Sexuary 2024 - DOM/sub Part 2

 

Please read Long Term DOM/sub Play - Prep and Day 1 first

Monday morning Jackie came out and started the day with my 5 minutes, kneeling in front of me. I have to admit, I could live my life starting every day with a 5 minute blowjob.  

Of course work got into the way, but during the day I would go into her office and rub her ass.  Now I have to say, Jackie doesn't wear hose very often, and I don't really ever suggest anything for her to wear, other then when I purchase stuff for her.  And over the years, I've purchased dozens of pairs of fishnet stockings and other hose, that for the most part sit in her dresser.  But her ass looks fantastic in those hose and stockings!!! And I truly enjoyed just rubbing her ass in them. 

After work, and her free time, I blindfolded Jackie and put her up on the St Andrew's Cross, with her back to the cross.  I ran the wartenberg wheel, over her chest, and then I went and started with the UV Candles from PanHaven.  I started dropping the hot wax over her chest, belly and legs.

Normally I use wax on Jackie on the bed, and wasn't thinking about it actually being different this way.  The wax will drip more, it's definitely less predictable as to where it's going, but she actually enjoyed it more. 

After the pain, I bent her over the bed and once we were finished, we jumped into the shower together. 

We ended the night up in the hot tub. 

Now one of the things we've done this week, is we've showered together every night.  Between the playing together, lubricants, and just over all hygiene, and while hygiene is always utmost important, if you ever do something like this, I recommend you add this to your routine.  One showers can be fun together, two, they keep you fresh.  We've taken up to 3 showers together in a day this week. 

Day 3 started out with Jackie sneaking out of bed before me, and waking me up with my cock in her mouth.  What a way to start the day!!! 

I have to admit, the outfit I picked for Jackie wasn't my favorite for the week.  It was to large, and while I liked the patterns on her skin, it wasn't at all form fitting, and just not as flattering on her as the others I'd picked. She still looked hot, don't get me wrong, but I wouldn't pick that outfit again. 

Again, throughout the day either I would go into her office and rub on her ass, or if she came out of the office I would take advantage and rub on her. I had her come in after lunch and put in a set of Ben Wa balls into her.  I'd see these that were on a TV show that were rubber and chained together, and easier to get out than our normal Ben Wa balls. I got them from Wish (Kegal Ball Kit from Wish)

I again put Jackie on the cross and flogged her severely.  One of the things I liked was the blue light in the room, showed where the flogger would strike on her skin. After 20 or so minutes I bent her over the bed and put a small butt plug into her ass and then fucked her with the Ben Wa balls still in her.  I eventually pulled them out and finished after several "Thank you, Sir" came from her mouth and she was well satisfied.  I rolled her onto the bed and finished up, both of us very satisfied.

Since I mentioned it, I had added the "Thank you sir" into the rules for the week.  OK, Jackie's vagina is very active.  It will squeeze you out, it will squirt all over you, and you can tell how Jackie is doing during sex by her reactions.  With all that said, I wanted to hear the words, "Thank you, Sir" after every orgasm this week.  Now Jackie at times, has dripped those words, making it sexy as hell, but just overall, I have appreciated hearing these words.  I've always been conscious about making sure Jackie always has hers first and more often than me, hearing those words have been very endearing to me. 

Afterwards, we laid in bed for a bit, then I had Jackie go start the shower for us. 

The next day was Valentine's Day. I had picked out a set of red lingerie.  When I originally set it out, I had put another set of cloths by accident with it (honestly I didn't realize I had done it,) and the night before when Jackie was looking at them I told her to wear the lingerie, and not the other set, and she did put it on at first, but later she came out in the other set.  She really liked it, and I didn't say anything at the time, but that was definitely grounds for a punishment later. 

On her desk was a dozen chocolate dipped strawberries, and on Monday I had picked up 2 dozen roses for her, that were in a vase behind her desk. I had run out for work, and wasn't around for my morning blowjob. Jackie rectified that after I got home and she got a break. 

At lunchtime I took Jackie out for a steak lunch.  There was no underwear on, and her dress was semi revealing without being over revealing.  

Right after Jackie's free time I pulled her into the bedroom and got her all excited.  I then went for her ass.  This is something that Jackie has gotten more and more accepting on, and since some of her medical issues have been taken care of, she doesn't have as much after issues with.  I love it, and don't push for it very often, but tonight I asserted my dominance with sliding into her ass.  Jackie went crazy (in a good way) and I got to hear, "Thank you sir," over and over again as she reached orgasm after orgasm. What a great Valentine's gift, blowjob, pussy, and ass all in the same day.

We rested a bit, and I sent Jackie to start the shower.  

Afterwards, I had her put her dress back on, and off we went to Hump Day Comedy at Rozco's Comedy Club.  They took stories from the audience and read them about bad dates.  Jackie put in a card saying, "When you've been married as long as we have, you have to do things to keep your relationship fresh, so we blog about our sex life on oursexuary.com (and yes, it's a real website).  They read out card, and asked who the card belonged to, from the front row we raised our hand.  The comic was blown away it was us.  "How old are you?" he asked, and when we told them our ages (almost 60 and 50), "You robbed the craddle I see," we all laughed as I nodded yes.  "So do you have a sex swing?" Of course we do.  He asked about a couple of other things and then I really shocked him when I mentioned I was co-owner of Texas Kink Fest.  Later, another comedian looked over after us after making the comment, "She was in handcuffs, Dane, you know about those don't you?" 

At the end of the show, the first comedian came back out and asked if we also were swingers, when we said yes, he asked if we'd ever had a bad experience.  We let him know we definitely had, and explained to him why (See Swingers Club / Couple Swap).

We got home late and went straight to bed. 

So a couple of takes, first I really love Jackie when she takes the time to get sexy for me. Second, I love hearing "Thank you, Sir" after orgasms.  Even with dominance, humor is important. 

Dane

Sexuary 2017 - 50 Shades Darker

*Clearing throat out* Yes, that was a good movie.  Yes being one of maybe 3 men in a theater full of women who all, on several occasions, took a deep sigh in anticipation of the scene about to happen is quite....erotic. So I'm not sure why men wouldn't want to take their wife to see a movie like this.  Hell it wasn't that long ago this would of been considered a firm X-rated movie.  But seriously Jackie was cuddled tight during most of the movie and I loved that.  I think she'd of been in my lap if the seats were just a bit bigger. 

So first of all, they did a good job on the movie.  And if you read the books like Jackie and I did, you'll appreciate that they kept good with the books for the most part. Well done. And hot.  And sexy.  And  hot....did I mention hot?

So while we had to take a couple of days off of our sexcapeds for a small medical procedure, the post movie sex was extremely intense, and I'm certain I can thank Mr Christian Grey for that.  I'm also pretty sure that we'll be looking for a spreader bar in the near future to add to our collection of toys.  Oh my!!!

What to treat your significant other to a good time and set up a potential great night of sex?  Go see 50 Shades Darker!  Oh and guys, if you really want to hit it off you might want to review the Sexuary 2016 post on BenWa balls....and dinner with a little wine wouldn't hurt either.

Dane

Sexuary 2016 - Ben Wa Balls

Jackie and I have started out Sexuary 2016 with a big bang..and bang again...and well you get the picture, we're celebrating our sexuality and reminding ourselves that sex has to be one of those priorities in our relationship.  Let's face it life gets in the way all the time and if we allow it, before we know it the only time we use the bed is when we drag our tired asses into it to sleep.  Work, kids, stress, and money all seem to zap us of our energy and we forget that the closeness of a good sex life will actually energize us both physically and emotionally to make it through all those hard times.

This is actually Jackies and my 5th year to celebrate Sexuary!!! We'd been struggling at least in part because of some medical issues with Jackie and after she was feeling back on track we got on board with Christine Moers on her welcometomybrain.net.  And while she's no longer blogging on there, there is still a lot of good, honest and open information on honest and real sex questions along with a lot of life issues we all face.  But back to Jackie and I.  So 5 years ago we took the challenge to do something above and beyond what we normally do.  Maybe something that made us a bit uncomfortable in trying it, but to do it.  So we weren't the bravest, but we strove to have sex 7 days in a row.  Easy right? Yeah, not so much.  We still were lacking our communication skills and just real frankly it didn't happen.  A mere 7 days couldn't be achieved.  Year 3 was our first year to decide WE WERE GOING TO DO THIS!!!! After literally months of working together (and lots of fun in discussions) we put together "The Calendar".  It was a 28 day calendar with some different kink we either wanted to try, or might be interested in, or something we just didn't do regularly.

So what did we learn?  We learned to communicate more than we ever have.  We found out that some kinks aren't for the 2 of us.  We found we REALLY liked some others.  We found that 28 days in a row was an incredibly difficult task, but it could be done (remember all those outside factors listed above, well they didn't slack off just because we left them off the calendar).  Will we ever do it again? I don't know, but we have made it a tradition that Sexuary is a time for us to reignite our sex life and do a systems check on our relationship.  And this blog?  Well this blog was to show that men and women like you, that's ordinary next door neighbors have some of the same issues you have.  That we miscommunicate and it causes problems.  That we want to try stuff and sometimes are a bit scared of even attempting it.  That sometimes it just doesn't go anything like you'd hoped or planned.  And then there are those times that it's over the top great and you wonder why you didn't try it before!  But we're not porn stars.  We're not strippers or anything in the sex field, we're a manager and a business owner who have dreams and have been tempted to try some of the things we've read about, seen or heard about over the years.  Again, the couple next door you just didn't know was into trying anything that comes their way.

So this year, 2016, we have taken our calendar and put 15 dates down on it.  That's every other day and an extra for Valentines day.  We've put down some of our favorite things that take a little effort and spread them over the calendar this year.

Some of it might sound mundane, but it's the fact we're doing SOMETHING to make sure our sex life doesn't go stale and whither away.  And as always we're flexible if something comes up to make sure we get the most out of it all.

In our case since Jackie has started running so on Wednesday she was rather sore and so we swapped Wednesday for Friday.  But Friday is what I wanted to talk about some.  This Friday was Jackies turn to be the center of attention if  you will.  Tied up and blindfolded and different sensations from hands, cloths, metal clamps, silk, ropes and all.  It really sets Jackie off when we take the time to do all these things to her.  But yesterday I added  a new twist for her.  Ben Wa Balls.

So I've had these Ben Wa Balls for probably 40 years.  My (don't laugh) but my grandmother brought them back from Singapore and gave them to me (God bless grandma in all her ignorance of all things sexual).  They are decorative and fairly large (2").  They've sit in our toy drawer for lots of years now and never been used.  We changed that on Friday.  After lots of stimulation I lubed and inserted one in.  The second one had more issues and while it went in when it came out we left it out.  But even the one added new sensations for both of us.  While Jackie couldn't necessarily feel the one in her (she actually thought it was out) she could feel different sensations inside and from my perspective the drenching she gave me and the bed told me we definitely were on the right track.  Additionally I could feel the Ben Wa Ball massaging me when I was inside of her.  Definite win win for both of us and something we'll add in the future.

Ok, so the downside to these Ben Wa Balls?  Well as you can see there are no ropes or anything to help pull them out.  Now mind you they can't go anywhere that will harm or get stuck forever or anything, but it did take some serious effort on Jackies part to get the second one to come out.  So we might try some smaller ones (these were 2") or some with a rope between them that one of us can reach in and pull out.  

So now it's your turn.  Go do something to make this year, Sexuary 2016 better than your day to day relationship.  Make sure it's getting the nourishment it needs to not only survive, but to thrive!

Dane