Sexuary 2015 - Ordinary Items Used As Toys

Ok so it's Sexuary 2015 and you've haven't got an extra $75 or $100 or $200 dollars for a new sex toy, and the batteries are dead in your old ones but you want to have some extra fun in the bedroom, so what do you do?  Look around the house it's full of fun toys that can be brought into the bedroom for some excitement the next time you play.

Kim Bainger in 9 1/2 Weeks

Let's start with the simplest of stuff.  I remember the scene with Mickey Rourke and  Kim Basinger in 9 1/2 Weeks where a single ice cube and made millions of teenagers cream there pants as he ran it down over her lips and
body.  The ice can be used on either sex and lots of fun can be had.  Now I generally get a small bowl and a hand towel to go with it if I'm planning something like that, but yes, an ice cube found in your freezer can be a great addition to your sex toys.

I  know that not everyone wears ties like they used to, but I think most men have a tie or 2 in the closet.  Instead of leaving it in the closet, use it in bed.  Tie someone up and make them squirm (maybe with the ice cube from above), before taking it to the next level.  If you don't have a tie, use a belt.  Honestly you don't have to tie them to tight, it's more about the idea of being constrained than the actual constraint. 

Ok, not every house had cloths pins anymore, but for a dollar or so you can have more than you will ever need to play with.  As nipple clamps, on the scrotum, I've seen them in a row on the thighs or sides, or ear lobe or ...well you get the idea, if you can pinch it you can put a cloths pin on there.  So why? It's not only the pinching sensation, but the rush of blood once you remove the pin that is part of the adrenaline rush.  Oh a little trick I've learned is that a dime, penny or nickel placed by the spring can lessen the clamp.  So if your cloths pin is too much to be placed on the nipple, just put a dime there and see if that is better, if not try a penny or a nickle.Simple adjustment and you can still use the cloths pins.

While we purchased a piece of cloth for the next, a fluffy robe or a fluffy blanket could be used for feeling and texture once the person is blindfolded or maybe you want to just wrap it around your hand and gently rub. I like taking Jackies favorite cloth and spreading it over her and slowly sliding it down her body giving her goose bumps.  But in this case it's about the texture when they can't see.  

Have you priced a good paddle lately?  Yeah they aren't cheap by any means, but the paddle in our drawer is nothing more than a ping pong paddle.  The sides are lifting up and there's a couple of spots a bit worn, but that just gives it character.  A new one is only a few bucks, and I promise, as I speak from experience here, a good wallop with that will do the trick just fine. By the way, a good wooden spoon from the kitchen can do just as good of a job too. Oh and if you're into role playing and one of you is a student, a good hardback book could be your next paddle.

Got a feather boa or some feathers from some school project?  I will say not all feathers are created equal, but if you have something soft like that use it.

Don't have a blindfold to use?  Just take a t-shirt and fold it and tie it in the back or a scarf from her closet.  The idea is to deprive the 1 individual from a sense, that of sight, so anything will work.  Though blindfolds are pretty cheap if you look around.

Certain candles can be used in the bedroom too.  Dripping the wax can be very pleasure/pain enjoyable.  Not all candles are equal for this.  Soy and paraffin candles burn cooler and are easier to remove later.  Avoid most other candles as they can burn the skin.  I found a great article on wax here if you want more on it.

Two dice could be a great start for the night.  Each number on 1 die is a place on the body and the other die represents what you're going to do with it (lick, rub, kiss...come up with your own ideas here).  After a few rounds I'm thinking you won't need the dice any more.  And of course strip poker is always a way.  Another way is that the winner gets to take off a piece of clothing and the loser has to pay 2 minutes attention to that spot, or something to that effect, be creative here.

We play games with sports too.  Superbowl was 3 minutes of being eaten or blowjob for every touchdown scored.  In years past (when we didn't have company) that was due immediately upon scoring.  Made the game a lot more interesting for us and as the game came to a closer, we came too.  

Basketball can be how many points difference between quarters.  Even NASCAR can turn into a game where you pick a driver or team and winner gets xy and z. The difference between places at the 1/2 point and/or the end could be the number of minutes something happens.  If your driver/team wins you get bonus time. 

What we're saying is just because you can't drop a chunk of change at the adult toy store doesn't mean you are stuck with a boring sex life.  PLAN out a night with your partner where all the items used aren't meant to be used for sex, but you do it anyway.  They will be impressed you were thinking about them that much and the extra excitement can lead to so extra fun play.

Do you have a household item you use in your sex play?  Share it here so others can enjoy it too.  Get with your partner and plan out something together, sometimes the planning is as much fun as the doing.  Make this the Sexuary that you have a great Ah Ha moment with your partner and part of that is playing with everyday ordinary objects as sex toys. 

On this Valentine day, the 1/2 way point of and high holy day of Sexuary, find some way to make a difference in your relationship.  It doesn't take a lot of money to have a great time using toys in the bedroom.

Dane

Touching

So this Sexuary Jackie and I have talked about a few things.  Because of family health issues Jackie will only be around about 1/2 the month, so Sexuary 2014 will not be repeated, and no 28 days of kink that Sexuary 2013 was.  So we've struggled a bit with what to do.  The theme from www.welcometomybrain.net is "me" which has been a bit more appropriate than expected with Jackie being gone taking care of her mom.

But we have talked, and in our discussions Jackie wanted more 'touch' days.  Last year we did a scene where I blindfolded Jackie and then used her sense of touch to create a very erotic scene (read here).  It was a very good scene for us and one we've repeated with variations several times over the year.  That sense of touch is very powerful, especially when it's unexpected. 

So one of the things Jackie and I will be working on this month is touching.  Different places..... different textures...... different temperatures....... different positions while touching ...all working on the sensation that just allows you to feel. 

For the first day of Sexuary I happened to be up with her.  The kids were gone so I made the trip and got us a hotel room.  When coming out of the shower I noticed the bottle of lotion.  I snagged it and brought it to the bed without her noticing it.  So when we started playing I used it to give her a mini massage.  When I went to enter her I went a way I rarely go and it gave a different feeling for both of us.  By the spot in the bed and the muffled screams from Jackie I'd say it was a success. 

Oh I have plans for several other days of touching this month.  Pieces of soft material, ice, candles, clothes pins, maybe even a paddle or two.  All very different sensations, all very happy results when it comes to our bedroom.  But most take a few minutes of planning to pull them off.  I know Jackie deserves that from me, doesn't your partner deserve that from you?

Hope Sexuary is going well for you!  Do something different.  Do something out of your box.  Do something that will surprise the hell out of your partner and make a memory.

Dane

PS - for me, I've purchased a few toys that I can't wait for Jackie to use on me. Oh my shuddering just thinking about them. 

Blindfild, ropes, stretching, clothes pins and …. (on Dane)

Strap Dane down and blind fold him.  You have total control from there, and I’m not sure how I'll handle stretching my ball sack, but let's try it…use cloths pins on me, or other devices. Hot oils might be appropriate here too.

This was to be the next best thing to a Dom/sub day.  I'm not sure why this is ok, but the other isn't but Jackie is better when we don't call it Dom/sub.

So she took me upstairs, and blindfolded me.  Then took me into our room where she Velcro'd me to our bed (we have a sheet and cuffs we caught on clearance at Megaplexx).  No I can pull on these and not come undone, and yet if I needed to I could pull the corner of the Velcro up and get out.  After that she started with sensations.

A soft piece of material we got.  I thought it smart of her to always hold my cock with it while she rubbed me with it over the rest of my body.

A whip came next.  She's getting better with that new whip, and she used it off and on through the session.  I definitely pulled on the straps a couple of times as she did our first CBT ever.  Not something I'm generally into, but she did a good job of not 'crushing my sack' and that's the one thing I am more sensitive too.  It stung, but in a good way.

A boa did ok, but wasn't as soft as the material.

Some ice.  I was expecting her to put some in her mouth and suck me some but the drizzles an her running on my cock was a nice sensation, though I could of use more I think to make it almost uncomfortable.  Not sure if that makes sense or not.

She used some clothes pins to pull my sack.  It was an interesting sensation.  I couldn't tell exactly how many or exactly where they were. And with exception of one pulling and twisting when she went to rub up on me, it felt pretty good.  The one though caught her and actually went to real pain for a second.

A candle dripping on my chest.  Later I asked why she didn't do my nipples or pelvic area and she was afraid of burning me.

Some sucking, some rubbing her body of me and having my knee in her crotch (what little I could move) as she humped my leg some. 

More whipping. 

Finally she removed the clothes pins which let the blood flow back and was a sensation in itself and took my breath away for a second.  The she unstrapped me and we finished up with me attempting to fist her again (OMG that really is pretty hot) and then both of us finishing up.

WHEW!!!

That was a lot of sensations in a short amount of time.  It was pretty hot to give up control like that.  It was also pretty hot to have her tie me up and use the whips and pins on me.  I like it when on occasion she becomes the aggressor and takes charge.  It's different and very hot to me.  I think it's just so out of our norm that it really is a fetish.

Dane

Today was my day to tie down Dane, I really wanted him to experience what I had on my day.  I was nervous about it.  It is as close to sub/dom without it being sub/dom.  I don't like barking orders and I don't like taking orders.  I knew that today was my day to take control and I could do whatever I wanted to Dane.  I also know that he has a much bigger box on pain, and excitement.  That I am sure I would not get to the point of him saying his safe word.  It take a lot more that I can do to push him. 

So I asked him to meet me at the top of the stairs where I took his glasses gave him his blind fold, undressed him and then put the Velcro cuffs around his wrist and ankles.  I then led him into the bedroom and centered  him on the bed. I had preplanned all I wanted to do, textures, that were contrasting, soft to hard, cold to hot...you get the idea...

I started with my favorite piece of material, its super soft, I rubbed it on his chest, his legs, his cock, etc.  I stroked him with it...its an amazing feeling! I then went to a whip, then a feather boa, then ice, then wax, the clothes pens, then more rubbing.  

I think it was a very enjoyable day for both of us.  We were able to end with both having great orgasms and a very enjoyable afternoon.

Its hard to believe we have ONE day left! wow what a month!

See you tomorrow

Jackie

Planning

Wow, how to you come up with a 28 day calendar of sex?  If you do it right you spend 45 days 'pondering' it with a lot of time in bed because you've gotten yourself all excited thinking about Sexuary! Seriously the 2 of us started in November talking about what we were going to do and how we were going to do it.  Now it got more serious about mid December and really serious in January but that's how we roll.

We started out by a heads up that Christine was thinking of doing "fetishes" was going to be a theme of sorts.  Now Jackie and I are no strangers to fetishes.  I would love to have my ass fisted and Jackie loves soft touches and has a drawer full of toys that we use all the time to enhance our experiences.  So this was an opportunity for us to push our envelope.  Try some things we wanted to try and have a one time trial run for things that were on our fringe.  Challenge accepted!

So I went to a couple of sites that listed fetishes.  Google was great about this and I came up with over 500 fetishes.  Ok some of them aren't going to happen.  Apotemnophilia (having an amputation) isn't going to happen for us.  Nor Necrophilia, nor many others. So I went through and deleted any of the ones I wasn't comfortable with or that I knew were impossible.  Then I gave the list to Jackie and she removed all the ones she wasn't comfortable with.  There, only 150 fetishes to choose from. :)

So after that we talked about the remaining 150 items.  Now many of these can be combined for a great sexperience.  Like the first post mentioned we combined shaving and water play.  So Dane set out to create a 28 day calendar with everything they wanted.  Once done Jackie asked for changes to be made and then and viola a plan is made.

Now this took us WEEKS to do.   In it we had nights that Jackie would clam up.  It was overwhelming to her, and who could blame her.  Over 500 ways to have sex and 28 straight days that's a lot to wrap your pussy around.  Several nights we'd talk about some of the fetishes.  Some were obviously easier than others.  We already shave, so that was a give me, but she doesn't let me shave her normally, so that's a bit out of her box and something I wanted to do.  Spanking, not so easy.  I want to both spank her ass red and have mine spanked.  I'm not talking love taps, but spankings.  So we worked through it and she gave this one to me.  I want to be fisted, she loves to wear a strap on, We've never been able to get either the dildo fist or her fist in me, and after reading we realize we probably needed several days of her working on my ass to open it up.  Done! She gets 5 days of strapping on her cock and fucking me raw, and hopefully by the end of it I'll have a fist in my ass for once.  But it was a process.  An honest, open discussion many many nights.  And judgmental? No way!

Look fantasies and desires to try fetishes are a personal thing.  They are real, regardless of what society might think.  It's not like you can just toss what you like.  You can pretend, but if you're honest they are still there.  And this is your partner, the person you're suppose to love.  If they want to dress up like a bear and have sex, it's not my thing, but I would try it for their sake.  Over the next month you'll read about several attempts we've had at figuring out what we like and don't like, and some of them might not be your cup of tea, and that's ok with us.  Some of yours aren't our cup of tea.  But that's ok too.

So we narrow it down to our 28 days.  A daily description of what we are going to try.  Next comes probably the most fun we've had so far, shopping for all we need.  Speculums,  gates of hell, clothes pins, soft clothes, a boa, massage oils, and several other things were on that list that we'd need.  In additional we wanted to find a place for on premise swinging and invite one of our friends over to take pictures and have a night of fun together.  Lots of planning and shopping.

Oh my, little did I realize how turned on some of this would get Jackie and I, and we had a fantastic weekend gathering all we needed and an incredible weekend of hotel sex that was off the charts.  Just the thoughts of what we were planning on kept Jackie wet all weekend, and she got aggressive and HOT! I reaped the benefits and it wasn't even Sexuary yet!

So there we are, a calendar with daily descriptions of what is cumming, I mean coming and we take it one day at a time.  Oh for the record we did set some guidelines.  Either one of us can call off a day because it just can't happen.  For instance if on day 4 my ass just can't handle another fucking, then we have 3 plan B's to fill in.  We have safe words.  One for "Ok, you're at my limit, no more than what you're doing now" and one for "Stop right now".  These are just good practice and especially if you're going into something new we highly recommend it. 

Dane

PS - Today is dressing provocatively and teasing for Jackie.  I'll be rock hard most of the day thinking about her strip tease tonight (see combining fetishes that go together), and I'm sure I'll dump a load of cum by the end of the day, I know this because I know how good Jackie is at teasing me when she wants to. When was the last time you teased your partner and lead them up to a great sexperience?  Well what are you waiting for?

Planning this crazy month for us...
Dane had been after me since November to look at this list to narrow it down.  I did look at it...My first instinct was cross them all off...I wasnt going to do anything...forget it! This was all his doing not mine...So I put it away...I didnt look at it all during December and really not until the first week of January.  I then had to do alot of breathing because my first impulse was again mark it all out..but I knew that Dane really wanted my input, he wanted me to have a part.  He wanted to know my dreams, my fantasies, what I wanted.  I didnt/dont know what I wanted how the heck was I supposed to tell him??? So on the 4th time looking at the list, I decided my mind frame would be let me be willing to be willing...I knew a few things that he liked, and I knew a few things I DID NOT like, so I took out the things that were in my "Red Zone" that there was NO way I would go there...I knocked off probably 30 on that round. I slowly went through the list and paired stuff down.  I sent him the list and told him to make the calendar. I also questioned if there was anything on the list that he had kept and I took off, there was only ONE thing that he left on and took off.  
Now let me tell you this calendar really has pushed my limits, both hard and soft limits. He has wanted to talk about it a lot! I did not want to talk to him at all about it.  I made my list why talk.  UGG I don't know how many nights I would get flustered over him asking me questions..I would just totally shut down, cry and just did not understand the emotions that were happening.  I didn't want to talk about the emotions either. I really had to work on my attitude on the whole thing.  The more he wanted to talk about it the more I didn't.  I am telling you I really had to watch my whole deminer when he came to ask me questions about stuff.  It has certainly been a month where his excitement level has been way up because of the planning.

The planning of the calendar has been an event in itself.  What can I say, I have balked at it and not wanted it to be talked about but once it was done and I looked over it and made my own suggestions, WE had it done...geezz 28 days! Are we nuts? Are we crazy? Have we bitten off more than we can chew?   I have to be honest, I cant think about the calendar as a whole...I can only handle one day at time and I told Dane that.  I had to tell him I couldnt get excited about the calender as a whole, there was just too much to wrap my brain around.  My personality seems split on the whole thing so I just am looking day by day...In fact even today as I read what the calendar says I swear he added stuff to calendar since I don't remember seeing part of it.  Its like my brain just could not absorb everything. 

The weekend we got to go shopping for the items we were lacking for the month was a great weekend.  I am not sure if was the shopping or the fact that we had not had a lot of "quality" time with each other due to Dane's new job where he is on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Or if it was a combination of both.  What ever it was he was pretty excited when he got it several days in a row because I was just in that kind of mood. And that does not happen often. We had some pretty raw, hot and heavy sex that weekend. I hope we did not disturb our neighbors at the hotel we were at.  There was no doubt that they could hear us through the walls....

I know we are now on day 2 of our calendar and I still have my issues. I also know that the whole idea behind this calendar is to push our limits.  To see if we could find some new things that we both enjoy.  We already knew somethings but we needed to learn more we so we could get out of our "plain sex' box...you know that rut you get into...well we have been in a rut and sexuary really helps push us out of the rut.  When we started this 3 years ago it was really really did I mention really hard to try 7 days in a row (nope we made it either 5 or 6) then last year was every other day. We made most of that...it even up being on even days I believe and he got 14 days worth.  So this year we decided to "join the band wagon" we wanted our own 28 days t-shirts...maybe even stand on the staircase with the rocky theme playing at the end....

Here is what we do know, we have done what we wanted to do.  We want to encourage others to have a sensual sexuary too! We dont care what you do just do something! If you arent doing anything with your partner just do something...Hold hands, go to the movies, kiss at the red light, anything...Make some goals and make them happen!  Lets all celebrate the end of the month and know you did it! Who is with us??

Now off to find something to wear that Dane hasn't seen me in a while...I am thinking something purple...oh I get to tease him all day too...wonder what I will do...I have my plans...he just doesn't know them yet....evil grin and laugh...
Jackie