Saturday, February 25, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Last Weekend

 So this month of Sexuary is quickly coming to an end.  It's the last full weekend and then just 2 more days and this month is done.  While Jackie and I have had fun with some of our favorites, we've also explored some things we don't normally do.  The sofa was cleared off to sit on together instead of in our lazy-boys.  We've made out like a couple of teenagers several times (why haven't we always been doing that?).  We found some new positions that we've never enjoyed before and at least 1 of them will remain big time on our list of positions. 

Ok, so where am I going with all this?  Well Sexuary is about getting out of your comfort zone or doing something you wouldn't do or haven't been doing normally.  For Jackie and I we've done a lot of touchy feely stuff and that just made the sex part better.  And the sex has been better oh my! And if you haven't done anything yet this month you still have time!  There is still a few days.  Don't let this year be another year that you that you regret doing nothing, or tell yourself, "next year".  This year is still here and Sexuary 2017 is still here, so make it count. 

And if you want to share what you did to make it special, just put it in the comments below.


Sunday, February 19, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Dice Game

As part of our sexual fun we have 2 sets of dice with different body parts and different things to do to those body parts.  Lick, Tease, Kiss, Suck, Blow, and Players Choice are all on these dice, with Ear, Toes, Nipples, Neck, Privates, and Bum on the body parts die.  Now the rules we played by today was the person who was up rolled the dice and the other person decided which combination of dice they wanted to be used on them.  We also used a regular die to decide how many minutes we'd do it for.

First I think we'd put the body parts we want on the dice.  If you're more into the S&M scene some of these were more appropriate, but for just general play some of them are not.

Second, take the other dice (the actions ones) and put things down you want to do or have done to you.  Now if you really want to make is interesting add a wildcard (these had a "?" on them) or add at least 1 thing you always wanted to try, but are just a bit skittish you're leaving it up to lady luck as to whether or not you try something new. I REALLY encourage this part. 

In case you haven't figured it out yet you can take any 2 dice and put your own things on them.  Actually we really liked the idea of having a choice, so 2 sets of dice, 2 for body parts and 2 for action items.  A sharpie can fix them up, sticky labels can fix them up, you can write a paper with what 1 - 6 stand for each roll.  But there's no reason you can't do this yourself.  

If you're just one that doesn't want to do it yourself, a quick search online for sex dice game shows several sets of them for $5-$10 a set.  Actually found 3 different sets on for less than 2 dollars a set. 
Third,  I would add 4 minutes to whatever was rolled if you use 1 die, so you have a minimum of 5 minutes and maximum of 10.  Now you can play with 2 dice, or even 3 if you wanted to extend the rounds.   We played 3 rounds before we 'finished' up the morning, but you can do any number of rounds or roll dice to decide the number of rounds.  

One last thing, I put my dice in a baggie with our lube and the lube wiped out most everything it touched.  Not sure what was in the lube, but it didn't like the writing on the dice.  So store them separately.  

In our goal for more teasing, more touching, more intimacy this game played right into our needs.  Hope it helps you and your significant other. 


Jane here...while I will agree with Dane on most of the things above, I personally don't think you should add the 4 minutes to the time on the die if only using one.  The whole idea is to tease, touch and just take what you roll and go for it.  It can be a pretty intense 1 minute!  We have had these dice in our drawer for a year or more and never got "around to it" .. I would definitely get a set try it, work it to your likes, change things up, let it spice up your sexual life. 
It was pretty hot for us today, is all I can say..

Monday, February 13, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - 50 Shades Darker

*Clearing throat out* Yes, that was a good movie.  Yes being one of maybe 3 men in a theater full of women who all, on several occasions, took a deep sigh in anticipation of the scene about to happen is quite....erotic. So I'm not sure why men wouldn't want to take their wife to see a movie like this.  Hell it wasn't that long ago this would of been considered a firm X-rated movie.  But seriously Jackie was cuddled tight during most of the movie and I loved that.  I think she'd of been in my lap if the seats were just a bit bigger. 

So first of all, they did a good job on the movie.  And if you read the books like Jackie and I did, you'll appreciate that they kept good with the books for the most part. Well done. And hot.  And sexy.  And  hot....did I mention hot?

So while we had to take a couple of days off of our sexcapeds for a small medical procedure, the post movie sex was extremely intense, and I'm certain I can thank Mr Christian Grey for that.  I'm also pretty sure that we'll be looking for a spreader bar in the near future to add to our collection of toys.  Oh my!!!

What to treat your significant other to a good time and set up a potential great night of sex?  Go see 50 Shades Darker!  Oh and guys, if you really want to hit it off you might want to review the Sexuary 2016 post on BenWa balls....and dinner with a little wine wouldn't hurt either.


Monday, February 6, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Positions

Ok, so we've been married 10 years now, and over those years we've gotten into a bit of a position rut. You know, those positions we know will get us off and get done.  They don't take a lot of thinking and it's just where we go to most of the time.  Now not to say there aren't a couple of them, but it seems we don't really add to them much either. So in our sex calendar this year we added a couple of days that specify positions that are not in our normal bag of tricks to get us out of that rut.

Last night was one of those nights for us.  We went wild and tried something different.

I don't think it is because we don't want to try new positions.  We definitely are open minded when it comes to different sexual kinks as a rule, but positions ....hmmmm... not so much. I loved last night. Are we unique in this? Or does everyone swing from the ceilings and bend over in 42 different positions?  I'm sure our weight loss has had a lot to do with our not flipping over 100 different ways, but now we can. 

So one of the take aways we'll have from this Sexuary is that we need to try different positions more often.  Who knows, maybe we'll come up with a new list of positions to rut in.


Sunday, February 5, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Still Anal Fisting

So this isn't a new topic, actually it's the most view topic on our blog, and that's anal fisting (Anal Fisting and Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3) .  So we have to believe that there are others out there who'd like to try it but don't know where to start or are afraid of what will happen or just find it taboo and want to know more.  So we're going to talk about it again.

First of all it's on our 'regular' list of things to do.  Normally every 3 - 6 weeks we have a good ass fucking on me.  Normally Jackie will start with her fist and unlike several years ago it now only takes her a couple attempts and her fist will slide right into my ass.  She's learned the art of great lubrication (we still use Elbow Grease for lube on my ass), how to start with a couple of fingers and quickly stretch me out to accept her whole fist.  We're now to the point she's working on getting a second hand in at the same time.  She can get up to her knuckles on the second hand, but haven't quite made it past there.

In addition we've added new toys to the arsenal.  Pre-Sexuary I purchased several new dildos to play with, 2 of them are VERY large (3" diameter).  OK, so for right now I've met my match.  Those 2 will NOT go in.  One was a fist that Jackie just couldn't get started, the other was bullet shaped, but again, not really a point of any kind and just never could get it started to get in.  The others I purchased were great.  Larger than what I had (2.75" diameters)  and really did a great job.  Also I purchased 1 with the vacumlock system on it and got a handle (and an attachment for her strap-on) that Jackie liked.  She's complained in the past how hard some of the bigger dildos are to manage.  The handle helped today.

I do still take the hour before we play and make sure I'm well cleaned out down there for Jackie.  After several rinsing and what I expel is clear then I go lay ass up in the bed ready for Jackie to come take care of business.

I will have several orgasms while Jackie is in me, rubbing my prostate from inside.  Not necessarily cumming, but definitely orgasms.  Eyes rolling, body shaking, OMG orgasms.  It's something I've only experienced while she's rubbing my prostate. And after the fact I'm fine.  I swear within 5 minutes of being done, while I have that post orgasmic chill, my ass doesn't hurt at all.  Even afterwards it never bothers me in any way shape or form.  It feels great.  I'm pretty sure it has to do with LOTS of lube and Jackie taking her time to stretch me every time.

I won't lie, the first several times we ever tried it just didn't seem like it was going to go.  Jackie stopped when I asked, and we never gave up.  Finally after several days, over several months, of trying it finally made it. Now we never have an issue and we always have a great time. 

Hope this helps, comment below with questions or other suggestions if you'd like.


Saturday, February 4, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Making Out

"Wanna go make out with me?" closes and I'm on my way.

When did I forget that making out can be so much fun?  And why did we ever stop making out?  I know we use to make out some when I'd drop her off at home.  Even when we'd go out on dates, we'd make out.  But somewhere along the way we stopped.  WHY?

Jackie, as part of our Sexuary 2017 and our daily touching, grabbing, sensations without expecting sex afterwards, actually we've forbidden it to be right with the sensation, she dragged me off for 15 minutes of making out.  WOW!!! Did I mention WOW?  Between the kissing, the hands just the general mood it was freaking hot.

Now don't get me wrong, we're rarely a quickie, wham bam type sex.  There's foreplay, playing, getting serious, and making sure everyone is very satisfied regardless of what the play is tonight.  But it's just not the same as just making out.  Tongues clashing, hands grabbing, bodies rubbing all making things hot and steamy.

Our Sexuary is starting out great.  I'm looking forward to more make out sessions, even after Sexuary, and knowing my woman can so turn me on with her look, her lips, and her sexiness. How about taking your significant and make out with them tonight?  Yeap, surprise them, you never know where it might lead.


Friday, February 3, 2017

Sexuary 2017 - Sensations

Ok, so I know we have talked about sensations in the bedroom before, but that's how we kicked off Sexuary 2017, with Jackie tied to the bed, blindfolded and me adding different sensations to her body.  It's amazing how different textures, different elements and some very simple things can make a difference.

So let me start at the beginning.  We've had Japanese ropes for years (I think we got our first one at Spencers).  If you don't have a pair I highly recommend them.  They are cheap, comfortable and easy to use.  Before that I used my neckties to  tie Jackie up with.  This year I added a couple of d-links to the back of our headboard so I could just snap the rope in and it would hold.  I use to tie a rope to the bedframe and then our Japanese rope to that.  So not much excuse to not do something if you'd like to try other than some prep work.

Second, if you don't have a blindfold GET ONE!  They are cheap.  You can get them on Amazon for $5, or delivered in 2 days for $8.  There is a sensation when you don't know what's coming next that is exciting.  Every house should have a blindfold or 10.  We have several.

So then I've had to collect things that feel different on Jackie.  I picked up a piece of material a couple of years ago for Sexuary that she loves.  It's soft.  Very soft.  And when I drag it across her body it feels good.  So I got a piece that I can use to cover her and slooooooowwwwwwwlllllyyyyyyy drag off of her.  Her nipples will get hard doing this.  I love it.

A bottle of corn starch is then opened and I lightly drop it over her in places I'm going to rub.  First you get the sensations of the mini explosions as I drop it on her.  The she gets the silky smooth sensations as I rub on her body.
A few drops of warming liquid on each nipple will make her jump just a bit as each unannounced drop finds its way down and starts to spread.  Oh but then I get to rub it in better, suck on it, blow on it, each causing it's own sensation for Jackie to endure.

Over the years we've used candles, I'd recommend a soy candle here, ice, warming up your dildos in a bucket of hot water, feather boas, tracer wheels, massage oils, and more for different sensations.  It takes some work, you have to look around and see and think, 'hmmmm I wonder how that would work' and come up with a few different sensations, but they are out there and you don't have to spend a fortune at the adult toy store to do it. Not that we have anything against adult toy stores, we LOVE them, but you don't always have to go there for your sexual party favors when they are all around us.

So go do something unexpected for your significant other TODAY!  Surprise them with something new.


I know what your thinking....Corn Starch? Really?  I don't know why or how Dane found this but its like powder but its not, its smooth and feels great...I am always surprised when he tells me he used the Corn starch.  Oh that piece of material...just thinking about that makes me shutter...its incredible.

Sometimes its not the what is being used, its the not knowing what will be used and the sensations that is brought on with just touch.  He loves to see me cream and squirt but it doesn't always show in an outward way but sometimes its very intense inside my body like the endorphins release and body tenses and it explodes all in my head, all inside...not much outside to leave the mess...but it happens...And let me tell you it  was pretty intense  

Try something new with your partner!  Its worth it...


Sexuary 2017 - Touching

So I think all of us get to the point after that honeymoon phase that we forget there is more to romance than that time we lay down in bed and make out.  Oh there we're good at touching the right parts and doing everything we can to get to where we want to go but we forget that the best foreplay starts when we get up in the morning and runs all day.  When we were first dating we knew that.  Kissing was hot.  The sex was hotter.  But all day long we touched and teased and do something that would lead up to our significant other being ready and more than willing to participate in our night time ritual.

Jackie and I are working on that this year.  Now we've been married 10, going on 11 years.  We've had 4 teenager boys in the house (hers and mine), that have more than interfered with our desires to run around like banshees, naked and uninhibited sexually.  So what happens? Well we slack off.  We do what we HAVE to so that we can get some results in the bedroom, but we don't really work at it.  For us, Sexuary 2017 has become about remembering that and acting upon it.  Oh I promise there will be good sex, and LOTS of it, but part of the reason for it will be that we've started out with remembering to do more than hop in bed and roll around in the sheets.  

For example yesterday, day 2 of Sexuary, we started out in the shower together.  Now part of that is great because we've both been through a transformation this year in our weight.  Over 100 lbs have been shed between the two of us, and while in the shower we get to put our hands all over each other.  What a nice start to the morning.  

At night  After work I cleared off the sofa.  I just did it, didn't say anything, I just cleared it off.  Then I sent a couple of provocative 'pssssst' messages to Jackie and invited her to come join me on our couch (normally we both sit on our own lazy-boy) and I would massage her feet and legs as we watched TV together.  For about 40 minutes she received a massage with no expectations, no payments, no one getting off later, but she got my attention and a nice massage.  

But it didn't stop there, she did thank me for the nice foot massage, and I replied with, "thanks for letting me feel you up. hehehe".  Ok, so I wanted her to know I LIKE having my hands on her bare, naked skin.  I love touching her as much as she loves being touched.  We just haven't made the time and efforts like we used to.  Geez, I had to clean off the couch, which guys some wives would consider just as romantic as the foot massage...just saying, and then massage her feet and legs...and hour of my time and efforts, for what?  So that she KNOWS I'm thinking about her even when there is no sex involved. Now that can get sexy quickly. 

She on the other hand sent me this little quip the other day.

Ok, it's no secret if you've read my blog I LOVE my butt touched all she wants.  It was exciting for me when she sent that.  Why? Because I know she had to be thinking of me when she saw it and sent it to me. No sex.  No toe curling sex.  Just a bit of a tease during the day.  It could of easily passed right past her and be gone, but she took the time to send it and then send me a text with it.  So I was thinking about my butt being touched by this wonderful wife of mine for the next hour or so.  That's hot!

So here we are Sexuary 3rd now, do something special today for your significant other. Nothing expected in return. Your gratification comes in knowing you did something special for them. Touch, rub, feel, listen, not say that thing you were going to,....something....we can do this! And in the end, when you practice the all day foreplay.....well let's just say you never know where it could lead too.


Jackie here...Dane is has been so busy for us in the last 2 jobs...loss of moving grandbaby...its just been crazy...We have forgotten those beginning times when he or I would text each other and it would send chills.  When he first started the calendar I just didn't get it.  Confusion I guess would be the right word, but after talking about it, it made sense although I did screw up the first day but hey we are back on the band

Ladies, have you thought back on what made you fall in love with your significate other?  What made you want him/her?  What was it?  Some of us have been together a long time and its hard to remember.  Trust me its there, way back in the filing cabinet of our brain...Look back in that box, see it...touch it....bring it forward....lets leave it forward for the month...and remember the kink...or the over and above the norm.... #sexuary #touchie #feelyourpartnersbutt #toucheachother