Sexuary 2023 - Sounding and Anal

 So before we started Jackie had asked for a weekend day for her.  Now I expected she'd want to get me high or something like that but boy was I totally off, and obviously she changed plans as what she did was at least in part things we learned about at TKF. 

At about 10:30 Jackie told me to go take a good long bath and be ready at noon, with a cleaned out ass and ready for fun. So I sat in the tub, read a steam story (The American Prince, part 2 of The American Princess series).

When I came out Jackie was looking hot in an outfit with fishnet stockings on.  She had me put on a harness I purchased last summer and had me lay in bed.

At TKF we went to LadyBoy's class on sounding.  They recommended rosebud sounds instead of the bars I had, and Jackie really liked them better than the ones I had before.  She also had a better idea on how to use them after the class.  

So she started with the 4 mm and worked her way up to the 10 mm.  It's funny that she was able to get the 10 mm in one time, but when she tried to put it back in, it just wouldn't go.  The 9 mm would slide in and out all the time with no problem, but the 10 mm wasn't going to go back in no matter how nicely it had gone in before.  

But she stroked me with each sound, and didn't take me long to have my first body orgasm.  Now if you've never had a body orgasm, it's not a little fluid coming out your dick.  It's from the tip of your toes to the hairs on your head on fire as waves and waves run through your body.  Jackie kept going and a bit later she had me rolling over and over again with orgasms.  I was just about to tap her to please stop when she did on her own.  But at this point every cell in my body was on fire.  She leaned down to kiss me and her hair rubbed over my body and every place she touched was like a mini orgasm all over again.  

She then put a dildo I had purchased a while back and never use.  It's a 9" dog cock with a knot in it.  It also allows the user to put a fluid in a syringe and push it into whatever cavity you're in (in my case my ass). After we were finished playing with the sounds, she had me masturbate and as I was cumming she filled my ass with the fluids.  I was a bit disappointed, not sure what I was expecting, but was more like an enema then what I was hoping for.  

She then covered me up and told me she'd be back in 15 mins.  My nerves were on fire and I just laid there trying to calm back down and come back to earth. 

When she came back she pulled out the triangle pillow and told me it was time for some ass play.  

Once I was up and over she started with a speculum and stretched my ass wide open.  It felt good and she got several good pictures.  This is something Jackie had been hesitant about, but after seeing it at TKF decided she could do it. I appreciated the class and all we learned there. 

After that she went for the big goal, she went for the fist.  Three times she put it in and out of my ass, each time rubbing my prostate from the inside and again sending me to another body orgasm.  

When we were done, I asked her to just cuddle up with me.  

Now the first part took almost 1:45 minutes, 15 minute breaks for Jackie, then another hour.  So almost
3 hours total. This is by far the longest scene Jackie has ever topped on me.  But I learned a few things. Oh and almost forgot, Jackie videoed the entire second part of the anal play for me, it was exciting to watch a second time.

First, I told Jackie I of used her up against me while she was at break, or maybe the weighted blanket.  My nerves were firing and I could of used that extra aftercare. I now understand why that kind of aftercare is so important. 

Second, I get why blankets are so important in aftercare.  I know it wasn't that cold, but I was freezing after all that.  All my body energy was for everything but to keep me warm.  Seriously it was just trying to get me back to earth and things back to normal, a place I was far from.  

Jackie and I have done a lot of things where I was a bottom, but never anything any better than this.  I don't know what her original plans were, but I know she truly had me in a great place and I really loved it. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Recap

So as Sexuary 2021 comes to a close we have some cleaning up to do in the bedroom, some reviewing to do of all the things we experienced, and maybe start working on a mini Sexuary later in the year, or even start on ideas for next years Sexuary.  

We always have people tell us how much more experienced we are then they are.  Most of what we've done, we've done because we were willing to try something and most of the time I would go do the research on it and bring it back to Jackie.  When we started with our list of 1001 kinks never did we think 10 years later we'd still be writing about our exploits, and yet here we are.  Most everything we do we do out of curiosity.  It has a great side effect of bringing Jackie and I closer together with every new thing we try.  

Nightstand after Sexuary 2021

Let's face it, the first time you mention to your partner you're going to put them on fire, if they don't trust you there is a huge problem before you even start.  Or how about a 16 gauge needle? Or a flogger? Or a speculum? Or a sound in your urethra? Or ...or...or....you have to really get to know your partner and your partner has to really know you.  

Sexuary Daily Draws

We take what we learn from our sexuarys and incorporate them into our regular sex life.  Some things become more regular.  Some things fall away.  Some things we'll look at again in a year ....maybe by then we're ready for it...but then again, maybe we won't be. But the biggest thing is we put ourselves out there to try new things!!! We purposefully work our on relationship, and our sexual relationship every Sexuary.  It's a very conscious thing that we do every year to make sure we are not like our previous marriages.  Both of us came from failed marriages, and never wanted to have that happen again.  Sexuary has been a great exercise in making sure we don't go back there.  

So Sexuary maybe over, but it's never to late to start YOUR own Sexuary! We do it in that month of love on purpose, but anytime is the right time to go outside of your box and try something new for you and your partner in the bedroom!! We hope you'll take our blog as inspiration to try something new with your partner....hell read the blog together, get ideas and get started on your plans!!! 

Dane and Jackie
Sexuary 2021

Sexuary 2020 - Roll Playing

One of the things Jackie and I aren't the best at is talking during sex. Occasionally there are some sounds, but we're really not much of talkers during sex. We have a friend how has bragged about her roll playing sexcapades, so I decided to throw that into this sexuary.

I got the room ready, had brought in everything needed to play doctor and told Jackie what to wear (a skirt and shirt with no panties or bra.

The annual exam included breast exam, reflex exam (using the wartenberg wheel of course), then of course the speculum went in and then I had to test her orgasmic reflexes using her vibrator. For the record she passed with flying colors. I then used a soft sound and got it about 3" in and then decided to use a steel sound.  Yeah that didn't work so well for Jackie. But hey we learned. I then did a little fisting on her using gloves (no better than without gloves). We ended up by the doctor taking advantage of his already orgasmic patient, bending her over the exam table, lifting her skirt and taking advantage of her. 

We had to communicate during the 'exam' portion, still not great during the sex part, but hey it was definitely something different for us.

We tried 2 new thing with the roll playing and the sounds on her. I know the sound wasn't a big thing for her, and maybe another time we'll try it.  The roll play was a bit awkward, but I think if we did it a couple more times it could get better. I told her I have it scheduled 1 more time this month with a different scenario, so we'll see.

Dane

Our Toy Chest

1 of the 2 drawers of toys we have

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane

Speculum

So during Sexuary we had purchased some speculums to play with.  Let's face it there are several good things about this.  One I get to see what I get to play with all the time.  I knew what I expected but I'd never really looked in there to see what's there.  I don't care what your sex-ed classes were it's not the same as looking there.

Second you could always play doctor and be a GYN if you're into role playing.

So we had these speculums for me to play with.  We have both vaginal and anal speculums.  I didn't know there was a difference, but there is a huge difference.  We decided today was going to be the day we played with the vaginal speculum.

Lots of lube, and then I slipped it in and opened it up, tightening up the screw to hold it open.  I moved it about some till I got the view I wanted and was able to reach in from the side and see what I normally only feel, and generally with my penis.

Now Jackie is the only woman I've ever been with that can squeeze so tight and push from inside out to push anything in there when she's having an orgasm.  I mean penis, vibrator, it doesn't matter and I wanted to see how that all worked.  So I got the speculum so I could see what was going on inside.  It was pretty remarkable and very clear to see.  I now see why doctors use them.  So then Jackie suggested she use her favorite vibrator so I could actually watch her have an orgasm.  What a great idea!!!  Almost immediately I watched her inside move and engorge. Oh my this was pretty hot.  She came and squirted and I got to watch the whole show from the inside out.

Then as long as we're stretched and open we continued out fisting exercise.  My knuckles actually slipped in, and it was more a question of depth then it was of girth, but with just a bit to go it was to much for Jackie and we stopped.  We were a good 2 inches further in then we were last time we tried, and so freaking close!!!

We talked about it afterwards.  I think I'm going to have to curl my fingers as my knuckles clear to make it a shallower fisting.  We'll see next time.  But I know sooner or later we'll get that fist inside of her.

In the mean time another fetish scratched off our list.

Dane


Speculum...to be honest this really bothered me. I knew it was something he wanted to do.  I know how I feel when I have to go for a well woman check up, its not very comfortable, and certainly not "a turn on" but again last month was about fetishes and trying things outside the normal box.  So we ordered them.  I laid down and let him take a look..  I tried to relax so he could look how he wanted.  I knew he wondered what was happening when we were making love and what all he was feeling, so I decided to suggest to get out a toy and he could watch how my pussy reacts during an orgasm.  It was not a big turn on for me.  I know he liked what he saw and it really turned him on.  

We then continued to have him fist me.  WE have been slowly working on this.  This is our 3rd attempt and we are making progress.  Its taking a while, I tell him that it takes HOURS to birth a baby, so its hard to put something in there that is a big as a baby's head! We made it about 2 inches more than the last time, and really his knuckles were in, but just couldn't past there.  

I hope this day was a great Birthday present for Dane. That's is why I was willing  to go the "extra" mile today. All in all its a great day, lots of excitement and new knowledge.  

Jackie 

Speculum and Anal

So let's order and purchase a speculum.  I want to look and play down below.  I'd really like one for your pussy and ass.  While it's in I plan on using your vibrator and watching what happens inside too. This is NOT about pain.  If I cum in your pussy I might want to look a second time to see the difference.  Do I need to dress up in a white coat and pretend to be a doctor?

Ok, because Jackie is finishing up with a yeast infection we decided to forgo this for the moment.  I didn't want to spread anything or rekindle what we are finally getting under control.  But I did want to explain this a bit in case we have to wait till next month to bring it back (cause eventually I will get to play doctor).

And that's probably the first of it.  I'm not really the medical type. I mean I know some medical things, but I'm not the one watching doctor shows and all.  But after watching the doctor use the speculum on Jackie during a check up after surgery was a bit of a turn on.  So we've ordered speculums for this.  I look forward to getting a peak in there.

So last night we got back into gear.  Nothing over the top special, but still was great to get both of us satisfied again.  We'll get back into our list today with Public Spaces, oh I can't wait.  And if todays doesn't happen this month it will just give me something to look forward to in March.

Dane

Speculum and Anal....Dane really wanted to do this.  We bought all the things we would need.  I know he has seen it being used when I have gone for my well woman checkups. I don't understand it but again this month is out of our box...so this will be out of the box.  Right now though until the yeast infection is gone I certainly don't want him lookin' at my insides 

LOL

However all this being said I did say the favorite words a man likes to hear from his wife...."I am horny!" All these days with getting some has been hell going without some...I didnt care if I still have the infection or not dang it I needed a release. So we got back on the horse last night!!! YEAH!! I got the release I needed and he did to...

Now bring on the "Public sex" day...as I bite my lip and fight with myself on all the what if's that could happen...

Jackie