Saturday, October 27, 2018

Sexuary 2018 - Ropes


I know we haven't posted much this year, but it's not because we haven't been expanding our kink, it just not been making the time to post.  So I'll try over the next couple of weeks to catch you up.

Since Kink Fest 2018 Jackie has really learned to love ropes.  Yeap, the woman that wouldn't let me tie her up 15 years ago in fear now almost begs to have ropes cover her and embrace her.  Our rope bag has gone from 100' nylon rope from Home Depot to dozens of hemp and jute rope in multiple colors in 15' and 30' varieties.  I have a collection of carabiners to suspend my lovely model on occasion.

But let me step back a bit and fill you in on how we got here. It started with the first class at Kink Fest.  A couple of simple knots that were comfortable and easy enough for me to remember.  From there pandoras box was opened.  Jackie found us a group that met every Monday and taught different knots and techniques every week.  The original instructor from Kink Fest happen to be one of the leaders in this group too.  So we started attending and learning more.  We then found a little more advanced group and Wednesday nights became our 'date night'. Below is the first knot we learned.


So why the ropes?  Well first of all there is a concentration on both of our parts that brings us closer.  I become keenly aware of Jackies every breath once the ropes start to go on.  Her life  can literally be in my hands and I'm the one making sure she comes out better for it. It's an aphrodisiac having someone so much in your control. 

She on the other hand has given up everything for that time.  When she fully lets go, the sub-space she obtains is a powerful powerful place that is beyond calming.  She allows me to pleasure her and in doing so allows a peace to surround her that can't be had many other ways. Her orgasms are stronger and come wave after wave.  Her after glow is incredible and there are times it takes her hours to come down from her 'high'.

I think everyone who gets 'into' ropes eventually finds themselves looking at suspension, and we're no exception.  While we did some right away, we realized that it was more evolved than we were, but lately we've been dabbling again with suspension.  This last week Jackie laid in her ropes, suspended for about 15 minutes, her eyes rolled back and just enjoying the gentle rocking that came with it.


We've found that these groups are on Facebook and Fetlife.com.  Almost every area has at least 1 roping group it seems.  Some meet weekly, some monthly, but in all of them we've found a comradery of nonjudgmental people who understand we like things not as vanilla as some others.  The people have been accepting of us and been more than happy to teach us what they know.  Jackie and I hope that even if you just have questions, seek out one of these groups and see if it's for you.

If you're a self starter, and just want to go see there are a ton of great youtube videos.  We also have use Crash Restraint as a fantastic source for videos and learning.  They do a fantastic job of teaching the knots and putting them together.

From the first picture to the 2nd is 5 months of learning.   While I do have some experience with rope before, learning a more practical application and how to put them together has been my great joy over this time.  The intensity of our sessions increased when we break out the ropes.

I'll fill you in with our other adventures at a Dark Party and more soon!

Dane

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Sexuary 2018 - Texas Kink Fest

This year we were invited to the Texas Kink Fest and decided to go.  Who else would be our kindred spirit but a group of kinksters that were open and would talk and demonstrate about their kink?

So before I get to far, I want to tell you want it wasn't.  It wasn't a massive orgy with sex every where you looked.  And while there was plenty of nudity, there was less than at Hippie Hollow or other nudist camps.  Yes, some of us were nude all the time, some were half dressed, and some never took off a stitch of clothing.  So if you are looking into one of these and think you're going to a Roman orgy you're going to be sorely disappointed.

Now on to what it was.  This was a weekend that people with kinks could display their skills, discuss their desires, and learn from others.  There were several classes each day that you could attend.  There were demonstrations, and there was entertainment all provided throughout the weekend.

There were classes Jackie and I attended together, like the ropes 101 class, and there were several we took separately. It was a safe environment, and I knew Jackie would be safe in any of the sessions there alone. 

Their Dungeon was to die for.  Mr. Grey could of taken a lesson from the setup.  It was available for you to try out, and use.  If you were looking for a piece of furniture for your Dungeon they probably had one for you to try, and WANTED you to try it out.  Thank you TKF for that experience!  People would watch respectfully as a scene went on and would just move on afterwards.  

The rope work that was both taught and demonstrated was just fantastic!  We learned a few new knots.  We learned a new way to tie Jackie up that would relieve some of the stress on her shoulders.  We learned we really want to learn a hell of a lot more about ropes!! We also saw one of the most sensual performances where one young lady used ropes to suspend another young lady.  No one in the audience dared to take a breath in fear of missing something.  It was so erotic, so sensual, so spectacular.  

We saw other demonstrations on flogging.  We saw people in their "pup" personas.  We saw a couple with collars being walked around.  We saw needles and hook and so much more.  All was done respectfully and none judgemental.  It was a place a person could go and practice their kink, learn more about their kink, and teach others about their kink.  

Now Jackie and I have learned there are things not for us, beyond one or the others limits.  But we can also appreciate their desire for their kink and appreciate the beauty in things we wouldn't try ourselves.  

If you find yourself with an opportunity to attend such a weekend, we highly recommend it. It was a great time and we look forward to next years Kink Fest, May 2 - 5, 2019

Dane

Monday, March 5, 2018

Sexuary 2018 - Being Tied Up

So life kind of got in the way of Sexuay 2018.  We'd gone through 4 months of family issues and weren't able to celebrate like we normally do.  But that doesn't mean we won't try to do something later this year for a couple of weeks or a month.  It also doesn't mean that we haven't had some fun in the mean time pushing limits again.

In the past I've done some light tying up and BDsm.  We've played with cuffs that Velcro to sheets, and Japanese ropes to tie her hands, but to give full trust like this is something new for Jackie.  This weekend Jackie gave me permission to go all out and no limits with the rope, something that has literally been 2 decades since I've had that opportunity and I wasted no time getting excited and start planning.  New rope was purchased and the blood was flowing. Jackie was very apprehensive.
When we started it was almost a bit comical.  My rope skills have definitely slacked over the years.  I couldn't get anything to stay tight.  After a couple of attempts though things started to tighten up and stay in place.  Her breast were tied tight with nipple clamps placed on her nipples. Then her arms were tied behind her back, all while on her knees and blind folded.  She was a beautiful site.  A trusting wife who went well beyond her boundaries and learned she had a new limit.
 
Ok, so my rope work still has lots to be desired, but you have to admit she is beautiful all tied up like this.  When we were finished we took a break, I rubbed her shoulder and we just relaxed.  I'll fill you in on more of our weekend adventure soon.  But what did it take?  I purchased some 3/16" rope that was nice and soft (100 ft) and a willing partner.  That's it. 
So I've heard it time and again about BDsm and its' many subcategories that's it's just about abuse.  While it could be without 2 loving, trusting people, it's far from it when done the right way. BDsm is about bringing 2 people closer.  The trust between 2 people to perform this type of act is incredible. The literally "giving of oneself" is giving everything can only brings you closer when done right.  The accepting that gift and taking on that responsibility opens up parts that just doesn't happen in ordinary sexual relationships.  It took a lot for Jackie to open up and allow me to tie her up like that.  But she's come a long way over the years where just tying up her her hands was a push for her.  Me? I'll have to make sure I didn't break that trust in any way. You have to know your partner and their deepest fears and joys.  In my case, I made sure her hands were the last to be tied making it easier on her.

From here? I've already remembered some of the things I didn't do right that would of made the ties better.  I will probably do a bit of research making sure that next time the comical side of our encounter doesn't happen again.  Also we talked about a couple of things that would make it more enjoyable for both of us.  We didn't get to 'celebrate Sexuary 2018', we definitely had a Sexuary type weekend (so yeah, more to come).  

Dane