Sexuary 2023 - Futo and Nipple Play

 

For those of you who read the blog regularly, you know I had Jackie's nipples pierced for her in Sexuary 2021.  It was something she had wanted, and we went to a trusted piercer that we have known for years and has even taught us a lot about needle play too.  

One thing about new nipple piercings is that it takes a good 6+ months to totally heal.  It's weeks before they quick hurting, and months and months before they are truly healed to the point you can safely pull on them more than just a little.  

So before Sexuary, I spoke with Jackie about pushing her nipple limits and if you will nipple torture for a new pain center.  She said that would be fine, so I planned it. 

First I ordered some rings for Jackie's nipples.  Normally she wears bars and that's fine, but I felt for what I wanted rings would work best. 

This morning I gave them to her and had her put them in.  I put her on the cross and tied a rope through each of the nipple hoops.  I then pulled, twisted and spanked her nipples.  I flogged her breast, I used a riding crop on her breast, all while blind folded and her strapped to the St. Andrews cross.  She was so excited she creamed on me twice when I bent her over and started in on her.  

Our plans for tonight canceled, and so I told her she had plenty of time, and she went and took a long bath reading a good book.  When she was done, I started tying up her legs, both of them, tight!  With both legs fully tied up I took advantage of her until her one leg that she's had issues with started to bother her.  We continued on until the 2nd leg gave her issues.  At this time I untied her 2nd leg and we laid on the bed.  

When we were laying on the bed, Jackie asked me to put the rope back through the rings so I could again give her pleasure with the nipple rings.  

I again started pulling on her nipple rings.  I pulled up, I pulled down, I slowly pulled one at a time and I would pull both.  I never yanked, but I would pull hard and hold it for a good length of time until her breathing would change or something like that would happen.  I fingered her twice to major orgasms.

When she was done, I finished on her breast, I felt like they deserved the spoils of the win tonight.  This is NOT something I do very often, but today it seemed very fitting.  

She is tender but not really hurting. She enjoyed the pain and liked the pulling hard on her nipples today.  It's something else we'll add to our bag of fun. 

Dane 

Sexuary 2023 - Upper Harness Roping

 

We've really been working on rope.  We use to do rope every week for date night on Mondays, and somewhere along the way it's been dropped.  Oh occasionally we'll do a quick tie, but we use to do lots of suspension and all the ties that goes with it.  So we're a long way from where we were.  

Friday after dinner we broke out the ropes and started a harness.  Last time I had put to much pressure where Jackie had surgery. So this time I made sure that there would be no pressure there. 

I put on a top harness and then came down to her belly and did a few more wraps.  

Now, when I put her on the bed, the bottom ropes all gathered up on her belly, but the upper ropes all stayed put.  It was very distracting to me and a bit disappointing.  After a few minutes of playing I pulled Jackie up to pull the ropes off.  

She enjoyed the ropes, I was frustrated.  

It means I need to practice more on my ties and stays to keep ropes in place. Jackie would actually maybe start a weekly zoom/online session where were work with others to teach and learn.  Maybe, we'll see. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Texas Kink Fest

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Sexuary 2023 - Rope Play

 On Friday Jackie's sister was coming to spend the night for a big day the next night  We had a bit of time between getting off of work and her family showing up.  I decided it was a good day for some rope play.  

I was able to create a harness and cupcake tie (tie the breast up so they flare a bit at the end) and laid her on the bed and started making out with her.  Unfortunately, because of her new implant she wasn't able to stay in that position roped up for long.  We had to stop and untie her before we could continue on. 

I will admit, that threw me off having to stop like that and then start back up.  Jackie persisted and We made the night work, but it's something I'll have to remember.  The implant in her back is new, so still having to figure that all out.  

If you're interested in roping, there are great youtube videos.  One of my favorite sites is crashrestraint.com. You can look on Fetlife and find a local roping group too, that's how Jackie and I got started.  

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - In the Aftermath Needing a Reset

 

Even when you conscientiously put sex into your life, there are lulls, rough spots, and routines that just seem to drift into play.  Jackie and I are no more immune from those than anyone else.  During those times we'll take a day or a weekend to reset things.  We'll have a mini Sexuary of sorts. 

 This was the case a week or so ago.  Seemed we were a bit out of sync, things were getting 'normalized' and we needed to shake things up. So after breakfast we hit the sack for a first round of sex.  Good and satisfying, but was even more satisfying was when I told her the entire day, 2 hours after we finished I expected her in the bedroom and ready for another round of something.  I let her know that round 2 would include anal play and if she needed to do something for that please do. 

 Two hours later we were back at it.  Scratching, and some of her favorite impact devices followed by my spending a good time in her ass and both of us having huge orgasms.  "You've got 2 hours from now to be ready" I reminded her.  

Two hours later I had the ropes ready and I tied her up and let her spend a bit of time in her subspace before attacking her mouth first and before going down and finishing up inside her. "Two more hours" I again reminded her.  

I gave her an option this time.  She decided she wanted some needle play.  Again, after her design was done I gave her an orgasm or two and then let her drift into subspace for a bit.  Afterwards we masturbated and both were finished for the day.  

By then, it was well after 8 and we were done for the day.  But in the mean time my blood pressure dropped several points as I became more and more content with life.  Our closeness again closed in and "WE" were in a good place.  

Yes it took some effort on both of our parts.  Yes we were both pretty worn out after 4 or 5 hours of sex throughout the day.  Yes it was worth every bit of it!!!

 Sometimes you really have to just mix it up to reset everything and that's exactly what we did.  You can do something similar.  Maybe it's 2x today ...maybe you do it like we did every 2 hours after we finished... come up with your own, but do something to get out of that rut.  It's only July and a long way till Sexuary comes back around, but every day can be sexuary when both of you are willing to work together to make it that way. 

 Dane 

Sexuary 2022 - Rope - Day 6

 

It’s true you know…. I really do still dream about things to do with you. - 143

Please remember to send me a (or more) sexy pictures of you today….also that 1 day during the month you’ll let me know before we play that today will be an ass day (I’ll move thing around after that day and have an empty space to fill at the end). 

Rope is something Jackie and I have played with for several years now.  It provides us with lots of things we need.  There is trust, there is a peace that comes from the submission of being roped. There is power in watching the model submit and knowing you are in charge of their safety and pleasure.  That they've submitted to it and trust yo to provide them what they need. 

We've been trained by some of the best in Austin over the years.  Austin Rope Slingers   is a great group if you happen to be in Central Texas.  There are groups all around, and we recommend you find one if you're looking to learn roping.  There are lots of ways things could go wrong if you don't know what you're doing.  

So tonight I decided to take a new position that Jackie had seen and keep going.  A basic torso harness but with her arms tied in like a Futomoto and to her side. Normally a FUTO would be for your legs, but the tie worked great for her arms and then I tied the wrapped arms to her torso harness so she couldn't move them.  

I then placed Jackie on the bed and Futo/d her 2 legs.  Once they were all tied up, I then ran a rope around the frame of the bed and pulled her legs apart, stretching her to her limit and left her there for a minute to just be in the moment.  

Then I made it sexual.  I attacked her with my tongue first then things went from there.  She couldn't move and was at my mercy.  The huge wet spot when we were finished proved I was right in my decision to use rope tonight.  Afterwards I let her just lay in the ropes till she was ready to be untied.  Her comment, "I'd forgotten how peaceful rope can be."...and we both know it can very well be.

We took pictures of the rope marks for memory and day 6 was in the book. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Tied up…face fucked…then fucked hard

 

I don't know many guys who don't picture his woman on her knees with his cock in her mouth at some time or another.  When I put this one into the pile, that's what I was thinking about. Jackie, all tied up, blindfolded, and sucking me off.

I wanted to try something new, but doubling up the ropes with 2 colors.  I put a basic harness on and then split the ropes at the end to tie up her arms.  I then lowered her to the floor and then slowly started part her lips and slide in and out.

I LOVE a great blowjob, and seeing Jackie all tied up and on her knees just added that much more to the excitement of it all.  I'm not one for grabbing a partners head while receiving like that, so this is about as 'in control' as I get in these situations.  Don't worry, I'm not one for gagging or choking Jackie, but I love having that control for a change. 

Once I was in a good place I picked Jackie up and bent her over the bed, still tied up and gave her what she liked this time.  After a while we climbed up on the bed, and we tried a new position, the Mongolian Smurf.  Don't ask me where it got it's name from, but it actually worked out pretty good for me. It didn't work to bad for us.  Definitely good for penetration if you're looking for a new position this might be one for you. 

As the jar I get the daily fun from dwindles, and Sexuary is waning, we are still having fun, and still learning new things.  With so many new and interesting sexual things to learn, why would anyone want to keep doing the same old thing, getting bored with your sex life, and not trying to bring something new to your partner and your life? This is the whole reason we enjoy Sexuary so much, it's always a time to try new things and without judgement from each other figure out if we like the new things or not. You don't have to start so grandiose, but hopefully our blog will give you the courage and information you need so that you can make a difference in your sex life. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Rope Play

So rope is something that Jackie and I got into during Texas Kink Fest 2018.  We've since found groups like Austin Rope Slingers and websites like Crash Restraint that have kept us going since then.  For Christmas this year I even got a mannequin so I can rope without Jackie (though it's definitely not the same as roping a real person).  

Today I drew that we were to play with rope.  Nothing specific, just rope.  So I decided to put a small harness on Jackie and then tying her legs up and her hands to her legs.  So I put a new harness on Jackie, one we hadn't done before, but I had seen.  It didn't tie her arms up at all, but did secure her breast. I do this often, I look at Shibari pictures, and ones I think I'm capable of doing, or capable of figuring out how to do it, then I save them into a folder for later scrutiny.  I enjoy figuring out how the ropes lay and what knots go where.  I've actually figured out some pretty complicated knots over time.  

I recently wrote the following for a magazine to describe roping, I hope you'll appreciate roping a bit more: 

When I rope with Jackie, my world narrows to this little space we’re in. Her breath, her heartbeat, her littlest twitch, or nod of her head are all caught by my senses. Getting her to ‘her place’ is my goal every time. That place subs go when they let the ropes hold them tight, secure, and they know they are in the safest place on earth, and all they must do is be in the moment. The joy is knowing I’ve met those needs, kept her safe and brought her back.  The world around us doesn’t exist for that short time. People can come and go, but I only hear her breath, I only see her body as she melts into my ropes. It’s a huge lift to my soul to know I’ve taken her to the most peaceful place on earth…and that she trust me enough to do that.  -Dane/56/4 years roping

Then the after math is just as important for me.  When I self rope I love the feeling of rope on my body, but the rope marks it leaves when I'm done is sometimes even better.  That bite that reminds you for hours is some of the best parts. You rub your leg or sides and can just float back into that zone. It's an awesome feeling. 

We hope our blog has given you some ideas of what to bring into your bedroom and make a change to your sex life. We do this blog so people know it's ok to WANT to do other things in the bedroom then what you're doing, and lastly we want you to know how to do some of this safely, or how to go about learning about what you want to learn about. If you have an idea for us email us or send us a comment. 

Dane

Resources for Jute rope, it's what I use to tie Jackie, myself, and my mannequin with and I love these 2 vendors:

MyNawashi  - https://www.etsy.com/listing/250064748/pink-shibari-rope-bondage-kit?ref=related-4

Rope Bound Kitten - https://ropeboundkitten.net/