Sexuary 2022 - Jackie takes lead #3 - Day 16

Ohhhhh…once again it’s your day and I’m squirming in anticipation of what you have in store for me.  I LOVE that you can still bring that kind of excitement still for me, even after 18 years.  - 143

 Normally Jackie is a sub, for her to be a top, even for a short time isn't natural for her.  Yet she does it periodically for my benefit.  The last 2 weeks have been a struggle for her.  Things didn't go exactly as she expected and it shook her some, threw her off her game.  She was really upset last week and came out and wrote things out for this week. 

She put Theives oils on my legs, "It's good for the spirit" she started out.  Then she took me to the bedroom where she had setup the massage table.  

I want to take a second here and talk about the massage table.  If there was ever a great piece of versatile furniture to get, this is it.  Massaging is just the start, we do needle play, fire play, you can bend someone over, these tables adjust in height, and are a great asset for any home, kink or not. 

 So back to Jackie - So she gave me a massage lasting about 30 - 40 minutes and relaxing me. Now this has been a week from hell.  Weird shit driving me crazy and extremely stressful.  This massage was great and relaxing.  

She finished off with a 'Happy Ending" by giving me a blow job.  Now I don't know about everyone else, but there are not enough blow jobs in the world.  I love sliding my cock in and out of her mouth.  And I'm not an easy guy to make cum, so when she starts she knows she's going to be at it for a bit, but she wanted to make this day special for me and she did.  

I know there are some gals who give blowjobs all the time, but for me it's a privileged and I'm appreciative and love it when I get one.  

Btw, while she was leaning over the table, I did slide my fingers and did my magic on her clit and inside of her. The rug beneath her was plenty soaked, and there is nothing like her moaning and trying to keep her attention on my cock with I'm doing my best to distract her.  We both win!!!

I really am a lucky guy in getting to try so many different things sexually.  And I'm grateful that I found Jackie who would experience it all with me. 

Dane

   

Sexuary 2020 - Cupping

As part of the planning for this Sexuary, I ordered both glass cups for cupping and a plastic set with hand pump. Today was the day to break them out. Now before today I've watched several videos, but the best one I found was here.

I didn't let Jackie know what we were doing, I just had her lay on the massage table, face down. I had prepared the cups, and had a candle lit with my firewand soaking in 91% isopropyl alcohol. Every place I went  91% is recommended over the standard 70%.  I was able to find it at Walmart. So everything was ready.

The first couple I attempted stuck ok, but weren't the best. I wasn't quick enough from the flame to the skin, but they all did stick and they all did draw in skin. 

I then used a couple of the hand pump cups on her legs. I had a few issues till I realized the center piece had to be pulled up sometimes prior to using the pump.  I also had to play with the amount of pumps to use.  I started with 4, WAY to many. 2 seemed to be the magic number. Tight enough to do the work, soft enough to be able to get them off.

This is just 1 more thing on our bucket list that we've had that we can now cross off. One of the great parts about this is we now everything we need to do this time and time again. The glass cups in particular are good for a long time if taken care of.

We're well along into Sexuary now. What do you have planned that is different then you usually do? What can you and your partner do that will enhance your sex life, or maybe it's just your relationship you need to enhance, but something like a massage, or cupping, or a huge hug can make a difference.

Dane

Sexuary 2019 - Good Friends and Good Fucks

So one of the things Jackie and I have 'played around' with over the years is bringing others into our bedroom.  If you go back to the first time we tried with a couple (Sexuary 2013), it was pretty disastrous.  Things didn't click.  Things moved oddly and definitely were not a good experience.  We'd had other experiences that were.  The 1 gentleman we played with for over a year (every few months we'd spend a date night out with him), and had a great time.  But for some reason couples just never seemed to work out quite as well.

Over the course of this last year we've met a couple and became friends.  While I'd known the guy for a bit, and had met his significant other, Jackie hadn't met either.  Our first get together as couples was at Hippie Hollow.  No better way to meet someone than with all your cloths off right? We've become great friends over the year and some where along the way the question was asked, "so, can we all get together in bed?"  As always for us, both of us have to agree, and since we know I'm a horny bastard it left it to Jackie to work it out.

After several visits it did happen, and has continued to happen over the last 6 months or so.  So when Sexuary 2019 calendar was being made we texted them to see if they were available for a weekend of swinging fun.  Of course they said yes.

Now I want to point out we hook up some times just for cards, or a meal, or get together.  Both of our families have met the other as our friends.  We know them, and their story just like they know ours.  It's not a quick roll in the hay and we were out the door.

And while Jackie had some feelings she had to process the first couple of times, it's not gotten to where when we are together we can flirt and have fun, and each of us knows who's going home with who and there are no problems. We have gone to dark parties together, and we've played at each others house.  When I built our St. Andrews cross they were they were their for the inaugural weekend. The new hard point for the house we actually put it together the 1st time at their place and I suspended all 3 of them that night.  Rarely a day goes by that we don't all text something back and forth asking about each others day or family. 

So Friday comes and to be honest Jackie had a horrible week.  We weren't even 'scheduled' to play Friday night, but she needed some release.  So we all went out for dinner and .99 cent Margaritas. Afterwards Jackie and Thomas (Thomas and Kitty are our friends) laid on the sofa together while I took and gave Kitty an hour massage.  We just relaxed and got the days stress out of our system.  We moved to the bedroom and .....well let's just say the women were all very satisfied before we ended up in a pile in the middle of the bed and chatted for about 30 minutes as we planned the next days adventures. 

Did I mention that the king sized bedroom I rented had a hot tub in it? Yeap, Jackie and I had stayed here before so when I was looking I went back.  It's really a 2 person tub but you can easily fit 3 and really could fit 4 in it if you wanted to be playful and cozy. So while Thomas and Kity took care of their daily honey-dos, Jackie was in an extraordinarily horny mood and I was ever so happy to help her with her condition.

After lunch we came back and worked on those rope ties I struggled with so much this on Wednesday.  We'd talked about different things we could do to make it work and sure enough with a set of new ropes, a couple of piles and a lot less frustration Jackie was tied up and laying comfortably on the bed.   OF COURSE I took advantage of the situation a little, but then I let her chill in her subspace for about 15 minutes while tied up. 

Just as I was finishing putting my new ropes away in come Thomas and Kitty with a bottle of wine and cups.  The hot tub filled up with Jackie relaxing on the sofa next to it as we chatted for at least a good hour or more.  They'd been to lunch with their kids and had gotten good news, and we were all in just happy.

Of course hands and feet were rubbing all around and by the time we got out everyone was ready for more sexual adventure.  We played for a couple of hours till there just wasn't much left in our tired bodies.  Thomas took good care of Jackie, I turned Kitty into rubber and when it was done the 2 gals hopped back into the hot tub for a relaxing finish.

We went to dinner at their house, the women both got massages, and then we played cards while sitting around naked. Life is good!!! But these are our friends.  Yes, it's more than the average relationship of couples, but it's where we are.  It's good.  It's comfortable.  And most importantly it's fun for all of us.  Don't get me wrong, like all relationships there have been some misunderstandings, but we've gotten through those, and the results are weekends like these (yes there have been other full weekends of adventures with them) that just really really are a great time for all.

So what are my takes on things?  First of all, just because something doesn't work the first time doesn't mean it won't work at all.  It has taken us 6 years to find a couple we've enjoyed playing with and figuring out what went wrong with the others.  For us it was we needed that relationship to happen. We needed a connection to hang onto before it was sexual.

For the roping side it meant that we had to work out some positions, and Jackie had to talk to me about what worked for her and what didn't.  She came up with the idea of the pillow under her hip and putting her arms up front instead of behind her ....that worked for us.

It also means that because we were willing to go outside of our box more than once, even after failure the first time, we not only have found success, but exceeded in it.  In both cases we could of let it drop and never gone back, and probably been justified in doing so.  But we didn't and because of that we have had a fantastic weekend.

Swinging weekend has definitely been a success!!!

Dane

PS, this morning Jackie asked if we could extend a day....well you can bet your bottom dollar I made that happen!!! A happy horny Jackie makes for an extremely happy and satisfied Dane!

Sexuary 2017 - Touching

So I think all of us get to the point after that honeymoon phase that we forget there is more to romance than that time we lay down in bed and make out.  Oh there we're good at touching the right parts and doing everything we can to get to where we want to go but we forget that the best foreplay starts when we get up in the morning and runs all day.  When we were first dating we knew that.  Kissing was hot.  The sex was hotter.  But all day long we touched and teased and do something that would lead up to our significant other being ready and more than willing to participate in our night time ritual.

 

Jackie and I are working on that this year.  Now we've been married 10, going on 11 years.  We've had 4 teenager boys in the house (hers and mine), that have more than interfered with our desires to run around like banshees, naked and uninhibited sexually.  So what happens? Well we slack off.  We do what we HAVE to so that we can get some results in the bedroom, but we don't really work at it.  For us, Sexuary 2017 has become about remembering that and acting upon it.  Oh I promise there will be good sex, and LOTS of it, but part of the reason for it will be that we've started out with remembering to do more than hop in bed and roll around in the sheets.  

For example yesterday, day 2 of Sexuary, we started out in the shower together.  Now part of that is great because we've both been through a transformation this year in our weight.  Over 100 lbs have been shed between the two of us, and while in the shower we get to put our hands all over each other.  What a nice start to the morning.  

At night  After work I cleared off the sofa.  I just did it, didn't say anything, I just cleared it off.  Then I sent a couple of provocative 'pssssst' messages to Jackie and invited her to come join me on our couch (normally we both sit on our own lazy-boy) and I would massage her feet and legs as we watched TV together.  For about 40 minutes she received a massage with no expectations, no payments, no one getting off later, but she got my attention and a nice massage.  

But it didn't stop there, she did thank me for the nice foot massage, and I replied with, "thanks for letting me feel you up. hehehe".  Ok, so I wanted her to know I LIKE having my hands on her bare, naked skin.  I love touching her as much as she loves being touched.  We just haven't made the time and efforts like we used to.  Geez, I had to clean off the couch, which guys some wives would consider just as romantic as the foot massage...just saying, and then massage her feet and legs...and hour of my time and efforts, for what?  So that she KNOWS I'm thinking about her even when there is no sex involved. Now that can get sexy quickly. 

She on the other hand sent me this little quip the other day.

Ok, it's no secret if you've read my blog I LOVE my butt touched all she wants.  It was exciting for me when she sent that.  Why? Because I know she had to be thinking of me when she saw it and sent it to me. No sex.  No toe curling sex.  Just a bit of a tease during the day.  It could of easily passed right past her and be gone, but she took the time to send it and then send me a text with it.  So I was thinking about my butt being touched by this wonderful wife of mine for the next hour or so.  That's hot!

So here we are Sexuary 3rd now, do something special today for your significant other. Nothing expected in return. Your gratification comes in knowing you did something special for them. Touch, rub, feel, listen, not say that thing you were going to,....something....we can do this! And in the end, when you practice the all day foreplay.....well let's just say you never know where it could lead too.

Dane

Jackie here...Dane is right...life has been so busy for us in the last 2 years...new jobs...loss of jobs...kids moving away...new grandbaby...its just been crazy...We have forgotten those beginning times when he or I would text each other and it would send chills.  When he first started the calendar I just didn't get it.  Confusion I guess would be the right word, but after talking about it, it made sense although I did screw up the first day but hey we are back on the band wagon...lol

Ladies, have you thought back on what made you fall in love with your significate other?  What made you want him/her?  What was it?  Some of us have been together a long time and its hard to remember.  Trust me its there, way back in the filing cabinet of our brain...Look back in that box, see it...touch it....bring it forward....lets leave it forward for the month...and remember the kink...or the over and above the norm.... #sexuary #touchie #feelyourpartnersbutt #toucheachother

Jackie

Touching

So this Sexuary Jackie and I have talked about a few things.  Because of family health issues Jackie will only be around about 1/2 the month, so Sexuary 2014 will not be repeated, and no 28 days of kink that Sexuary 2013 was.  So we've struggled a bit with what to do.  The theme from www.welcometomybrain.net is "me" which has been a bit more appropriate than expected with Jackie being gone taking care of her mom.

But we have talked, and in our discussions Jackie wanted more 'touch' days.  Last year we did a scene where I blindfolded Jackie and then used her sense of touch to create a very erotic scene (read here).  It was a very good scene for us and one we've repeated with variations several times over the year.  That sense of touch is very powerful, especially when it's unexpected. 

So one of the things Jackie and I will be working on this month is touching.  Different places..... different textures...... different temperatures....... different positions while touching ...all working on the sensation that just allows you to feel. 

For the first day of Sexuary I happened to be up with her.  The kids were gone so I made the trip and got us a hotel room.  When coming out of the shower I noticed the bottle of lotion.  I snagged it and brought it to the bed without her noticing it.  So when we started playing I used it to give her a mini massage.  When I went to enter her I went a way I rarely go and it gave a different feeling for both of us.  By the spot in the bed and the muffled screams from Jackie I'd say it was a success. 

Oh I have plans for several other days of touching this month.  Pieces of soft material, ice, candles, clothes pins, maybe even a paddle or two.  All very different sensations, all very happy results when it comes to our bedroom.  But most take a few minutes of planning to pull them off.  I know Jackie deserves that from me, doesn't your partner deserve that from you?

Hope Sexuary is going well for you!  Do something different.  Do something out of your box.  Do something that will surprise the hell out of your partner and make a memory.

Dane

PS - for me, I've purchased a few toys that I can't wait for Jackie to use on me. Oh my shuddering just thinking about them. 

Oils and Massages

Normally I would post our calendars explanation here, but because of crazy scheduling we had to move the Dom/sub to next week and come up with another one that wouldn't take all day and wouldn't wake up the kids.  So Jackie came up with rubbing oils on me and giving me a mini massage.

I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday.  !@#$%  Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday.  I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday.  So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around.  Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can".  Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved.  After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday.  Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.

So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom.  It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.

I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me.  I've had lots of massages but never with oils.

First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect.  I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that.  She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation.  Pretty cool!

I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me.  She teased certain areas as she passed by.  She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot.  Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body.  I love that intimate touch.  It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that.  I love anytime Jackie caresses me.  The oils are just a bonus.  The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus.  Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.

Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great.  At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep.  Who could want any more than that?

Dane

Man what a day.  We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way.  I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit.  I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day.  So I thought about it all day.  I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.  

I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged.  I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body.  I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.  

I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together.  It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)

Jackie

Being Flexible

So today was suppose to be "Vincilagnia (tied up),  Blindfold,  Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie", but after the events of last night and the fact we could have better no kids time (read Jackie could stream louder if she wanted to) on Monday instead of today, and massages would be tonight.  We just thought it would be better overall for both of us.

We like massages.  Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years.  Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner.  Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex.  Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it.  I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them.  And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.

I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better.  I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.

We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady.  We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys.  We also found some non-piercing nipple ring  The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it.  You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys.  The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert. 

Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings.  Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight.  First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points.  A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes.  Then next score was hers.  Next would be mine.  Then hers.  Didn't matter which team scored, just a score. 

I love oral sex!  I love to receive and give oral.  I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much.  I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times).  But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.

YEAH!!! 7 points scored first!  Damn I'm a lucky guy.  Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much.  Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown.  While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.

We had fun.  We both got some much needed relief.  And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night.  Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.

We have 4 days down, 24 days to go.  We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship.  It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.

What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting.  Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps.  Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going.  Make up your own game.  I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance.  Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.

Dane

Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc.  However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do.  I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be.  So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day.  And part of this month is open communication.  I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.

I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages.  They are very relaxing for me to give them.  I know how much Dane loves them.  I really had intended to give him one.  I am not sure why I changed the game again.

So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story.  One of our favorites is Megaplexx.  Its not your average toy store.  Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing.  This is great store.  The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced.  Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them.  I really wanted to see them on.  I wanted to see how easy they would be.  The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car.  We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay.  I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again. 

I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score.  We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE.  We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him.  I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score.  I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all.  So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes.  I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close.  I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me.  I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth.  I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy.  Today though I was OK with him playing with me.  I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs.  I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him.  I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going.  I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened.  I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day.  FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.  

Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to.  If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)

So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start.  We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track.  We will talk and communicate more than we ever had.  We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!

Jackie