposed to do, and it did.  While I didn't squirt like I am known to, it did take me into a multi-level orgasim that I could feel from my neck to my toes.  It also went into my "we ARE going to do this again" list! I think practice is needed to get the best orgasim, so will try again!

Next was Dane, I helped get his pads on, one set at a time, he leaked a good round or two of pre cum but never really had a mind boggleing shoot cum all over.  I think for him we will need to try again too, you have to get the pads in the right place or they do nothing and we were quickly running out of time before the kids got home from school. Even though he didn't finish with the TENS until he did finish, and it was pretty intense.

Did I mention this is going on my "do this again" list...There are several things on there from this month.  I can't believe this was the last day, we made it...while we had 2 days that not much if anything happened, I am still calling it 28 days!! WE nailed our list, and nailed each other ;) WE talked and talked and talked...well you get the picture.  We discovered new things, old things, things we liked and things we didn't, but we did it. 

I am doing a happy dance...happy dance....loud music(even if its just in my head) we did it...(insert Dora"WE did it, WE did it..." song here) lol

Keep following though, we aren't finished.  We are going to keep blogging and keep doing....We will go back to our every 3 days calender(which was another Sexuary goal) and I will go into that at another time.  We will keep communicating and keep smiling, and I will get a jersey or tshirt with "28"on it and not care whose name it is, but I will know what "28" is about...

Jackie

Blindfild, ropes, stretching, clothes pins and …. (on Dane)

Strap Dane down and blind fold him.  You have total control from there, and I’m not sure how I'll handle stretching my ball sack, but let's try it…use cloths pins on me, or other devices. Hot oils might be appropriate here too.

This was to be the next best thing to a Dom/sub day.  I'm not sure why this is ok, but the other isn't but Jackie is better when we don't call it Dom/sub.

So she took me upstairs, and blindfolded me.  Then took me into our room where she Velcro'd me to our bed (we have a sheet and cuffs we caught on clearance at Megaplexx).  No I can pull on these and not come undone, and yet if I needed to I could pull the corner of the Velcro up and get out.  After that she started with sensations.

A soft piece of material we got.  I thought it smart of her to always hold my cock with it while she rubbed me with it over the rest of my body.

A whip came next.  She's getting better with that new whip, and she used it off and on through the session.  I definitely pulled on the straps a couple of times as she did our first CBT ever.  Not something I'm generally into, but she did a good job of not 'crushing my sack' and that's the one thing I am more sensitive too.  It stung, but in a good way.

A boa did ok, but wasn't as soft as the material.

Some ice.  I was expecting her to put some in her mouth and suck me some but the drizzles an her running on my cock was a nice sensation, though I could of use more I think to make it almost uncomfortable.  Not sure if that makes sense or not.

She used some clothes pins to pull my sack.  It was an interesting sensation.  I couldn't tell exactly how many or exactly where they were. And with exception of one pulling and twisting when she went to rub up on me, it felt pretty good.  The one though caught her and actually went to real pain for a second.

A candle dripping on my chest.  Later I asked why she didn't do my nipples or pelvic area and she was afraid of burning me.

Some sucking, some rubbing her body of me and having my knee in her crotch (what little I could move) as she humped my leg some. 

More whipping. 

Finally she removed the clothes pins which let the blood flow back and was a sensation in itself and took my breath away for a second.  The she unstrapped me and we finished up with me attempting to fist her again (OMG that really is pretty hot) and then both of us finishing up.

WHEW!!!

That was a lot of sensations in a short amount of time.  It was pretty hot to give up control like that.  It was also pretty hot to have her tie me up and use the whips and pins on me.  I like it when on occasion she becomes the aggressor and takes charge.  It's different and very hot to me.  I think it's just so out of our norm that it really is a fetish.

Dane

Today was my day to tie down Dane, I really wanted him to experience what I had on my day.  I was nervous about it.  It is as close to sub/dom without it being sub/dom.  I don't like barking orders and I don't like taking orders.  I knew that today was my day to take control and I could do whatever I wanted to Dane.  I also know that he has a much bigger box on pain, and excitement.  That I am sure I would not get to the point of him saying his safe word.  It take a lot more that I can do to push him. 

So I asked him to meet me at the top of the stairs where I took his glasses gave him his blind fold, undressed him and then put the Velcro cuffs around his wrist and ankles.  I then led him into the bedroom and centered  him on the bed. I had preplanned all I wanted to do, textures, that were contrasting, soft to hard, cold to hot...you get the idea...

I started with my favorite piece of material, its super soft, I rubbed it on his chest, his legs, his cock, etc.  I stroked him with it...its an amazing feeling! I then went to a whip, then a feather boa, then ice, then wax, the clothes pens, then more rubbing.  

I think it was a very enjoyable day for both of us.  We were able to end with both having great orgasms and a very enjoyable afternoon.

Its hard to believe we have ONE day left! wow what a month!

See you tomorrow

Jackie

Fisting Jackie

This is the one attempt we'll do at fisting you.  I'd like to work you up in both your pussy and your ass depending on how things go.  It will be a long process, lots of rubbing, lots and lots of lube and lots of patience.  You will need to let me know if not ok while doing it, and as always safewords will apply. 

So this was towards the end of the month in case we  ran into any problems.  Now I finger Jackie all the time as a matter of foreplay.  Somewhere along the way she didn't care for it as much as when we first started going out.  She's been through several 'woman' issues over the 10 years we've been together and I've just assumed that those issues caused her to feel differently down there.  So while I'll go 1, maybe 2 fingers that's about the limit I'll attempt.  So to fist her would be a huge step up.

I know how excited both of us were when we finally got a fist in me.  And I would be a first for us to get one in Jackie.  Now honestly I wasn't expecting much.  Maybe 4 fingers tops.  She's very tight and can clamp down like a vice grip in a heart beat, expelling any and everything trying to get in there.  But we wanted to try in this month of fetishes to fist her too.

She was very nervous to start.  I wasn't (and still not) sure why.  It's not like we haven't played around like that before and she knows she can stop at any moment.  You have to have the trust that your partner will stop if you tell them too.

So we started and after a bit of caressing I started to finger her...we got all 5 fingers in but the knuckles wouldn't make it in.  It was pretty hot though to see all 5 fingers in her at once.  I think we used a 1/2 a bottle of lube getting there, and plenty of time, but we definitely hit our limit for the night.  So I spun around and finished us both off.

Now Jackie thought she felt loose.  I definitely didn't feel it that way.  I felt a lot of lubricant that we don't usually use.  I was definitely sliding with no problems. But she felt her normal tightness, and honestly between the excitement of the moment and the tightness I didn't last long (pretty unusual for me).  I think there is a mental thing that you think you'll be loose because you stretched out, but I'm here to tell you your body will spring right back....and sometimes even tighter than before.  Pretty amazing from where I was.

So we're down to 2 more days left.  I can't believe Sexuary is cuming to an end so soon.  I'll have to ask Christine Moers at www.welcometomybrain.net who introduced us to Sexuary if she might extend it for....oh....11 more months? Seriously ups and downs we go through every day, month and year.  But this month has been amazing for Jackie and I. We've learned a lot about ourselves and each other this month, and I hate that it will end.

Dane

I once again was super nervous.  I mean super nervous! I mean was he going to just try to stick his fist in? Was he going to play with me and do that at the same time? Was it going to hurt, I know its hard birthing a kid, I cant imagine what its going to feel like trying to go back in. 

At first he just started with a finger or two and that just wasn't doing to for me, I asked him to get a toy to help stimulate me.  That helped.  I really was a distraction to what was going on down there, it helped.  I couldn't decide if it was good, bad or indifferent.  I did get exciting for me as I could hear him getting excited in his breathing, and signs and little groans.

I even asked him at one point to just sit still and not push. It did get a point that it burned and there was just NO way it was going in.  I just couldn't handle it anymore. The burning was just too much.  I am not sure if the burning is from lube, his hand or if I still have a bit of the yeast infection going on. Not sure but I just knew it was burning. So he removed his hand, and quickly moved up so we could both finish.  He blew very quickly! I can't tell you the last time he blew so fast! So I guess it was super exciting for him! 

We talked about what it felt like, I swear I was stretched to the max and that's why I couldn't feel him penetrate.  He swore nothing had changed except for the amount of lube that was in there.  We talked if it was something I wanted to try again! I told him if its anything like watching a fist go into his ass, I know it was a huge turn on.  That we could continue to try. Who knows when we will have success.

Can you believe its been 26 days already! We are almost done! I think that might be my crappy attitude.  I am not normally one to enjoy sex, and usually its pulling teeth on our "3 day commitment" we have already.  But this month has been great.  Even if my boobs are super sore! and Not to mention my pussy is too! While it was made for sex and birthing babies, its not made for the 26 day pounding it has gotten this month! Its ready for a few day break!

How is your month coming? Did you make your goals? We have had some great times and some not so great times but we are still moving along...WE are getting close to the end...But we aren't done yet...

Jackie  

Grumpy Day

So today was on the calendar to be a strap me down and blind fold me day and then I would take what ever comes.  But apparently I'm a bit loud sometimes when we have days like this so we decided to move it to later in the week and we'd just bring back an oldie but goodie or something we had to skip earlier in the month for one reason or another.

But 2 AM happened.  I woke up frustrated and a serious case of the "I didn't get any last nights" (read previous post for more details).  I went downstairs about 2:30.  Now what I should of done is just masturbated and held that thought till the next day.  But I've really avoided that this month.  Trying to go 28 straight days I don't have a lot of extra umpff to recover.  So instead I tried to distract myself with some tv and computer till 6:45 when I was finally settled down enough to go back to sleep, only for us to get up at 7:30.  So when I did get moving it was on very little sleep and no energy.

Now I tried.  Really I did.  All day I tried to get myself in the program and cheerful.  I failed miserably.  We went to a fair and I should of gone and slept in the car for a couple of hours and come back with a different attitude, but instead I struggled all day.  I couldn't get out of the grumpies. UGHHH!

Now if ever there was a way to woo your sweetheart, being in a grumpy mood all day is NOT it.  I did apologize at some point.  I knew I was tired and like a 2 year old that missed his midday nap just grumpy. 

When we got home I tried to take some short naps in between the boys running in and out, but it wasn't enough.  To Jackies credit she IM'd me and said let's go upstairs and I'll give you a blow job and we'll go from there.  She could of said, "you've been grumpy all day and I don't want to do anything".  I wouldn't of blamed her.  But she put me in a better mood and I slept like a log all night long.  What a great wife to know and conquer the "tireds and grumpies".  She went and disregarded the entire day to try to end it on a good note.  I'm not sure everyone would of reached across with an olive branch after the day I had.  But in the end it was the start to the end of the grumpies.  I was able to get a good nights sleep with no more complaints from the little head who didn't want to listen the night before.  I really wish the 2 heads would talk more some times.

So there was our day in a nut shell, but we worked through it, we talked at night like we've been doing all of Sexuary.  I told her I wasn't mad at all, but that didn't just flip the switch to my pecker, and that kept me awake.  Air cleared and fun had.

Dane

Oh, did I mention it was a great blow job too? Oh yeah!!!

Boy did Dane wake up grumpy! He let everyone know it too! I really could have killed him and then plead guilty by reason of insanity! The kids knew he was grumpy, the world knew he was grumpy! But I was NOT going to ruin my day at the fair! I love the fair.  I just ignored him the best I could and went on with my day.  I told the kids he had very little sleep so leave the bear alone. I let him nap off and on while we were listening to some of the different performance groups.  I just soaked in the sun, and soaked in the music.  

Once we got home we did a quick clean of our house.  I asked him what today was supposed to be since we have had to switch a lot this last half of the month.  I told him I would give him a good suck and then go from there! I know its more of the same, what we turn to when we just don't have the idea. I gave him a blow job, its what he loves, and has gotten A LOT of this month.  

So while it was a fun day, and ended on a good note it wasn't something out side of our box.  I just knew that he needed to be in a better mood, and who doesn't get into a good mood, after a suck and a fuck.

Jackie

Early Morning Sex

So this was a change to our schedule.  Due to Jackie having to leave at 7 am we decided that a real early morning would be better than what was  scheduled.  That and during the height of the yeast infection, we did hand jobs.

So about 4:45 AM I woke up, at attention and ready to go.  Now mind you I'm a morning person and Jackie is not.  She's always told me I could wake her up, she'll just go back to sleep when we're done.  But I know she's not a morning person so I don't take advantage of it to often.  But I do love starting the day with a romp in the hay.  I mean how can a day be bad when you've started out with sex?  Seriously my energy will never be at it's highest level then when I wake up, and medically testosterone is at it's peak in the morning, so everything is optimal.

These early morning sessions are not going to be our normal marathons, but they are satisfying, especially on days where we know one of us isn't going to be around or going to be worn out later in the day.  Isn't a quickie better than nothing?  It is in my books.

So on this 23rd day of our Sexuary we got one in.  Dang, only 5 more days left!

Dane

I cant believe we are on day 23! I just has absolutely flown by! I mean really only a few more days and we are finished!! EEEEK.  I am being honest here I think we might go through some withdrawals! Today we changed it up again from what it was, and I was going to be gone for a solid 24 hours plus some.  So I told Dane he could just wake me up.  He said it was 4;45, I am pretty sure it was 4;30 because when I saw the clock after we were finished it was only 4;50.  I swear when I tell him he can wake  me up he is like a kid waiting for Santa, he doesn't sleep much and is up super early...And when I say don't worry I will go back to sleep, I do! It was an early morning quickie, he loves it.  I deal with it.  Its not my favorite but sometimes you do what do  what you don't normally do. So we did LOL I hope our kids appreciated his good mood ;)

Jackie

 

Manicures

 Ok, not sure how this will be 'erotic' or leading to sex, so I'm going to take your lead here.  I'm ok giving and receiving manicure and pedicures

So a regular treat for Jackie is to go and have her nails done and her feet done.  I'm assuming she likes the hands on attention to her hands and feet.  I enjoy being able to give her this luxury when ever we can.  So like the notes to our stated, I wasn't sure how this would turn sexual at all, but it would make Jackie happy and I'm game.

So we had gotten a pedicure kit and Jackie had some finger nail stuff (I know technical terms from a guy with no clue).  So Jackie did my pedicure and then I did hers.  Then she wanted some  stickers put on her fingernails so I did that to finish up.

Sexual?  I'm not sure you could call it sexual, but I could see where it would be a form of foreplay especially in this Sexuary where we're trying different things.  It's hands on the other persons body.  It's caressing.  It's rubbing.  So yeah, I could see some of it.  Not something that is going to make me hot, heavy and ready to shoot a load, but I like any time I can get my hands on Jackie.  So I can see where someone would call it a Fetish and get excited about it.

Dane


Wow what lady doesn't love a mani/pedi day...I was a bit nervous since I do go on a regular mani/pedi at least once a month, sometime 2 times a month if its been a stressful month.  It really does relax me, I really love it when they can work on my feet and hand at the same time. So Dane and I went shopping, we went looking for a pedi kit.  While I wasn't sure it was a sexual thing, I just knew it was humbling to wash someone feet, to show love by washing, drying and rubbing on them.  I started first with his feet, so he would have an idea on what to do.  We filled a tub, and added our stuff to it and took turns with each other. 

While it wasn't a super horny, wet kind of activity but it did help, we still had a great rest of the evening together.  Lots of hands on and lots of touching and who doesn't like that!

This month has been going great!We are having lots of fun!

Jackie
 

Forced Servitude (Day 2)

Jackie Dom - So this is the day 2 of the servitude.  Same 4 hours 7:45 - 11:45 and the opposite person will be Dom.  Anything can be asked/demanded, you can't say no without repercussions (spankings, insertations, others???) 

So today is the 3/4ths the way there day.  Twenty-one of twenty-eight days done after today.  That's a lot of days of planning and being intimate with Jackie.  The planning has been half the success of this.  I wonder how many times we just try to 'let things happen' instead of planning something.  When you plan, you make the intimacy a priority.  When you're making that a priority, you're telling your partner that they are a priority. This month of Sexuary, Jackie and I have moved each other to the top of the priority list.  It's been fun.  It's been interesting, but most of all it's brought us closer together.

So on to the day.

It was to be a day of servitude.  Jackie really just wanted to play with one of her new toys on me.  She wasn't really into the servitude/Mistress stuff, but I was going to do what ever she wanted.  It was fun, it was hot and we had a great time.

Afterwards she waxed me and then we went about our daily stuff.  But in the mean time we spent a couple of purposeful hours together.  Today was planned for the fetish, but what we had was a great time.  And what we did would be considered very fetishy for many I'm sure.  For us it's enjoying ourselves in the bedroom.

The whole Dom/sub thing just isn't Jackies thing.  She likes the tie up and have fun, but that's the extent and that's ok, cause I still get more than most guys could ever hope for.  I get understanding that I'm who I am and it's ok.  She gets the same from me in return. Have you created that safe space in your bedroom for your partner?

One week left...*sigh*...Will be interesting to see how this winds up.  We have some of the most 'out of the box' stuff planned for this coming week after tomorrow. Should be very interesting.

Dane


Well we just hit the 3 week mark, and have one week to go! This month has just flown by, I can tell you that the last 2 sexuaries were like pulling teeth.  Which tells me we didn't plan enough...we just tried to do exactly what we normally did, and this time we planned for months...And it worked...this really has been a great month. We have talked more, understood more, relaxed more, and tried new things.  That IS what this month is about.

Today was Forced Servitude, something that is a hard limit for me.  Both receiving and giving.  I don't mind being tied up or being spanked in the heat of the moment.  I just don't like the forced thing, "You will do this, and if not there will be punishment" I don't like that.  I like having a bit of control like when I tell him "Be ready for me when I get home from work with your ass up in the air" and I will spank him,  But that's not the lady in leather snapping the whip. I am just not that type of person, think part of it is it takes me to a dark place.  I have been in abusive relationships and that's what it reminds me of. 

So we talked about this the night before, here is what I wanted: I wanted to use my new toy, so he will need to get himself ready, that I wanted to to get him from behind with my new strap-on. We tried, the strap-on was not what I had hoped, although we will use it again because you need to keep trying to get it correct. That being said I still got him good, I got to spank him and got to run my nails up and down him to send him over the top.

It was a lot of fun! I had a great day with him. And with his job like it is I enjoyed having a bit of uninterrupted time with him!

Jackie

Public Spaces

So this will be sex in one of the vehicles.  We talked about XXXSX as a last resort (safe space), but I would really like to keep an eye out for some place a bit riskier. A 90% safe place that would add some real excitement that we really could be caught (even though I don't want to be).  Do we take out the seats of the van and put the blow up mattress in it?

Ok, I have to start out by saying that if allowed I would just walk around naked all the time.  Around the house, around town, to go shopping, etc, etc, etc.  I love being naked and have NO and I mean NO hang ups about being naked around other people.  In high school I was always the kid who jumped into the lake and skinny dipped while everyone else was drinking.  Never bothered me.  I'm overweight, I'm not anything great to look at, but I don't care, I LOVE being naked.

So with that said we added this to the list.  Now ultimately I'd like to have sex in a display window at the mall, but realize that's not going to happen.  So the next best thing is to go out and have sex outside of the house (no, not in a motel room).  I almost fainted when I saw Jackie hadn't scratched it off her Sexuary fetish list.  It's just now she's comfortable walking around the house naked when no one else is home.

So we have a spot we knew would be safe.  Ok, there was a very small chance someone would show up, but not really.  But we could be outdoors and have some great sex. Originally I figured Jackie would want to go in the cover of night, but it was her idea to go during the day...YIPPEEEE! I'm all in!  So I packed the tarp and a blanket and off we went.

Now I have to say I was a bit taken back when the buzzard was flying around at first checking us out.  No we're not dead, go away! Geez.  But we spent 45 minutes or so out there naked and having fun.  Next time I have to remember a pillow or two and a towel to wipe down before we get back dressed.  At least I'm hoping there will be a next time.

Several of the 'good things in life' all rolled into one great package today enjoying sex outdoors.

Dane

Sex in public spaces...while I know I am really not that type of person, I know Dane is.  He loves being naked, and would all day long if he could. He would live a nudist lifestyle if given the chance.  I on the other hand want a little on, its take almost 6 years to get to where I will even walk around the house naked if there is no one home.  Even now I still wonder...is there someone going to come knock on door? Our old house we had plenty of "Hiding" places to go if someone knocked, but in the new place not so much. 

So getting back to public spaces.  We talked and talked about the where we wanted to go.  We compromised and found a place.  A place we knew there prolly would not be anyone there but there was a small/slight chance someone might drive in.  So I get home from work today and Dane has all of the stuff packed in the little car.  I kinda freaked out since I had thought we were taking the van and were going to be in it.  I got myself collected and off we went.  We got to our spot and he laid out a tarp and a blanket.  That's it nothing else...I was like maybe you should have brought another blanket or something to cover us in? He being how he is really did not think it was that big of deal.  So we undressed and layed down.  Things got hot and heavy and orgasm were made.  He asked me about the Buzzard, I told him nope didn't see it...All in all it was nice, the weather was perfect! Temperature was in upper 70's, sun was totally out, a small breeze...I really could have laid there longer but we had to get back into the real world, and I was a bit concerned that "my girls" who don't usually see sunlight would get burned....

So all in all it was a great day, we did something out of the norm, and while I am not wanting to do that all the time, I would do it again.  IF I knew for certain we wouldn't be disturbed. 

WE are almost 3 quarters of the way through...I cant believe it! Wow what a month.  We have some great things on the calender for the rest of the month.  

Jackie.. 

Speculum and Anal

So let's order and purchase a speculum.  I want to look and play down below.  I'd really like one for your pussy and ass.  While it's in I plan on using your vibrator and watching what happens inside too. This is NOT about pain.  If I cum in your pussy I might want to look a second time to see the difference.  Do I need to dress up in a white coat and pretend to be a doctor?

Ok, because Jackie is finishing up with a yeast infection we decided to forgo this for the moment.  I didn't want to spread anything or rekindle what we are finally getting under control.  But I did want to explain this a bit in case we have to wait till next month to bring it back (cause eventually I will get to play doctor).

And that's probably the first of it.  I'm not really the medical type. I mean I know some medical things, but I'm not the one watching doctor shows and all.  But after watching the doctor use the speculum on Jackie during a check up after surgery was a bit of a turn on.  So we've ordered speculums for this.  I look forward to getting a peak in there.

So last night we got back into gear.  Nothing over the top special, but still was great to get both of us satisfied again.  We'll get back into our list today with Public Spaces, oh I can't wait.  And if todays doesn't happen this month it will just give me something to look forward to in March.

Dane

Speculum and Anal....Dane really wanted to do this.  We bought all the things we would need.  I know he has seen it being used when I have gone for my well woman checkups. I don't understand it but again this month is out of our box...so this will be out of the box.  Right now though until the yeast infection is gone I certainly don't want him lookin' at my insides 

LOL

However all this being said I did say the favorite words a man likes to hear from his wife...."I am horny!" All these days with getting some has been hell going without some...I didnt care if I still have the infection or not dang it I needed a release. So we got back on the horse last night!!! YEAH!! I got the release I needed and he did to...

Now bring on the "Public sex" day...as I bite my lip and fight with myself on all the what if's that could happen...

Jackie