Sexuary 2023 - Futo and Nipple Play

 

For those of you who read the blog regularly, you know I had Jackie's nipples pierced for her in Sexuary 2021.  It was something she had wanted, and we went to a trusted piercer that we have known for years and has even taught us a lot about needle play too.  

One thing about new nipple piercings is that it takes a good 6+ months to totally heal.  It's weeks before they quick hurting, and months and months before they are truly healed to the point you can safely pull on them more than just a little.  

So before Sexuary, I spoke with Jackie about pushing her nipple limits and if you will nipple torture for a new pain center.  She said that would be fine, so I planned it. 

First I ordered some rings for Jackie's nipples.  Normally she wears bars and that's fine, but I felt for what I wanted rings would work best. 

This morning I gave them to her and had her put them in.  I put her on the cross and tied a rope through each of the nipple hoops.  I then pulled, twisted and spanked her nipples.  I flogged her breast, I used a riding crop on her breast, all while blind folded and her strapped to the St. Andrews cross.  She was so excited she creamed on me twice when I bent her over and started in on her.  

Our plans for tonight canceled, and so I told her she had plenty of time, and she went and took a long bath reading a good book.  When she was done, I started tying up her legs, both of them, tight!  With both legs fully tied up I took advantage of her until her one leg that she's had issues with started to bother her.  We continued on until the 2nd leg gave her issues.  At this time I untied her 2nd leg and we laid on the bed.  

When we were laying on the bed, Jackie asked me to put the rope back through the rings so I could again give her pleasure with the nipple rings.  

I again started pulling on her nipple rings.  I pulled up, I pulled down, I slowly pulled one at a time and I would pull both.  I never yanked, but I would pull hard and hold it for a good length of time until her breathing would change or something like that would happen.  I fingered her twice to major orgasms.

When she was done, I finished on her breast, I felt like they deserved the spoils of the win tonight.  This is NOT something I do very often, but today it seemed very fitting.  

She is tender but not really hurting. She enjoyed the pain and liked the pulling hard on her nipples today.  It's something else we'll add to our bag of fun. 

Dane 

Sexuary 2021 - St Andrews Cross - Electricity and the Wartenberg Wheel

Well today was a 'regular' for us.  It starts with me putting Jackie on the St Andrews Cross and then slowly torturing her with both our electric pen and our wartenberg wheels.  So after making out for a few minutes I walk Jackie back to our room and put her up on the cross.  We've modified our cross to have some cuffs to hold her wrist up high, so I strapped her in.  She's got hand holds and we've put cushion on where her chin sits in the crux of the X.   

So all comfortable, I start with the pen on Jackie.  I run it up and down her spine, and over her thighs and spine.  Some points make her moan...some just get her ready....but she reacts as I would expect to the electric pen.  (These can be gotten at wish.com or amazon.com for less than $20.  They run on a AA battery, and come with several attachments.  

After that I pulled out the wartenberg wheel and start running it down her back.  I switch between fast and slow....just barely any pressure to pushing down pretty good, making sure she feels it.  Again she moans and moves around on her feet, I know I'm starting to get somewhere.

Then I lube up and enter her from behind...all stretched out on the cross, lifting her with every stroke.  

That's when the first event happened.  Somehow Jackie smacked her chin on the cross and took her breath away for a few seconds.  It definitely stopped play and we moved into the bed where we finished up.  

Now is the next event, and this one got a chuckle.  So we're finished and I realized that the cock ring I wear around the head of my cock is missing.  "Have you seen it?" I asked Jackie...."Nope."..so I back track and it's not anywhere to be seen.  So Jackie gets on the bed where I reach in and retrieve it. Oops! 😁 It's the first time that's happened. On a side note, when I started wearing the metal cock ring, I asked Jackie if she could tell.  "Not really".  Last night she took that back, she feels it vibrating inside of her when she's using her vibrator on her clit.  So yes, it does make some difference.

Then when discussing Jackie mentioned that she never realized the difference between the violet wand and the pen.  So next time she's on the cross and we're using electricity, she wants the bigger zap.  Oh I'm very sure I can accommodate that!!!

So even the 'ordinary' things can go off course and when you break out the un-ordinary, sometimes you come up with new ideas for another day. 

Dane

 

Sexuary 2020 - Caning

For whatever reason (and we've talked about it many times with no real knowledge of where it came from) the mention of spanking Jackie sends her down a rabbit hole fast.  Spanking her while in the middle of sex is ok, flogging is ok, but spanking and instruments used to spank will quickly turn things south mentally.So part of the reason she doesn't know what is coming up each day is so that she doesn't get to go down those rabbit holes prior to trying new things. We've experienced it several times over the years, so we know the risk is real.

So caning definitely falls into that category. I've really wanted to try it on her but know if I told her that it would not go well. So I didn't.  Before we started playing I blindfolded her.  I put her up against the St Andrews Cross where she generally has a great time.  I started using the wartenberg wheels on her and then I stepped back and popped her under her ass cheeks several times.  I could sense the surprise in Jackie, BUT she didn't call out any safe words.  After a couple more minutes with the wartenberg wheel I popped her again.  After some rubbing and more wartenberg wheel I asked her what color she was at, "yellowish green". After a bit more playing and again a color check she was "green".  We were good, she'd jumped over the rabbit hole and would enjoy the moment.

I found the canes here at Amazon. They are a 2 pack and are slightly different.I got to use both on Jackie before pulling her down from the cross to finish her.

So why would I try something like this? First the endorphins for pain and pleasure are the same ones, it's the headspace and situation you're in that dictates whether it's orgasmic or hurtful.  The same canes could be just hurtful if misused.Second, there is something about an ass that has a bright red glow that is such a turn on for me. And last, how will Jackie ever conquer those fears and rabbit holes without her body and mind KNOWING that they are good things, not bad.  So repetitive good events will hopefully over come her mental anguish of spankings and the tools that go with them.

Try it at home. Use your hand, a belt, a ping pong paddle, and just try a bit of spanking play, you might find it more adventurous that you ever though.

Dane

Caining....hmmmm who knew...So over the years Dane and I have talked and tried it.  I did not have an good ending.  I am not sure what has caused it but just know the times we have tried a spanking day, Dane really enjoyed it.  I totally checked out and while I was there physically but not there mentally. 
This year our our "real" lives we have done lots of firsts, and talked for hours upon hours about our kinks, our limits, our hard no's, our ok lets try things.  That leads us up to today.  Caning.  I had no idea that this was planned. He is right I would have gone down a negative rabbit-hole.  

He blind folded me and took me to our dungeon and placed me at the cross.  He ran his hands up and down knowing it help get me into the space he needed me to be.  He got out the wheels...OMG the wheels...I just love them, then right in the middle of a great movement....whap...wait..what was that...whap....oh shit what is it....whap....did he get a new single flogger....whap ...oh hell never mind....let me be in this moment.  I remember him whispering asking me my color...I remember having to get my thoughts back in check to answer.  I remember saying yellowish-green.  I am not sure what I was thinking or not thinking but I do know I was not in a negative space at all.  I do remember tearing up but not sure why but knew it was a good cry not a bad one.  I told him I was good, and I really was.

So I do like the idea of 2 things going on at once.  Really does my mind good, things to stay focused on, things that help me not go down the rabbit-hole.  

Dane has done a great job pushing my limits, helping me figure out things...

Jackie 

Sexuary 2020 - Our Dungeon

Every once in a while the stars align and we get one of our bucket list wishes come true.  That happened for us when our 4 bedroom house became vacant except for Jackie and I.  What does that mean? It means we have PLENTY of room to do whatever we want in our house, and no one to wonder in 'accidently'.  So what did we do? We took all the toys we've purchased or built over the last 14 years and built a dungeon! I mean an honest to goodness dungeon!

We've enjoyed many kinks over the last several years (as you can read in this blog) and so we've added to our 'tools of the trade'.  We have the rack that can be used for rope suspension and I've added an adult swing for this Sexuary.

When a local dungeon was moving they had some of their equipment for sale, so when the spanking bench came up we snagged it.  It's way over kill for anything Jackie and I would use (it has hand clamps, and a male masturbater built into it.  It's very sturdy and while if I was building one I'd make some adjustments, for the $50 we paid for it is a great addition to our new dungeon area.

For those of you who build I'd make the center piece and the legs a bit adjustable so that the ass height and the comfort of the sub is better met.

Next we've got a massage table. OH the many uses this table has. Yes, we've done massages on it, but we've also used it as a bed. The head piece pulls out and so you have a square end to lay on. The legs are adjustable, so the height is perfect for Jackie to be laying on it and for me to have a straight shot into her treasure chest.

You'll notices the chaise lounger in the corner.  I know the old 50's movies used them to make the ladies look sexy, but Jackie can bend over the end, lay ass up, or ...well just us your imagination as to what all you can do with it.

Last is the St Andrews Cross I built a year or two ago.  I've built a frame for the bottom with the intentions of taking it places with us over the next year.  A couple of pins and 1 bolt and it will totally come apart and pack away.

The mats on the floor (which we've moved) really do make a difference when you're standing on the floor.  These are from Walmart and are 6 - 1/2" mats for $12.  We have about 125 sq/ft of matting on our floors now. They also are very easy to clean when Jackie gets very orgasmic. 

In the closet we have everything from floggers to needles, vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, masturbators, nipple and clit clamps, rope and suspension equipment, TENS units, Violet Wand, other electrical attachments, and anything else we've come across and wanted/needed over the years and of course plenty of lubes. 

We haven't played with everything here, the needles are coming but we are prepared, and there are other boxes I haven't unveiled yet so I can surprise Jackie when the time comes.  When we do have something we like, we go ahead and get good equipment and make sure we have a variety of them. Floggers for instance, we have 6 or 7 of them, varying weight and lengths (Get your flogger at Flogmebaby.com Steven there will treat you right!). 

While over the decades we've spent plenty of money on putting everything in this dungeon together, it's not like the equipment in there is thousands of dollars. We probably have $500 - $600 dollars in floor equipment.  That's all 5 pieces. And if you're a great shopper like Jackie you could probably do it for less.The spanking bench was $50, because we just keep our eyes open for deals like that. You could probably find a massage table and other things for a dungeon. We have another $500 - $750 in 'toys' in the closet.  A lot of that stuff was purchased before Amazon and Wish were around and big into adult toys and gadgets, and has taken us almost 15 years to accumulate. So start small and go from there. Scan through Wish.com and see things that are intriguing to you and get them. Soon you'll have your own collection for a dungeon if you're lucky like Jackie and I are. 

Dane