Sexuary 2022 - TENS/Wartenberg Wheel - Day 3

 Sexuary Day 3 started out with an email to Jackie - 

I love that, while not always, you know how to exude your sexiness.  Other women are envious of you and the attitude you carry when you are ‘in the zone’.  I love watching you when you realize you are as sexy as I see you all the time. - 143

Please remember to send me a (or more) sexy pictures of you today….also that 1 day during the month you’ll let me know before we play that today will be an ass day (I’ll move thing around after that day and have an empty space to fill at the end). 

Jackie DID send me several great pictures of her posing on the bed after her shower this morning.  Have I mentioned how much I LOVE seeing pictures of Jackie in all sorts of dress and undress? It gets me hard and makes me want her every time I see these pictures and I love that she's agreed to 28 days of them (and I'm hoping there are a lot more in my future).  

After she took a long bath and smoked a little I took her too the back room blindfolded and put her on the bed.  Originally it wasn't my intention, but since there was a freshly shaven pussy I had to eat it up before anything else.  I love eating up a freshly shaved pussy.  

I then flipped Jackie over and bent her over the edge of the bed.  I put an electric pad on her thigh and then turned on the TENS unit.  I had purchased a new toy, a Wartenberg Wheel attached to the TENS unit.  It was fantastic.  She preferred it about a 5 (out of 15) but even at a 5 I could see her jump and her skin tighten up.  She came easily as I fingered her and then when I thought she was very ready I put the TENS unit down and finished us both up. 

Again the pleasure/pain things comes in.  Here some electricity and sharp objects come into play all at once, it's a great combination.  

It's only the 3rd day of Sexuary, and still plenty of time for you to do your 'something different with your significant other! Go for it!! And we'd love to hear your stories too!

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Jackie tops - Day 2

 Sexuary 2022 day 2 started off with an email from me - 

I love that even in your submissiveness, you will be a servant sub on days like today.  I LOVE days like today, and my ass can’t wait to be yours tonight. - 143

During the day Jackie sent me a couple of pictures, and while one didn't turn out like she wanted, it was still great to get a couple of pictures from her.  Something for me to drool over as the day went by. 

A couple of text through out the day about the excitement of what was to come without revealing anything, but encouraging the excitement and fun throughout the day.  

When work was done, she sent me to clean out my ass and get ready.  I did as I was told and thoroughly cleaned my ass out.  I then climbed into the bed and let her know my ass was ready. 

She ran her nails up and down my back, dragging them down and leaving good red streaks down my back.  They hurt soooo good!

She then came and took my ass with her fist.  Pushing as much as she could deep in my ass and feeling  my ass stretch nice and wide.  Again the pain was exciting and to say my cock got hard would be an understatement.  I kept stroking it hard while she worked my ass over and over.  

When she was done, she put a favorite vibrator in my ass and blew it up and turned the vibrator on high while she kept leaning into me, pushing it deeper and deeper.  

When I finally blew inside her, she set a new rule for the month, "that's the last time on your days (Wednesdays) that you can blow in my pussy.  You have to find some place else every other week."  She had offered to let me cum anywhere I wanted, but at the time I was ready to blow in her pussy and didn't want to open her ass for that short of a period...I'm ready to bury deep in her ass, and don't want hurt her for some 2 second job.  That day will come though! 

So I'm looking forward to next Wednesday when Jackie is in charge again, and what she has in store!

Ok so as a reminder Sexuary is been our annual exploration of sex between the 2 of us.  The original challenge was to do SOMETHING, ANYTHING different in the month of Sexuary that you normally wouldn't do.  For some that's have sex this month...or hold your partner even.  Some that try something different, sex in the kitchen, 2x in a day, we did 28 days straight, but do SOMETHING that you don't normally do.  It's your chance to break the endless cycle of sameness a relationship can easily slip into.  If you want to ask us about things, ask us here, or jackieanddane@gmail.com or DaneandJackie on Fetlife. We respond to eveyone, though it might take us a few to get back to you. 

Happy Sexuary 2022
Dane

 

Sexuary 2021 - The Spanking Bench

Ok, I'm not going to lie, the idea of someone on my spanking bench, open and available for my inflicting pain is oddly intoxicating. It will make my dick hard as a rock just thinking about it, so you can imagine my day knowing that this was in my near future...the anticipation was near impossible. 

"It's a very paincentric evening" I warned Jackie.  It's only fair to give her a heads up with all I had in mind.

First we had made out a bit in the living room, just enough to get Jackie her first orgasm, and in a very good place to start.  Let's face it pain is a 2 edge sword, not enough or to much pain becomes just pain, but that right amount of pain become pure pleasure.  Being warmed up prior only makes it easier to make the pain go the right direction...gives you a bigger zone to hit. When we walked into the room I let her know that the school paddles were still in the drawer and would not be used tonight.  I knew this would put her mind at ease some that the 1 thing that can take her to a bad place quickly was not going to be used tonight. 

I placed Jackie on the spanking bench and started with some stroking her back with my finger nails.  It brings the blood to the surface and makes it better for that what is coming.  I check her, and she's very wet already, and I can quickly bring her to another orgasm.  Then I really started.  

First a couple of swats with a riding crop, then I took one of the 2 new floggers we inherited and laid into her a couple of good times.  This one is wider straps, heavier, and definitely a thudder. It's not much of a stinger but is a good warm up.  

Then I broke out one of the whipping cane.  Three swats on the right cheek that definitely left 3 nice whelps.  They are beautiful raised on Jackies ass cheeks. 

Again I check Jackie out, while thrusting I swatted her left ass cheek good and hard.  She jumped as my hand left it's print in her lovely skin.  She came hard and I moved on. 

The next flogger is The Grand Emperor from Flogmebaby.com. It's long tines give a great stinging swat with it's 32" straps.  Her back started to show signs of the abuse it was receiving.... lines raised in her back and when I ran my fingers over her now she definitely arched her back.  

Now her left cheek received the swatting of the 3 swats of cane.  Oh the delicious whelps that started to raise were beautiful.  She was so wet as I slid back into her and brought her to another orgasm.  They are almost coming easier now.  I took the handle to the Grand Emperor and slid it in Jackie and brought her off once more.  

Her right cheek received the smack of my hand, leaving a beautifully raised hand print.   

With both ass cheeks with hand prints, and both with 3 marks each from the cane I brought out the 1 thing Jackie had asked me to try this month, the new yellow flogger we inherited.  One strike of that and it was a quick 'no'.  Later she said it felt like a baseball bat hitting her, and it left 4 square marks on her back where they hit, and honestly I was barely swinging.  I can't imagine if I had gone even 60-70%.  

We moved to the bed and with all the excitement I quickly finished up.  I lost count of the number of orgasms Jackie had in the process. Her pain/pleasure sensors were on overdrive tonight.

Now when we were done I made sure to put some lotions on the marks.  Remember when you do something as traumatic as this scene can be, you need to make sure there is some aftercare.  

If you're interested in the spanking benches, floggers, caning, or any other paincentric activity, please feel free to reach out to Jackie or I for more information. 

Dane

 

Sexuary 2020 - Nipple Piercings

So one of the things Jackie and I have talked about over the years is piercings.  I've thought about some cock piercings, she's thought about nipple and clit piercings.  Lately though Jackie had been really hinting she's really like to get her nipples pierced.  So in January I made an appointment at the Golden Goat in Round Rock for the last day of Sexuary, it would be the final painful act.I also did not tell Jackie I had done it.

We had met Guru Sean around at roping events and Texas Kink Fest, and Jackie felt comfortable with him, so I knew he'd be a good choice to go to for the piercings I made the appointment for after work. Originally I had plans to flog Jackie in a field and fuck her there, then take her to get her nipples pierced, but things didn't work our that day at all.  Honestly between Jackies back going out the last week of Sexuary and we had to make multiple trips that brought  us back home late that week, it really didn't allow us to finish Sexuary with the bang I had hoped, but I went ahead and still kept this appointment for the piercings.

It was interesting watching him measure and do all the things I wouldn't of thought of to make sure they look right when he was done.  Since I had done needle play in the areola, I knew how tough the skin was around the nipple. Watching her as he pierced each nipple, and the 2nd one was much tougher to punch through, took Jackies breath away.  My only regret is that I didn't think to put a vibrator on her clit while he was doing all that, I'm pretty sure she'd of massively cum.

To start they put bars on, and they are a bit long. I'm assuming its so they can clean them easier and so forth during the healing.  It is 3 months of care and almost a year before you can actually do much with the piercings themselves.  Jackie would like to put rings in when the bars come out.

So here we are a month later, and while she still has some discharge, it's nothing like it was.  Unlike the first couple of weeks I can now play with her breast again (though one huge orgasm did come from me grabbing her breast that 2nd weekend during sex, she said it was almost like she was ready to pass out when she came from the pain).  Neither of us thought of the constant hard nipples and the chaffing that could come with them.  So she's had to wear some bralets just to keep the nipples from rubbing directly on her shirts. But all in all it's been a great experience for her, and I look forward to the pain I will be able to induce later using those rings.

Dane

So I had been wanting my nipples pierced for a few years but never got up the nerve.  After playing with pain this year during Sexuary I knew that I would be ready for it.  

Dane totally surprised me with the appointment.  I have learned not ask questions on where we are going because he usually won't tell me anyhow.  We drove up to The Golden Goat and my thought was a new tattoo not piercing.  He then told me that we were there to see Sean so I knew that it was piercing time.
Sean took us to his piercing room, where he has be raise my shirt but lower my arms to measure and place his marks on there he would pierce.  He then got all the bars and equipment into the sterilization box and told us to go pay, fill out forms and look around while everything was getting ready.

Well he then lets us know that all is ready and for me to come back in.  I get up on his table and raise my shirt.  I am breathing deeply, and a little nervous .  He starts on the left side,he cleans me off, pinches and pulls and tells me to take a deep breath. He pokes needle thru...I flinched a little, not bad.  This is usually my sensitive side so I was really surprised by the fact that while it hurt it wasn't nearly as bad as I had expected.  So on to the other side.  Same process, clean, pinch, pull and tells me to take a deep breath. This time as I take a deep breath he pokes, and holy shit did that hurt.  He is having a hard time getting the needle to poke all the way thru.  FUCK does it hurt.  I thought he was never going to get it thru the other side. 
 After it was all said it done, I decided that a bra would hurt.  Well Its just the opposite. being without one hurt more.  my nipples hurt because of the weight on them, then who knew that your nipples stay hard all the time now. Now my nipples are chaffed, discharging a creamy white cream and sore as fuck.  I try for several days to not sleep in a bralett or anything. but I just can't.  Skin to skin contact hurts, I have to have something in between them and Dane.

It took about 2 weeks  before the constant pain went away.  4 weeks before I could lay up against Dane without hurting.  We have slowly started playing with my boobs again.  The first time I thought I was going to pass out from the pain but it was a feel good pain.  We will have to continue playing  and trying things to see  how, what and what doesn't bring me to that pleasure/pain threshold.  

Sexuary 2020 - Caning

For whatever reason (and we've talked about it many times with no real knowledge of where it came from) the mention of spanking Jackie sends her down a rabbit hole fast.  Spanking her while in the middle of sex is ok, flogging is ok, but spanking and instruments used to spank will quickly turn things south mentally.So part of the reason she doesn't know what is coming up each day is so that she doesn't get to go down those rabbit holes prior to trying new things. We've experienced it several times over the years, so we know the risk is real.

So caning definitely falls into that category. I've really wanted to try it on her but know if I told her that it would not go well. So I didn't.  Before we started playing I blindfolded her.  I put her up against the St Andrews Cross where she generally has a great time.  I started using the wartenberg wheels on her and then I stepped back and popped her under her ass cheeks several times.  I could sense the surprise in Jackie, BUT she didn't call out any safe words.  After a couple more minutes with the wartenberg wheel I popped her again.  After some rubbing and more wartenberg wheel I asked her what color she was at, "yellowish green". After a bit more playing and again a color check she was "green".  We were good, she'd jumped over the rabbit hole and would enjoy the moment.

I found the canes here at Amazon. They are a 2 pack and are slightly different.I got to use both on Jackie before pulling her down from the cross to finish her.

So why would I try something like this? First the endorphins for pain and pleasure are the same ones, it's the headspace and situation you're in that dictates whether it's orgasmic or hurtful.  The same canes could be just hurtful if misused.Second, there is something about an ass that has a bright red glow that is such a turn on for me. And last, how will Jackie ever conquer those fears and rabbit holes without her body and mind KNOWING that they are good things, not bad.  So repetitive good events will hopefully over come her mental anguish of spankings and the tools that go with them.

Try it at home. Use your hand, a belt, a ping pong paddle, and just try a bit of spanking play, you might find it more adventurous that you ever though.

Dane

Caining....hmmmm who knew...So over the years Dane and I have talked and tried it.  I did not have an good ending.  I am not sure what has caused it but just know the times we have tried a spanking day, Dane really enjoyed it.  I totally checked out and while I was there physically but not there mentally. 
This year our our "real" lives we have done lots of firsts, and talked for hours upon hours about our kinks, our limits, our hard no's, our ok lets try things.  That leads us up to today.  Caning.  I had no idea that this was planned. He is right I would have gone down a negative rabbit-hole.  

He blind folded me and took me to our dungeon and placed me at the cross.  He ran his hands up and down knowing it help get me into the space he needed me to be.  He got out the wheels...OMG the wheels...I just love them, then right in the middle of a great movement....whap...wait..what was that...whap....oh shit what is it....whap....did he get a new single flogger....whap ...oh hell never mind....let me be in this moment.  I remember him whispering asking me my color...I remember having to get my thoughts back in check to answer.  I remember saying yellowish-green.  I am not sure what I was thinking or not thinking but I do know I was not in a negative space at all.  I do remember tearing up but not sure why but knew it was a good cry not a bad one.  I told him I was good, and I really was.

So I do like the idea of 2 things going on at once.  Really does my mind good, things to stay focused on, things that help me not go down the rabbit-hole.  

Dane has done a great job pushing my limits, helping me figure out things...

Jackie 

Sexuary 2020 - Flogging

This is not a new subject for us. Flogging is something Jackie and I have enjoyed it for a couple of years.  Last year we blogged here about flogging.  Since then we've added several more floggers to our arsenal and have continued to enjoy them. 

Normally pain is not the point of our flogging, but when paincentric is the plan for the month, well you flog a bit harder.  Now we did some sensation work prior to flogging, and when I started I warmed Jackie up with 100 or so lashes as a low level.  Afterwards I started adding a bit more swing to it, until we were at a good swing and the lashes were leaving red marks down Jackies back and ass.  She was moaning and groaning with each stroke, and when she got to a point let me know she was at 'yellow'.  I didn't stop, but I was much more particular about my strokes.

When we were done I had to lay Jackie down on the massage table.  Her eyes were rolled and she was shaking.  After some water and chocolate and about 30 minutes she was back to reality.  I put lotion on her back and while she felt the effects of for the rest of the night, in the morning she was fine and no marks were left.

Now in the meantime there was literally a puddle of cum under Jackie where she had orgasmed.She's came over and over again while we were flogging.  The pain turned to pure pleasure. The fine line between pleasure and pain and pain as pleasure is remarkable.  The endorphins created on either one are the same endorphins and Jackies' experienced it yesterday while I flogged her. 

On a side note, we have a friend we introduced to flogging.  When she first started she was scared and was very hesitant.  Once she experienced it, by someone who knew her and cared, and wasn't just an asshole trying to beat her, she realized how extremely exciting it can be. She LOVES flogging now.  You MUST trust the flogger (DOM) to know you and know your limits. You must not play with a wanna-be DOM who just wants to beat someone.  It's imperative that you protect yourself with knowledge so you don't get hurt. But don't be afraid of flogging, it's a great tool in reaching new heights.

Again, we don't get any money from them, but www.flogmebaby.com has always treated us fantastic and has a great product for a great price.

Dane

Flogging....what can I say I love flogging. There is no way to describe the feeling that happens as your body crosses over the pain/pleasure threshold. I could feel my eyes roll back in my head, my breathing changing as I slipped into sub space.  Due to going back and forth into subspace, I can only tell you that I really enjoyed this flogging session, yes it was much harder than we have ever done but the feeling of release I had and have had thru all of this is more than I can describe. 

 I remember a big puddle under me when Dane had to lead me back to the table to rest.  I know I drank so water, some chocolate to help with my lightheaded head rush. Then I remember going to sleep for about an hour. 

I was able to get into subspace because I totally trust Dane.  He is my dom and knows exactly how much to push me and what to do for aftercare.
Jackie