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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Our Toy Chest




We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Life Getting in the Way

Geez, the best laid plans of mice and men just sometimes don't work out.  Life gets in the way.  It use to be worst when we didn't make intimacy a priority in our marriage. Then any excuse that came up would interfere with us becoming intimate.  Now it takes pretty major happenings to distract us from our planned Sexuary activities, even if it's a mini-Sexuary activity.  But yesterday, on the kick off day for this mini-Sexuary it happened, LIFE got in the way. UGGGHHHHHH!!!!!

One of the ideas of this mini-Sexuary was to take the last 2 weeks before the kids got out of school.  Sex is definitely less inhibited, a bit longer, and with a lot more energy when we can get together in the morning after the kids are at school, and we are blessed with the fact that our work allows us that opportunity most of the time.  Not yesterday.  Dang it! From about 10 seconds after the kids were gone the phone was ringing with one emergency or another.  And that went on all day long.  We barely got lunch together which is highly unusual.

I read on Christine Moers blog welcometomybrain.net where there are all kinds of "the kids take so much out of me", "we are just to busy", "I'm so tired after .....", "our schedules just don't make time" and I cringe and feel sorry for those couples.  Oh don't get me wrong, I've been there.  I made all those excuses at one time and I excepted them from my ex.  Not that was the only reason she is my ex, but that IS a part of the problem.  Jackie and I have made sure the 'excuses' aren't confused with the reasons.  When your priority is to make time with your spouse, and spouse alone, and to be intimate with them to strengthen your relationship, it will happen.  But it must be a priority or it is to easily pushed to the dark closet that will haunt a relationship every time the closet door is opened. 

So back to mini-Sexuary - our original plans just weren't going to happen.  When I got in bed I kind of expect a 'normal' sex night. But Jackie had other plans and made up for a messed up day with a fantastic blow job when I finally plopped into bed. Not an 'ok' or 'average' blowjob.  Not a "I'm warming you up for before we get going".  But one of those really special, all out OMG here I cum blowjobs.

You know, one of the things I've figured out is that when it comes to oral is different people like different things. Heck with Jackie what works today won't necessarily work tomorrow.  But I generally can read her breathing and moans to try to find the right spot, and I know Jackie does the same with me. 

I know a lot of guys like their head given a lot of attention, me, I like that ridge along the bottom side towards the base sucked on.  I also love the noises made. Slurps, gurgles, even the occasional gag all turn me on and send me over the top.  But I guess what I was really getting at was I've let Jackie know that's what I really like, and she's listened.  And I know it takes a lot to get me off with just a blowjob, so when Jackie goes all out like she did last night I love and appreciate her efforts!  Jackie is the only woman who has been able to really get me off orally. Only once in my life prior to Jackie was I ever able to finish by just oral. And while it's not an every day occurrence, when Jackie sets her mind to it, I know I'm in for a fantastic blow job and that she will finish the job! Oh my! *where is that cigarette?*

Don't get me wrong, I love when she uses oral for foreplay too, just to get me ready for the 'main event' but there is something special when she takes that to the next level like she did last night....and "LIFE" can kiss my ass, nothing is going to get in the way of this mini-Sexuary!!!

Dane