Sexuary 15 - Hot Tub - Day 15

 I have no doubt I’ve done more things sexually (different things) than 99.9% of the men I know.  I know that because of you I get more sex that the same 99.9%.  That time you spend with me means so much to me.  The fact you continue to make sure “WE” are good, even when sometimes it’s not really your thing, means everything to me.  The fact I feel more and more connected to you after every time we have sex, play a scene, or I see you squirm in orgasm, makes that even more worth it to me.  – 143

How is it that you can be IN water and yet be dry?  Several times we've played in pools and or hot tubs and Jackie gets very dry and makes it hard (no pun intended) to enter or enjoy sex.  How is that?  

But that was my task to over come.  My solution? PINK Silicon lubricant. This stuff is amazing and we use it every day.  

So once we hopped in the pool We got the bubbles going and then I let Jackie know this was where we were playing this day.  

The weightlessness in the water helps her some.  I was able to lubricate myself and slide underneath her and we played that way for a bit.  Then we tried several other positions ending up with Jackie leaning over the edge of the hot tub doggie style.  

I had also brought a bullet out for Jackie to use on her clit while we played.  These $10 toys are great to have around and are water proof too.  The one I brought out was only about 1 1/2" long with a fresh AA battery in it and did the job.  These are great to keep in the car, her purse, and sly places you might want to surprise her clit with some vibrations.  We have at least a half dozen of them. 

So the little hot tub I purchased 18 months ago finally made it to sexuary, we played outside (yes, neighbors could have just watched us through the fence if they wanted) and of course they could hear us too.  It's not like we were trying to be quiet.  There is an extra thrill in that exhibitionism that makes the sex that much more exciting.  

So sex in the hot tub, exhibitionism, toys, over all a great experience and something we'll do again!

Dane
 

Sexuary 2015 - Dildos

Ok, so the buttons are to much for you to handle, or maybe you are tired of having to steal the kids game controller batteries, then a dildo is what you need.  So for clarification I'll define a dildo as an adult toy that doesn't us a battery and is generally used for inserting inside of someone.

So in the adult toy world we seem to have vibrators and dildos for the most part (yes, I know there is all the other fun, kinky stuff like ropes and chains, and paddles and whips) but for now we'll talk about why 1 over the other and why your dildo can be your friend.

Dildos come in all shapes and sizes.  From the that's nice to the OMG you're not getting near me with that thing sizes.  They are most often made with a slightly spongee, rubbery outer coating for a more realistic feeling most of the harder vibrators.  These coatings are often times the difference in cost between 1 dildo and another.  Additionally, many of the dildos have a harder inner core to help with inserting them inside.  If they don't it can be difficult to get them inserted where you want to go.  Some dildos will come with suction cups to stick to a wall, bathtub, or any other place you'd like to explore nirvana from.

Dildos are a preference thing though.  Each person has a preference and that's the right one for you. Big or small, fat or skinny are all what you like.  There are ridges on some, nodules on others, but those are all personal preferences.  How wide should you get it?  Maybe use the finger rule.  How many fingers do you use when fingering your vagina or ass when you're playing?  Use that as a width for the width of your new dildo.  As for length?  My rule of thumb is you can always short stroke a long dildo, but if it's to short...well your orgasm could come up short too.  There is of course the let's be real about it too rule.

Oh and let's not forget the double headed dildo. These are generally 12"+ long and very flexible. You can share the dildo with a partner or bend it in half and use both ends at once.

If you like dildos but might want an occasional vibration, some of the dildos have a place to put a bullet vibrator in them for a little kick.

Some of the reasons you might like to use a dildo over a vibrator?  Noise is one big reason.  If you don't want others to hear you playing a dildo could be a better option.  What if you wanted to use something on both your vagina and clit or ass at the same time?  It could be better to make 1 a dildo as having 2 vibrators hitting together sometimes causes a racket and could pinch you.  Making 1  a dildo would prevent that.

Make sure you keep your dildos clean and just remember anything a penis can do, yeap that's exactly what a dildo can do. 

Hope your Sexuary has been good and you've had fun breaking out those toys. 

Sexuary 2015 - Vibrators Part 2

So hopefully you're on track with your Sexuary goals.  If not, that's OK, just adjust and move forward.  Sexuary isn't about a day for a reason.  It's about a month that you dedicate to making this month better between you and your partner sexually.  Hopefully some of the information here will help you achieve those goals.

So where were we?  Oh yeah we were talking about vibrators.  If you missed part 1 of the series head back here.   

Vibrating Bullet

So let's start out talking about vibrating bullets.  These little vibrators are normally about the size of your finger around and about 2 knuckles long, and pack a huge punch. It seems most of them only take 2 or 3 watch batteries but damn the punch they can pack could set up a good nights play. 

These are really for the clit or nipples, or where ever you want to run them over, but are not so good for inserting them inside of someone.  So what else are they good for?  Well for starters you can just drop one in your pocket or purse and take one with you where ever you'd like.  It's really is that small.  So then what if you were at the store and your partner .....well I'm going to let your imagination run a bit here, but these things are small enough to hide and take with you.  They are very easy to clean, and many of these are waterproof too. Best of all they are very inexpensive.  Amazon sells a 3 pack here for $10.  We've picked them up at stores for $5 - $15 and they are great.  When the batteries run out you can either get a new one or a package of watch batteries cheap.  Definitely something you should have in your collection.

Vibrating Egg

Eggs run along the same line as the bullets except they are egg shaped and most of them we've seen have a cord attached with some sort of controller.  They are a little bigger and because of the battery compartment can pack a bigger punch.  Note the can.  Not all eggs are created equal has been our experience. 
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TIP -  When checking out any vibrator don't just hold it in your hand, but put it up to your nose.  Your nose is much more sensitive and while it's not a clit, it's better than your finger tips
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So these eggs are still pretty easy to clean but unlike the bullet you can easily insert them and retrieve them because of the cords attached. I will say we have several that have different style controllers and the only thing we've found is that some of them light up and even change colors while they are running.  Now while a bit of light is good, sometimes the lights from these can get distracting for us.  That's our personal take, but maybe you like bright lights flashing at you while playing with yours.

Again, these vibrators are cheap, many under $10, and most under $20.  Though some of the variations like wireless remotes and such does bring the prices up.  So we have a couple of these wireless eggs.  We'll play a game like every time a certain word is said the egg gets turned on, or just because we want.  Nothing like trying to place your order at a restaurant and trying to keep you composer when that little buzz starts inside of you. Oh and that game can be played by anyone as these eggs can be inserted both vaginally and anally.  But our best story was when Jackie and I were playing that game and our son saw the remote and picked it up to play with it for a minute.  I just pretended nothing was going on while Jackie took the remote back away.

Hitachi with 2 attachments

Last vibrators I'm going to talk about fall into the OMG category.   The Hitachi is probably the standard that all others try to meet up with.  We have a 3 BodyWands which we love to death and are definitely the 'go to' vibrators.  But these vibrators are made for one thing, and that's to cause orgasms in women!!! They can make a women cum in a remarkable time.  As Jackie says it can go from cold to OMG orgasm in 6 seconds flat. We have both the cordless and corded versions, and will say there is nothing more disappointing than having the charge die in the middle of a session.  So we prefer the corded version, and have an extension cord on it so that it can reach where ever we want it to.

The Hitachi has several attachments that add to it's pleasure regions it can reach.  If you are looking for one of these you might look into whether or not you can get attachments for it. This is another toy that when it came out they were very expensive and lots of milk and bread money was saved so women could get theirs.  But today the pricing has dropped significantly and are more in the $50 - $75 range. 

I will caution though that the full power on these are so incredible that it can get over intense and if you're in control on someone else you might need to let off some or not go full speed ahead right away.

So here's the basics on vibrators.  There are all kinds of varieties like remote controls that work through the internet if you have a long distance relationship you can still play and the one can still control some of the action.  We like the wireless remotes for games outside of the bedroom that lead to bedroom fun later.  There are so many different materials and they are constantly coming up with a new one.

So let's go have some fun.  Let's make this Sexuary the one that brings toys to the bed for some amazing time together.  Take a bullet and run it over your partners entire body before as foreplay.  Take an egg and place it in him as you give him a blow job.  Use the Hitachi and make her go over the moon over and over again and then when you are ready those vibrations will still be running through her body while you enter her.  Think you won't benefit there?

What's your favorite toy?  How do you use it different than 'the norm'? 

Have a GREAT Sexuary day!

Dane

Our Toy Chest

1 of the 2 drawers of toys we have

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane