Sunday, December 13, 2015

Preparing for Sexuary 2016



It's December already and we haven't even started planning for 2016 Sexuary!!! OMG what happened to this year.  Normally we start November 1st coming up with a topic for the following year. So you know what that means right?  It means we'll be starting our annual discussion on what does Sexuary (our annual adventure to make sure our sexual relationship is as strong as the rest of our relationship during the month of February).  So what does that mean to Jackie and I?  Well first that generally means we get to 'discuss' multiple times as to where we are.  That discussion can, and often does, lead to some great ...hmmmm.... practice sessions to see if we're really there.  Then there is the communicating via pillow talk, emails and texting, that can get rather exciting at times, about all the possibilities for the upcoming Sexuary that can lead to more sessions. Finally there is the narrowing down of the list to those things we are going to do.  Some of those talks can get so hot that we can't finish until we've had another 'discussion'.  Last once we have our list together, maybe even make a calendar, of what/when we are going to do things we start to make arrangements.  That might mean going shopping for toys, or going online and finding items we might need to make Sexuary all we are hoping for.  We've found if we have everything prior to Sexuary it's more likely to happen.

Then Sexuary, I mean February 1 comes and we start celebrating.

One year that was trying to have sex for 1 week in a row (we failed that year, we could make it to 6 days, but just not 7).  We shot for every other day 1 year, and we probably had sex 14 times even if it wasn't every other day.  One year that meant 28 days of fetishes, with each day being something different. We both almost died but we succeeded.  Last year because of family health issues (not Jackie or I, but Jackie was taking care of a family member with cancer),  we cut that back because Jackie was gone every other week for the week.  So that's where the 'where you are' comes in.

Talking to friends, it could be that you have sex 4 times in the month and that's a huge advancement over your current sexual status.  In some cases it would be to break a year long spell and have sex during Sexuary.  Maybe it's that you and your significant other just need to do massages a couple of times during that month and that's progress. It really all depends on where you are starting from as to what success would be.  But the discussions leading up to it and the actual conscientious focus on your sexual relationship is the goal for Sexuary.

So let's get started and start talking about Sexuary 2016!!! I'm ready, let's go!!!

Dane

PS - Sexuary for Jackie and I started by reading a friend of ours blog Welcome To My Brain  by Christine Moers.  Her profound words about sex in a relationship were so powerful Jackie and I not only started participating in Sexuary, we started this blog.  She made the comment that we tell people to be celibate until they are married (committed relationship).  BUT we forget to tell them it's not only okay, but desired to have a healthy sex life once you're in that relationship. It's the gift of being in such a relationship!!! Scientifically it brings you closer to your significant other.  It creates desire to be with them.  It makes you willing to put up with the daily grind of life within the relationship, because of the intimacy.  So Sexuary exist for that and so much more.  Sexuary is Jackie and my gift to each other every year.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

International Fisting Day 2015

Well who would know that we'd be celebrating International Fisting Day (October 21, 2015 was the 5th annual) with a round of anal fisting. That and 3 hours of glorious sex that went with it was one of those mini-sexuary days that every couple needs.  What a glorious day.  Want to know more about it you can go to fistingday.com.  It's been no secret in this blog that I enjoy anal fisting (see our most popular post here).  There is a huge release that can't be had any other way than to have a hand in there rubbing your prostate.  Just doesn't happen any other way.  So we use plenty of lube and go at it.  

Now maybe you're thinking more vaginal fisting.  A friend of ours recommends "A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting".  Jackie and I do this sometimes too, though truth be told I get fisted much more than she does.  

But the couple of rules to always follow no matter where you're fisting is 1) Lube, lube and more lube!!! Don't even think about not over doing it with the lube. Oh, did I mention LUBE is extremely important?  2) Especially until you know your partner and their capabilities make sure you take it slowly.  Just going in there and shoving a fist in will rip something.  Work it in slowly and give yourself plenty of time to slowly work in a bit more at a time till you get that wondrous point where your hand is sucked in to the cavern beyond.  We've found once you're in, well then you can get a bit rougher if you'd like and ...well let's just say if done right I'm told many women can have orgasms before you even get all the way there, and I can speak from experience, there are times I'll be dripping once the anal play starts.    3) and probably most important is that if the fistee says stop, then stop immediately!!! There is a point where the pleasure can turn to the wrong kind of pain, and if it gets there you must stop.  Both as fistee you need to be able to say stop and as the fister you need to stop when told to or see that something beyond ok is reached.  

Well maybe you missed this years International Fisting Day, but maybe you can start practicing for 2016 International Fisting Day!

Dane


Monday, September 28, 2015

Food for Thought


Who hasn't brought out that can of whip cream and cherries for a hot erotic sex play?  Food play is one of the basic forms of getting out of the box and doing something different.  It's cheap, and if you look around you can find plenty of good stuff in the pantry.  I mean if whip cream isn't to your liking then maybe chocolate would be more up your alley. A few drizzles and then your job is to lick each and every erotic place on your partners body  until your tongue has caressed parts that it had forgotten even existed.


Now my favorite way to start this is to blind fold Jackie and to strap her down with our sheets so I'm in control here.  The sensations of putting food where I want it and then taking it off again will rev Jackie up before I ever get to her wetness.  We've used fruits and some vegetables, of course ice, the liquids are often whipped cream or chocolate syrup, but it could be any thicker liquid.

Now there was that 1 time I seriously covered Jackie.  I'll caution against that unless you're ready to make sure that mess is transferred between the two of you, and your sex will get beyond messy.  But a little bit goes a long ways, especially when it comes to the liquids.

You could run a fuzzy peach over her skin.  You could drag a grape between her moist lips and seductively eat it.  You could dip a cherry in the chocolate and then feed it to her from your teeth, fighting over the stems with your tongues.  You could help her practice her deepthroating with a banana, and then letting her see what that does to you.  These are just a few of the ways we use food in the bedroom to help spice things up.

So while all of these are great and all I wanted to add a new one to your list, corn starch.  Yeap, I said it, corn starch.  That big yellow square container that is always sitting up in the pantry.  When I used it on Jackie recently (blindfolded of course) she thought I was dribbling oils on her.  The 'explosion' of the corn starch  as it dropped on her skin felt like droplets splashing on her. As I spread it, caressing every inch of her body with my hands, it made Jackies skin feel extra silky.  Honestly I would think if you didn't have massage oils and needed something corn starch might save the night. Of course you'll need to take a shower when it's done.  Damn another advantage of corn starch. Because playing in the shower to make sure you get it all off....well that might just take some tongue action.



Do you have any foods that you've found extra fun in the bedroom?  SHARE, don't be greedy and hog it up to yourself, let us know so Jackie and I can try it out!

Dane

Jackie here...can I say this was an amazing day....it was so surprising to hear Dane say it was corn starch.  It totally felt like oil being dripping one sensual drip at a time...Damn gets me excited just thinking about it.  

Dane and I have played with different food like he said above, but I would HIGHLY, did I mention HIGHLY being blindfolded and encourage your partner to use corn starch ...DAMN... He managed to keep it on my body but not my sweet spot... and it set my senses on fire... they went into overload... my whole body was tingling from head to toe, the fan blowing on my body was almost too much, his soft touch was erotic and would send me over the top...OH MY...

Tell us about your food experiences...good, bad, sweet or ugly...

J

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Sweet Spot Nation - Burlesque

You ever get one of those Groupons and go 'damn, I wanna do that'?  I did when it was advertising the The Sweet Spot Nation's (their facebook page is here) visit to Austin.  I WANTED TO GO!  So we looked on our calendars and low and behold the date was book. DAMN, MaryKay party scheduled for Jackie and her friends.  After talking to the host of the party, she moved it just so we could all go (in total we wound up with 3 couples going) to a night of great sexual entertainment.  I got the tickets ordered and anticipation set in, I was going to go to a burlesque show.

Now we weren't exactly sure what we were getting ourselves into, but that's half the fun isn't it?  A group of friends, crossing over into that taboo area of sexuality for the night, how could you go wrong?  The Sweet Spot Nation has everything from comedians, dancers, sex advice, poetry, and fun and games for everyone.   This high energy show was a great release for Jackie and I.  For hours Jackie and I were entertained.  They kept us sexually aroused and laughing our asses off as each member of the troupe performed their part of the show.  A nationally acclaimed burlesque dancer in all her perkiness, poetry so erotic I could feel and hear Jackie moan, readings from erotic passages, and even vibrator advice from their resident sex advisor, Dr. Nikeema Lee, something Jackie and I love to encourage, were all part of our nights entertainment.  The best part is in 3 months they'll be back, and we can't wait.


Now have to admit the highlight of the night for us was when the 2 guys that were with us were called up on stage for an 'stroking' competition.  Air fucking at it's finest left us wooing and cheering for our 2 friends.  We were talking about it all the way home.  

If you're open to new adventures, that cross the line just a bit....or maybe even a bit more, then see if they are coming to your town.  Afterwards you can whisper all the things that turned you on in the nights events as you make love to each other.  And if you didn't find anything hot, I would certainly get in to see your doctor, because something just isn't right!

Dane

#sweetspotnation

Friday, February 27, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Dildos

Ok, so the buttons are to much for you to handle, or maybe you are tired of having to steal the kids game controller batteries, then a dildo is what you need.  So for clarification I'll define a dildo as an adult toy that doesn't us a battery and is generally used for inserting inside of someone.

So in the adult toy world we seem to have vibrators and dildos for the most part (yes, I know there is all the other fun, kinky stuff like ropes and chains, and paddles and whips) but for now we'll talk about why 1 over the other and why your dildo can be your friend.

Dildos come in all shapes and sizes.  From the that's nice to the OMG you're not getting near me with that thing sizes.  They are most often made with a slightly spongee, rubbery outer coating for a more realistic feeling most of the harder vibrators.  These coatings are often times the difference in cost between 1 dildo and another.  Additionally, many of the dildos have a harder inner core to help with inserting them inside.  If they don't it can be difficult to get them inserted where you want to go.  Some dildos will come with suction cups to stick to a wall, bathtub, or any other place you'd like to explore nirvana from.

Dildos are a preference thing though.  Each person has a preference and that's the right one for you. Big or small, fat or skinny are all what you like.  There are ridges on some, nodules on others, but those are all personal preferences.  How wide should you get it?  Maybe use the finger rule.  How many fingers do you use when fingering your vagina or ass when you're playing?  Use that as a width for the width of your new dildo.  As for length?  My rule of thumb is you can always short stroke a long dildo, but if it's to short...well your orgasm could come up short too.  There is of course the let's be real about it too rule.

Oh and let's not forget the double headed dildo. These are generally 12"+ long and very flexible. You can share the dildo with a partner or bend it in half and use both ends at once.

If you like dildos but might want an occasional vibration, some of the dildos have a place to put a bullet vibrator in them for a little kick.

Some of the reasons you might like to use a dildo over a vibrator?  Noise is one big reason.  If you don't want others to hear you playing a dildo could be a better option.  What if you wanted to use something on both your vagina and clit or ass at the same time?  It could be better to make 1 a dildo as having 2 vibrators hitting together sometimes causes a racket and could pinch you.  Making 1  a dildo would prevent that.

Make sure you keep your dildos clean and just remember anything a penis can do, yeap that's exactly what a dildo can do. 

Hope your Sexuary has been good and you've had fun breaking out those toys. 

Monday, February 16, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - TENS / Electricity


So it's Sexuary and you want to go outside the box a bit.  How about using that TENS unit?  We first discussed it in Sexuary 2013 in an article here, and again when I purchased our first attachment here.  Some of it went very well, some not so well for us.

But what is electricity play?  It's just that, using electricity to help with or cause orgasms or just feeling good sensations.  A TENS (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) unit is a medical unit used to help patients with muscle issues in their back, arms and legs (I'm sure almost any place).  TENS machines works by sending stimulating pulses across the surface of the skin and along the nerve strands. The stimulating pulses help prevent pain signals from reaching the brain.Tens devices also help stimulate your body to produce higher levels of its own natural "Endorphins".  If you put those pulses in just the right places, well what you could get is an orgasm.

The electricity will flow from 1 pad to the other, so you want everything in direct line of where those spots you want stimulated are.  Common electrode placement for penises is on the underside of the shaft, with one pad near the head of the penis and one at the base. Alternatively, for testicular enjoyment, place one pad on the top of the scrotum and the other on the bottom. For vaginas, a pad on either side of the clit or opposite sides of the vaginal opening can feel wonderful. A pad on each side of the anus is also an option. Keep in mind, the jelly-like pad adhesive is very sticky and works best on smooth skin. It’s best to shave first if you’re working with a very hairy area.

You can also find attachments for your TENS units like the Penis straps or anal plugs and if you look you'll find more. The one caveat I'll give on these is to use LOTS of medical gel.  It's cheap and worth every drop you put on the unit.  Otherwise you'll feel sparking instead of a nice current.  Nothing like having a your penis strapped down and sparks biting into it.  Read the directions!!! I didn't at first and was very disappointed at the outcome.

Now there are other devices that use electricity The Violet Wand is probably the most famous.  It's not cheap (about $200), but do you really want the cheapest model when you're talking about sending electricity through your body?  This wand is made to run over yourself or someone and kind of acts like a plasma ball we had growing up, except you are the other side of the electricity with no glass in between.  I've never experienced them first hand but have spoken with people who have and everyone loves these jewels.  


So first question, does it hurt?  The only time I've ever had a painful experience is when I used an attachment with no gel.  Otherwise I could crank up the medical unit full blast (slowly of course) and had a great sensation.  When we use them on Jackie she'll need a breather from her orgasms.  They are intense and continuous until she turns off the unit once they start.  Take it slow, and gradually increase your power till you find that sweet spot.

Will you always orgasm?  While Jackie has always been able to orgasm I've never been able to cum with the TENS unit.  I have however had great sensations that have almost brought me there.  I'm still working on placement, but I still recommend trying it.

Can you use a TENS during sex?  Both of you might be wearing 1 set of pads, or just the act of each of you having a set of pads while having sex will cause extra stimulation and will mimic suckling on your clit, testicles, or anus during intercourse can take your lovemaking to new heights.

So if you have that TENS unit in the closet from a bad back, then break it out and try it for other purposes.  If you are thinking about some sort of electrical play, then Jackie and I recommend going for it!!!  One of the great things about TENS units is they are just as good for single play as for with a partner.  So whether Sexuary is about "ME" time or "US" time it's a great way to go.

Got some other scoop on electric play that makes you go over the top?  Share it here for everyone to learn.  Recommendation on a specific type of electric toy?  Or just what you've found works or doesn't work please share so others can learn!.

Hope your Sexuary 2015 is going well!!!

Dane

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Ordinary Items Used As Toys

Ok so it's Sexuary 2015 and you've haven't got an extra $75 or $100 or $200 dollars for a new sex toy, and the batteries are dead in your old ones but you want to have some extra fun in the bedroom, so what do you do?  Look around the house it's full of fun toys that can be brought into the bedroom for some excitement the next time you play.

Kim Bainger in 9 1/2 Weeks
Let's start with the simplest of stuff.  I remember the scene with Mickey Rourke and  Kim Basinger in 9 1/2 Weeks where a single ice cube and made millions of teenagers cream there pants as he ran it down over her lips and
body.  The ice can be used on either sex and lots of fun can be had.  Now I generally get a small bowl and a hand towel to go with it if I'm planning something like that, but yes, an ice cube found in your freezer can be a great addition to your sex toys.

I  know that not everyone wears ties like they used to, but I think most men have a tie or 2 in the closet.  Instead of leaving it in the closet, use it in bed.  Tie someone up and make them squirm (maybe with the ice cube from above), before taking it to the next level.  If you don't have a tie, use a belt.  Honestly you don't have to tie them to tight, it's more about the idea of being constrained than the actual constraint. 

Ok, not every house had cloths pins anymore, but for a dollar or so you can have more than you will ever need to play with.  As nipple clamps, on the scrotum, I've seen them in a row on the thighs or sides, or ear lobe or ...well you get the idea, if you can pinch it you can put a cloths pin on there.  So why? It's not only the pinching sensation, but the rush of blood once you remove the pin that is part of the adrenaline rush.  Oh a little trick I've learned is that a dime, penny or nickel placed by the spring can lessen the clamp.  So if your cloths pin is too much to be placed on the nipple, just put a dime there and see if that is better, if not try a penny or a nickle.Simple adjustment and you can still use the cloths pins.

While we purchased a piece of cloth for the next, a fluffy robe or a fluffy blanket could be used for feeling and texture once the person is blindfolded or maybe you want to just wrap it around your hand and gently rub. I like taking Jackies favorite cloth and spreading it over her and slowly sliding it down her body giving her goose bumps.  But in this case it's about the texture when they can't see.  

Have you priced a good paddle lately?  Yeah they aren't cheap by any means, but the paddle in our drawer is nothing more than a ping pong paddle.  The sides are lifting up and there's a couple of spots a bit worn, but that just gives it character.  A new one is only a few bucks, and I promise, as I speak from experience here, a good wallop with that will do the trick just fine. By the way, a good wooden spoon from the kitchen can do just as good of a job too. Oh and if you're into role playing and one of you is a student, a good hardback book could be your next paddle.

Got a feather boa or some feathers from some school project?  I will say not all feathers are created equal, but if you have something soft like that use it.

Don't have a blindfold to use?  Just take a t-shirt and fold it and tie it in the back or a scarf from her closet.  The idea is to deprive the 1 individual from a sense, that of sight, so anything will work.  Though blindfolds are pretty cheap if you look around.

Certain candles can be used in the bedroom too.  Dripping the wax can be very pleasure/pain enjoyable.  Not all candles are equal for this.  Soy and paraffin candles burn cooler and are easier to remove later.  Avoid most other candles as they can burn the skin.  I found a great article on wax here if you want more on it.

Two dice could be a great start for the night.  Each number on 1 die is a place on the body and the other die represents what you're going to do with it (lick, rub, kiss...come up with your own ideas here).  After a few rounds I'm thinking you won't need the dice any more.  And of course strip poker is always a way.  Another way is that the winner gets to take off a piece of clothing and the loser has to pay 2 minutes attention to that spot, or something to that effect, be creative here.

We play games with sports too.  Superbowl was 3 minutes of being eaten or blowjob for every touchdown scored.  In years past (when we didn't have company) that was due immediately upon scoring.  Made the game a lot more interesting for us and as the game came to a closer, we came too.  

Basketball can be how many points difference between quarters.  Even NASCAR can turn into a game where you pick a driver or team and winner gets xy and z. The difference between places at the 1/2 point and/or the end could be the number of minutes something happens.  If your driver/team wins you get bonus time. 

What we're saying is just because you can't drop a chunk of change at the adult toy store doesn't mean you are stuck with a boring sex life.  PLAN out a night with your partner where all the items used aren't meant to be used for sex, but you do it anyway.  They will be impressed you were thinking about them that much and the extra excitement can lead to so extra fun play.

Do you have a household item you use in your sex play?  Share it here so others can enjoy it too.  Get with your partner and plan out something together, sometimes the planning is as much fun as the doing.  Make this the Sexuary that you have a great Ah Ha moment with your partner and part of that is playing with everyday ordinary objects as sex toys. 

On this Valentine day, the 1/2 way point of and high holy day of Sexuary, find some way to make a difference in your relationship.  It doesn't take a lot of money to have a great time using toys in the bedroom.

Dane

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Strap-Ons

So was hoping to get to the TENS units but am waiting for a new toy to arrive before I finish that so we're going to talk about strap-ons.  YEAH!

So strap-ons are one of those Sexuary toys that EVERYONE gets to play with.  It doesn't matter your gender or sexual preference there are strap-ons for you and your partners enjoyment.  While we generally think of strap-ons in women on women, it can actually be used by both men and women on both men and women. Damn these strap-ons are good!!!

So it's been our experience that most strap-ons are pretty simple in design.  While the miles of webbing or leather might look intimidating, once you can lay it out and figure out leg and belt you're good to go.  Just tighten it up and fun and excitement are around the corner.   Though you'll notice in our picture we have one that wraps around you thigh, a much simpler design, though it has some 'thrust' issues to it. 

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So most of the strap on work with a metal O ring that fits around the base and then that snaps into your webbing.  Note the bottom left dildo is made to be put onto a strap on belt.

We've also found a double sided strap on that vibrate both her and him at the same time (lighter purple on).  While Jackie had issues with the angle on this one we loved the idea of it.

So why do we play with strap-ons?
  • Well first of all there is the hands free element here.  Depending on the sex using it you could be stroking a clit or a cock, or just holding on while still stroking or pegging.  
  • You can get your hips into it.  Let's face it these are nothing more than dildos and vibrators, but hip action definitely adds a new dimension to the thrusting the receiver is getting. 
  • For the women there is gender bending
  • For the men there is now 2 penises and the possibility of double penetration
  • Additionally for men with erectile issues the strap on can over come so of those issues and provide a great sexual experience. 
  • There are role play opportunities here.  The strap on because that guy you invited to your bed together.  
So I'll add that while some guys are intimidated by strap-ons, I've never met a guy that's tried them that don't appreciate them.  The "you've got to be gay if you allow anal" myth is just that a myth.  After all why would one of the most erotic zones in a man be found within the anal channel if we weren't supposed to explore there? Seriously guys there is nothing like having your prostate rubbed while a woman has a strap on dildo plowing in your ass and you're being stroked.

Oh but wait that means the wife must really be butch and dominate. *slapping forehead*  For most women wearing a strap on has no gender implications. It's just another accessory they wear for sexual play that just happens to be very practical and while they might seriously get into the moment, it doesn't change who they are.  If they're not butch and dominate now a strap on isn't going to change that. 

Here's a good video I found talking about the different styles of strap-ons and attachable dildos.



I will say that we had problems finding our first belt for Jackie because of size.  But what I figured out was that the web belts are standard webbing and I just added a couple of pieces of webbing extending the pull straps.  This allowed a more comfortable fit for her, and pleasure for me.  So for us the web belts were the best option. 

We also have found that it is generally much cheaper to purchase a harness by itself and then add the dildo you want to add separately.  The 'kits' get quite pricey and you won't always get the dildo you want.  Putting your own set together allows you to get what you want, and often at a cheaper price. You'll notice in our collection we have a variety of strap on dildos that we can put on Jackies harness.

So how does this work with Sexuary?  Well here's the deal, strap-ons allow for some unique toy play.  They bring an intimacy to your bedroom (or other places) that just the dildo doesn't.  And isn't that what Sexuary is about?  Bringing a new sense of intimacy to the bedroom.  Even if it's for the 1 night this month, these toys are fun.

So where are you on Sexuary adventures this year?  Have you brought more toys to your sanctuary?  Have you used them for self satisfaction?  Have you made a change for this month to bring more communication to your relationship?  We still have over half the month left, so if you haven't do anything for Sexuary you still have time!!! Go for it, grab that strap on and ........

If you don't have a strap on we highly recommend adding one to your collection!

Dane 

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Care and Cleaning of Your Toys

Ok, so you finally broke down and spent that cash for a toy.  Now how do I make sure that I get the most out of it?  What do I need to do to keep it safe to use and last the longest?

Well first of all the easy stuff.  Cleaning them after and before each use is important.  Let's face it the bacteria that can grow between uses and then reintroduced could cause quiet an issue.  But how do you clean your toys?  The material of the toy makes a difference so here you go. 

CLEANING
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic are the easiest to maintain. Silicone dildos toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water.  The dishwasher can do a good job of keeping your toy clean too. NEVER boil silicone sex toys if they plug in or use batteries (I know it shouldn't have to be said, but there are some....). Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: These can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball.  Make sure you rinse thoroughly afterward. Acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water. Again a toss in the dishwasher periodically will keep the toy sterile and safe for continued usage.  And let's use some sense here too, if it plugs in or has batteries then don't soak the thing or put it in the dishwasher. 
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap. When you're done rinse so that no trace of soap is left.  If you don't rinse it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you when you use it next. While it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials. The porus nature of these products require the extra care to keep you and the toy safe.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find). Do not put these in the dishwasher unless the instructions say to.  
  • Vibrators: Ok, so what do we do with the toys that have electronics on them?  We carefully wash them with soap and water and dry them off. 
Don't put in oven or
microwave. Makes sense
to me
Any toy that you use anally that comes out with more than desired will need to be rinsed off first.  You might use baby wipes or vaginal wipes to get it cleaned up first.  Again a condom is recommended and that would take care of this issue, but if you don't want to use a condom this will clean off the mess.  After that use the proper care for the material listed above.  

So when you get your toys don't just rip the package open and start using it.  Most of, and especially the higher end ones come with cleaning instructions.  Following them will keep you safer and make the toys last longer.  

Additionally you can use a toy cleaner.  These can be sprayed on your toy and rinse or wiped off.  They provide a post cleaning extra for many toys.  We keep them by on the nightstand for a quick cleaning between cleanings too.    

Sometimes you've got to take a q-tip and make sure you get around the edges and take extra care in the crevasses.  You might be surprised what can find its way into those areas if you're not careful.  Between the cover to your vibrator and the electronics seems to be a bad area to collect gunk too.

So that's the cleaning part but what about care?

BATTERIES 

Every article I read says to remove batteries between usage.  That's not going to happen in my house.  I can't imagine the middle of a moment and then you get, "hang on a sec, I need to put the 3 AAA batteries in".  Kind of a mood killer.  But you can replace your batteries regularly.  This will keep them fresh and keep them from corroding.  So change the batteries on your fire alarm, replace all your toy batteries too.  And if you have a toy you don't use except for special occasions then  leave the batteries out of those, and put the batteries in before you start something. If you do leave your batteries in too long see our last post about repairing a vibrator

If your batteries are dying don't be a cheap skate, replace them.  The performance of the vibrator is directly related to the health of the batteries.  And I for one am not above removing batteries from our kids toys or remotes to make sure we have the best batteries in the house for our toys! They can have the cheap sucky batteries. 

STORAGE

So heat and sunlight does serious damage to toys.  Keep them in temp controlled areas and out of direct sunlight.  Additionally you want to put them away where there is no animal hair or other grim that might attach itself to your treasured device.  Nothing like killing the mood to have to pick off hairs or junk off of a toy before you use it.  I've seen where it's recommended to wrap your toys in a clean t-shirt before storing it.  Not a bad idea. I can tell you we put a feather boa in our drawer one time and we are still picking feathers off the toys in there. 

Also some of the toys will absorb what they are on.  I've had toys that have absorbed the stain off the wood they were sitting on.  So now there is a nice walnut streak on the rubber toy.  Toy is still good, just looks odd.  But be careful what you sit your toys on, and make sure to clean them off thoroughly if they do get sat into something. 

Additionally some of these toys will melt.  I've got both rubber and plastic toys that have flat spots on them from putting another toy that had been running a long time on top of them. It doesn't take to much heat to have this effect on one of your toys.  

Make sure your toy is clean before you put it away for the night.  Remember bacteria love to grow and have fun in those environments.  Save yourself an embarrassing trip to the doctor and clean them.

LUBRICANTS

While we won't go into a big article on lubricants here, there are some basics rules for toy usage and lubricants: 
  • Water Based Lubes can be used with all sex toys.
  • Silicone Lubes should not be used with silicone or realistic toys. I destroyed a great masturbator using the wrong lube once. 
  • Oil Based Lubes or Petroleum Jelly should never be used on a toy  that is going to be inserted as it could cause infections.  Additionally it will disintegrate rubber or latex, including latex condoms.
Last thing I'll mention again is using condoms on toys is a smart thing.  It saves on wear and tear, it keeps some of the smell away, especially for anal toys or toys that are shared in multiple orifice during the same session.   

So break out the toys, and let's have some Sexuary fun!!!

Where are you on meeting your Sexuary 2015 goals?  Have you used some toys you haven't in a while?  Have you purchased a new toy to play with for Sexuary?  Let us know!!!

Dane
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Here's a breakdown of how to clean sex toys by material:
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic are the easiest to maintain, silicone dildos and non-battery-operated toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water.  The dishwasher can do a good job of keeping your toy clean too. NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: All can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward); acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they're not battery-operated. Again a toss in the dishwasher periodically will keep the toy sterile and safe for continued usage.
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).
Because sex toys not only touch your skin, but touch very intimate areas of your body, it's extremely important to know whether you have any allergies or sensitivities to certain materials, cleansers, etc. If you're not sure, we highly recommend that you do an allergy test on a small patch of skin, such as the wrist, before using any product. For more information on cleaning toys and related subjects, please be sure to read the FAQ section of this article.
- See more at: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex-toy-guide/maintenance.asp#sthash.5CxswWme.dpuf

ere's a breakdown of how to clean sex toys by material:
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic and easiest to maintain, silicone dildos and non-battery-operated toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water. NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: All can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward); acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they're not battery-operated.
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).
Because sex toys not only touch your skin, but touch very intimate areas of your body, it's extremely important to know whether you have any allergies or sensitivities to certain materials, cleansers, etc. If you're not sure, we highly recommend that you do an allergy test on a small patch of skin, such as the wrist, before using any product. For more information on cleaning toys and related subjects, please be sure to read the FAQ section of this article.
- See more at: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex-toy-guide/maintenance.asp#sthash.5CxswWme.dpuf
Here's a breakdown of how to clean sex toys by material:
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic and easiest to maintain, silicone dildos and non-battery-operated toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water. NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: All can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward); acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they're not battery-operated.
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).
Because sex toys not only touch your skin, but touch very intimate areas of your body, it's extremely important to know whether you have any allergies or sensitivities to certain materials, cleansers, etc. If you're not sure, we highly recommend that you do an allergy test on a small patch of skin, such as the wrist, before using any product. For more information on cleaning toys and related subjects, please be sure to read the FAQ section of this article.
- See more at: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex-toy-guide/maintenance.asp#sthash.5CxswWme.dpuf

Here's a breakdown of how to clean sex toys by material:
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic and easiest to maintain, silicone dildos and non-battery-operated toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water. NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: All can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward); acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they're not battery-operated.
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).
Because sex toys not only touch your skin, but touch very intimate areas of your body, it's extremely important to know whether you have any allergies or sensitivities to certain materials, cleansers, etc. If you're not sure, we highly recommend that you do an allergy test on a small patch of skin, such as the wrist, before using any product. For more information on cleaning toys and related subjects, please be sure to read the FAQ section of this article.
- See more at: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex-toy-guide/maintenance.asp#sthash.5CxswWme.dpuf
Here's a breakdown of how to clean sex toys by material:
  • Silicone: Hypoallergenic and easiest to maintain, silicone dildos and non-battery-operated toys may be boiled for two to three minutes, or washed with soap and water. NEVER boil silicone sex toys with electrical components. Let them air dry completely or dry with a lint-free cloth before storing.
  • Plastic/Acrylic/Glass: All can be washed with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap and sterilized using an alcohol-soaked cotton ball (rinse thoroughly afterward); acrylic and glass toys may be boiled or submerged in hot water if they're not battery-operated.
  • Rubber/Latex and Jelly: These products are extremely porous, so be sure to wash them thoroughly with warm water and anti-bacterial hand soap, and rinse so that no trace of soap is left, as it can degrade the material and cause irritation to you. Again, while it's a good idea to use a condom with any insertable toys, it's an especially good idea with these materials.
  • Realistics: Names include CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin, and FauxskinTM (if you're unsure of the type of material, check the packaging or product page, or contact Customer Service), and this type of material is widely used for erection rings and masturbation sleeves, as well as vibrators and dildos. Thoroughly wash with warm (never hot) water and a liquid antibacterial soap, then let air dry completely. Once dry, sprinkle with the included "renewing" powder or cornstarch. Never use talcum powder or baby powder, as these can cause irritation and sometimes larger problems for women (pure talc is fine but very difficult to find).
Because sex toys not only touch your skin, but touch very intimate areas of your body, it's extremely important to know whether you have any allergies or sensitivities to certain materials, cleansers, etc. If you're not sure, we highly recommend that you do an allergy test on a small patch of skin, such as the wrist, before using any product. For more information on cleaning toys and related subjects, please be sure to read the FAQ section of this article.
- See more at: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex-toy-guide/maintenance.asp#sthash.5CxswWme.dpuf

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Repairing a Vibrator

So as Sexuary 2015 came around and we looked at our toys we found several that the batteries had corroded and weren't working (sad we have so many that we neglect some of ours).  Because of the number of vibrators we have there are times we leave batteries in way to long.  What happens then?  Well the batteries corrode and the vibrator doesn't work anymore.  Investment wasted!  I've created this video to help you repair some of your vibrators.  While this video specifically shows the type where lids can be removed the same principles can be used on any vibrator that the batteries have corroded and got acid in the compartment.


Total cost to save 3 vibrators just over 20 cents.  YEAH!!! And we've used 2 of them since we fixed them. SCORE!!! Sexuary 2015 is in full swing here.

Do you have a better way or a trick to fixing your vibrators?  Share them below or email us at jackieanddane@gmail.com

Monday, February 2, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Vibrators Part 2

So hopefully you're on track with your Sexuary goals.  If not, that's OK, just adjust and move forward.  Sexuary isn't about a day for a reason.  It's about a month that you dedicate to making this month better between you and your partner sexually.  Hopefully some of the information here will help you achieve those goals.

So where were we?  Oh yeah we were talking about vibrators.  If you missed part 1 of the series head back here.   
Vibrating Bullet
So let's start out talking about vibrating bullets.  These little vibrators are normally about the size of your finger around and about 2 knuckles long, and pack a huge punch. It seems most of them only take 2 or 3 watch batteries but damn the punch they can pack could set up a good nights play. 

These are really for the clit or nipples, or where ever you want to run them over, but are not so good for inserting them inside of someone.  So what else are they good for?  Well for starters you can just drop one in your pocket or purse and take one with you where ever you'd like.  It's really is that small.  So then what if you were at the store and your partner .....well I'm going to let your imagination run a bit here, but these things are small enough to hide and take with you.  They are very easy to clean, and many of these are waterproof too. Best of all they are very inexpensive.  Amazon sells a 3 pack here for $10.  We've picked them up at stores for $5 - $15 and they are great.  When the batteries run out you can either get a new one or a package of watch batteries cheap.  Definitely something you should have in your collection.

Vibrating Egg
Eggs run along the same line as the bullets except they are egg shaped and most of them we've seen have a cord attached with some sort of controller.  They are a little bigger and because of the battery compartment can pack a bigger punch.  Note the can.  Not all eggs are created equal has been our experience. 
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TIP -  When checking out any vibrator don't just hold it in your hand, but put it up to your nose.  Your nose is much more sensitive and while it's not a clit, it's better than your finger tips
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So these eggs are still pretty easy to clean but unlike the bullet you can easily insert them and retrieve them because of the cords attached. I will say we have several that have different style controllers and the only thing we've found is that some of them light up and even change colors while they are running.  Now while a bit of light is good, sometimes the lights from these can get distracting for us.  That's our personal take, but maybe you like bright lights flashing at you while playing with yours.

Again, these vibrators are cheap, many under $10, and most under $20.  Though some of the variations like wireless remotes and such does bring the prices up.  So we have a couple of these wireless eggs.  We'll play a game like every time a certain word is said the egg gets turned on, or just because we want.  Nothing like trying to place your order at a restaurant and trying to keep you composer when that little buzz starts inside of you. Oh and that game can be played by anyone as these eggs can be inserted both vaginally and anally.  But our best story was when Jackie and I were playing that game and our son saw the remote and picked it up to play with it for a minute.  I just pretended nothing was going on while Jackie took the remote back away.

Hitachi with 2 attachments
Last vibrators I'm going to talk about fall into the OMG category.   The Hitachi is probably the standard that all others try to meet up with.  We have a 3 BodyWands which we love to death and are definitely the 'go to' vibrators.  But these vibrators are made for one thing, and that's to cause orgasms in women!!! They can make a women cum in a remarkable time.  As Jackie says it can go from cold to OMG orgasm in 6 seconds flat. We have both the cordless and corded versions, and will say there is nothing more disappointing than having the charge die in the middle of a session.  So we prefer the corded version, and have an extension cord on it so that it can reach where ever we want it to.

The Hitachi has several attachments that add to it's pleasure regions it can reach.  If you are looking for one of these you might look into whether or not you can get attachments for it. This is another toy that when it came out they were very expensive and lots of milk and bread money was saved so women could get theirs.  But today the pricing has dropped significantly and are more in the $50 - $75 range. 

I will caution though that the full power on these are so incredible that it can get over intense and if you're in control on someone else you might need to let off some or not go full speed ahead right away.

So here's the basics on vibrators.  There are all kinds of varieties like remote controls that work through the internet if you have a long distance relationship you can still play and the one can still control some of the action.  We like the wireless remotes for games outside of the bedroom that lead to bedroom fun later.  There are so many different materials and they are constantly coming up with a new one.

So let's go have some fun.  Let's make this Sexuary the one that brings toys to the bed for some amazing time together.  Take a bullet and run it over your partners entire body before as foreplay.  Take an egg and place it in him as you give him a blow job.  Use the Hitachi and make her go over the moon over and over again and then when you are ready those vibrations will still be running through her body while you enter her.  Think you won't benefit there?

What's your favorite toy?  How do you use it different than 'the norm'? 

Have a GREAT Sexuary day!

Dane