Sexuary 2017 - Touching

So I think all of us get to the point after that honeymoon phase that we forget there is more to romance than that time we lay down in bed and make out.  Oh there we're good at touching the right parts and doing everything we can to get to where we want to go but we forget that the best foreplay starts when we get up in the morning and runs all day.  When we were first dating we knew that.  Kissing was hot.  The sex was hotter.  But all day long we touched and teased and do something that would lead up to our significant other being ready and more than willing to participate in our night time ritual.

 

Jackie and I are working on that this year.  Now we've been married 10, going on 11 years.  We've had 4 teenager boys in the house (hers and mine), that have more than interfered with our desires to run around like banshees, naked and uninhibited sexually.  So what happens? Well we slack off.  We do what we HAVE to so that we can get some results in the bedroom, but we don't really work at it.  For us, Sexuary 2017 has become about remembering that and acting upon it.  Oh I promise there will be good sex, and LOTS of it, but part of the reason for it will be that we've started out with remembering to do more than hop in bed and roll around in the sheets.  

For example yesterday, day 2 of Sexuary, we started out in the shower together.  Now part of that is great because we've both been through a transformation this year in our weight.  Over 100 lbs have been shed between the two of us, and while in the shower we get to put our hands all over each other.  What a nice start to the morning.  

At night  After work I cleared off the sofa.  I just did it, didn't say anything, I just cleared it off.  Then I sent a couple of provocative 'pssssst' messages to Jackie and invited her to come join me on our couch (normally we both sit on our own lazy-boy) and I would massage her feet and legs as we watched TV together.  For about 40 minutes she received a massage with no expectations, no payments, no one getting off later, but she got my attention and a nice massage.  

But it didn't stop there, she did thank me for the nice foot massage, and I replied with, "thanks for letting me feel you up. hehehe".  Ok, so I wanted her to know I LIKE having my hands on her bare, naked skin.  I love touching her as much as she loves being touched.  We just haven't made the time and efforts like we used to.  Geez, I had to clean off the couch, which guys some wives would consider just as romantic as the foot massage...just saying, and then massage her feet and legs...and hour of my time and efforts, for what?  So that she KNOWS I'm thinking about her even when there is no sex involved. Now that can get sexy quickly. 

She on the other hand sent me this little quip the other day.

Ok, it's no secret if you've read my blog I LOVE my butt touched all she wants.  It was exciting for me when she sent that.  Why? Because I know she had to be thinking of me when she saw it and sent it to me. No sex.  No toe curling sex.  Just a bit of a tease during the day.  It could of easily passed right past her and be gone, but she took the time to send it and then send me a text with it.  So I was thinking about my butt being touched by this wonderful wife of mine for the next hour or so.  That's hot!

So here we are Sexuary 3rd now, do something special today for your significant other. Nothing expected in return. Your gratification comes in knowing you did something special for them. Touch, rub, feel, listen, not say that thing you were going to,....something....we can do this! And in the end, when you practice the all day foreplay.....well let's just say you never know where it could lead too.

Dane

Jackie here...Dane is right...life has been so busy for us in the last 2 years...new jobs...loss of jobs...kids moving away...new grandbaby...its just been crazy...We have forgotten those beginning times when he or I would text each other and it would send chills.  When he first started the calendar I just didn't get it.  Confusion I guess would be the right word, but after talking about it, it made sense although I did screw up the first day but hey we are back on the band wagon...lol

Ladies, have you thought back on what made you fall in love with your significate other?  What made you want him/her?  What was it?  Some of us have been together a long time and its hard to remember.  Trust me its there, way back in the filing cabinet of our brain...Look back in that box, see it...touch it....bring it forward....lets leave it forward for the month...and remember the kink...or the over and above the norm.... #sexuary #touchie #feelyourpartnersbutt #toucheachother

Jackie

Sexuary 2017

Ok, it's 24 days till Sexuary 2017. Anyone else thinking/doing anything?

Jackie and I have just finished up our calendar. Of course there is plenty of kink involved (cause that's who we are), but we are actually trying something different this year. While the sex and kink will be several days a week (no 28 days straight this year but we are looking about 4 days a week), everyday, above and beyond the sex itself will be a 5 - 15 minutes of intimate touching.

For us that could be making out, it could be a short massage, it could be some intimate touching. maybe some licking or the like.  And timers will be set, not so much for a minimum, but for a maximum. Why? We want this to be as much of a tease and a time of excitement as it is about sex. We want to remember how excited we can make each other even when we know sex is not going to happen right then. We want to be thinking of the other person and that they still have 'that touch'. I expect there will be a few hickies during Sexuary. A horrid price to pay I know. hehehe Seriously, I know we try on days we know we are having sex, but we wanted to push that this Sexuary.

So anyone else got anything going?  Oh and the kink and sex?  I'm sure you'll be reading about our adventures if you follow this blog, the good, the bad and the orgasmic.

Dane

Oils and Massages

Normally I would post our calendars explanation here, but because of crazy scheduling we had to move the Dom/sub to next week and come up with another one that wouldn't take all day and wouldn't wake up the kids.  So Jackie came up with rubbing oils on me and giving me a mini massage.

I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday.  !@#$%  Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday.  I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday.  So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around.  Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can".  Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved.  After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday.  Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.

So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom.  It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.

I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me.  I've had lots of massages but never with oils.

First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect.  I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that.  She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation.  Pretty cool!

I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me.  She teased certain areas as she passed by.  She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot.  Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body.  I love that intimate touch.  It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that.  I love anytime Jackie caresses me.  The oils are just a bonus.  The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus.  Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.

Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great.  At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep.  Who could want any more than that?

Dane

Man what a day.  We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way.  I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit.  I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day.  So I thought about it all day.  I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.  

I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged.  I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body.  I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.  

I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together.  It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)

Jackie