Sexuary 2019 - Kickoff and a Challenge

 So Sexuary 2019 is about to begin on Friday.  I don’t know it it’s 6 or 7 years of us celebrating Sexuary, but it’s been a few.  A couple of them have been flops.  Most of them have been not only fun, but enlightening.  We’ve found new things that we enjoy sexually.  We allow each other to explore and not be judgmental.  It’s definitely opened our eyes to other things out there that we never would of found if Sexuary didn’t exist. 

So what was Sexuary about?  It was about doing something different.  For some it’s about having sex this month.  For others it’s exploring strange new ideas.  We started with every other day for a month with a different ‘kink’ every time.  Then came the great 28 days of sex, with 28 different kinks.  Some of those we still practice, some we’ve written off, but we at least tried them.

So our challenge to you is in Sexuary, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!!! Make time for a real date and sex afterwards if that’s something you don’t do generally.  Buy a new toy and wear it out.  Read through our blog and find a list of ideas that cost nothing or VERY little.  Cornstarch for silky smooth caressing.  A pair of dice for a game of what to do and for how long.  Some ice.  Getting it on in the living room instead of the bedroom.  Or you can go extravagant and plan a weekend away, hit a burlesque show and fuck like bunnies all weekend. Whatever it is you don’t do, try it!

For us, we’ve got our days lined up.  Nineteen of twenty-eight days are scheduled with fun and adventures.  It’s not the most we’ve scheduled it’s not the least…but we’ve added more rope play (this is a new this last year for us).  Ropes and suspension are now part of our repertoire. 

So go….NOW, go and figure out what you’re going to do this Sexuary.  Surprise your significant other and just make plans that will freak them out because they don’t know who this person they are talking to is…but they love it anyway and are going to take advantage of it. J ….What are you doing still reading this blog? Go…..and have a GREAT Sexuary 2019!!!

Sexuary 2018 - Texas Kink Fest

This year we were invited to the Texas Kink Fest and decided to go.  Who else would be our kindred spirit but a group of kinksters that were open and would talk and demonstrate about their kink?

So before I get to far, I want to tell you want it wasn't.  It wasn't a massive orgy with sex every where you looked.  And while there was plenty of nudity, there was less than at Hippie Hollow or other nudist camps.  Yes, some of us were nude all the time, some were half dressed, and some never took off a stitch of clothing.  So if you are looking into one of these and think you're going to a Roman orgy you're going to be sorely disappointed.

Now on to what it was.  This was a weekend that people with kinks could display their skills, discuss their desires, and learn from others.  There were several classes each day that you could attend.  There were demonstrations, and there was entertainment all provided throughout the weekend.

 

There were classes Jackie and I attended together, like the ropes 101 class, and there were several we took separately. It was a safe environment, and I knew Jackie would be safe in any of the sessions there alone. 

Their Dungeon was to die for.  Mr. Grey could of taken a lesson from the setup.  It was available for you to try out, and use.  If you were looking for a piece of furniture for your Dungeon they probably had one for you to try, and WANTED you to try it out.  Thank you TKF for that experience!  People would watch respectfully as a scene went on and would just move on afterwards.  

The rope work that was both taught and demonstrated was just fantastic!  We learned a few new knots.  We learned a new way to tie Jackie up that would relieve some of the stress on her shoulders.  We learned we really want to learn a hell of a lot more about ropes!! We also saw one of the most sensual performances where one young lady used ropes to suspend another young lady.  No one in the audience dared to take a breath in fear of missing something.  It was so erotic, so sensual, so spectacular.  

We saw other demonstrations on flogging.  We saw people in their "pup" personas.  We saw a couple with collars being walked around.  We saw needles and hook and so much more.  All was done respectfully and none judgemental.  It was a place a person could go and practice their kink, learn more about their kink, and teach others about their kink.  

Now Jackie and I have learned there are things not for us, beyond one or the others limits.  But we can also appreciate their desire for their kink and appreciate the beauty in things we wouldn't try ourselves.  

If you find yourself with an opportunity to attend such a weekend, we highly recommend it. It was a great time and we look forward to next years Kink Fest, May 2 - 5, 2019. 

Dane

Sexuary 2017

Ok, it's 24 days till Sexuary 2017. Anyone else thinking/doing anything?

Jackie and I have just finished up our calendar. Of course there is plenty of kink involved (cause that's who we are), but we are actually trying something different this year. While the sex and kink will be several days a week (no 28 days straight this year but we are looking about 4 days a week), everyday, above and beyond the sex itself will be a 5 - 15 minutes of intimate touching.

For us that could be making out, it could be a short massage, it could be some intimate touching. maybe some licking or the like.  And timers will be set, not so much for a minimum, but for a maximum. Why? We want this to be as much of a tease and a time of excitement as it is about sex. We want to remember how excited we can make each other even when we know sex is not going to happen right then. We want to be thinking of the other person and that they still have 'that touch'. I expect there will be a few hickies during Sexuary. A horrid price to pay I know. hehehe Seriously, I know we try on days we know we are having sex, but we wanted to push that this Sexuary.

So anyone else got anything going?  Oh and the kink and sex?  I'm sure you'll be reading about our adventures if you follow this blog, the good, the bad and the orgasmic.

Dane

One for "Me"

So as we start out Sexuary I want to put out there one of the 'me' things that I've come to grips with.  I'm male, and I love anal.  Yes I love giving anal, and the feel of taking Jackie for a 'backyard BBQ' will send me over the top every time, but that's not what I'm talking about.  I've allowed myself to admit that having something up my ass is ....exhilarating....breath taking...multi-orgasmic....unfucking believable.

Over the last year or so I've over come the negatives of a man wanting something anal.  Let's face it, most guys would just tell you they're not 'gay' and 'don't touch my ass, that's gay'.  HA! The joke is on them.  They have no clue what it means to have their prostate rubbed from the inside.

I don't remember exactly how it started with Jackie and I.  I know I've always had some interest in anal play, but normally I left that for me getting to claim the woman.  But I remember once while Jackie was playing she hit my perineum (that little pea size ball between your sack and the base of your cock) and I came so hard it wasn't even funny.  I'd never experienced anything like that.  It wasn't long after that we were playing and she fingered my ass and found my prostate for the first time.  I think it's the first time I've ever said that was enough.  I had multiple orgasms that were so intense I thought I was going to pass out if she didn't stop.  I was sold on anal play from that moment on.  But there was still a naggling tug that it wasn't right.  It was wrong for me to like anal.

So last Sexuary we went to an extreme.  If possible, and honestly after a couple of test runs we honestly weren't sure, I wanted to be fisted.  We had purchased a life size hand dildo and an anal plug that was every bit as round as the hand but had never gotten either of them inside of me.  During Sexuary I was determined that if it could happen I was going to feel that fullness from fisting.  Jackie said I had to mentally let go first.  I'm not sure how much of that is true, but she's probably right, mentally I had to let that hand slip into my ass before it would physically go in.

Almost every day for a week Jackie attempted to fist me...then on that wonderful day it made it past the barriers and I was once again in heaven.  It was heaven, with the added benefit of afterwards for hours my whole body had a calm, peaceful, unbelievable feeling of tranquility.  It took us a couple more months and Jackie was actually able to get her fist (definitely a bit larger than the dildo, though not toooo much), inside of me.  A real fisting with a real hand.  A new level reached.  A new level of peace.

So where am I going here?  Well it's about 'me'.  You see if I listened to everyone else I probably never would of tried all the anal I have.  Without it I never would have had the best orgasms of my life!  Nothing has ever made me cum harder or more often than anal.  I've been blessed to have a wife that will indulge me in my 'kink'.  It's not her thing, but she knows that I need things and this is one she does for 'me'.  Ok, I think it's a bit more her thing now then when we started, but it will never be 'her' thing.

So what's your thing?  What is that one thing you have wanted for yourself that maybe you were afraid to ask about?  Or something you like but never get?  It doesn't have to be sexual, maybe it's an hour to yourself to meditate or work out at the gym.  Maybe it's a book you've always wanted to read.  For me, it's some fun sex things. ;) Why would those other things be part of Sexuary?  If you can't feel good about yourself, if you can't do the things you want, if you can't be happy where you are, then there is no way you can be happy with a mate, with your children, with yourself. I know I'm more relaxed and more satisfied now that I've allowed myself this. 

Dane

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