Sexuary 2022 - Fire Flogger - Day 22

 

 

Do you know how busy our schedule is now a days? It’s amazing that we ever have sex, must less have anything like Sexuary.  I’m glad that we make the effort to make sure our sex life is an important part of our life.  -143

 

It's true.  I'm not sure how we got so busy in life with no kids in the house, but it seems like we're gone and going all the time.  A weekend at home with nothing to do is almost unheard of anymore, and even a night at home with nothing to do just doesn't happen as often as I thought it would during Sexuary.  It's something we'll be working on over the next couple of months.  It's not that it's not fun, or things we want to do, it's just so many of them that they add up to not a lot of free time.  

Then you have things like Mother Nature that want to mess up plans.  This wasn't supposed to be Fire FLogger day, but the weather coming up for the next several days was going to be a high about 35....not a great time to be outside, naked, with a fire flogger flinging around.

This was something that Jackie had tasked me to look into. We've seen it at Bondage Camp at Tex Ren Faire, and at Texas Kink Fest and she wanted to try it.  So me being me, I found out what I needed to get, what I needed to do and how to do it.  

I purchased 2 fire floggers and a gallon of white gas.  I've had them for several months and have been waiting for Sexuary to break them out.  Because the weather was going to be so bad this week I moved the flogging to tonight instead. 

Naked, with her protective head piece, and leaning against a pole on our back porch I lit the first flogger and started swinging it.  The flames would flicker on her skin.  Each pass the warmth of the flames would get hotter and closer.  

On one occasion, a drop of alcohol hit her skin, but by the time I went to knock it out it was already gone.  

I would quickly run the flogger over her back...both a soft flog and the heat at one time.  Sometime during the 2nd flogger Jackie started laughing.  When I asked her what was up, she said, "I just came"... no 'sex' per se, but it put Jackie in the right frame of mind to cum.  

There is something about things like flogging, fire or not, that allows the sub to get into a good space.  The mental space they go to is freeing.  Freeing to the point of orgasms.  

It set a great beginning for the night ahead.  

Sexuary is winding down.  Have you made your move?  Have you tried SOMETHING you wouldn't normally do?  You still have time. Maybe it won't be as over the top as a fire flogger, but maybe it will be a step to change your sex life like ours did all those years ago when we took the Sexuary challenge.  

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Fireplay

 

Since we've started with fire play, we've tried it many times.  We've varied it up and different designs do different things.  So this year I was able to make videos for you.  I started with a heart shape on Jackies back:

 

I created a different design with the intent of some immediate heat in multiple directions all at one time.  You'll notice how this one kept going for a couple of rounds before stopping.  Be prepared to stop it if you see it's going to long and could burn your model. 

 

 

For the 3rd video I just did a zig-zag design on Jackie

 

For the 4th I didn't 'burn' anything. I took the same flame torches I would use in fire cupping and just glide them all over Jackies body.  This will give her a warm sensation.  In her words, "it feels like a huge body hug" 

I did one more simple design, but again with the intent of multiple passes before it stops.  

 

I didn't realize at the time but I recorded more than I expected.  You'll note just like any type of kink play there is an aftercare.  We didn't just get up and go.  In this care I caressed Jackie for a minute and then covered her.  I let her float in her subspace for about 5 - 10 minutes before we got up and I cleaned up our playspace while she went to relax. 

"I wish people could just understand" was Jackies comment as she climbed down from the massage table.  Jackie seriously went to her special place while we played.  

Now this isn't a great lead to intercourse, but not all sex is there.  Sometimes it's just about the intimacy you and your partner achieve, and that doesn't always mean traditional sex.  Today, for us, this is one of those days.  

One of the things in BDsm is the trust the sub has to have for their Dom, and the care and preparation the Dom must have to keep the sub safe and maintain that trust. I don't think the average couple ever achieves that level of trust a BDsm couple does.  

We hope you enjoy the videos, please feel free to comment or contact us with questions or comments. 

Dane
 

Sexuary 2020 - Fireplay

So one of the things I had planned for this month was a bit of fireplay.  We've seen it done many times, but had not ever tried it. So what better time to try it then during Sexuary.  No it's not an orgasmic thing, but it does feel great.

So I had ordered a pack of firewands (though you could use a cotton ball and a hemostat) and found some mousse that had alcohol in it (I know so little about mouse, but I figured out some don't have it). Really that's all you need.

Well just like the needles, I wanted to practice myself prior to trying on Jackie.  So while Jackie has taken off I pulled everything out and tried it out. Other than the singed hairs on my leg (yeah, I really though that one through). It was a nice warm sensation as the whoosh ran across my leg.  I hit the mousse again with the firewand and off it went again and again.  I wiped the mousse off and did it again and again. It was pretty cool.

So it wasn't what was on the agenda for the night, Jackies adventures had brought her in late the night before when we were supposed to, so I decided to try it that night instead, as I knew she'd enjoy it. I cleared the linen off the massage table and put her on there then got the stuff out.

I drew my design on her back and whoosh the fire lit up.



I did several patterns and tried different ways of lighting the designs to see if I could get them to go longer.  We did down her legs and then her belly too before we were all done. Other than the fact I really needed a tripod to get all the videos I wanted it was pretty cool. Over all we spent about 45 minutes lighting fires and watching them go.  Another thing off our bucket list to learn.

Dane