Sexuary 2022 - In the Aftermath Needing a Reset

 

Even when you conscientiously put sex into your life, there are lulls, rough spots, and routines that just seem to drift into play.  Jackie and I are no more immune from those than anyone else.  During those times we'll take a day or a weekend to reset things.  We'll have a mini Sexuary of sorts. 

 This was the case a week or so ago.  Seemed we were a bit out of sync, things were getting 'normalized' and we needed to shake things up. So after breakfast we hit the sack for a first round of sex.  Good and satisfying, but was even more satisfying was when I told her the entire day, 2 hours after we finished I expected her in the bedroom and ready for another round of something.  I let her know that round 2 would include anal play and if she needed to do something for that please do. 

 Two hours later we were back at it.  Scratching, and some of her favorite impact devices followed by my spending a good time in her ass and both of us having huge orgasms.  "You've got 2 hours from now to be ready" I reminded her.  

Two hours later I had the ropes ready and I tied her up and let her spend a bit of time in her subspace before attacking her mouth first and before going down and finishing up inside her. "Two more hours" I again reminded her.  

I gave her an option this time.  She decided she wanted some needle play.  Again, after her design was done I gave her an orgasm or two and then let her drift into subspace for a bit.  Afterwards we masturbated and both were finished for the day.  

By then, it was well after 8 and we were done for the day.  But in the mean time my blood pressure dropped several points as I became more and more content with life.  Our closeness again closed in and "WE" were in a good place.  

Yes it took some effort on both of our parts.  Yes we were both pretty worn out after 4 or 5 hours of sex throughout the day.  Yes it was worth every bit of it!!!

 Sometimes you really have to just mix it up to reset everything and that's exactly what we did.  You can do something similar.  Maybe it's 2x today ...maybe you do it like we did every 2 hours after we finished... come up with your own, but do something to get out of that rut.  It's only July and a long way till Sexuary comes back around, but every day can be sexuary when both of you are willing to work together to make it that way. 

 Dane 

Sexuary 2018 - Being Tied Up

So life kind of got in the way of Sexuay 2018.  We'd gone through 4 months of family issues and weren't able to celebrate like we normally do.  But that doesn't mean we won't try to do something later this year for a couple of weeks or a month.  It also doesn't mean that we haven't had some fun in the mean time pushing limits again.

In the past I've done some light tying up and BDsm.  We've played with cuffs that Velcro to sheets, and Japanese ropes to tie her hands, but to give full trust like this is something new for Jackie.  This weekend Jackie gave me permission to go all out and no limits with the rope, something that has literally been 2 decades since I've had that opportunity and I wasted no time getting excited and start planning.  New rope was purchased and the blood was flowing. Jackie was very apprehensive.

When we started it was almost a bit comical.  My rope skills have definitely slacked over the years.  I couldn't get anything to stay tight.  After a couple of attempts though things started to tighten up and stay in place.  Her breast were tied tight with nipple clamps placed on her nipples. Then her arms were tied behind her back, all while on her knees and blind folded.  She was a beautiful site.  A trusting wife who went well beyond her boundaries and learned she had a new limit.
 

Ok, so my rope work still has lots to be desired, but you have to admit she is beautiful all tied up like this.  When we were finished we took a break, I rubbed her shoulder and we just relaxed.  I'll fill you in on more of our weekend adventure soon.  But what did it take?  I purchased some 3/16" rope that was nice and soft (100 ft) and a willing partner.  That's it. 

So I've heard it time and again about BDsm and its' many subcategories that's it's just about abuse.  While it could be without 2 loving, trusting people, it's far from it when done the right way. BDsm is about bringing 2 people closer.  The trust between 2 people to perform this type of act is incredible. The literally "giving of oneself" is giving everything can only brings you closer when done right.  The accepting that gift and taking on that responsibility opens up parts that just doesn't happen in ordinary sexual relationships.  It took a lot for Jackie to open up and allow me to tie her up like that.  But she's come a long way over the years where just tying up her her hands was a push for her.  Me? I'll have to make sure I didn't break that trust in any way. You have to know your partner and their deepest fears and joys.  In my case, I made sure her hands were the last to be tied making it easier on her.

From here? I've already remembered some of the things I didn't do right that would of made the ties better.  I will probably do a bit of research making sure that next time the comical side of our encounter doesn't happen again.  Also we talked about a couple of things that would make it more enjoyable for both of us.  We didn't get to 'celebrate Sexuary 2018', we definitely had a Sexuary type weekend (so yeah, more to come).  

Dane