Sunday, February 27, 2022

Sexuary 2022 - A Day of Sex!! - Day 26

Without you, I doubt I’d have any relationship with any of the kids….and definitely not the relationship we have with all of them.  I know it’s not always been easy…and I know I’ve had to hold you back a time or two …and I know you’ve had your heart broken more than once by their actions, but in true ‘mother’ form, you’ve believed, you’ve loved and you waited them out and because of that we’ve got the best relationship we’ve ever had with all of the kids.  I love that about you. -143

PS – Today is all day sex….. I’d love to finish up with a par 3 or better… but as the last weekend of Sexuary I really hope to make it go out with a bang. 

My spouse Jackie is an incredible woman! I debated whether or not to post this note I sent to her or not, it's kind of personal, but then I realized this part of her is part of what makes her such a great partner.  There are 2 very different personalities.  I see black and white, she sees shades of gray.  I'm roar like the lion, with the lightening strike of Thor, and she's kind, loving, and giving, in my view almost to a fault at times.  But the balance of the 2 has created a relationship that has lasted over 15 years and is honestly better today then it was 15 years ago. Part of that is that she is subservient, not my slave, but wants to serve and make me happy.  It's part of what makes her complete and happy.  My acknowledgement of that keeps her wanting to give more.  My acceptance of that is not only a gift to me, but a gift to her.  

I think so many subservient people get abused because of their personalities and that's a shame.  Instead of shining and growing, they are left to coward or be upset because once again they were taken advantage of.   Instead of becoming who they truly are, they are forever wondering how they wind up in relationships like they do, unappreciated, an never satisfied in life. Often times these same people are in abusive relationships because the abuser mistaken subservient for weak and easy.  It's truly sad. 

ONTO THE PS!!!! Today was all day sex!!! WOO HOO! I know you're thinking I'm joking right?  Well our day starts at breakfast, and then the day really began! Back in bed we went and honestly except for a late lunch around 2 and then ice cream about 7 when we ended, we were in bed the entire day.  We cranked the music on the bluetooth speaker and went at it.  

We would play then rest....sometimes 15 minutes...sometimes 45....but we were together all day in bed.  

Read that again, we were in bed together for almost 10 hours enjoying each others company in every kinky way.  Ok there were 2 showers in there too.  

Now for those who haven't read about a Par 3, there are 3 holes. so you have to hit every hole on the course to get a Par 3.   Remember anal play is a rarity for me, so to get a Par 3, Jackie has to give that up too. 

Ok what I've got to say is WOW!!!! That woman jumped in with all her efforts to make this a day to remember forever!  Not only did we start out with anal, but several times through out the day we went back there.  Her blow job was incredible, and our already good sex was like a new dimension of sex for the entire day.  

While choking is something we've played with, we took it up a notch when I brought my robe belt to bed and used it on her.  She then put it in her mouth and liked having it there as a bite, something else new for us.  

At the end of the day I did get my Par 3 with 2 extra holes for bonuses.  

Look we get it, if you've read this years blog you realized we've had to change plans more times than not.  LIFE SUCKS THE JOY OUT OF GETTING THERE!!! If you don't make it a serious priority in your relationship, sex can all but disappear.  We know so many couples that couldn't tell you the last time they had sex, or it's one of those only on a very rare occasion.  Life, grudges, lack of communication, one person not realizing that sex is something the other wants or doesn't understand that it is really THAT important to the other person in the relationship and won't make the effort to go there.  Relationships take effort.  Sex in a relationship takes even more effort.  And great sex, well let's just say not many are willing to put forth that much the sex they do have is routine and often times one sided where one of the 2 are 'satisfied' and the other just fakes it to be done and over with it.  

Nobody deserves any of that!!! Hence Sexuary.  You've still got a couple of days, MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN!!! Be different today.  Try something you've always wanted to.  Talk to your significant other.  Be the aggression.  Be the subservient one.  Talk.  Make time and make it stick, no excuses.  Find that second wind and be there for your significant other.  Whatever it takes quit making excuses and do something!!! It's hard, we get it, trust me after 26 days we understand just how hard, and we raise 4 kids, so we really do understand. It's why Sexuary was so important to us 13-14 years ago when we started, and why we continue to this day supporting Sexuary.  


Thursday, February 24, 2022

Sexuary 2022 - Romantic Flames - Day 24

I hope I fan yours as much as you fan mine.  I am such a better man in so many ways because of you, you push me when I need, you let me glow bright when I’m glowing, and when I’m down to just embers you put another log and make it hot all over again.  – 143

 Tonight it just happened to be 30F all day today, and I happen to send this email to Jackie, not knowing exactly what I'd wind up doing but as the day went on I decided. I put wood in the fireplace knowing Jackie had to run some errands after work. While she was gone I lit the fire and had it ready for when she got back.  

While she went out to get high, I laid out a pallet of blankets in front of the fire place, grabbed the lube and put pillows on the floor and waited for her to come back in.  

When she came back in, we got naked and laid on the floor and we caressed each other for a bit before we made out. 

It was a gesture of romance.  Maybe not the grandest, but it was something different.  Sex on the living room floor.  Sex in front of a lit fire place.  Definitely NOT our 'normal' night in bed.  

It was simple, but it was something we both could enjoy.  Not over the top.  Something ANYONE could do.  But tonight we did it. 

Hope you've found something different to try this Sexuary!


Sexuary 2022 - Jackie Tops 3rd Time - Day 23

Lol…I do mean that in sooooo many ways.  Seriously I’m sad that tonight is the last night till who knows when.  I’d really like this to be a monthly or at least every 6 weeks.  Spanking, anal play, cbt, whatever it is, it’s sexy as hell when you take control on occasion.  -143

Jackie hit a homer last Wednesday with her night, and she knocked it out of the ball park tonight.

She started by having me wear a butt plug from lunch till time to clean out.  I like having a butt plug in, an have done so for up to 8 hours now that I've found one that fits well and stays in.  

I then cleaned out while Jackie was out, and had finished right before she got home, so I was on the bed, my ass up in the air ready for her to do with me what she wanted. 

She stared with some fingers stretching me out, then a couple of toys.  When she went to fist me it just wasn't going to go.  

One of the things we've found out about the ass, is it just needs times to stretch, and when it hasn't been stretched in a while it takes even longer.  It's been forever since Jackies fist made it's way in my ass, and today it took extra time to stretch me out.  I have a large pyramid shape dildo she wound up using on me to continue to stretch me, in and out.  

Finally I moved just a bit and Jackie was able to slide the dildo hand into my ass.  It took just a bit, but then it just slid right in.  Then she pulled it out and I said one more time and without knowing she slide her fist right in.  My ass has been loosened enough and we took the time that her fist just slid right in.  

As she was in there, she kept her fist on my prostate and before long I had a full body orgasm.  Not just a bit of cum that shot out of my cock, but my body tense and released in a total and complete orgasm.  When Jackie pulled out I just laid there in complete content.  Eventually I moved up in the bed and Jackie put the covers over me and I just laid there in the moment. 

There is no orgasm like when Jackie can fist me.  I don't know why but there's not.  

Keys to anal fisting? LUBE!!! There is never enough lube, so don't skimp here. Take your time.  The rectum WILL stretch, but it doesn't like to be just ripped open.  It wasn't to be played with, slowly and continuously played with till it's finally ready to allow whatever in you want.  Though I have found I do have some limits...not much but some.  While there is going to be a point you'll have to get past...for me it's that last 1/4", but if you can take a deep breath and make it past there, there is glory on the other side.  It will push you to your limits, but wow... just wow. 


Sexuary 2022 - Fire Flogger - Day 22


Do you know how busy our schedule is now a days? It’s amazing that we ever have sex, must less have anything like Sexuary.  I’m glad that we make the effort to make sure our sex life is an important part of our life.  -143

It's true.  I'm not sure how we got so busy in life with no kids in the house, but it seems like we're gone and going all the time.  A weekend at home with nothing to do is almost unheard of anymore, and even a night at home with nothing to do just doesn't happen as often as I thought it would during Sexuary.  It's something we'll be working on over the next couple of months.  It's not that it's not fun, or things we want to do, it's just so many of them that they add up to not a lot of free time.  

Then you have things like Mother Nature that want to mess up plans.  This wasn't supposed to be Fire FLogger day, but the weather coming up for the next several days was going to be a high about 35....not a great time to be outside, naked, with a fire flogger flinging around.

This was something that Jackie had tasked me to look into. We've seen it at Bondage Camp at Tex Ren Faire, and at Texas Kink Fest and she wanted to try it.  So me being me, I found out what I needed to get, what I needed to do and how to do it.  

I purchased 2 fire floggers and a gallon of white gas.  I've had them for several months and have been waiting for Sexuary to break them out.  Because the weather was going to be so bad this week I moved the flogging to tonight instead. 

Naked, with her protective head piece, and leaning against a pole on our back porch I lit the first flogger and started swinging it.  The flames would flicker on her skin.  Each pass the warmth of the flames would get hotter and closer.  

On one occasion, a drop of alcohol hit her skin, but by the time I went to knock it out it was already gone.  

I would quickly run the flogger over her back...both a soft flog and the heat at one time.  Sometime during the 2nd flogger Jackie started laughing.  When I asked her what was up, she said, "I just came"... no 'sex' per se, but it put Jackie in the right frame of mind to cum.  

There is something about things like flogging, fire or not, that allows the sub to get into a good space.  The mental space they go to is freeing.  Freeing to the point of orgasms.  

It set a great beginning for the night ahead.  

Sexuary is winding down.  Have you made your move?  Have you tried SOMETHING you wouldn't normally do?  You still have time. Maybe it won't be as over the top as a fire flogger, but maybe it will be a step to change your sex life like ours did all those years ago when we took the Sexuary challenge.