Saturday, December 28, 2013

101 Kinky Ideas

I was working on a project and when I did I came across this website, 101 Ultra Kinky Ideas.  Ok, in my realm of kinky it's really pretty mild, but I wanted to share it with you because of it mildness of kink.  Some of you want to have a bad side, but you either don't know how to get started, afraid to get started or just don't want to go to deep.  This site has 101 relatively 'mild' kinky things you and your partner can do.  OK, some of them are a bit more kinky than others, but some of them even the most novice of kinksters can handle.

Sexuray is only a bit more than a month away.  Because of family health issues it definitely will not be a month of hot steamy monkey sex for Jackie and I.  We've not figured out exactly what we'll be doing, but it will be something.  Are you looking forward to Sexuary?  Are you planning on doing SOMETHING for Sexuary?

For those new to this blog it was started from a Sexuary challenge posted on to make some difference in your sex life during the month of February, affectionately known as "Sexuary".  If you have monthly sex, then a second or third time that month might be your Sexuary.  If you're a 3 time a weeker, then maybe it's going out of your way to bring in some new excitement to the bedroom.  Maybe your partner has had some desires and you've always been to hesitant to try them, maybe Sexuary is your time to overcome your anxiety and give it a try.

So give it a try, go through that list.  If I counted right Jackie and I have done 60 of the things on the list, so we still have 41 more to go. Always more joy to come in the bedroom...or where ever else you might want to try it.


Thursday, November 14, 2013

Anal Fisting

So in February after several days Jackie was able to get our toy fist into me.  It took time and patience, and LOTS of lube, but damn it was incredible and I loved it. Shortly after that she was able to get the large butt plug in me.  Since then we've tried several times to get her fist in me.  We'd work up step by step, and it would get close, but it just seemed like it wasn't going to happen.  A real hand doesn't squish quite the same way the dildo hand squished.  I'd get all the way up to the widest part of Jackies fist but it just wouldn't go.  But today it just slide right in.  OMFG it was incredible.  It was the biggest thing ever in my ass and I loved it. 

We started in February and 9 months later we finally were able to cross that last bit.  I wanted to share though what we've been through and and what all we've done to get here, because to be honest I was really beginning to think it would never happen.

First of all a good lube is necessary.  We got off all the liquid lubes and went to a cream style. We personally use "Elbow Grease Cream" and it seems to do better.  It doesn't dry out as fast as water based lubes and that's very important.  Jackie repeatedly adds lube throughout the session.  We lube up the toys and we lube up her hand along with my ass.  I can't stress enough that there is never to much lube.

Second, while we've not played every week, we have play at least once a month in a 'stretching' session.  It really did seem like once we got to a point, if we kept it up at least once a month we could get back to that point.  So once the hand dildo got in, we were able to repeat that every time since.  So keeping it up and 'training' my ass to relax that much was important I think.  Remember a fist is not just going to slide into your ass.  That's a huge stretch that it's not made for.  So be patient, but keep pushing.  Every time you get a bit closer.

Third, I'm sure there are other ways, but we have a slew of toys that 'work me up' to the real thing.  We start small and keep getting larger and larger till we get it in.  I lay the toys out pictured above, and Jackie starts with the small purple one and works her way up one dildo at a time.  By the time we get to the big ones I've been worked up pretty good.  The hand goes in and then she'll go with the big butt plug.  By then it feels like the smaller plug going in.  But if we were to try starting big it would just rip me.

So there you have it, lube, keep trying regularly, and work into it being patient.  Oh the benefits?

Well first of all I never precum like when Jackie is playing like that.  I'll leave a spot on the sheets for certain.  But then there are the 'dry' orgasms.  I've read about them, but the only time I've ever experienced them is when Jackie is playing with my ass. Something about having that prostate rubbed from the inside that just sets me off. I'll cum, and if you'd ask me at the time I'd tell you I was shooting a load and a half of cum, but in reality there is no cum, but the orgasms are just as real.  They are incredible and long lasting and I can cum like that 4 or 5 times in a session.  Oh, and when we stop that and I finish in Jackie that load it 2x it's normal size.  Just freaking incredible.

The one thing that's always surprised me is that I know I should be walking with a limp or something after an ass reaming like that.  I don't.  Within a few minutes I'm ....well I know something has been there, but it's not painful or discomforting.  And within an hour or so it's almost non existent.  

I did think to have Jackie take a picture of her hand inside of me...I'll spare you, but it's been a great enjoyment to be able to glance at it and grin.  Oh my the memories it floods back.  Not sure if we'll try anything bigger...though Jackie mentioned something about a huge dildo ...hey, I'm game for trying.  Don't know how far I'll get but I'll try it...several times if it feels good. But I can assure you that will not be the last time Jackies hand will be deep in my ass.

On a totally different note, it's already mid November.  I'm not sure what we'll be doing for Sexuary this year, but it's about time for Jackie and I to start our monthly planning. As I've shared here before the planning is 1/2 the fun!  Figure out something you and yours want to try...plan it..make it happen.  You've got 2 1/2 months and Sexuary will be here.  The anticipation and planning sessions could be some of the best sex of your lives, so go for it!


Friday, July 26, 2013

Swinging...another try

So back in Sexuary...I mean February we had our first swapping experience (  It didn't go quite as expected.  A couple of things went wrong, and bottom line is that we left in a very frustrated and 'mental' state from that event.

But Jackie and I did talk about it and when it was all said and done she, on her own, came back and said she'd do it again, but we'd probably be a bit more cautious next time. Remember we've swung with individuals several times before, just never with another couple. And the whole swinging thing was Jackies' idea to start with, I just gave the go ahead.  So it's not like Jackie wasn't a willing participant. 

So we got a message from a couple a couple of hours away.  The day before we were to meet Jackie pulled her back out. We did manage to meet for dinner, but we knew playing was off the table that night.  And while it took a bit, we all seemed to sync up.  We stayed till the restaurant was closed and parted ways with another date set to play.

After one cancellation, we were able to get together.  It went much better.  After a couple of hours of talking we moved to the bed and  played.  It was a first for Jackie having a woman in bed with her and a first for us having couples on the same bed (last time we were in separate rooms). It was definitely a different experience for both of us.

We're still processing some of it. I know I enjoyed some of the variety.  While it doesn't surprise me, it's still a bit to get use to another womans .....hmmmm.... idiosyncrasies.  I know what makes Jackie tick, and while that varies from day to day, I know basically what she likes so can always make sure she's taken care of.  So it's different trying to figure out what works with another woman, and yet, that's part of the fun of it.

I do think guys are easier to please...warm and wet are basically what we are looking for, if you can add a boob or two to suck on while we're at it then that just makes it better.

By the time the other couple left it was late and we didn't stay awake to long, but we did get to talk about it some the next day as we spent the day together.  Jackie wasn't stressed like last time.  Nervous yes, but not stressed.  And she wasn't all full of anxiety when we left like last time.  She slept well.

So sometimes some things just don't work the way you planned.  Our first time was a prime example.  But that didn't mean we gave up on it.  It just means we learned and moved forward. But most importantly we talked about it and made sure both of us were good with it all.


So this is our second try at swinging...let me say I had such a negative first try it was seriuosly hard to try again.  In fact I had to keep telling myself, do not have a melt down, do not have a melt down, it will be ok, if its not its ok to say not have melt down...This went through my head a 1000+ times that night.

Went this Couple a few weeks ago via a website we belong to.  Dane chatted with them off and on for a while before we even met.  We met up with them at a resturant and sat around, ate and drank that night.  There was NO playing since I was in no condition to even think about it.  I had pulled my back out, and even to this day am still having issues with it.   So we set up the next meeting, that had to cancel as well.  So 3rd try is a charm...

Dane and I had gone out to eat before they came to town and I had had two glasses of liquid encouragment. We then went back to the hotel waiting on them.  Keep in mind I am still trying NOT to freak out.  I even talked to  them about the last time.  They needed to know.  We sat around drinking some more for a couple of hours then began to play.  I was still really nervous, its like Dane said you know what your own partner likes and doesn't like, its very hard to know what the new person does.  It was also my first time being with another woman.  It was enjoyable but I know I am not switching sides anytime soon.  I am still not very comfortable with going down on a woman but I am ok with her going down on me. 

Its was a fun time with all of us.  I ended the night with my hubby, the one I am supposed to be with.  The one whose scent still calms my nerves. So while it was fun, and enjoyable, there is no one that can replace the intimate feeling with my hubby.  Will we play again, maybe or maybe not.  I am not closed at it but its off my "bucket" list, so not sure I want to chance the good time with another bad time. 


Monday, July 8, 2013

Neked Weekend

So part of Sexuary is making time for your partner.  It's been a struggle for Jackie and I lately.  Oh don't get me wrong we've made time to be intimate and a some time to ourselves, but we haven't really had that extra time alone where we can communicate...catch up...share without disruption...just take a nap together.

So against all odds, with work piles a mile high, we made plans to get away for a weekend and hide from the world.  We have a little cottage we like to visit.  It's secluded, it's private, it has a jacuzzi on the enclosed back porch, and it's 1/2 a mile from a great little Texas town we love to visit.

Friday - Monday we lived in a little heaven on Earth.  Every day we'd get dressed for about 2 - 3 hours and go to town, eat a meal or two...went wine tasting picking up many bottles of wine we enjoy...picked up $100 worth of hand made specialty chocolates that Jackie loves....and that's it! Nothing more.  Ok, we did consider going to a play, but since it was sold out all weekend we didn't.

The rest of the weekend?  We were neked.  We read.  We ******.  We hopped in the jacuzzi.  We slept.  We ****** some more.. We hopped in the jacuzzi.  We ate.  We hopped in the jacuzzi.  We read some more.  We hopped in the jacuzzi.  We ****** some more.  We hopped in the jacuzzi.  We slept.  We woke up and started all over again. Neked the entire time except for the couple of hours we went to town.

It was exactly the kind of weekend we needed!!!  We had no kids.  No troubles.  No worries.  No stress.  No anything we didn't want.

We talked about anything and everything.

We caught up with each other.

We relaxed and caught up on physical rest we both needed badly.

We made time for each other.

Look, Sexuary is about getting with your partner in a finite period of the month and make extra special efforts to communicate with your partner, and hopefully the sexual aspect will improve accordingly.  But if you wait till 2/1/2014 to make the extra effort then your relationship is not going to grow and blossom.  Jackie and I hated that we waited as long as we did, but before we let it get to a point it would effect our marriage we made something happen.

You don't have to go to the extreme of a 4 day neked weekend, but do something, especially if it's been a while.  Figure out a day to head off by yourselves.  Take a walk in the woods.  Plan a picnic.  Go out to a lake for the day.  But do something that the 2 of you can do and you can get close and be together.  Ever booked a hotel room in your own town?  We have, just to get away for a night in someplace different for us.  Plan a day of events (shopping, movie, lunch and dinner, walk though the mall - together). Doesn't have to cost a fortune, does have to be personal where your partner is #1, not the TV, not the cell phone, not Facebook, not your email!

Make today another Sexuary day!


Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Our Toy Chest

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

TENS Unit Play

So over the last couple of days we've broken out the TENS unit.  We tried it back in Sexruary (see our post) and really had a good time with it.  I felt like I needed something that would wrap and stay around my penis better if it was going to make me cum.  The pads we had didn't stay affixed well enough to provide all the juice I thought it should.  But Jackie was able to orgasm using the TENS unit and over all the experience for both of us was pretty fun and we wanted to come back to it.

So last week we broke out the TENS unit, made Jackies toes curl and had a great night of sex.  Woo hoo...we love anything that will make our time together better.

Sunday we were at Megaplex, in Austin, and while going through the toys we came across the Zeus Penis Band for TENS units.  We checked it out and decided it would work with our TENS unit and so we got it.  YEAH!!! So of course that night we broke it out to play with it.

OMG TURN IT OFF!!! OUCH! OUCH! OUCH!  Now mind you there are NO instructions what so ever in the box.  No instructions on how to put it on (though it appears pretty self explanatory, I'd like to know where the best positions for the contacts are).  So we put them on and I started turning the device on and it freakin hurt.  This felt like it would spike and spark at random and actually hurt. I mean turn the damn thing off quickly hurt. Remind you I was able to turn it all the way up with the pads, so I'm ok with the 'tingle' you get from the TENS unit, but not this. At 20 I was cringing and turning it off.

So the next day I do some look up and find some reviews on Amazon.  First the couple that somehow succeeded said that you "MUST" use conducting gel, and to quote them, "LOTS of it".  One even warned that it would dry and start to sting/shock before you were finished most of the time.  Every review but one, I can only imagine someone from Zeus put it up, was a 2 out of 5 star with exactly the same issues I had.  So I'm torn between buying a couple of tubes of conducting gel and taking a chance again, or writing it off as a bad toy purchase.  Note these weren't cheap at over $50 for them.  I loved the idea of them, but the real life application was not pleasurable and not what I was expecting.

I'm ok now, I don't think any permanent damage, though that night was over quick and the next day I still had a tingle for 1/2 a day.  I'm really disappointed because I really wanted the anal probe too, but no way in hell I'd get one of those after my experience I had Sunday night.

So if any of you guys have tried a TENS unit successfully I'd love to know what you did to make it work.  I still love the TENS unit, I just want a better success for my efforts.


Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Life Getting in the Way

Geez, the best laid plans of mice and men just sometimes don't work out.  Life gets in the way.  It use to be worst when we didn't make intimacy a priority in our marriage. Then any excuse that came up would interfere with us becoming intimate.  Now it takes pretty major happenings to distract us from our planned Sexuary activities, even if it's a mini-Sexuary activity.  But yesterday, on the kick off day for this mini-Sexuary it happened, LIFE got in the way. UGGGHHHHHH!!!!!

One of the ideas of this mini-Sexuary was to take the last 2 weeks before the kids got out of school.  Sex is definitely less inhibited, a bit longer, and with a lot more energy when we can get together in the morning after the kids are at school, and we are blessed with the fact that our work allows us that opportunity most of the time.  Not yesterday.  Dang it! From about 10 seconds after the kids were gone the phone was ringing with one emergency or another.  And that went on all day long.  We barely got lunch together which is highly unusual.

I read on Christine Moers blog where there are all kinds of "the kids take so much out of me", "we are just to busy", "I'm so tired after .....", "our schedules just don't make time" and I cringe and feel sorry for those couples.  Oh don't get me wrong, I've been there.  I made all those excuses at one time and I excepted them from my ex.  Not that was the only reason she is my ex, but that IS a part of the problem.  Jackie and I have made sure the 'excuses' aren't confused with the reasons.  When your priority is to make time with your spouse, and spouse alone, and to be intimate with them to strengthen your relationship, it will happen.  But it must be a priority or it is to easily pushed to the dark closet that will haunt a relationship every time the closet door is opened. 

So back to mini-Sexuary - our original plans just weren't going to happen.  When I got in bed I kind of expect a 'normal' sex night. But Jackie had other plans and made up for a messed up day with a fantastic blow job when I finally plopped into bed. Not an 'ok' or 'average' blowjob.  Not a "I'm warming you up for before we get going".  But one of those really special, all out OMG here I cum blowjobs.

You know, one of the things I've figured out is that when it comes to oral is different people like different things. Heck with Jackie what works today won't necessarily work tomorrow.  But I generally can read her breathing and moans to try to find the right spot, and I know Jackie does the same with me. 

I know a lot of guys like their head given a lot of attention, me, I like that ridge along the bottom side towards the base sucked on.  I also love the noises made. Slurps, gurgles, even the occasional gag all turn me on and send me over the top.  But I guess what I was really getting at was I've let Jackie know that's what I really like, and she's listened.  And I know it takes a lot to get me off with just a blowjob, so when Jackie goes all out like she did last night I love and appreciate her efforts!  Jackie is the only woman who has been able to really get me off orally. Only once in my life prior to Jackie was I ever able to finish by just oral. And while it's not an every day occurrence, when Jackie sets her mind to it, I know I'm in for a fantastic blow job and that she will finish the job! Oh my! *where is that cigarette?*

Don't get me wrong, I love when she uses oral for foreplay too, just to get me ready for the 'main event' but there is something special when she takes that to the next level like she did last night....and "LIFE" can kiss my ass, nothing is going to get in the way of this mini-Sexuary!!!


Friday, May 17, 2013

Pat your Belly and Rub Your Stomach

So it's been a bit since we've written.  All truth be told between activities, illness, and the likes life has gotten right in the middle of our sex life! Dammit, I hate it when that happens.   But through it all we've been talking and seem to be back on much on course that we've decided that the 2 weeks before the kids get off of school we're going to have a mini-Sexuary.  That's right Monday - Friday for the next 2 weeks we're going to go back and fill in some of the squares that we missed the first time around and revisit some of the days that were....well exciting as hell!  So look for our blog to be updated for the next 2 weeks as we try some new things.  

But before we get on, I wanted to share a bit of a chuckle Jackie and I had yesterday.  We'd had one of those great sessions where it was kinda normal, but I tried something a bit different that worked.  Kind of a 69 position, but instead of on top of Jackie, i was kneeling next to her licking her clit from the top down REAL, REAL, I mean REAL slowly, while she was stroking my cock REAL REAL I mean REAL fast.  Now I have to tell you several times I had to be very conscience about keeping slow.  It was like when you pat your belly and rub your head, you want to go the same, and I wanted to devour her clit at 90 mph like she was jacking me off at 90 mph.  But the rewards I was getting by keeping slow...oh yeah, Jackie is a squirter when you get her in the right place....was just to good to pass up.  So I did the near impossible, while enjoying her actions on my cock, I somehow keep enough blood to my other head to keep my tongue going slow from the top of her clit downwards...slow...oh oh oh..slow...come on Dane, you can do this...damn that feels good down there...slow....

Whew...needless to say we both wound up with our pretend cigarettes puffing away in our post sex relaxation.  Satisfied, and another new trick to add to the bag of 'oh yeah, we'll try that one again!'


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

My take on the month of Sexuary

I was gone at the end of the month so I could not put my two cents in on the month of Sexuary.  Boy what a month! I say that as I wipe the sweat off my brow and the cum from my pussy. LOL It was a crazy, fun, filled, eye opening of a month.

Dane and I had been planning this for months.  I think he sent me the first list in November, where I had a hard time even looking at the dang thing.  It had a lot, and I mean A LOT of things that were on my hard limits area.  I was asked to begin to mark off what I knew there was no way I could do it.  I will admit, I crossed off the whole list....So I put it away.  He tried hard to get me to talk about it, I would just shut down, There was NO talking about it.  Fast forward to January, I had been praying the prayer "Let me be willing to be willing" so I reopened the list and began to go through it again. The second time still had a bunch crossed off, and so I did it again.  I finally narrowed it down.  I sent it on to him to make the calender. 

Now February starts, we start the month and it starts great.  Sure we have some that don't I don't mind at all, some I have no clue about, and some that I know are my hard limits! 

This month was about discovery, to find a way to spice up our lives, in all ways.  To find new ways to get excited and to please each other and ourselves. 

That is EXACTLY what this month did.  I found some things that were very exciting, things I want to do over and over and over again! I have found somethings that I thought were at my hard limits that low and behold I really want to do again, and I have found stuff that I did not know were a hard limit to be a limit.  

All in All this month was exactly what we needed and what we wanted.  We wanted to spice it up, and we were going for an all time record! We had never gone more than 6 days, ever! And we made it 28 days! 28 know some don't understand or some that think we are crazy trying to beat someone Else's record, but dang it they had 31 but we were really really close...and we surprised our self with the breaking of our own records! And you know what....I really loved this Sexuary, it was not mundane, it was not a month that I did begrudgingly, its a month I knew what was going to happen and when and tried to have an opened mind about it all. 

I cant wait until June, when I am going to get my nipples pierced because of what I learned this month. I have learned I really like to be in charge without being the "master" and I love spanking Dane until his ass is nice and red...I have learned a lot about myself and about Dane.  That is what this month was to be about.

What did you learn with your spouse this month? Are you willing to go outside the norm, or your box? Did you find some limits have changed? Did you talk about this...that..or other things....Did you get your goal met? I would love to hear from you! 


Monday, March 4, 2013


So during Sexuary we had purchased some speculums to play with.  Let's face it there are several good things about this.  One I get to see what I get to play with all the time.  I knew what I expected but I'd never really looked in there to see what's there.  I don't care what your sex-ed classes were it's not the same as looking there.

Second you could always play doctor and be a GYN if you're into role playing.

So we had these speculums for me to play with.  We have both vaginal and anal speculums.  I didn't know there was a difference, but there is a huge difference.  We decided today was going to be the day we played with the vaginal speculum.

Lots of lube, and then I slipped it in and opened it up, tightening up the screw to hold it open.  I moved it about some till I got the view I wanted and was able to reach in from the side and see what I normally only feel, and generally with my penis.

Now Jackie is the only woman I've ever been with that can squeeze so tight and push from inside out to push anything in there when she's having an orgasm.  I mean penis, vibrator, it doesn't matter and I wanted to see how that all worked.  So I got the speculum so I could see what was going on inside.  It was pretty remarkable and very clear to see.  I now see why doctors use them.  So then Jackie suggested she use her favorite vibrator so I could actually watch her have an orgasm.  What a great idea!!!  Almost immediately I watched her inside move and engorge. Oh my this was pretty hot.  She came and squirted and I got to watch the whole show from the inside out.

Then as long as we're stretched and open we continued out fisting exercise.  My knuckles actually slipped in, and it was more a question of depth then it was of girth, but with just a bit to go it was to much for Jackie and we stopped.  We were a good 2 inches further in then we were last time we tried, and so freaking close!!!

We talked about it afterwards.  I think I'm going to have to curl my fingers as my knuckles clear to make it a shallower fisting.  We'll see next time.  But I know sooner or later we'll get that fist inside of her.

In the mean time another fetish scratched off our list.

Dane be honest this really bothered me. I knew it was something he wanted to do.  I know how I feel when I have to go for a well woman check up, its not very comfortable, and certainly not "a turn on" but again last month was about fetishes and trying things outside the normal box.  So we ordered them.  I laid down and let him take a look..  I tried to relax so he could look how he wanted.  I knew he wondered what was happening when we were making love and what all he was feeling, so I decided to suggest to get out a toy and he could watch how my pussy reacts during an orgasm.  It was not a big turn on for me.  I know he liked what he saw and it really turned him on.  

We then continued to have him fist me.  WE have been slowly working on this.  This is our 3rd attempt and we are making progress.  Its taking a while, I tell him that it takes HOURS to birth a baby, so its hard to put something in there that is a big as a baby's head! We made it about 2 inches more than the last time, and really his knuckles were in, but just couldn't past there.  

I hope this day was a great Birthday present for Dane. That's is why I was willing  to go the "extra" mile today. All in all its a great day, lots of excitement and new knowledge.  


Thursday, February 28, 2013

Sexuary Summary

So I'm setting here, Jackie just left a bit ago for her training and I'll have 3 days by myself.  No kids, no wife, just myself.  So I thought it might be a good time to reflect a bit on what Sexuary meant to me.  I'm sure when Jackie gets back she'll put in her two cents worth too.

Let me start by saying this is year three for Jackie and I to 'celebrate' Sexuary. The first year we wanted to try to have sex 7 straight days.  It didn't happen.  Then came last year.  We were in a better place, but 7 days in a row was a lot to ask still, so we went for every other day on even days.  While we didn't exactly succeed we did much better, though by the end we were really struggling.  I really mean it was a struggle for us to have sex one more time. ugghhhh

You know we've done a lot of soul searching and working in our marriage over the last 3 or 4 years.  We've a lot learned about each other and what makes the other one tick.  We've learned to compromise, though as you've read this month we still struggle through some every day issues in communicating those compromises.  We have really focused on being better individuals so that we can be a better couple.  And we've made time for ourselves as a couple regardless of what 'disaster of the moment' is going on outside of our bedroom door.

I know that sex does not resonate near as high on the 'got to have it' scale for Jackie as it does on mine.  Yet I also know that she can get just as excited about it as I can be once we're there.  It's getting her out of her head and the other things going on to get her there that is the issue.  She's come a long way working on that over the last 3 years.  She now realizes how important it is to me to be that intimate with her and has gone out of her way, even when I'm being an ass, to make sure I get that time with her.  I know she has to struggle sometimes over that, hell I would.

Jackie says all she ever has to do to get me in the mood is take off her shirt and I'm ready.  Makes it difficult at night where we're getting ready for bed, cause I really do find my wife that attractive and that fun to be around.   Her kisses will set me off.  Her caress will definitely excite me.  And just the site of her in the shower gets me excited.  She's hot and sexy and she's mine and I love it.

So this year we decided to try a 28 day trek.  Not an easy task.  We know the Moers and know they had struggles last year with their 31 days.  Days they'd of preferred hall sex (you know as you pass each other in the hall you say "fuck you") then to have bedroom sex.  And these are people we look up to and respect, so how mere mortals like ourselves going to stand a chance to succeed?

So back in November, yes 3 months before Sexuary started, we started talking about this all.  It wasn't all pretty.  My 'box' of what I'm willing to try is huge compared to the average person.  Basically if I haven't tried it and dislike it I'm willing to try it.  Don't know if I'll like it, but I'll try it.  And there are things I'll try just because the other person I'm with wants to try.  VERY few hard limits. Jackies box is more of a 'normal' box.  Don't get me wrong, she tried a lot of things this month not in her box, but I know she struggled with several of them, but if it weren't for me pushing her to push herself some she'd fit into her box and be pretty happy with it.  So November to January were lots of discussions on what would and would not be acceptable.  We created list.  We talked about those list.  We modified list.  We talked more.  We talked more.  And then we talked more.

Finally in January we got 'The Calendar' that we've posted.  Now this was a major change to Sexuaries of the past.  In the past we've alternated who was in charge of making the day special.  If the day was a bad day then sex might of been mundane at best. This would have a who was in charge, but most of the pre-planning was already done, so even in a bad day everything was there to complete the task and you knew what we were doing.  I personally think this calendar was what made this year so successful for us.  It took a lot of pressure off of us on a daily basis.  Meant even on a crappy day we knew what was going to happen and that we had the supplies already in our bedroom.  I'm sure glad our kids don't come in our bedroom.  If they ever looked in our 'drawers of toys' they'd die of embarrassment. And if they saw everything we put in there for this month I'm not sure they'd ever look us in the eyes again. 

So as you've read, we made it through the month.  Not all days were 'successful' in their goal of enjoying something new, but they were all successful  in bringing Jackie and I together.  Even during the struggles of a massive yeast infection we were able to work through things and have a great time together.  Words like compromise and understanding come to mind after those days.  The couple swap day that didn't go anything like we expected.  The spanking and Dom/sub that when over like lead balloons.  We HAD to talk through those to get past them.

But there were other days that we were flying high after our sexual encounter for the day.  Sensation, fisting, piercings, and others were high on our list and will go on our 'must try again' list.  Jackie really wants a piercing or two.  I knew she'd want another tattoo.  We're working on fisting her.  Now that we've tried she knows how exciting that can be.  So her 'box' got bigger this month. 

I know there are all kinds of scientific studies that show that after sex couples release chemicals that bring them closer.  Well imagine how close you'd get after 28 days of sex.  And while we had one couple of friends tell us they didn't understand just going for 28 straight days, they understood it when we explained that it wasn't about the act of sex, it was about EVERYTHING that comes with it.  The pillow talking that gets started again.  The wanting to be with your partner.  The desire to make them as happy as you've been.  The open communications.  The flattery.  The kissing.  The simple "I love you" text for no reason other than they came to your mind for that moment during your busy day.  For 28 days I didn't have to do anything and I knew I was going to get sex, and yet I was more than happy to help more around the house because I KNEW I didn't have to do anything to get sex.

I remember a self help study a couple of years ago that was popular. In it the goal was to strengthen your marriage. One of the first things it said was someone has to cross the lines in the sand that you 2 have drawn so that the entire fence can come down.  Sexuary is all about that.  We crossed LOTS of lines this month.  Many sections of fence came tumbling down.  And WE are a better couple because of it.

This year we went 17 straight days of sex with no breaks and 26 out of 28 days we had sex.  That shattered our previous 7 days in a row of sex and 16 days in a month.  Shattered them.  And on the 2 other days it didn't mean that we didn't snuggle and caress, it was just intimate non sexual days.  So all in all 28 straight days. How can that be bad for any relationship?

So what did Sexuary mean to me?  It means I fully appreciate my wife for all she does for me.  It means I still get excited when I see her.  It means that I've had 28 days to show her how much I appreciate all she does for me.  It means we've spent 28 nights, laying in our bed talking about sex, life, kids, sex, and anything else that popped up (did I mention sex?) until we drifted to sleep. It meant we rekindled our love for each other. We made ourselves the priority this month.

I know there is no way to keep the every day pace up.  I'm almost 50 and damn proud of getting 28 days in. But seriously that pace while great is not sustainable without itself becoming mundane. But it can be a treat once a year for Sexuary.  And I truly believe that the other 337 days of the year will be much closer and better for us because of this exercise during Sexuary.

We don't expect everyone is where we are as a couple.  But understand we weren't always here either.  There were times we fought about sex.  Times we definitely weren't talking.  Times I wasn't sure this marriage was going to last, no matter how much we wanted it to.  Times were intimacy, communications, and sex were not in our couples vocabulary.  And we've gone from that to a month of it.  So I don't care if it's been 3 months since the last time you were intimate with your partner or 3 days, there is hope, I know because we're proof.  But someone has to take that first step.  Something has to change.  Priorities to your relationships have to change.  And honestly it's not easy.  But the rewards are great.

So on this, the last official day of Sexuary 2013 I have a challenge to you.  If you haven't done anything this month that is out of your box do it.  Call your partner and tell them you love them and hang up...that's it nothing else.  Or meet them at the door naked.  Or if the kids are an issue, after they are in bed go put on something that makes you feel as sexy as he thinks you are and be waiting on the bed for him.  Text him to come find you.  Send her flowers just because you love her.  Wash the dishes tonight or help dry them.  Instead of rolling over in bed roll into bed and wrap your arm around your loved one.  Get it? DO SOMETHING!

And heaven forbid you let today go by with nothing happening this Sexuary...don't wait another 11 months for Sexuary to come back around....take tomorrow and start your own Sexuary! Sexuary is a state of mind.  It's a matter of making a difference in your relationship.

It's part of the reason this blog isn't over with.  Oh the intensity of it will definitely die down some.  But we still have a list of fetishes we haven't tried.  We have another list of 'OMG we have to do that again' fetishes.  We have some that were borderline we have to go decide which side of the fence will they fall on.  And who knows as we grow we might go revisit some of those we weren't ready for the first time. So keep following.

You want to help us out some?  Let us know if any blog post made a difference for you. Email or comment.  We've allowed anonymous comments so you can be honest with us.  Let us know that you've done SOMETHING for Sexuary, especially if something you read here pushed you over the edge to make the difference.  Let us know if something you read got you so hot and bothered you had to go and surprise your partner.  Just let us know, it really is a turn on to us to hear from others that are in our boat of wanting to make their relationships better.

Happy Sexuary to all...and we're already looking forward to 2014!


Wednesday, February 27, 2013

TENS, Electricity

This was saved for last because we don't know the repercussions and I wanted time to recuperate.  I would like you to use the electricity/TENS on me.  Maybe we can find an anal probe, or see how they use it on a cock and nipples.  I will leave it up to you if you'd like to try the same thing that day or save it for another day.  This will be our last official day of Fetish Sexuary, so along with the electric you have free reign for ANYTHING you'd like to try on me. 

So Jackie has this TENS unit from when she hurt her shoulder years ago.  We've kept it around, lost it, found it, lost part of it, found it, lost it, found get the drift.  But I know that electricity can be a huge turn on for some, and very orgasmic for others.

Being a bit of a country boy I know that to get the seed from a bull, you stick an anal probe in and turn it on, and seaman will come flowing out.  I'd never seen it done on a guy before Sexuary, So wasn't sure how it would work.  But we were willing to try it.

We even watched a couple of videos where a guy came using a TENS unit and a girl went orgasmic with one.  They were pretty hot and Jackie and I had a great round of sex after watching those videos.  

So we break out the unit and Jackie decides to go first.  Now anyone who knows Jackie knows she's not the overly adventurous type and it really surprised me she went first.  So we put 1 set of pads on her and started it up.  At first there wasn't much you could tell or see.  She could feel it, but it wasn't all there.  So we put a second set of pads on, further south, and bingo she started to vibrate a bit more.  I could see her clit start to appear and her lips were definitely swelling.

She played with the controls till she got where she wanted and then closed her eyes and let it flow.  I could see her react much the same as if I had her favorite vibrator on and was waiting for her to gush any second.

When she'd shuttered enough she cut the controls and just tried to catch her breath.  I reached in and she was definitely wet.  Not drenched as she can get but wet.  She said it was not the most monumental but definitely orgasmed a couple of times.

Then was my turn.  We started with one set of pads and turned it on.  At first I didn't think it was working, then I hit level 4....5....6...7...OMG every time I went up a level it was like someone squeezed the head of my cock a bit tighter.  But it wasn't going to make me cum.  So we added a second set of pads.  I could barely feel them even though I was all the way up to max on those (60) and about a 30 on the one attached to my head.  But still no real, going over the top sensation.

So Jackie moved the pads around.  This time I was feeling it all over.  From the bottom of my sac to the top of my cock I could feel it vibrating.  It pretty quickly took me to the edge.  That feeling you get right before you cum.  I had both controls at max setting of 60.  It was right there....I waited...I could feel the was sooooooooooo close.........but after a few minutes it just wasn't going to cum.

We finished me off quickly.  I'll try it again.  It wasn't painful at all.  It was uncomfortable at times, and I'm sitting here tingling still an hour later, so not sure how long that will last.  I enjoyed watching Jackie get off and liked the feeling, just couldn't get that release I needed with it.

Today was day 28 for us.  Jackie has to leave at 5:30 in the morning for some training so we started 1/31 instead so we could get our 28 days in.  I'll follow up with another post on a wrap up.  Additionally we'll be going back and trying the fetishes we had to forgo for one reason or another and we'll post our adventures there.  So while Sexuary is officially over with for us (ok, we still have pillow talk tonight but the sex is over unless Jackie is going to be overly generous and surprise me), we'll be updating our blog here and there as we live out Sexuary in our day to day lives.  Follow along.  Leave us a comment.  Tell us if there was something you tried because we brought it up.  Tell us you did something this Sexuary that made a difference in your relationship,because bottom line that's what this exercise was all about.


TENS/Electricity...the thought was scary, yet exciting at the same time.  Something you are told not to play with yet really want to...well this is the safest way to play with it without getting totally fried.

We watched a few videos, have looking at 100's of toys.  Wondering all the what if questions.  I knew I already had a TENS unit a medical grade one, so we didnt want to go and buy one.  However when the month started I wasnt sure where it was.  We hunted for several days until finding the box that it was still packed in.  So we got it out and left it alone.  Scared to let the lion out of that cage.  Well until today, I had an appointment out of town this morning, so I was on my drive home when I was thinking about it, it got me stirring, did I want to go first? Or should he? I decided to go first in case I needed time to rest and get myself under control. We started with 2 pads, and I had them turned up to 40 and while I could certainly feel it, it wasn't taking me to the place I wanted to go.  So we added another 2 pads. Now this took me where I wanted it go.  Looking back I probably could have taken it higher however I knew I would be gone until Saturday at a conference in which I could not be uncomfortable in(if ya know what I mean) so after it got intense, I laid back and let it do what it was supposed to do, and it did.  While I didn't squirt like I am known to, it did take me into a multi-level orgasim that I could feel from my neck to my toes.  It also went into my "we ARE going to do this again" list! I think practice is needed to get the best orgasim, so will try again!

Next was Dane, I helped get his pads on, one set at a time, he leaked a good round or two of pre cum but never really had a mind boggleing shoot cum all over.  I think for him we will need to try again too, you have to get the pads in the right place or they do nothing and we were quickly running out of time before the kids got home from school. Even though he didn't finish with the TENS until he did finish, and it was pretty intense.

Did I mention this is going on my "do this again" list...There are several things on there from this month.  I can't believe this was the last day, we made it...while we had 2 days that not much if anything happened, I am still calling it 28 days!! WE nailed our list, and nailed each other ;) WE talked and talked and talked...well you get the picture.  We discovered new things, old things, things we liked and things we didn't, but we did it. 

I am doing a happy dance...happy dance....loud music(even if its just in my head) we did it...(insert Dora"WE did it, WE did it..." song here) lol

Keep following though, we aren't finished.  We are going to keep blogging and keep doing....We will go back to our every 3 days calender(which was another Sexuary goal) and I will go into that at another time.  We will keep communicating and keep smiling, and I will get a jersey or tshirt with "28"on it and not care whose name it is, but I will know what "28" is about...


Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Blindfild, ropes, stretching, clothes pins and …. (on Dane)

Strap Dane down and blind fold him.  You have total control from there, and I’m not sure how I'll handle stretching my ball sack, but let's try it…use cloths pins on me, or other devices. Hot oils might be appropriate here too.

This was to be the next best thing to a Dom/sub day.  I'm not sure why this is ok, but the other isn't but Jackie is better when we don't call it Dom/sub.

So she took me upstairs, and blindfolded me.  Then took me into our room where she Velcro'd me to our bed (we have a sheet and cuffs we caught on clearance at Megaplexx).  No I can pull on these and not come undone, and yet if I needed to I could pull the corner of the Velcro up and get out.  After that she started with sensations.

A soft piece of material we got.  I thought it smart of her to always hold my cock with it while she rubbed me with it over the rest of my body.

A whip came next.  She's getting better with that new whip, and she used it off and on through the session.  I definitely pulled on the straps a couple of times as she did our first CBT ever.  Not something I'm generally into, but she did a good job of not 'crushing my sack' and that's the one thing I am more sensitive too.  It stung, but in a good way.

A boa did ok, but wasn't as soft as the material.

Some ice.  I was expecting her to put some in her mouth and suck me some but the drizzles an her running on my cock was a nice sensation, though I could of use more I think to make it almost uncomfortable.  Not sure if that makes sense or not.

She used some clothes pins to pull my sack.  It was an interesting sensation.  I couldn't tell exactly how many or exactly where they were. And with exception of one pulling and twisting when she went to rub up on me, it felt pretty good.  The one though caught her and actually went to real pain for a second.

A candle dripping on my chest.  Later I asked why she didn't do my nipples or pelvic area and she was afraid of burning me.

Some sucking, some rubbing her body of me and having my knee in her crotch (what little I could move) as she humped my leg some. 

More whipping. 

Finally she removed the clothes pins which let the blood flow back and was a sensation in itself and took my breath away for a second.  The she unstrapped me and we finished up with me attempting to fist her again (OMG that really is pretty hot) and then both of us finishing up.


That was a lot of sensations in a short amount of time.  It was pretty hot to give up control like that.  It was also pretty hot to have her tie me up and use the whips and pins on me.  I like it when on occasion she becomes the aggressor and takes charge.  It's different and very hot to me.  I think it's just so out of our norm that it really is a fetish.


Today was my day to tie down Dane, I really wanted him to experience what I had on my day.  I was nervous about it.  It is as close to sub/dom without it being sub/dom.  I don't like barking orders and I don't like taking orders.  I knew that today was my day to take control and I could do whatever I wanted to Dane.  I also know that he has a much bigger box on pain, and excitement.  That I am sure I would not get to the point of him saying his safe word.  It take a lot more that I can do to push him. 

So I asked him to meet me at the top of the stairs where I took his glasses gave him his blind fold, undressed him and then put the Velcro cuffs around his wrist and ankles.  I then led him into the bedroom and centered  him on the bed. I had preplanned all I wanted to do, textures, that were contrasting, soft to hard, cold to get the idea...

I started with my favorite piece of material, its super soft, I rubbed it on his chest, his legs, his cock, etc.  I stroked him with it...its an amazing feeling! I then went to a whip, then a feather boa, then ice, then wax, the clothes pens, then more rubbing.  

I think it was a very enjoyable day for both of us.  We were able to end with both having great orgasms and a very enjoyable afternoon.

Its hard to believe we have ONE day left! wow what a month!

See you tomorrow


Fisting Jackie

This is the one attempt we'll do at fisting you.  I'd like to work you up in both your pussy and your ass depending on how things go.  It will be a long process, lots of rubbing, lots and lots of lube and lots of patience.  You will need to let me know if not ok while doing it, and as always safewords will apply. 

So this was towards the end of the month in case we  ran into any problems.  Now I finger Jackie all the time as a matter of foreplay.  Somewhere along the way she didn't care for it as much as when we first started going out.  She's been through several 'woman' issues over the 10 years we've been together and I've just assumed that those issues caused her to feel differently down there.  So while I'll go 1, maybe 2 fingers that's about the limit I'll attempt.  So to fist her would be a huge step up.

I know how excited both of us were when we finally got a fist in me.  And I would be a first for us to get one in Jackie.  Now honestly I wasn't expecting much.  Maybe 4 fingers tops.  She's very tight and can clamp down like a vice grip in a heart beat, expelling any and everything trying to get in there.  But we wanted to try in this month of fetishes to fist her too.

She was very nervous to start.  I wasn't (and still not) sure why.  It's not like we haven't played around like that before and she knows she can stop at any moment.  You have to have the trust that your partner will stop if you tell them too.

So we started and after a bit of caressing I started to finger her...we got all 5 fingers in but the knuckles wouldn't make it in.  It was pretty hot though to see all 5 fingers in her at once.  I think we used a 1/2 a bottle of lube getting there, and plenty of time, but we definitely hit our limit for the night.  So I spun around and finished us both off.

Now Jackie thought she felt loose.  I definitely didn't feel it that way.  I felt a lot of lubricant that we don't usually use.  I was definitely sliding with no problems. But she felt her normal tightness, and honestly between the excitement of the moment and the tightness I didn't last long (pretty unusual for me).  I think there is a mental thing that you think you'll be loose because you stretched out, but I'm here to tell you your body will spring right back....and sometimes even tighter than before.  Pretty amazing from where I was.

So we're down to 2 more days left.  I can't believe Sexuary is cuming to an end so soon.  I'll have to ask Christine Moers at who introduced us to Sexuary if she might extend it for....oh....11 more months? Seriously ups and downs we go through every day, month and year.  But this month has been amazing for Jackie and I. We've learned a lot about ourselves and each other this month, and I hate that it will end.


I once again was super nervous.  I mean super nervous! I mean was he going to just try to stick his fist in? Was he going to play with me and do that at the same time? Was it going to hurt, I know its hard birthing a kid, I cant imagine what its going to feel like trying to go back in. 

At first he just started with a finger or two and that just wasn't doing to for me, I asked him to get a toy to help stimulate me.  That helped.  I really was a distraction to what was going on down there, it helped.  I couldn't decide if it was good, bad or indifferent.  I did get exciting for me as I could hear him getting excited in his breathing, and signs and little groans.

I even asked him at one point to just sit still and not push. It did get a point that it burned and there was just NO way it was going in.  I just couldn't handle it anymore. The burning was just too much.  I am not sure if the burning is from lube, his hand or if I still have a bit of the yeast infection going on. Not sure but I just knew it was burning. So he removed his hand, and quickly moved up so we could both finish.  He blew very quickly! I can't tell you the last time he blew so fast! So I guess it was super exciting for him! 

We talked about what it felt like, I swear I was stretched to the max and that's why I couldn't feel him penetrate.  He swore nothing had changed except for the amount of lube that was in there.  We talked if it was something I wanted to try again! I told him if its anything like watching a fist go into his ass, I know it was a huge turn on.  That we could continue to try. Who knows when we will have success.

Can you believe its been 26 days already! We are almost done! I think that might be my crappy attitude.  I am not normally one to enjoy sex, and usually its pulling teeth on our "3 day commitment" we have already.  But this month has been great.  Even if my boobs are super sore! and Not to mention my pussy is too! While it was made for sex and birthing babies, its not made for the 26 day pounding it has gotten this month! Its ready for a few day break!

How is your month coming? Did you make your goals? We have had some great times and some not so great times but we are still moving along...WE are getting close to the end...But we aren't done yet...


Grumpy Day

So today was on the calendar to be a strap me down and blind fold me day and then I would take what ever comes.  But apparently I'm a bit loud sometimes when we have days like this so we decided to move it to later in the week and we'd just bring back an oldie but goodie or something we had to skip earlier in the month for one reason or another.

But 2 AM happened.  I woke up frustrated and a serious case of the "I didn't get any last nights" (read previous post for more details).  I went downstairs about 2:30.  Now what I should of done is just masturbated and held that thought till the next day.  But I've really avoided that this month.  Trying to go 28 straight days I don't have a lot of extra umpff to recover.  So instead I tried to distract myself with some tv and computer till 6:45 when I was finally settled down enough to go back to sleep, only for us to get up at 7:30.  So when I did get moving it was on very little sleep and no energy.

Now I tried.  Really I did.  All day I tried to get myself in the program and cheerful.  I failed miserably.  We went to a fair and I should of gone and slept in the car for a couple of hours and come back with a different attitude, but instead I struggled all day.  I couldn't get out of the grumpies. UGHHH!

Now if ever there was a way to woo your sweetheart, being in a grumpy mood all day is NOT it.  I did apologize at some point.  I knew I was tired and like a 2 year old that missed his midday nap just grumpy. 

When we got home I tried to take some short naps in between the boys running in and out, but it wasn't enough.  To Jackies credit she IM'd me and said let's go upstairs and I'll give you a blow job and we'll go from there.  She could of said, "you've been grumpy all day and I don't want to do anything".  I wouldn't of blamed her.  But she put me in a better mood and I slept like a log all night long.  What a great wife to know and conquer the "tireds and grumpies".  She went and disregarded the entire day to try to end it on a good note.  I'm not sure everyone would of reached across with an olive branch after the day I had.  But in the end it was the start to the end of the grumpies.  I was able to get a good nights sleep with no more complaints from the little head who didn't want to listen the night before.  I really wish the 2 heads would talk more some times.

So there was our day in a nut shell, but we worked through it, we talked at night like we've been doing all of Sexuary.  I told her I wasn't mad at all, but that didn't just flip the switch to my pecker, and that kept me awake.  Air cleared and fun had.


Oh, did I mention it was a great blow job too? Oh yeah!!!

Boy did Dane wake up grumpy! He let everyone know it too! I really could have killed him and then plead guilty by reason of insanity! The kids knew he was grumpy, the world knew he was grumpy! But I was NOT going to ruin my day at the fair! I love the fair.  I just ignored him the best I could and went on with my day.  I told the kids he had very little sleep so leave the bear alone. I let him nap off and on while we were listening to some of the different performance groups.  I just soaked in the sun, and soaked in the music.  

Once we got home we did a quick clean of our house.  I asked him what today was supposed to be since we have had to switch a lot this last half of the month.  I told him I would give him a good suck and then go from there! I know its more of the same, what we turn to when we just don't have the idea. I gave him a blow job, its what he loves, and has gotten A LOT of this month.  

So while it was a fun day, and ended on a good note it wasn't something out side of our box.  I just knew that he needed to be in a better mood, and who doesn't get into a good mood, after a suck and a fuck.


Nope, Didn't Happen

Sexting / Mastubation - You're on retreat.  So I think you'll be done early, but then me and the boys will be camping.  So I'm thinking sexting…pictures…words…maybe a video….and both of us masterbate and tell the other about it as we do it. 

Ok, that was the original plan.   And then came the change of plan because my outing was canceled.  So we decided that after Jackie got home we'd put one of the days we had to drop off for one reason or another and work from there.  It would a great make up day.

I waited as patiently as a guy who knows there is going to be sex can wait.  Actually I did laundry, cleaned the oven, and cleaned out the utility room that had been cluttered since we moved in. But as I waited I was getting anxious in anticipation.

Jackie got home and was exhausted.  She'd been up till midnight the night before and had an early morning.  Additionally she had a long drive home.

We got to bed and I started caressing Jackie and.....she fell asleep.  I finally told her to turn over and I'd snuggle, but she was just so exhausted that nothing happened.  I was pretty frustrated and tossed and turned for a bit before I finally settled down.  While it might not have been the first time in 7 years, it's not something that's happened often, and when it does I know she really is exhausted beyond exhausted.  But what my big head knows doesn't always make it to the little head in translation.  See and then I get upset at myself for being frustrated because i know the situation and know there is nothing she could of done.  A vicious circle of emotions. 

It was a restless night and made for a grumpy day the following day.  But I'll explain that in the next entry. 


I had been gone from the house for 24 hours, when I came back I told Dane how exhausted I was.  I just could NOT keep my eyes opened.  My body was on complete shut down.  It even really bothered me for him to caress me.  I do have occasions that I just cant handle that.  Tonight was one of them.  The more he caressed me the heavier my eyes got.  I faintly remember him saying turn over and I will snuggle, and I think I slurred "Im sorry" however that night was a blur. I knew the next morning he was pissy because of it..even though he said he wasn't he was..drives me nuts when he acts that way..


Friday, February 22, 2013

Early Morning Sex

So this was a change to our schedule.  Due to Jackie having to leave at 7 am we decided that a real early morning would be better than what was  scheduled.  That and during the height of the yeast infection, we did hand jobs.

So about 4:45 AM I woke up, at attention and ready to go.  Now mind you I'm a morning person and Jackie is not.  She's always told me I could wake her up, she'll just go back to sleep when we're done.  But I know she's not a morning person so I don't take advantage of it to often.  But I do love starting the day with a romp in the hay.  I mean how can a day be bad when you've started out with sex?  Seriously my energy will never be at it's highest level then when I wake up, and medically testosterone is at it's peak in the morning, so everything is optimal.

These early morning sessions are not going to be our normal marathons, but they are satisfying, especially on days where we know one of us isn't going to be around or going to be worn out later in the day.  Isn't a quickie better than nothing?  It is in my books.

So on this 23rd day of our Sexuary we got one in.  Dang, only 5 more days left!


I cant believe we are on day 23! I just has absolutely flown by! I mean really only a few more days and we are finished!! EEEEK.  I am being honest here I think we might go through some withdrawals! Today we changed it up again from what it was, and I was going to be gone for a solid 24 hours plus some.  So I told Dane he could just wake me up.  He said it was 4;45, I am pretty sure it was 4;30 because when I saw the clock after we were finished it was only 4;50.  I swear when I tell him he can wake  me up he is like a kid waiting for Santa, he doesn't sleep much and is up super early...And when I say don't worry I will go back to sleep, I do! It was an early morning quickie, he loves it.  I deal with it.  Its not my favorite but sometimes you do what do  what you don't normally do. So we did LOL I hope our kids appreciated his good mood ;)




 Ok, not sure how this will be 'erotic' or leading to sex, so I'm going to take your lead here.  I'm ok giving and receiving manicure and pedicures

So a regular treat for Jackie is to go and have her nails done and her feet done.  I'm assuming she likes the hands on attention to her hands and feet.  I enjoy being able to give her this luxury when ever we can.  So like the notes to our stated, I wasn't sure how this would turn sexual at all, but it would make Jackie happy and I'm game.

So we had gotten a pedicure kit and Jackie had some finger nail stuff (I know technical terms from a guy with no clue).  So Jackie did my pedicure and then I did hers.  Then she wanted some  stickers put on her fingernails so I did that to finish up.

Sexual?  I'm not sure you could call it sexual, but I could see where it would be a form of foreplay especially in this Sexuary where we're trying different things.  It's hands on the other persons body.  It's caressing.  It's rubbing.  So yeah, I could see some of it.  Not something that is going to make me hot, heavy and ready to shoot a load, but I like any time I can get my hands on Jackie.  So I can see where someone would call it a Fetish and get excited about it.


Wow what lady doesn't love a mani/pedi day...I was a bit nervous since I do go on a regular mani/pedi at least once a month, sometime 2 times a month if its been a stressful month.  It really does relax me, I really love it when they can work on my feet and hand at the same time. So Dane and I went shopping, we went looking for a pedi kit.  While I wasn't sure it was a sexual thing, I just knew it was humbling to wash someone feet, to show love by washing, drying and rubbing on them.  I started first with his feet, so he would have an idea on what to do.  We filled a tub, and added our stuff to it and took turns with each other. 

While it wasn't a super horny, wet kind of activity but it did help, we still had a great rest of the evening together.  Lots of hands on and lots of touching and who doesn't like that!

This month has been going great!We are having lots of fun!