Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Sexuary 2018 - Texas Kink Fest

This year we were invited to the Texas Kink Fest and decided to go.  Who else would be our kindred spirit but a group of kinksters that were open and would talk and demonstrate about their kink?

So before I get to far, I want to tell you want it wasn't.  It wasn't a massive orgy with sex every where you looked.  And while there was plenty of nudity, there was less than at Hippie Hollow or other nudist camps.  Yes, some of us were nude all the time, some were half dressed, and some never took off a stitch of clothing.  So if you are looking into one of these and think you're going to a Roman orgy you're going to be sorely disappointed.

Now on to what it was.  This was a weekend that people with kinks could display their skills, discuss their desires, and learn from others.  There were several classes each day that you could attend.  There were demonstrations, and there was entertainment all provided throughout the weekend.

There were classes Jackie and I attended together, like the ropes 101 class, and there were several we took separately. It was a safe environment, and I knew Jackie would be safe in any of the sessions there alone. 

Their Dungeon was to die for.  Mr. Grey could of taken a lesson from the setup.  It was available for you to try out, and use.  If you were looking for a piece of furniture for your Dungeon they probably had one for you to try, and WANTED you to try it out.  Thank you TKF for that experience!  People would watch respectfully as a scene went on and would just move on afterwards.  

The rope work that was both taught and demonstrated was just fantastic!  We learned a few new knots.  We learned a new way to tie Jackie up that would relieve some of the stress on her shoulders.  We learned we really want to learn a hell of a lot more about ropes!! We also saw one of the most sensual performances where one young lady used ropes to suspend another young lady.  No one in the audience dared to take a breath in fear of missing something.  It was so erotic, so sensual, so spectacular.  

We saw other demonstrations on flogging.  We saw people in their "pup" personas.  We saw a couple with collars being walked around.  We saw needles and hook and so much more.  All was done respectfully and none judgemental.  It was a place a person could go and practice their kink, learn more about their kink, and teach others about their kink.  

Now Jackie and I have learned there are things not for us, beyond one or the others limits.  But we can also appreciate their desire for their kink and appreciate the beauty in things we wouldn't try ourselves.  

If you find yourself with an opportunity to attend such a weekend, we highly recommend it. It was a great time and we look forward to next years Kink Fest, May 2 - 5, 2019


Monday, March 5, 2018

Sexuary 2018 - Being Tied Up

So life kind of got in the way of Sexuay 2018.  We'd gone through 4 months of family issues and weren't able to celebrate like we normally do.  But that doesn't mean we won't try to do something later this year for a couple of weeks or a month.  It also doesn't mean that we haven't had some fun in the mean time pushing limits again.

In the past I've done some light tying up and BDsm.  We've played with cuffs that Velcro to sheets, and Japanese ropes to tie her hands, but to give full trust like this is something new for Jackie.  This weekend Jackie gave me permission to go all out and no limits with the rope, something that has literally been 2 decades since I've had that opportunity and I wasted no time getting excited and start planning.  New rope was purchased and the blood was flowing. Jackie was very apprehensive.
When we started it was almost a bit comical.  My rope skills have definitely slacked over the years.  I couldn't get anything to stay tight.  After a couple of attempts though things started to tighten up and stay in place.  Her breast were tied tight with nipple clamps placed on her nipples. Then her arms were tied behind her back, all while on her knees and blind folded.  She was a beautiful site.  A trusting wife who went well beyond her boundaries and learned she had a new limit.
Ok, so my rope work still has lots to be desired, but you have to admit she is beautiful all tied up like this.  When we were finished we took a break, I rubbed her shoulder and we just relaxed.  I'll fill you in on more of our weekend adventure soon.  But what did it take?  I purchased some 3/16" rope that was nice and soft (100 ft) and a willing partner.  That's it. 
So I've heard it time and again about BDsm and its' many subcategories that's it's just about abuse.  While it could be without 2 loving, trusting people, it's far from it when done the right way. BDsm is about bringing 2 people closer.  The trust between 2 people to perform this type of act is incredible. The literally "giving of oneself" is giving everything can only brings you closer when done right.  The accepting that gift and taking on that responsibility opens up parts that just doesn't happen in ordinary sexual relationships.  It took a lot for Jackie to open up and allow me to tie her up like that.  But she's come a long way over the years where just tying up her her hands was a push for her.  Me? I'll have to make sure I didn't break that trust in any way. You have to know your partner and their deepest fears and joys.  In my case, I made sure her hands were the last to be tied making it easier on her.

From here? I've already remembered some of the things I didn't do right that would of made the ties better.  I will probably do a bit of research making sure that next time the comical side of our encounter doesn't happen again.  Also we talked about a couple of things that would make it more enjoyable for both of us.  We didn't get to 'celebrate Sexuary 2018', we definitely had a Sexuary type weekend (so yeah, more to come).