Sexuary 2023 - Needle Play - Shadow Pictures

 So this day was going to be busy before we ever started out.  I would be out of the house by 530 in the morning and then meet Jackie about noon for a family gathering, in another town.  We'd be home late so I knew we couldn't plan any long term Once we got home though, I had some plans before we'd play. 

You see, I'm supposed to get a picture a day from Jackie.  While I like the sexy pictures, I wanted pictures of her feet, eyes, breast, sexy poses, maybe in lingerie, what ever she wanted to send me. A friend of mine had sent me a link to taking shadow photos.  I had tried them and pretty cool, so I wanted to try them with Jackie.  

The idea is you put a flashlight between the person and the wall and then take a picture without flash from the other side.  So we experimented with Jackie and the results were amazing.  To see the instructions I followed go here - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRwCmYeX/ 

But after taking pictures, t was time to move onto the next part, needle play. We decided to do a mandala of sorts.  While I'm not a perfectionist with needles, I'm getting much better aligning them for designs.  This design used 5 different size needles from 27 gauge and bigger.  

This design took about 30 minutes to do.  When I was done I always allow Jackie time to just live in the moment.  After a couple of minutes she asked me to come press on them.  After about 90 seconds of putting pressure on the needles with my hand spread wide, I let go again, and again, I sat on the bed and allowed her to be in the moment, where ever she goes in times like these. 

After a bit she was ready to have the needles removed.  One at a time (I've learned the lesson of trying to do more than one at a time) I pull them out.  In this case from the largest to the smallest.  This is part of the process and as such, part of the mental state that Jackie achieves     through needle play. When I'm done I cover her with a weighted blanket and darken the room.  Music plays in the background, and I lay back on the bed and wait till Jackie has fully gone through her subspace and comes back to Earth.  

Another day of Sexuary 2023 is done, and we've tried something new.  

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Picture Day - Day 19

A picture is worth a 1,000 words …and yours are worth 1,000,000 to me.  I  love your pictures. I love that you let me take pictures of you.  But the ones I love the most are the ones you send to me…..ok they are my favorite, but I still love ALL of them!!! I love seeing you dressed hot, half dressed, naked, or whatever..I love your pictures. – 143

So the last couple of years I've really been pushing Jackie to see herself the way I see her, as a sex goddess, who is beautiful and extremely hot to look at.  I LOVE her pictures when I can get them from her, but the pictures I take of her, the ones from my eyes, having her dress up sexy or otherwise in a setting or situation are the ones that I can show her how hot she really is.  

So at the advice of a friend a couple of years ago we started taking pictures.  We spend a day of her changing and putting on different things.  Some of the pictures come naturally. Some I stage.  This year I purchased a bunch of mirrors to add to many of the pictures we took.  We also had a friend join in the pictures and she took some of Jackie and myself too.  

The ladies put on their makeup and did their hair and got dressed.  The day was absolutely perfect, so we moved some of the props into the backyard, along with the ones already there and started taking pictures. I even took pictures of them getting ready, and more candid pictures throughout the day.  

Four hundred and twenty-one pictures latter the ladies decided they'd had enough. 

I downloaded the pictures and put them in my sharepoint library and then did a slideshow to look through them.  Many are close to the one before, but there's always that one that is better than the rest in the group.  Some of them are absolutely classic beauty in print.  These women are gorgeous and I was able to capture that many times through out the day. Some of the ones together are so great too.  

Why is this day always so important for us?  You have to KNOW your partner finds you sexy to really be sexy for them.  I can show Jackie what I see in her doing this.  She has no doubt I find her sexy and beautiful when she looks through the pictures I took throughout the day.  

Does your partner know you find them sexy?  How can you show them? This is just one way for us, but it's a very effective way.  You don't have to take 400+ pictures to do that....how about ask them to dress sexy for you and take 20 pictures on the bed with just a side light on? Ask them to move like if you were between their legs and make faces to show how good it would feel. With today's phone you can get much better pictures than we could with top notch cameras 20 years ago, and you know right away if you got the shot you want. Take more pictures if you need, but then show them how you see them in their sexy glory.  

Dane
 

Sexuary 2021 - Picture day

 

Let's face it, men are visual creatures.  We LOVE our women and we love seeing our women in various poses and when they go all out, wow, just wow. It's why Glamour Shots has done such a great business over the years. So today's draw was inspired by a couple of our friends. One takes some fantastically hot pictures and post them on Facebook.  The ones she'll send to Jackie to share with me are even hotter. FUCK they are hot.  So I was telling a friend how I wish Jackie would send me more pictures just here and there, randomly, just to tease me here and there. I love when she does that, and will continue to go back to that pictures for weeks sometimes. I save every one she sends me. This friend is starting her photography business in south Houston and wanted to do a day shoot with Jackie. Well that's a date we couldn't turn down. So after the 130+ pictures came out we knew this was going to be something we'd do again.  

So I drew 'Picture night…..dress up and pictures…maybe some play in between changes … lots of pictures with toys involved." I was SUPER excited!!! So I let Jackie know at lunch when we got home the she was going to get her picture taken when we got home.  

We started on her motorcycle out in the front yard, to include the boob shot while on her Harley.  We moved indoors and the attire got sexier. Wow, Jackie was looking good!.. Pictures started fully clothed, and ended up with my cock in her mouth and the camera still going.  Whew...ok, change of clothes and more pictures...then a couple of positions...a few cloths fall off...more cock sucking...lots more pictures...another change of cloths...more positions...me climbing on the bed to attach my hot wife...more pictures...fewer cloths...another change of cloths...move to the guest room..more cock sucking ...more pictures...and finally I couldn't take it anymore and after over 330 pictures I finished with a shot of my own.  WHEW...what a freaking hot session.  

I took pictures of Jackie up close, far away, very intimate, me in her mouth, and inside of her.  There was even a couple of selfies of the two of us when we were done.  Whew.  I have to say, it was extremely exciting.  It was exciting talking pictures of Jackie as she was having an orgasm, and catching that in pictures. It's even more exciting to know I have all these pictures to go through. I'm certain that I'll touch up a couple dozen of them to share, but I'll have all 330+ forever of my hot wife.

Your partner should always know you think they are hot!! One great way to do it is to take pictures of them ...and who knows where that might lead to...I know where it led to with Jackie and myself. It was one hot day in the bedroom. 

Dane

PS - Maybe later this month I'll add a couple of the photos..so peek back in if you're interested.

Sexuary 2017 - 50 Shades Darker

*Clearing throat out* Yes, that was a good movie.  Yes being one of maybe 3 men in a theater full of women who all, on several occasions, took a deep sigh in anticipation of the scene about to happen is quite....erotic. So I'm not sure why men wouldn't want to take their wife to see a movie like this.  Hell it wasn't that long ago this would of been considered a firm X-rated movie.  But seriously Jackie was cuddled tight during most of the movie and I loved that.  I think she'd of been in my lap if the seats were just a bit bigger. 

So first of all, they did a good job on the movie.  And if you read the books like Jackie and I did, you'll appreciate that they kept good with the books for the most part. Well done. And hot.  And sexy.  And  hot....did I mention hot?

So while we had to take a couple of days off of our sexcapeds for a small medical procedure, the post movie sex was extremely intense, and I'm certain I can thank Mr Christian Grey for that.  I'm also pretty sure that we'll be looking for a spreader bar in the near future to add to our collection of toys.  Oh my!!!

What to treat your significant other to a good time and set up a potential great night of sex?  Go see 50 Shades Darker!  Oh and guys, if you really want to hit it off you might want to review the Sexuary 2016 post on BenWa balls....and dinner with a little wine wouldn't hurt either.

Dane

Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie

Japaneese ropes, blind fold, feathers and nipple clamps to start.  Of course there will be dildos, fire (wax) or ice, or various other unrelenting actions while you're tied down. (done to Jackie)

So today was about sensations.  Either taking them away or enhancing them.  It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy.  This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do.  A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around.  A bucket of ice.  A candle.  A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.

In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance,  that you can strap someone down to the bed with.  In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe.  It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.

The blindfold is to take away an entire sense.  If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses.  If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.

I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed.  Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her.  I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin).  I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.

After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body.  A boa to tickle her.  Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples.  Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).

Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge.  The new sheets got a great christening.  I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation.  While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.

The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again.  The boa was new and she liked that too.  The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much.  We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved.  All of these things to enhance what we've already done.

So what could you do to stimulate your partner?  Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work.  Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away.  Either way you can have the time of your life.

I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day.  We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day.  There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.'  This year we've planned every day out.  We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of.  But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.

Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way.  I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous.  But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for.  I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do.  Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning.  I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month.  All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.

I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are.  That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us.  I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged.  But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with.  Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen.  A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones.  But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget.   The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top.  After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at.   It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on.  I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me. 

Dane


Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited.  I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin.  I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.

So the afternoon started with some anxiety.  I was nervous yet excited.  I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits.  I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok.  So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.

I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready.  However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too.  He walked me upstairs, blindfolded.  I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were.  He then took me and strapped me down.  He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place.  It takes alot of trust...I mean  A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you.  That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough. 
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings.  It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.

Lingerie, Dance, Tease

So day 2 of our Sexuary journey starts.  The calendar posted on the back of our bathroom wall reads - Lingerie, Dance, Tease.  YEAH!

Look, over the years my wife has had her ups and downs on how she feels about herself.  She's a BBW and I'm great with that, but she's not always so great.  But there are times she can get into a groove and she's jusr freaking HOT! All day she can have me running around like a little puppy ready to hump her at any given moment.  Those are the days she feels sexy and teases me.

It might be a picture sent to my phone of her in her lacy panties and bra (her matching purple ones on day 2 were devine).  It might be the text she sends saying, 'remember the time I did .....?  well who knows what could happen tonight'.  It might be she just comes in and flashes me then sits down like it's nothing.  It could be that my zipper gets unzipped and for 60 seconds I'll get a blow job and then with a smile I'll get "more where that cums from later."  or just as good coming out of the bath laying on the bed and giving me 60 seconds to get her all wet before she pushes me away and tells me I'll have to wait to finish..that was just the appetizer.  Every time she makes physical contact, text me, or walks into the room now becomes a game.  She wants to know she still has what it takes to make me hard.  She does!

So I put this day on the calendar.  First because I LOVE the tease, and second because Jackie looks HOT when she dresses up sexy for me.

She started the morning off as we were getting dressed in her closet.  That's not normal for her, so I knew she was up to something.  Don't worry, her closet is a small office, so plenty of room.  And honestly I was a bit disappointed when she came out all dressed ready to go.  Really, where's the dress up?  And then she did it, at the door as we're ready to walk out she lifts up her shirt and says, "oh I've got something special on" and flashes me her purple, lacy bra and panties set, and then walks out the door.

Ahhhh...wait a minite..I'm suppose to get to feel those up and ...and ...and ....the tease was on!

I got text through out the day, and a couple of pictures with various poses of her in her bra and panties as she went to take a bath.  Another pictures just so I knew she still was wearing her lacy stuff after the bath.  DAMN she was HOT. I had a perpetual hard on that was ready to be played with and she made me wait ALL DAY LONG! It wasn't till after 9 she finally sat in my lap and said it was time to go upstairs.  Do you know how wet my jeans got throughout the day from all of her teasing?

                                                  Picture Jackie sent me from her bath

Ok, I know everyone knows guys are visual oriented.  We like to see things.  A picture of a leg in the bathtub is good for a few strokes, trust me on this.  Ok, I have a slight fetish for the foot too, so I get a double whammy with this picture.

So when the covers get pulled up and I get free reign, I'm thinking about all the teasing that's been going on.  Her text and flashing me.  I'm thinking about the half a dozen pictures on my phone that only I get to sneak glances at.  I'm thinking of her shaveness that I was able to do yesterday and ....whew...where's a cigarette?

I'm betting most women have a set of bra and panties, or a baby doll or something that makes them feel sexy that has been sitting in the bottom of their drawn forever.  Hell I don't ever remember seeing this purple set Jackie had on yesterday, and we've been together almost 10 years.  And I'm not naive enough to think that she feels sexy all the time, as I stated before I know she doesn't.  But I see her as my sexy lady.  It doesn't matter what mood she's in, it only takes a wink, a caress, a flash, a whisper in my ear, a provocative text to my phone and she's got me hooked!  Guys think their wives are sexy regardless of your mood.  Regardless of how much laundry has to be done, and regardless of our finances.  Jackie is my one constant that will keep me going when nothing else seems to be going right, and I know it's not always easy for her.  It's not natural for her to feel sexy all the time.  She doesn't feel 'worthy' of my doting and panting, and being like a teenager ready for sex, but she does it for me.  And I think (and I'm sure she'll tell you later) then when she allows it to happen, it makes her feel good too.  For at least a moment she does feel sexy, and worthy and all those things  I KNOW she is.

So day 2 is crossed off the calendar and we're on to day 3.  Oh day 3...that's should be an interesting one.

Dane

Day 2...Lingerie, Dance, Tease,  man this really made me super nervous..I am not sure why but it did.  I know he loves me just the way I am but I still have my self doubts...I often wonder why in the world he loves my body when there are days I HATE my body! I sucked it up and went into my closet to find something..I have a slew of bras and panties...I have pushem' up bra's..I have lacy bras...stripped bras you name it I have them.  I personally like the pushem' up bra because my girls are big and this bra puts them where they should be not where mother nature has them hanging..He hates those bras! Hates them...so for today I went with a lacy purple bra and matching boy shorts(which fit a bit like wide thong on a BBW) and quickly get dressed in a non sexy outerwear...Partly becuase all my lower cut front shirts would show the bra all the time.  And while Im ok with it when we go out of town for some reason, I am not ok with it in town where we live...I stepped out into the bedroom where he was dressing and I could see  little dissapointment but its my day to tease, I can make this last all day...I decided to lift my shirt and show the bra and just pull on side of pants down to see they matched as I walked out the door.

After lunch, I really wanted another bath...I love love love baths..so I decided to take a few pictures to send to Dane while he was working....WE have a full length mirror in our bedroom so I played around taking pictures....I sent him 3 with texts teasing about what might happened.  He tells me I am making him hot and wet...he asks me if he has told me I was hot...I told him "Ummm I well I'm not sure..you can tell me again..in case I missed it" So he did...several times...I would text back things of what I have done before to him...An awesome blow job...a night of great hotel sex even if we were at home. I knew our kids would be leaving for the weekend so we could have some uninterupted time.

I get into my bath, and see all those bubbles, I decided to take a picture of my view and send to him.  There is something sensual and sexy when it comes to bubbles...I love a good bubble bath..its usually where I shave my pussy for Dane, its our "Pavlov Dog theory" (I take a nice hot bath, shave my pussy and he gets a great night of sex) I think we have only have had a few times where we haven't.  The picture above is the one I sent him.

I continued to text him little teases through out the rest of afternoon and evening...It was almost 9 when I decided to "get things rollin' " I went to the bathroom and came out with no clothes on.  I did a twirl for him...then went and just sat on his lap...its still hard to "be sexy" it really goes moment by moment for me.  We kissed and decided to move up to our room.  Once there I played with him hairless chest, and worked my way down to give him a blow job.  I moved around after a bit and he asked if I wanted him to eat me or what...I told him he needed to check out his shaving...if he did a good job...he went down and ate me out, while I did a hand job on him.  I know this was just a "normal" night of sex but I did enjoy the teasing of him.  Its a nice to know that after the many years we have been together I can still turn him on with a text, a kiss, or a wink.

What have you done for your partner? Have you reminded them that you find them sexy? Have you done something to let them know you feel sexy for them? Its amazing how a sexy bra and matching panties can make you feel even when your in your mom jeans or sweat pants...try it you might like it...
Jackie