Sexuary 2024 - Masturbation

I hate it that life gets in the way of our Sexuary celebration every year, but because of it we learn to adapt.  This year Jackie got a new job, so things that were planned for the first full week got delayed, on this day, the 6th day of Sexuary 2024, Jackie had a meeting right after work, and I had a meeting at 630 - 730.  

So when I left Jackie I told her when she got in from her meeting, she needed to shower, and then when I got home I wanted her masturbating, and well on her way to her orgasms.  

When I walked into the house I could hear Jackie moaning and her vibrator doing it's job.  Jackie had done as she was told and was well on her way to her orgasm.  I quickly stripped and spread her legs as I went down and aided the vibrator with my tongue.  

Now I've heard people say,"you're married, you shouldn't masturbate," or "I should be enough for her," or something stupid like that.  If it works, and you both enjoy it, DO IT! It excites me to see Jackie excited.  I know her favorite toys get her excited and with my aid, she'll get even more excited.  And movies are great, but movies with popcorn are better.  Don't be afraid of using toys to make things better. Doesn't mean she doesn't like your dick, and most women I have talked to will say that the vibrators will do in a pinch, but dick is what they want, but both are over the top good (note, I know that doesn't apply to all women, so no hate mail please).  

So if my options are no sex, or jump start sex and have a good time, I'm going for the jump start, and having Jackie start without me was a great way to do that. 

When it's not Sexuary, there is nothing like walking into the house and hearing Jackie masturbating, knowing she's expecting me to run in there and join her, SHE'S asking for sex, and you can bet I'm going to join her ASAP every time!!!

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Jackie tops - Day 2

 Sexuary 2022 day 2 started off with an email from me - 

I love that even in your submissiveness, you will be a servant sub on days like today.  I LOVE days like today, and my ass can’t wait to be yours tonight. - 143

During the day Jackie sent me a couple of pictures, and while one didn't turn out like she wanted, it was still great to get a couple of pictures from her.  Something for me to drool over as the day went by. 

A couple of text through out the day about the excitement of what was to come without revealing anything, but encouraging the excitement and fun throughout the day.  

When work was done, she sent me to clean out my ass and get ready.  I did as I was told and thoroughly cleaned my ass out.  I then climbed into the bed and let her know my ass was ready. 

She ran her nails up and down my back, dragging them down and leaving good red streaks down my back.  They hurt soooo good!

She then came and took my ass with her fist.  Pushing as much as she could deep in my ass and feeling  my ass stretch nice and wide.  Again the pain was exciting and to say my cock got hard would be an understatement.  I kept stroking it hard while she worked my ass over and over.  

When she was done, she put a favorite vibrator in my ass and blew it up and turned the vibrator on high while she kept leaning into me, pushing it deeper and deeper.  

When I finally blew inside her, she set a new rule for the month, "that's the last time on your days (Wednesdays) that you can blow in my pussy.  You have to find some place else every other week."  She had offered to let me cum anywhere I wanted, but at the time I was ready to blow in her pussy and didn't want to open her ass for that short of a period...I'm ready to bury deep in her ass, and don't want hurt her for some 2 second job.  That day will come though! 

So I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when Jackie is in charge again, and what she has in store!

Ok so as a reminder Sexuary is been our annual exploration of sex between the 2 of us.  The original challenge was to do SOMETHING, ANYTHING different in the month of Sexuary that you normally wouldn't do.  For some that's have sex this month...or hold your partner even.  Some that try something different, sex in the kitchen, 2x in a day, we did 28 days straight, but do SOMETHING that you don't normally do.  It's your chance to break the endless cycle of sameness a relationship can easily slip into.  If you want to ask us about things, ask us here, or jackieanddane@gmail.com or DaneandJackie on Fetlife. We respond to eveyone, though it might take us a few to get back to you. 

Happy Sexuary 2022
Dane

 

Sexuary 2020 - Roll Playing

One of the things Jackie and I aren't the best at is talking during sex. Occasionally there are some sounds, but we're really not much of talkers during sex. We have a friend how has bragged about her roll playing sexcapades, so I decided to throw that into this sexuary.

I got the room ready, had brought in everything needed to play doctor and told Jackie what to wear (a skirt and shirt with no panties or bra.

The annual exam included breast exam, reflex exam (using the wartenberg wheel of course), then of course the speculum went in and then I had to test her orgasmic reflexes using her vibrator. For the record she passed with flying colors. I then used a soft sound and got it about 3" in and then decided to use a steel sound.  Yeah that didn't work so well for Jackie. But hey we learned. I then did a little fisting on her using gloves (no better than without gloves). We ended up by the doctor taking advantage of his already orgasmic patient, bending her over the exam table, lifting her skirt and taking advantage of her. 

We had to communicate during the 'exam' portion, still not great during the sex part, but hey it was definitely something different for us.

We tried 2 new thing with the roll playing and the sounds on her. I know the sound wasn't a big thing for her, and maybe another time we'll try it.  The roll play was a bit awkward, but I think if we did it a couple more times it could get better. I told her I have it scheduled 1 more time this month with a different scenario, so we'll see.

Dane

Sexuary 2015 - Repairing a Vibrator

So as Sexuary 2015 came around and we looked at our toys we found several that the batteries had corroded and weren't working (sad we have so many that we neglect some of ours).  Because of the number of vibrators we have there are times we leave batteries in way to long.  What happens then?  Well the batteries corrode and the vibrator doesn't work anymore.  Investment wasted!  I've created this video to help you repair some of your vibrators.  While this video specifically shows the type where lids can be removed the same principles can be used on any vibrator that the batteries have corroded and got acid in the compartment.

Total cost to save 3 vibrators just over 20 cents.  YEAH!!! And we've used 2 of them since we fixed them. SCORE!!! Sexuary 2015 is in full swing here.

Do you have a better way or a trick to fixing your vibrators?  Share them below or email us at jackieanddane@gmail.com

Sexuary 2015 - Vibrators

So I remember sitting on my grandmothers sofa and pulling a red box out of the basket she kept with her crap in it.  When I opened up the box there was a white hard plastic vibrator that took 2 D-cell batteries and had a twist control on the bottom, in it.  Grandma would pull it out sometimes and rub it over her shoulder when she was tense.  In later years I did my best not to think where else that vibrator might have gone.  My mom had the very same vibrator in her top dresser drawer next to the Vaseline bottle. Todays toys are not your mamas toys.  They are made from several different materials, that have every shape and size imaginable, and some have some very specific purposes that grandma and mom never had the opportunities to enjoy.  Add to the fact that now we no longer have to go into a very seedy looking place to purchase one, the current sexually active adult has a new world in front of them when it comes to vibrators, dildos, and other devices for sexual enhancement.
 

Except for color exactly like grandmas and my moms

So as Sexuary 2015 officially gets underway, we’re going to be talking about these great toys.  We’re going to talk about what’s out there. It will be up to you to take that information and ask yourself how is it going to make Sexuary even better than normal?  Last year was about “Me”…seems maybe this group would of applied well back then too, but this is 2015 and sex toys aren’t just for the loaner who is playing with themselves. 

 I’ve been a huge lover of sex toys for a long time. With my first wife I would go into those seedy places and bring home a toy for her.  When I started dating Jackie we would go to the Megaplexxx and pick out a new toy to take back and try it out.  Our first one was a Beyond 2000.  It was like a rabbit, but much stronger.  The head went round and round, the center section had some rotating balls and there was a clit massager all in 1 package.  Jackie was devastated when the cover started to come apart.  But it was the start of our collection together. 

Jackie's Vibrator Collection

So since we started with a vibrator I thought we’d talk about vibrators to start with.  I generally break them down into a couple of categories – Grandmas old plastic one, the rabbit style, the plug in ones,  eggs and bullets.    Honestly we’ll probably have to do 2 parts on this, but we wanted to get started.

So let's face it, even in our high tech collection of vibrators, we have an old fashion, glow in the dark plastic vibrator.  It was Jackie's very first vibrator ever.  Honestly it's very easy to clean and you keep the batteries up to date and fresh and it runs 3/4s of forever.  But they're ridged and not flexible. So vendors added a cover on them and bingo you've got a softer version of the same vibrator (note the purple and blue ones above). The new softer ones need a bit more to keep them clean, there are crevasse you have to watch for, and I've even seen if the vibrator was left on to long that some of the rubber will melt, or be so soft that when you set them down you'll get a flat spot on them.  But I have to admit they are pretty simple to use, and even in the heat of the moment a simple twist of the bottom and you're on or off.

Sex in the City - Habit Rabbit

So then comes along Sex in the City and brings a new line of vibrators hit the drawers of women across the nation.  These high tech devices get the woman inside and out all in one swift move.

Most of these dual devices have multiple switches and controls, and there are times you need 4 hands to operate them to their full potential.   The Beyond 2000 that I purchased Jackie as our first toy together gave us hours and hours of fun. 

So let's look at these vibrators and their parts.  Most of these heads will spin or rotate, and the center section, the beads in the middle of the rabbit on the right, often time spin, and the clit vibrator is suppose to hit help achieve that orgasm that can't be achieve vaginally.  Here are a couple of things that Jackie and I have learned when checking these out.  First a lot of the cheaper ones, not necessarily less expensive, the shaft and the center sections will quit spinning with just a little bit of pressure put on them.  What does that mean?  It means that as soon as they are inserted in or any level of pressure vaginally and well, the toy becomes nothing more than a dildo.  So when you're checking them out wrap your hand around them and squeeze just a bit, if they quit spinning go on to the next one.  Second is the clit vibrator portion.  Some of these are oddly angled and even on high they barely have enough vibration to do much good.

When these first came out woman had to save a lot of grocery money to get one.  $120 - $200 was pretty normal.  Now a days you can find them starting in the $30 range and heading up from there, but anyone can afford one.  And don't think just because the price tag is huge the most important parts of the vibrator is any better, check them out when at all possible. You will find that different materials and sometimes unique designs will be a little expensive. You'll note the red one in Jackie's collection has a some different material and was a bit pricier. If you're buying online see what the return policy is if you get it and it's a total dud.

We'll end right here for today.  You have a favorite vibrator?  Share it here.  We'll be covering the eggs, bullets and fun variations along with care of your vibrator in our next  post.

So break out your vibrator and let's get Sexuary started with a ....well an orgasm of course.

Read Vibrators Part 2

Our Toy Chest

1 of the 2 drawers of toys we have

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane