Sexuary 2021 - Just-A-Swinging

 

 

So if you remember last year we purchased a swing for Jackie to suspend in for playtime in our dungeon.  Well with her back issues this year we hadn't gotten to use it, but her back was ok for tonight, so we gave it a whirl. 

 

So since last year we've adjusted the swing so when she's in it she's the perfect height for me to get in.  We've also added a head/neck piece to support her head some.  Last night I adjusted her leg braces up some, to spread her a bit more.  We also brought in a small ladder so she could get up in the swing easier and more comfortably.

We have it hung on the same rack we use for rope suspension.  This was just something I made from pipe from Lowes.  4 pipes 7 1/2' long, then 3 pipes I cut into 5' sections for the top (and one down the center).  Pretty simple to build and only took about 20 minutes to setup. With 2 people it could go even faster.

So I put Jackie up on the swing then I sat on the ladder and gave her a good licking before she wanted more of me.  I was able to just stand right up and slide right into her.  By pushing her back just a bit, it made it easy to bounce her as I plunged in and out.  

One of the things I love about this setup is that it's good for up to 600 lbs.  We're no where close, but I like that it's way over kill and safe for Jackie while she's on there. The last thing we want to do is cause more injures. 

It's also very easy to on the guy while she's on the swing if you've got the height adjusted. That did take a couple of times before we got that right. 

So this one had some forethought to it, but since we have all the equipment (and the rack is already up in the bedroom), it's a fun change to leaning over or climbing in the bed for sex.  Give it a try.  

Go make your Sexuary something special.  Plan something outside your box and surprise your partner for Sexuary 2021!

Dane

 

 

 

Sexuary - Sometime it's not as planned

So Monday is Jackies day to pull and she pulled my favorite, ass play.  If you've been reading our blog for any time what so ever, you know I love a good fisting on occasion.  Well we get going, and things are a bit tight, and things just didn't happen.  It doesn't all the time, especially when you're talking ass play, or peoples moods, or just sex in general.  Over the years I've had a million plans in my head that just don't make it there for a million and one reasons.  Today was one of them.  

So here's where the problem can happen.  I got a bit frustrated, Jackie felt bad (which she shouldn't have, as it wasn't her fault) and the mood just went south for a bit, even though Jackie really did try to get me out of my funk.  

I did come around and apologize later for my funk, but by then it was way to late to do anything. The good thing is the next day came and things were back on track. We didn't let 1 bad experience ruin our sex life.  As they say we got back on the horse and rode the next day. I listen to so many people that years go by and they don't have that relationship with their significant other. Maybe it was one bad day that turned to two, that just never could turn around, and now it's years later, and we don't even really know why, just that we are here, but it's been that way so long we can't get out of the rut.  Sexuary has been Jackies and my guarantee to stay out of the ruts sexually, which we all know leads to other issues in our lives so many times.  

It's still plenty of time to make a change in your sex life.  Sexuary still has plenty of time to do something different.  Be the bold one...take the first step...get out of that comfort zone and make something happen this Sexuary. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Picture day

 

Let's face it, men are visual creatures.  We LOVE our women and we love seeing our women in various poses and when they go all out, wow, just wow. It's why Glamour Shots has done such a great business over the years. So today's draw was inspired by a couple of our friends. One takes some fantastically hot pictures and post them on Facebook.  The ones she'll send to Jackie to share with me are even hotter. FUCK they are hot.  So I was telling a friend how I wish Jackie would send me more pictures just here and there, randomly, just to tease me here and there. I love when she does that, and will continue to go back to that pictures for weeks sometimes. I save every one she sends me. This friend is starting her photography business in south Houston and wanted to do a day shoot with Jackie. Well that's a date we couldn't turn down. So after the 130+ pictures came out we knew this was going to be something we'd do again.  

So I drew 'Picture night…..dress up and pictures…maybe some play in between changes … lots of pictures with toys involved." I was SUPER excited!!! So I let Jackie know at lunch when we got home the she was going to get her picture taken when we got home.  

We started on her motorcycle out in the front yard, to include the boob shot while on her Harley.  We moved indoors and the attire got sexier. Wow, Jackie was looking good!.. Pictures started fully clothed, and ended up with my cock in her mouth and the camera still going.  Whew...ok, change of clothes and more pictures...then a couple of positions...a few cloths fall off...more cock sucking...lots more pictures...another change of cloths...more positions...me climbing on the bed to attach my hot wife...more pictures...fewer cloths...another change of cloths...move to the guest room..more cock sucking ...more pictures...and finally I couldn't take it anymore and after over 330 pictures I finished with a shot of my own.  WHEW...what a freaking hot session.  

I took pictures of Jackie up close, far away, very intimate, me in her mouth, and inside of her.  There was even a couple of selfies of the two of us when we were done.  Whew.  I have to say, it was extremely exciting.  It was exciting talking pictures of Jackie as she was having an orgasm, and catching that in pictures. It's even more exciting to know I have all these pictures to go through. I'm certain that I'll touch up a couple dozen of them to share, but I'll have all 330+ forever of my hot wife.

Your partner should always know you think they are hot!! One great way to do it is to take pictures of them ...and who knows where that might lead to...I know where it led to with Jackie and myself. It was one hot day in the bedroom. 

Dane

PS - Maybe later this month I'll add a couple of the photos..so peek back in if you're interested.

Sexuary 2021 - Needle Play

So when I drew today it came up "Needle Play".  Now I knew this was an especially tough day for Jackie.  It was the anniversary of her moms death, and I knew that pain can be very cathartic for her.  I could allow her a relief she wouldn't get any other way.  In the past that often means a good flogging, but as luck of the draw would have it would be needles. 

Now I'm by no means a worlds leading artist in any format.  I've played with the needles, and frankly they are a bit tough to make a design that is anything.  Definitely not as easy as it might seem.  But I wanted to do a heart.  It is Sexuary after all, a time for love, and I thought the symbolism of a heart on this day might help her out some.  So I had an idea and prepped.  I got the massage table out, the needles and prep (alcohol wipe, gloves, disposal canister, trash can, and camera) all ready.  

When she was ready I blindfolded her. We've found the anticipation when she watches takes away from the ordeal, and leads to some anxiety.  So blindfolded it is. And then I started. 

WOW, only 5th needle in and she feels like I've stabbed her 6" south of where my needle was.  I showed her with her hand where I was, and that I was no where near where she thought.  I asked her if I needed to stop, and she assured me she would be ok, so I continued on. 

There were times as I continued her emotions welled up inside of her. I would make sure she was ok, ask her color, and continue on.  We were 3 from the end when she wanted to stop. THREE!!! I asked her if she could handle the 3 more and she said yes, but only 3 more. 

When I finished I took the pictures..and held my hand on the needles and let her feel the sensations.  This zone is as important as the putting in the needles.  I let her stay there till she told me she was ready to remove the needles.  I quickly removed them and took more pictures.  The raised areas are beautiful.  The heart on her chest was lopsided a bit, but still one of the best designs I've ever done. 

Needle play is one of those not very conducive to intercourse afterwards, but it does bring you closer.  The trust Jackie has that I will not hurt her, the love I have as I am putting those needles in, knowing that even as they hurt, they are healing, is all part of the process that those not in the lifestyle will never understand.  I get it, while I have never been vanilla, I have been in vanilla relationships.  There is a difference. This relationship, and the work we do in Sexuary is very important to us!!!

So I've included the pictures of the 50+ needles in her chest, and then of the heart shape left after we were done.  Honestly it looks even better the day after, though there was a yelp from the shower as the warm water hit that area of her chest. 

Do a couple of things if you are going to try this: 1) make sure you get sterile needles individually wrapped.  Once the package is opened either use it or dispose of it. 2) always wear gloves, but remember, odds are eventually you are going to get poked yourself too.  3) Sterilize the surface to be poked with alcohol before and after (yes it's going to sting afterwards, but better than an infection), 4) Dispose of your needles properly.  Originally I had a coffee can with a taped lid and skull and crossbones on it, now I have the same as hospitals...but either way these are bio hazards, treat them as such.  5) remember proper aftercare.  This can be just as traumatic as a flogging or more, remember that. 

Hope this helps, and for the records those are 27 and 25 gauge needles I used.  Since I was doing so many I went small.  

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Teddy, Hair Pulling and Heavy Petting

Ok, I'm a nudist. I love to be naked and I love seeing Jackie naked too, but sometimes, a little sexy something to wear is just freaking hot.  So tonight I asked Jackie to put on something sexy for me, and she didn't disappoint me. She was hot in her blue number that she wore for me.

Now Jackie over the years has had both very short hair and longer hair, but she has the longest hair she had since we've been together.  There is something about pulling on her hair while we're kissing, or while she's bent over the bed that will keep me hard all night. Jackies moans and reactions always lead to harder pushing from me. 

So between the heavy petting and the hair pulling we had a good night.  You know most of us how dated and grew into the relationship had periods where heavy petting left us well ready (and maybe a bit frustrated).  But it's still a very effective way to raise the libido a couple of notches...but we either forget that or we just move onto other things as we get more comfortable with each other sexually.  One of the lessons we repeated learn in Sexuary is that a lot of the things we've done are great things, we just forget about them and need to bring them back into our sex lives.  Petting is one of those things. 

So another day of Sexuary is in the books, and more orgasms are in the books with them. Till tomorrow!

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - St Andrews Cross - Electricity and the Wartenberg Wheel

Well today was a 'regular' for us.  It starts with me putting Jackie on the St Andrews Cross and then slowly torturing her with both our electric pen and our wartenberg wheels.  So after making out for a few minutes I walk Jackie back to our room and put her up on the cross.  We've modified our cross to have some cuffs to hold her wrist up high, so I strapped her in.  She's got hand holds and we've put cushion on where her chin sits in the crux of the X.   

So all comfortable, I start with the pen on Jackie.  I run it up and down her spine, and over her thighs and spine.  Some points make her moan...some just get her ready....but she reacts as I would expect to the electric pen.  (These can be gotten at wish.com or amazon.com for less than $20.  They run on a AA battery, and come with several attachments.  

After that I pulled out the wartenberg wheel and start running it down her back.  I switch between fast and slow....just barely any pressure to pushing down pretty good, making sure she feels it.  Again she moans and moves around on her feet, I know I'm starting to get somewhere.

Then I lube up and enter her from behind...all stretched out on the cross, lifting her with every stroke.  

That's when the first event happened.  Somehow Jackie smacked her chin on the cross and took her breath away for a few seconds.  It definitely stopped play and we moved into the bed where we finished up.  

Now is the next event, and this one got a chuckle.  So we're finished and I realized that the cock ring I wear around the head of my cock is missing.  "Have you seen it?" I asked Jackie...."Nope."..so I back track and it's not anywhere to be seen.  So Jackie gets on the bed where I reach in and retrieve it. Oops! 😁 It's the first time that's happened. On a side note, when I started wearing the metal cock ring, I asked Jackie if she could tell.  "Not really".  Last night she took that back, she feels it vibrating inside of her when she's using her vibrator on her clit.  So yes, it does make some difference.

Then when discussing Jackie mentioned that she never realized the difference between the violet wand and the pen.  So next time she's on the cross and we're using electricity, she wants the bigger zap.  Oh I'm very sure I can accommodate that!!!

So even the 'ordinary' things can go off course and when you break out the un-ordinary, sometimes you come up with new ideas for another day. 

Dane

 

Sexuary 2021 - Dane's First Monday

 Tonight is Monday, and for us that means that its Jackie's turn to pull from the glass to do something for Dane.  This week was "extended day long play" it suggested a butt plug, and different things thru out the day.  So I set out to decide what I was going to do.

 The day started while he was in shower.  I went and pulled out a butt plug and set it next to wallet and belt, knowing they would be found.  He hollered to me about it, I told him I had set out some accessories for him to day (I did know that he was heading out to work so I did let him know he could remove it if he wanted to at any time). So off he went to work with a butt plug in.  

My intentions were to come "attack" him thru out the day, giving him a taste of things to come but work for both of us got it the way.  However I did not let that disappoint me or stop me.

The night started as leaned over him kissing him while he sat.  I then worked my way down to my knees and telling him well this was planned for lunch.....as I took him in my mouth.   

I then moved him to the bedroom, on his back.  I was going to have my snack next and took him in my mouth again...After sucking him, I climbed on top for my supper and rode him.  I then had to move but he moved right into me...Took a little bit of time but we were both satisfied and welcomed Danes first Monday..

 Jackie

It's no secret I love anal play. I've always wanted an extended play day, especially where my ass is involved, so I tossed it on the list. Little did I know my one appointment would lead to a full day of running in and out.  It's highly unusual for me. Normally I can go all week and never have to go anywhere. But I put the plug in as instructed and went about my day.  I'd never worn that plug more than about 4 hours, so this was going to be a challenge, and to boot I didn't know what else Jackie had planned. Finally after 10 hours we pulled the plug out, but in the mean time all day long I knew it was there. Every time I stood up or sat down I was reminded that Jackie had something planned for later.

We finally slowed down when Jackie came and started kissing on me...then then then.   I love that Jackie set up my accessory this morning and look forward to the other Mondays in Sexuary and the treats she has in store for me. 

I will say I have tried many butt plugs over the years.  Some were to short or to small and would fall out.  I've had large ones but the end didn't work for me. While I wish the shaft on the one I have was  bit longer, it works great.  It never falls out. The base is big enough, and it's well made. The 'jeweled' end doesn't hurt, but let's face it, it's not what I got it for. Click on the picture if you want to go to wish and order your own. If you don't already know, yes, I have the large one.

Dane 

Sexuary 2021 - Electricity

 

 

Ok, truth be told we started a day early this year.  Jackie is having to miss a day to help her family out, so we decided to start Jan 31st.  I have to tell you I'm excited about some of these more than others. We all have our favorites right?  Well I drew Electricity play for day one, and was a bit disappointed.  Was hoping to start with a bang.  OH MY was I ever wrong in doubting.  

 

Ok, it started out a bit rough. I couldn't find the violet wand, the TENS unit battery was dead, the gloves I have will shock me, but not anyone I touch, and just over all I was in a bit of a panic.  After a deep breath I remembered where the wand was (it's sad when you have so many toys you have them all over the place. 😂)  So finally I'm set, and just waiting for Jackie to get ready. When she gives me her all ready,  I walked Jackie in the room while blindfolded and laid her on the bed.  I tied her arms up to the headboard with some rope and a simple knot, then I started with the electric wand on her.  Whoops...even on the lowest setting, the attachment (the lower right attachment) was zapping just  bit to much.  I quickly replaced the attachment with the comb attachment.  That did the trick.   Now while stroking her with the wand and rubbing her gently to get her started. 

After a couple of minutes I spread Jackies' legs and started with her favorite vibrator. BINGO!! Yeap, I got the right combination going.  She almost immediately started arching her back and orgasm after orgasm hit her.  I ran the wand over her chest, her arms, her thighs, her belly, her sides, just everywhere I could reach, all the time keeping her vibrator well planted on her clit. 

After she called for mercy, and after she had plenty of orgasms, I asked her if she was done.  She let me know she was ready for me to finish things up.  I kindly obliged her. The excitement of having watched her orgasm so many times quickly brought us again to a quick finish.  Whew!!! 

So again, wasn't my first choice and yet was a fantastic night.  Something we don't do very often, and no real reason why.  This is why we had it on the list, because we get in our ruts and forget we like all the other things too.  

So do you have a plan for this Sexuary?  Sexuary 2021 is just started and you have plenty of time to get started.  Remember, try something outside of your box. Something you wouldn't normally do  Heck just spin the wheel above and go for it.  

Dane

 

Its day one...the thoughts of all that I had put in the jar...I also know he has put some in the jar...and to be honest after we talked neither remembered who put this one in.  

So Dane drew the electricity tab....Of course I don't know this.  I am just told that I need get extra high...So extra high it is...

I came up to let him know I was ready....for what I don't know.  He blind folded me and took me to the bedroom.Once there I was centered on bed and hands tied to headboard.

There are so many thoughts going thru my head, then zap..squeal....zap squeal...zap squeal and try to move away.  It takes a few more zap squeal and try to move away before he changes tips. 

This turned out to be a great time.  I really floated in and out of the clouds.  I constantly had to tell myself to refocus or reground.  I wish I could find the words to describe what I was going thru....so I would give the violet wand a 5 ***** review!

Jackie

Sexuary 2021 - A New Plan

 

Sometimes when you do such a great job, when you go back you're like "what the hell are we going to do to beat last year?" Well that's where Jackie and I have been over the last couple of the months while we're trying to decide what to do for Sexuary 2021.  To remind you Sexuary 2020 was a 'paincentric' month at Jackies suggestion.  We went all out to provide "pain for pleasure" in many different ways.  To say it was a successful Sexuary for us would be an understatement.  It was fantastic and we learned a lot about how pain and pleasure could be 2 sides of the very same coin.  Jackie pushed her limits and found sexual pleasures she never knew existed.  So where do you go from there? How do you beat a month that was almost 100% 'perfect' sexually?  Well we finally decided we were going to revisit, review and add some randomness to Sexuary 2021.  

So the each of us came up with 10 or more things we really wanted where Jackie was the recipient, and 4 or more for Jackie to do to me (Dane).  In all there were 36 items on my list for Jackie, and I passed on 10 things to Jackie, plus what ever she added to the list for me. We printed off those list and cut them into strips.  I filled a mason jar and Jackie put her pulls in a margarita glass (for anyone who knows Jackie, you know that's very appropriate 😁.)  The night before we'll pull 1 and that's the next days adventure.  We both added a couple of new things to each list, but left a list of 'favorites'..  Now it's up to the gods of randomness to decide what fun we have during this Sexuary.

I've added a few of the adventures on the roulette wheel above, and have linked it so you can try it. I'll update that wheel weekly with additional things we've done if you'd like to just spin the wheel and try something new.  I believe everything above you'll find in our blog on how to do.  

So as a reminder, Sexuary was started for us by our friend Christine and over the last 10 years we've grown so much sexually which has also brought us closer in our relationship.  Our communication skills have expanded, our knowledge of ourselves and each other has grown, and overall we are much closer because of Sexuary. We came across Sexuary in a low point in our relationship, and while it's not the only reason we are where we are today, it is a major factor. 

So for the new people, what is Sexuary?  Sexuary is where during the month of February you do something that's outside of your normal sexual box.  For some that would be to have a date and maybe make out with your partner.  For some it's to try that thing you've talked about but never dared, maybe you don't know how to do it...so for Sexuary you research, and follow through.  We've done everything from sex every 3 days....took us 2 attempts to have sex every other day....then we went and did 28 days of sex...and now we do some hybrid ...we don't have intercourse every day, but we do something sexual everyday.  You can NOT judge yourself by anyone else, you have to look at your sex life and decide what is Sexuary for you and your partner.  

So there you go...Sexuary 2021 kicks off in just a few hours...you still have time to do something, even if it's just hit that wheel above and try something new. 

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Choking / Erotic Asphyxiation

 

We know it's not Sexuary, but that doesn't deter our desire to keep learning. During our planning of Sexuary 2020, one of the things I had come up with was choking aka Erotic Asphyxiation or EA for short.  Remember 2020 was the year that Jackie didn't know what was coming before it happened.  We just did it.  But the day that choking was on the calendar I decided I needed to talk to her first.  This isn't your ordinary kink, there are even more potential hazards then normal involved.  So I decided to let her know and see what she thought.  Her response was to pass on it that night, but to keep it around and let's try it another day.  

 Well we have since tried it a couple of times.  We have never gotten to the point that Jackie has passed out, but we have definitely constricted air flow and also blood flow.  She will go into a hyper sensitive mode, and while she won't fight me on it, she will fight herself.  "How can something I know is so wrong feel so good?" is her comment.  It will send her entire body on red alert and my touch will send her over the edge time and time again. 

Now as always I did lots of research, after all I didn't want to hurt Jackie permanently. Websites like Healthline and  askmen were where I started.  I also recommend watching the safety video at sexplations or watts the safe word.  I watched several others, but this will get you the general Idea.  Education is key here as you literally have the life of someone in your hand.

Now our play is more cutting blood flow to the brain with holding her arteries.  We have also restricted air flow by choking, but the after effects were a little longer lasting than we desired.  The blood flow to the brain restriction is just as good, and the rush when the flow resumes is powerful. Jackies orgasms during this play are extremely powerful and plentiful.  And while it's not something we'll use all the time, it is definitely in our bucket of tools to use when we want to take orgasms up a notch in the future. 

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Nipple Piercings

So one of the things Jackie and I have talked about over the years is piercings.  I've thought about some cock piercings, she's thought about nipple and clit piercings.  Lately though Jackie had been really hinting she's really like to get her nipples pierced.  So in January I made an appointment at the Golden Goat in Round Rock for the last day of Sexuary, it would be the final painful act.I also did not tell Jackie I had done it.

We had met Guru Sean around at roping events and Texas Kink Fest, and Jackie felt comfortable with him, so I knew he'd be a good choice to go to for the piercings I made the appointment for after work. Originally I had plans to flog Jackie in a field and fuck her there, then take her to get her nipples pierced, but things didn't work our that day at all.  Honestly between Jackies back going out the last week of Sexuary and we had to make multiple trips that brought  us back home late that week, it really didn't allow us to finish Sexuary with the bang I had hoped, but I went ahead and still kept this appointment for the piercings.

It was interesting watching him measure and do all the things I wouldn't of thought of to make sure they look right when he was done.  Since I had done needle play in the areola, I knew how tough the skin was around the nipple. Watching her as he pierced each nipple, and the 2nd one was much tougher to punch through, took Jackies breath away.  My only regret is that I didn't think to put a vibrator on her clit while he was doing all that, I'm pretty sure she'd of massively cum.

To start they put bars on, and they are a bit long. I'm assuming its so they can clean them easier and so forth during the healing.  It is 3 months of care and almost a year before you can actually do much with the piercings themselves.  Jackie would like to put rings in when the bars come out.

So here we are a month later, and while she still has some discharge, it's nothing like it was.  Unlike the first couple of weeks I can now play with her breast again (though one huge orgasm did come from me grabbing her breast that 2nd weekend during sex, she said it was almost like she was ready to pass out when she came from the pain).  Neither of us thought of the constant hard nipples and the chaffing that could come with them.  So she's had to wear some bralets just to keep the nipples from rubbing directly on her shirts. But all in all it's been a great experience for her, and I look forward to the pain I will be able to induce later using those rings.

Dane

So I had been wanting my nipples pierced for a few years but never got up the nerve.  After playing with pain this year during Sexuary I knew that I would be ready for it.  

Dane totally surprised me with the appointment.  I have learned not ask questions on where we are going because he usually won't tell me anyhow.  We drove up to The Golden Goat and my thought was a new tattoo not piercing.  He then told me that we were there to see Sean so I knew that it was piercing time.
Sean took us to his piercing room, where he has be raise my shirt but lower my arms to measure and place his marks on there he would pierce.  He then got all the bars and equipment into the sterilization box and told us to go pay, fill out forms and look around while everything was getting ready.

Well he then lets us know that all is ready and for me to come back in.  I get up on his table and raise my shirt.  I am breathing deeply, and a little nervous .  He starts on the left side,he cleans me off, pinches and pulls and tells me to take a deep breath. He pokes needle thru...I flinched a little, not bad.  This is usually my sensitive side so I was really surprised by the fact that while it hurt it wasn't nearly as bad as I had expected.  So on to the other side.  Same process, clean, pinch, pull and tells me to take a deep breath. This time as I take a deep breath he pokes, and holy shit did that hurt.  He is having a hard time getting the needle to poke all the way thru.  FUCK does it hurt.  I thought he was never going to get it thru the other side. 
 After it was all said it done, I decided that a bra would hurt.  Well Its just the opposite. being without one hurt more.  my nipples hurt because of the weight on them, then who knew that your nipples stay hard all the time now. Now my nipples are chaffed, discharging a creamy white cream and sore as fuck.  I try for several days to not sleep in a bralett or anything. but I just can't.  Skin to skin contact hurts, I have to have something in between them and Dane.

It took about 2 weeks  before the constant pain went away.  4 weeks before I could lay up against Dane without hurting.  We have slowly started playing with my boobs again.  The first time I thought I was going to pass out from the pain but it was a feel good pain.  We will have to continue playing  and trying things to see  how, what and what doesn't bring me to that pleasure/pain threshold.  

Sexuary 2020 - Sex in the Office

Sex in places other than the bedroom have always been more exciting.  It's the 'you shouldn't be doing that' part of it. We've played in fields where we could hear passing cars.  We've played in the car on the side of the road. We've played at other peoples houses when they didn't know. In public pools. In public parks. In a lake in front of hundreds. So why not work?  It solved a problem I had for timing.  In my case it's not that difficult, I have my own office and very few visitors.

Of course the day I have this planned my boss decides to come visit my office. Thankfully he gave me enough of a heads up to avoid being caught in the act. Now that will get your heart beating. Finally the door gets shut, the lube magically appears from in my computer bag, and panties pulled to the side ready for a good fucking.

So not everyone can fuck in their office, but there are places that are 'naughty' or exciting.  A quickie with that kind of excitement on occasion is a great.

Have a place you'd like to secretly have sex at? A secret desire of almost getting caught? DO IT!!! It's exhilarating!

Dane

I started the day texting Dane that today we would fuck in his office.  I had teased him all day in texts.  When I got to the office we were just talking since we knew that his boss who was supposed to call to tell us to meet us outside walks in the door. ....I swear that he was just talking and talking and talking.  I couldn't exactly tell him to leave, but dang it he needs to leave damn it!

Well after what felt like hours, (it was really about 15 minutes) We had a quickie in the office.  My skirt was pulled up over my waist, my panties pushed to the side, some lube was used and we fucked.  

This is not the first time we fucked in his office and I am certain it won't be the last time.  Sometimes that quickie is just what the doctor ordered.

Jackie 

Sexuary 2020 - Spanking Bench

So about 6 months ago I purchased a nice spanking bench.  I love the idea of having Jackie on the bench and taking advantage of her in sooooo many ways. But the one I've always wanted that we've never gotten was to paddle her.  Her relatives were school teachers and I've got 2 original school paddles that are at least 40 years old each.  Oh the excitement of getting to use them has had me excited for years.

The problem is that every time we've breached the subject of paddling, Jackie gets into meltdown mode pretty quickly.  We've talked about it many times. During sex I can spank her ass like nobodies business, but just bending her over the bench to spank is a rough one. I want to be clear, we've talked about this and I know Jackies limits.  She also knows I'd stop in a heartbeat if she's heading to a bad place.  I would never do anything to Jackie that was a hard no!

But I knew that I couldn't just bend Jackie over the spanking bench and start paddling her.  This sexuary the wartenberg wheel has been one of those things that will get her to relax.  So I started with the wheels on her back and then added some hand spankings.  Some as I'm running the wheel, some just by themselves (like 5 on each cheek).

After I got her ass a bit warmed up I took a ping pong paddle and kept up with the wheel.  Her ass is a nice pink by now and well warmed up.

So I pulled out the first paddle and popped her ass in between rolls of the wheel.  About 10 pops (and mind you these are not full swings ...but it is a real paddle popping her ass) she starts to cry. Not a cry of pain from the paddle though, I can tell that.  So I lean in to talk to her, she tells me she's ok and to please keep going. She promises me she's not in a bad place, and it's not anything about the paddling.

I trust Jackie. We've been in similar places before and I believe her. Whatever it is we'll deal with, but for now we'll keep going. Ten more swats with the second paddle and then I finish up. I give her extra aftercare.  I have her lay on me and I rub her for about 30 minutes as she comes back down from her space.

Later that night when I felt it was a good time we talked again. In the past I've asked her dozens of times why she goes south when we talk about paddling and she's never had an answer. She swears she didn't know. Well, while I was paddling her she had an image of her begging her mom to stop paddling her. She had done something and was getting spanked. She doesn't remember the incident, it's just these images she got while we were scene'ing.  We don't know how this will play out in the long run.  It could be that she's got answers now and spanking/paddling won't be an issue anymore. It could be that it will only get worst. It will be something I'll have to watch in the future.

But we always try to tell the good with the bad, and we're not sure where this comes yet, but at the moment it wasn't the best of things. How it was handled from the time the emotions appeared to the time we totally ended the scene is very important. If you didn't know your bottom you could have a serious issue. This is why communication before, during and after is so important. If I hadn't know Jackie like I did I would of immediately ended the scene and gone straight to aftercare when the first tear hit.

After all was said and done, it was a good scene.  One we'll try again, keeping in mind what happened this time and watching closely for emotions rising.  We'll talk and deal with whatever might come.

Dane

Spanking.
So Dane had me go to the spanking bench, once again blind folded. I laid across it, he starts his usual touch routine, now we have added the wheels(OMG my #1 thing from this month).  This time pop....touch..pop pop pop.  I knew he was warming me up, I had no idea what he was using tho. 
I knew it eventually got to the paddles.  The paddles that have been hidden for as long I can remember.  Paddles that have memories attached but not my memories. Hell one has masking tape around it from when it was used at school and broke against a 4th graders butt.

Pop pop pop pop...other things, pop pop pop...and the tears start to flow...Not just little tears but sobs..They won't stop, they just flow.  Dane asks if I was ok, I tell him yes yes I am.  I practiclly beg for him to not stop.  I know in a moments notice if my body language changes,or I shut down.  He will shut the scene off. I knew I needed to do this.  To see if I could get answers, to try to figure out why this is a NO and has been for a long while.
 
I can tell you from past experiences its not my thing.  I go into a negative rabbit-hole.  Lost for days or weeks before I can snap out of it.   We have tried to figure out my trigger, what does it look like, what does it feel like, what does it smell like. I have never been about to tell him, I have never been able to tell anyone what happened in the past.  I can tell you there are several years that I don't have a lot of memories of.  Years.  Years to only have one or two memories.  Some good some not so good.  But not once did I have anything that was about my mom.   Today, this spanking session sparked something. It still has yet to reveal the whole thing.  I was telling Dane my filing cabinet has been opened and a file folder has been dumped, I am having a hard time seeing whats in the folder, I see pictures or flashes but the memory is just not there.  I can hear myself saying things but don't know what lead up to that or what followed.  I can hear myself saying "I am sorry mommy, I promise to be a good girl" I can see where it happened.  I am not sure I want to know.  My mom is gone so I can't ask her, my dad is gone I can't ask him.  It was before a sibling was born.  I know as I look back in the past I can see stuff that makes total sense now that I didn't understand then.  Sometimes we have to go thru our trigger and see.  Sometimes you don't want to, sometimes you don't really want to open that can of worms.  However to move forward, you have to sometimes do the hard /bad to get to the soft/good.  
 I have done a lot of soul searching this month.  Trying to figure out what makes me tick the way it does.  
Dane did great after care after my breakdown.  He knew and still knows I have to piece together stuff.  He knows this is not going to fix itself, he knows exactly how much to push me.  He knows I will share with him when I am ready. He knows that right now I am not in a negative space.  He also knows he is my safe space.  You guy this couldn't have happened if I didn't trust Dane 110%.  Its taken years for that trust to build to get here.  Even tho we are here, I still have to let go of my control and let him take total control of me, its been a hell of a month!

Jackie

Sexuary 2020 - Caning

For whatever reason (and we've talked about it many times with no real knowledge of where it came from) the mention of spanking Jackie sends her down a rabbit hole fast.  Spanking her while in the middle of sex is ok, flogging is ok, but spanking and instruments used to spank will quickly turn things south mentally.So part of the reason she doesn't know what is coming up each day is so that she doesn't get to go down those rabbit holes prior to trying new things. We've experienced it several times over the years, so we know the risk is real.

So caning definitely falls into that category. I've really wanted to try it on her but know if I told her that it would not go well. So I didn't.  Before we started playing I blindfolded her.  I put her up against the St Andrews Cross where she generally has a great time.  I started using the wartenberg wheels on her and then I stepped back and popped her under her ass cheeks several times.  I could sense the surprise in Jackie, BUT she didn't call out any safe words.  After a couple more minutes with the wartenberg wheel I popped her again.  After some rubbing and more wartenberg wheel I asked her what color she was at, "yellowish green". After a bit more playing and again a color check she was "green".  We were good, she'd jumped over the rabbit hole and would enjoy the moment.

I found the canes here at Amazon. They are a 2 pack and are slightly different.I got to use both on Jackie before pulling her down from the cross to finish her.

So why would I try something like this? First the endorphins for pain and pleasure are the same ones, it's the headspace and situation you're in that dictates whether it's orgasmic or hurtful.  The same canes could be just hurtful if misused.Second, there is something about an ass that has a bright red glow that is such a turn on for me. And last, how will Jackie ever conquer those fears and rabbit holes without her body and mind KNOWING that they are good things, not bad.  So repetitive good events will hopefully over come her mental anguish of spankings and the tools that go with them.

Try it at home. Use your hand, a belt, a ping pong paddle, and just try a bit of spanking play, you might find it more adventurous that you ever though.

Dane

Caining....hmmmm who knew...So over the years Dane and I have talked and tried it.  I did not have an good ending.  I am not sure what has caused it but just know the times we have tried a spanking day, Dane really enjoyed it.  I totally checked out and while I was there physically but not there mentally. 
This year our our "real" lives we have done lots of firsts, and talked for hours upon hours about our kinks, our limits, our hard no's, our ok lets try things.  That leads us up to today.  Caning.  I had no idea that this was planned. He is right I would have gone down a negative rabbit-hole.  

He blind folded me and took me to our dungeon and placed me at the cross.  He ran his hands up and down knowing it help get me into the space he needed me to be.  He got out the wheels...OMG the wheels...I just love them, then right in the middle of a great movement....whap...wait..what was that...whap....oh shit what is it....whap....did he get a new single flogger....whap ...oh hell never mind....let me be in this moment.  I remember him whispering asking me my color...I remember having to get my thoughts back in check to answer.  I remember saying yellowish-green.  I am not sure what I was thinking or not thinking but I do know I was not in a negative space at all.  I do remember tearing up but not sure why but knew it was a good cry not a bad one.  I told him I was good, and I really was.

So I do like the idea of 2 things going on at once.  Really does my mind good, things to stay focused on, things that help me not go down the rabbit-hole.  

Dane has done a great job pushing my limits, helping me figure out things...

Jackie 

Sexuary 2020 - Cupping

As part of the planning for this Sexuary, I ordered both glass cups for cupping and a plastic set with hand pump. Today was the day to break them out. Now before today I've watched several videos, but the best one I found was here.

I didn't let Jackie know what we were doing, I just had her lay on the massage table, face down. I had prepared the cups, and had a candle lit with my firewand soaking in 91% isopropyl alcohol. Every place I went  91% is recommended over the standard 70%.  I was able to find it at Walmart. So everything was ready.

The first couple I attempted stuck ok, but weren't the best. I wasn't quick enough from the flame to the skin, but they all did stick and they all did draw in skin. 

I then used a couple of the hand pump cups on her legs. I had a few issues till I realized the center piece had to be pulled up sometimes prior to using the pump.  I also had to play with the amount of pumps to use.  I started with 4, WAY to many. 2 seemed to be the magic number. Tight enough to do the work, soft enough to be able to get them off.

This is just 1 more thing on our bucket list that we've had that we can now cross off. One of the great parts about this is we now everything we need to do this time and time again. The glass cups in particular are good for a long time if taken care of.

We're well along into Sexuary now. What do you have planned that is different then you usually do? What can you and your partner do that will enhance your sex life, or maybe it's just your relationship you need to enhance, but something like a massage, or cupping, or a huge hug can make a difference.

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Fireplay

So one of the things I had planned for this month was a bit of fireplay.  We've seen it done many times, but had not ever tried it. So what better time to try it then during Sexuary.  No it's not an orgasmic thing, but it does feel great.

So I had ordered a pack of firewands (though you could use a cotton ball and a hemostat) and found some mousse that had alcohol in it (I know so little about mouse, but I figured out some don't have it). Really that's all you need.

Well just like the needles, I wanted to practice myself prior to trying on Jackie.  So while Jackie has taken off I pulled everything out and tried it out. Other than the singed hairs on my leg (yeah, I really though that one through). It was a nice warm sensation as the whoosh ran across my leg.  I hit the mousse again with the firewand and off it went again and again.  I wiped the mousse off and did it again and again. It was pretty cool.

So it wasn't what was on the agenda for the night, Jackies adventures had brought her in late the night before when we were supposed to, so I decided to try it that night instead, as I knew she'd enjoy it. I cleared the linen off the massage table and put her on there then got the stuff out.

I drew my design on her back and whoosh the fire lit up.



I did several patterns and tried different ways of lighting the designs to see if I could get them to go longer.  We did down her legs and then her belly too before we were all done. Other than the fact I really needed a tripod to get all the videos I wanted it was pretty cool. Over all we spent about 45 minutes lighting fires and watching them go.  Another thing off our bucket list to learn.

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Roll Playing

One of the things Jackie and I aren't the best at is talking during sex. Occasionally there are some sounds, but we're really not much of talkers during sex. We have a friend how has bragged about her roll playing sexcapades, so I decided to throw that into this sexuary.

I got the room ready, had brought in everything needed to play doctor and told Jackie what to wear (a skirt and shirt with no panties or bra.

The annual exam included breast exam, reflex exam (using the wartenberg wheel of course), then of course the speculum went in and then I had to test her orgasmic reflexes using her vibrator. For the record she passed with flying colors. I then used a soft sound and got it about 3" in and then decided to use a steel sound.  Yeah that didn't work so well for Jackie. But hey we learned. I then did a little fisting on her using gloves (no better than without gloves). We ended up by the doctor taking advantage of his already orgasmic patient, bending her over the exam table, lifting her skirt and taking advantage of her. 

We had to communicate during the 'exam' portion, still not great during the sex part, but hey it was definitely something different for us.

We tried 2 new thing with the roll playing and the sounds on her. I know the sound wasn't a big thing for her, and maybe another time we'll try it.  The roll play was a bit awkward, but I think if we did it a couple more times it could get better. I told her I have it scheduled 1 more time this month with a different scenario, so we'll see.

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Needle Play

One of the things Jackie had expressed an interest in was needle play.  We've seen it several times at events we've gone to and it intrigued us. We've actually been to classes on this taught at Kink Fest by Guru Sean. We've also seen his extreme works where he goes all the way up to hooks.

So class taken, and supplies ordered.  I've pulled out a couple of each needle size and tried them on my leg just to practice a bit and to know a bit what it feels like and practice a bit of technique. I really believe anyone who would do something like needle play should know what they are inflicting on anyone they are applying it to.

Even though Jackie wants this she's a bit nervous the day of.  I try to keep her calm and we get her on the massage table.  We're going to work on her upper back today. I've let her pick the spot, though I tell her we'll want to try other spots. I wipe the spot down and make sure it's clean and sterile, gloves on, the box with needles ready and here we go.

I've got an idea, I want to make a heart on her back, but not sure how it's going to work, but like all of Sexuary I'll be flexible if I run into problems. Of course I start with the smallest needles we have.  I put in a few of them. I have to admit Jackies reaction isn't exactly what I expected.  She's having to breath through each stick.  My inexperience has a couple of the needles going further under the skin then others. This is not what I'm wanting for a 1st time try. 

The heart, well let's just say the attempt at a heart, quickly disappears. I can't create the curves needed to make the heart. I'm sure it's doable but it's not happening today, by me. Plan B, be creative and make it look ok. So I create a symmetrical pattern (my logical mind at work). I use every size needle we have.  She definitely feels the larger ones, but honestly not as much as I was afraid she would. 

Twenty-one needles later we were finished. I felt that was a great place to stop. I'd of loved to try a couple of other spots, but sometimes knowing when to stop is the most important part of any kind of play.

Now I think Jackie thought I was going to let her off easy, but this is Sexuary 2020, the pancentric month of sex.  I hadn't seen any orgasms happen yet. So I grabbed the magic wand and while Jackie was still on the table I applied it to ...well you get the idea.  It didn't take long before a mind blowing orgasm hit.  The pain of the needles turning to pure pleasure as her body blew it's orgasmic gasket.

While removal of the needles can have some pain, they honestly don't hurt much pulling them out (I know from experience even).  Needles all put into the collection box, the alcohol rubs definitely burn a bit as I clean up a little of the mess. I put meat packing over the area (the absorbent pads that are on the bottom of the meat packaging work great for this, thank you Guru Sean),  and we go to relax. For the rest of the night Jackie definitely knows she's been needled, but it's not unbearable, and at times, it's just a gentle reminder of the great afternoon we've had together.

If you're interested in needle play I suggest you find someone who is in it, ask LOTS of questions, try it on a thigh or something on yourself to see what you're getting into. Read what you can. I think I've spent about $30 in total for 250 needles of varying size, and all the gloves, etc.  I took an old coffee can and made it into my needle collection (sealed the top, cut a slit in for hte needles and marked it as hazardous).  So it's an inexpensive 'kink' to try out.

Sexuary is in full fling now...do you have any plans? Are you going to do something different for Sexuary 2020 this year? You still have time, go for it!

Dane

Needle play, well I asked for it.  I have actually been asking for it for a while but we just never have done it.  So that was certainly one that would be on the calendar this year.

I had told Dane that I was nervous. I wasn't sure what I was to feel or how to feel but I can tell you that it wasn't anything I have felt before.  

I have gotten tattoos before and this can't even compare.  From the very littlest needle to the biggest one I had to breath through each and everyone.  It was painful but not painful enough to stop.  Once all the needles were in, it actually didn't hurt as bad.  I didn't get up and walk around but I did move my arm around to see what it felt like.  I could feel them but it was not terrible.  It did not make me cum while he was placing needles, it still  was exciting.  It really didn't take long when Dane got out the the wand to make me come.

The after effects felt like I had a slight sunburn and maybe a little heat like you get when you have a shot or tattoo.  

We will defiantly be looking at this again.  Once is truly not a real experience.   
Jackie 

Sexuary 2020 - Flogging

This is not a new subject for us. Flogging is something Jackie and I have enjoyed it for a couple of years.  Last year we blogged here about flogging.  Since then we've added several more floggers to our arsenal and have continued to enjoy them. 

Normally pain is not the point of our flogging, but when paincentric is the plan for the month, well you flog a bit harder.  Now we did some sensation work prior to flogging, and when I started I warmed Jackie up with 100 or so lashes as a low level.  Afterwards I started adding a bit more swing to it, until we were at a good swing and the lashes were leaving red marks down Jackies back and ass.  She was moaning and groaning with each stroke, and when she got to a point let me know she was at 'yellow'.  I didn't stop, but I was much more particular about my strokes.

When we were done I had to lay Jackie down on the massage table.  Her eyes were rolled and she was shaking.  After some water and chocolate and about 30 minutes she was back to reality.  I put lotion on her back and while she felt the effects of for the rest of the night, in the morning she was fine and no marks were left.

Now in the meantime there was literally a puddle of cum under Jackie where she had orgasmed.She's came over and over again while we were flogging.  The pain turned to pure pleasure. The fine line between pleasure and pain and pain as pleasure is remarkable.  The endorphins created on either one are the same endorphins and Jackies' experienced it yesterday while I flogged her. 

On a side note, we have a friend we introduced to flogging.  When she first started she was scared and was very hesitant.  Once she experienced it, by someone who knew her and cared, and wasn't just an asshole trying to beat her, she realized how extremely exciting it can be. She LOVES flogging now.  You MUST trust the flogger (DOM) to know you and know your limits. You must not play with a wanna-be DOM who just wants to beat someone.  It's imperative that you protect yourself with knowledge so you don't get hurt. But don't be afraid of flogging, it's a great tool in reaching new heights.

Again, we don't get any money from them, but www.flogmebaby.com has always treated us fantastic and has a great product for a great price.

Dane

Flogging....what can I say I love flogging. There is no way to describe the feeling that happens as your body crosses over the pain/pleasure threshold. I could feel my eyes roll back in my head, my breathing changing as I slipped into sub space.  Due to going back and forth into subspace, I can only tell you that I really enjoyed this flogging session, yes it was much harder than we have ever done but the feeling of release I had and have had thru all of this is more than I can describe. 

 I remember a big puddle under me when Dane had to lead me back to the table to rest.  I know I drank so water, some chocolate to help with my lightheaded head rush. Then I remember going to sleep for about an hour. 

I was able to get into subspace because I totally trust Dane.  He is my dom and knows exactly how much to push me and what to do for aftercare.
Jackie
 

Sexuary 2020 - Our Dungeon

Every once in a while the stars align and we get one of our bucket list wishes come true.  That happened for us when our 4 bedroom house became vacant except for Jackie and I.  What does that mean? It means we have PLENTY of room to do whatever we want in our house, and no one to wonder in 'accidently'.  So what did we do? We took all the toys we've purchased or built over the last 14 years and built a dungeon! I mean an honest to goodness dungeon!

We've enjoyed many kinks over the last several years (as you can read in this blog) and so we've added to our 'tools of the trade'.  We have the rack that can be used for rope suspension and I've added an adult swing for this Sexuary.

When a local dungeon was moving they had some of their equipment for sale, so when the spanking bench came up we snagged it.  It's way over kill for anything Jackie and I would use (it has hand clamps, and a male masturbater built into it.  It's very sturdy and while if I was building one I'd make some adjustments, for the $50 we paid for it is a great addition to our new dungeon area.

For those of you who build I'd make the center piece and the legs a bit adjustable so that the ass height and the comfort of the sub is better met.

Next we've got a massage table. OH the many uses this table has. Yes, we've done massages on it, but we've also used it as a bed. The head piece pulls out and so you have a square end to lay on. The legs are adjustable, so the height is perfect for Jackie to be laying on it and for me to have a straight shot into her treasure chest.

You'll notices the chaise lounger in the corner.  I know the old 50's movies used them to make the ladies look sexy, but Jackie can bend over the end, lay ass up, or ...well just us your imagination as to what all you can do with it.

Last is the St Andrews Cross I built a year or two ago.  I've built a frame for the bottom with the intentions of taking it places with us over the next year.  A couple of pins and 1 bolt and it will totally come apart and pack away.

The mats on the floor (which we've moved) really do make a difference when you're standing on the floor.  These are from Walmart and are 6 - 1/2" mats for $12.  We have about 125 sq/ft of matting on our floors now. They also are very easy to clean when Jackie gets very orgasmic. 

In the closet we have everything from floggers to needles, vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, masturbators, nipple and clit clamps, rope and suspension equipment, TENS units, Violet Wand, other electrical attachments, and anything else we've come across and wanted/needed over the years and of course plenty of lubes. 

We haven't played with everything here, the needles are coming but we are prepared, and there are other boxes I haven't unveiled yet so I can surprise Jackie when the time comes.  When we do have something we like, we go ahead and get good equipment and make sure we have a variety of them. Floggers for instance, we have 6 or 7 of them, varying weight and lengths (Get your flogger at Flogmebaby.com Steven there will treat you right!). 

While over the decades we've spent plenty of money on putting everything in this dungeon together, it's not like the equipment in there is thousands of dollars. We probably have $500 - $600 dollars in floor equipment.  That's all 5 pieces. And if you're a great shopper like Jackie you could probably do it for less.The spanking bench was $50, because we just keep our eyes open for deals like that. You could probably find a massage table and other things for a dungeon. We have another $500 - $750 in 'toys' in the closet.  A lot of that stuff was purchased before Amazon and Wish were around and big into adult toys and gadgets, and has taken us almost 15 years to accumulate. So start small and go from there. Scan through Wish.com and see things that are intriguing to you and get them. Soon you'll have your own collection for a dungeon if you're lucky like Jackie and I are. 

Dane