Sexuary 2022 - Dice - Day 27

 I know I don’t tell you thank you enough for all the little things you do …I know we swap off dishes and wash and all… but I notice and appreciate when I know you’ve done it.  - 143

This day was going to be jammed packed and both of us running errands in different cities and getting back latter in the evening.  While Jackie thought she'd be home about 7, I figured it would be closer to 8 or maybe even 9. That and the fact we had played all day the day before, and had a fairly good week, I didn't want anything over the top.  

So I explained to Jackie I had 2 dice.  One had a few words on it, suck, kiss, touch, blow, lick and a ?.  The other was just a regular die with 1 - 6 dots on it.  My idea was to roll both of them and the other person would tell us where they wanted that done on them. 

We got into bed and started and there was a bit of confusion on who did what after the roll, so we decided the person that rolled GOT what they rolled and the other person had to do that for the number of minutes rolled on the other die.  We also decided we'd do 5 rounds this time and we'd alternate who would start each round....so basically you got 2 turns in a row before the other person would roll.

This simple little game wound up being a great time by both of us. I don't think either thought it would be as fun as it was. We both really tried to make the other feel as good as we could, and we both succeeded in doing just that!! Both of us picked things unexpected, which made it even better. This simple little game was fun and definitely something we'll do again. 

So this was something you could figure out with just regular dice, or a deck of cards, or anything.  Just nice and simple game to play.  

Dane 

Sexuary 2017 - Dice Game

As part of our sexual fun we have 2 sets of dice with different body parts and different things to do to those body parts.  Lick, Tease, Kiss, Suck, Blow, and Players Choice are all on these dice, with Ear, Toes, Nipples, Neck, Privates, and Bum on the body parts die.  Now the rules we played by today was the person who was up rolled the dice and the other person decided which combination of dice they wanted to be used on them.  We also used a regular die to decide how many minutes we'd do it for.

First I think we'd put the body parts we want on the dice.  If you're more into the S&M scene some of these were more appropriate, but for just general play some of them are not.

Second, take the other dice (the actions ones) and put things down you want to do or have done to you.  Now if you really want to make is interesting add a wildcard (these had a "?" on them) or add at least 1 thing you always wanted to try, but are just a bit skittish of....now you're leaving it up to lady luck as to whether or not you try something new. I REALLY encourage this part. 

 

In case you haven't figured it out yet you can take any 2 dice and put your own things on them.  Actually we really liked the idea of having a choice, so 2 sets of dice, 2 for body parts and 2 for action items.  A sharpie can fix them up, sticky labels can fix them up, you can write a paper with what 1 - 6 stand for each roll.  But there's no reason you can't do this yourself.  

If you're just one that doesn't want to do it yourself, a quick search online for sex dice game shows several sets of them for $5-$10 a set.  Actually found 3 different sets on gearbest.com for less than 2 dollars a set. 

Third,  I would add 4 minutes to whatever was rolled if you use 1 die, so you have a minimum of 5 minutes and maximum of 10.  Now you can play with 2 dice, or even 3 if you wanted to extend the rounds.   We played 3 rounds before we 'finished' up the morning, but you can do any number of rounds or roll dice to decide the number of rounds.  

One last thing, I put my dice in a baggie with our lube and the lube wiped out most everything it touched.  Not sure what was in the lube, but it didn't like the writing on the dice.  So store them separately.  

In our goal for more teasing, more touching, more intimacy this game played right into our needs.  Hope it helps you and your significant other. 

Dane

Jane here...while I will agree with Dane on most of the things above, I personally don't think you should add the 4 minutes to the time on the die if only using one.  The whole idea is to tease, touch and play..so just take what you roll and go for it.  It can be a pretty intense 1 minute!  We have had these dice in our drawer for a year or more and never got "around to it" .. I would definitely get a set try it, work it to your likes, change things up, let it spice up your sexual life. 

It was pretty hot for us today, is all I can say..

Sexuary 2017 - Touching

So I think all of us get to the point after that honeymoon phase that we forget there is more to romance than that time we lay down in bed and make out.  Oh there we're good at touching the right parts and doing everything we can to get to where we want to go but we forget that the best foreplay starts when we get up in the morning and runs all day.  When we were first dating we knew that.  Kissing was hot.  The sex was hotter.  But all day long we touched and teased and do something that would lead up to our significant other being ready and more than willing to participate in our night time ritual.

 

Jackie and I are working on that this year.  Now we've been married 10, going on 11 years.  We've had 4 teenager boys in the house (hers and mine), that have more than interfered with our desires to run around like banshees, naked and uninhibited sexually.  So what happens? Well we slack off.  We do what we HAVE to so that we can get some results in the bedroom, but we don't really work at it.  For us, Sexuary 2017 has become about remembering that and acting upon it.  Oh I promise there will be good sex, and LOTS of it, but part of the reason for it will be that we've started out with remembering to do more than hop in bed and roll around in the sheets.  

For example yesterday, day 2 of Sexuary, we started out in the shower together.  Now part of that is great because we've both been through a transformation this year in our weight.  Over 100 lbs have been shed between the two of us, and while in the shower we get to put our hands all over each other.  What a nice start to the morning.  

At night  After work I cleared off the sofa.  I just did it, didn't say anything, I just cleared it off.  Then I sent a couple of provocative 'pssssst' messages to Jackie and invited her to come join me on our couch (normally we both sit on our own lazy-boy) and I would massage her feet and legs as we watched TV together.  For about 40 minutes she received a massage with no expectations, no payments, no one getting off later, but she got my attention and a nice massage.  

But it didn't stop there, she did thank me for the nice foot massage, and I replied with, "thanks for letting me feel you up. hehehe".  Ok, so I wanted her to know I LIKE having my hands on her bare, naked skin.  I love touching her as much as she loves being touched.  We just haven't made the time and efforts like we used to.  Geez, I had to clean off the couch, which guys some wives would consider just as romantic as the foot massage...just saying, and then massage her feet and legs...and hour of my time and efforts, for what?  So that she KNOWS I'm thinking about her even when there is no sex involved. Now that can get sexy quickly. 

She on the other hand sent me this little quip the other day.

Ok, it's no secret if you've read my blog I LOVE my butt touched all she wants.  It was exciting for me when she sent that.  Why? Because I know she had to be thinking of me when she saw it and sent it to me. No sex.  No toe curling sex.  Just a bit of a tease during the day.  It could of easily passed right past her and be gone, but she took the time to send it and then send me a text with it.  So I was thinking about my butt being touched by this wonderful wife of mine for the next hour or so.  That's hot!

So here we are Sexuary 3rd now, do something special today for your significant other. Nothing expected in return. Your gratification comes in knowing you did something special for them. Touch, rub, feel, listen, not say that thing you were going to,....something....we can do this! And in the end, when you practice the all day foreplay.....well let's just say you never know where it could lead too.

Dane

Jackie here...Dane is right...life has been so busy for us in the last 2 years...new jobs...loss of jobs...kids moving away...new grandbaby...its just been crazy...We have forgotten those beginning times when he or I would text each other and it would send chills.  When he first started the calendar I just didn't get it.  Confusion I guess would be the right word, but after talking about it, it made sense although I did screw up the first day but hey we are back on the band wagon...lol

Ladies, have you thought back on what made you fall in love with your significate other?  What made you want him/her?  What was it?  Some of us have been together a long time and its hard to remember.  Trust me its there, way back in the filing cabinet of our brain...Look back in that box, see it...touch it....bring it forward....lets leave it forward for the month...and remember the kink...or the over and above the norm.... #sexuary #touchie #feelyourpartnersbutt #toucheachother

Jackie

Sexuary 2017

Ok, it's 24 days till Sexuary 2017. Anyone else thinking/doing anything?

Jackie and I have just finished up our calendar. Of course there is plenty of kink involved (cause that's who we are), but we are actually trying something different this year. While the sex and kink will be several days a week (no 28 days straight this year but we are looking about 4 days a week), everyday, above and beyond the sex itself will be a 5 - 15 minutes of intimate touching.

For us that could be making out, it could be a short massage, it could be some intimate touching. maybe some licking or the like.  And timers will be set, not so much for a minimum, but for a maximum. Why? We want this to be as much of a tease and a time of excitement as it is about sex. We want to remember how excited we can make each other even when we know sex is not going to happen right then. We want to be thinking of the other person and that they still have 'that touch'. I expect there will be a few hickies during Sexuary. A horrid price to pay I know. hehehe Seriously, I know we try on days we know we are having sex, but we wanted to push that this Sexuary.

So anyone else got anything going?  Oh and the kink and sex?  I'm sure you'll be reading about our adventures if you follow this blog, the good, the bad and the orgasmic.

Dane

Touching

So this Sexuary Jackie and I have talked about a few things.  Because of family health issues Jackie will only be around about 1/2 the month, so Sexuary 2014 will not be repeated, and no 28 days of kink that Sexuary 2013 was.  So we've struggled a bit with what to do.  The theme from www.welcometomybrain.net is "me" which has been a bit more appropriate than expected with Jackie being gone taking care of her mom.

But we have talked, and in our discussions Jackie wanted more 'touch' days.  Last year we did a scene where I blindfolded Jackie and then used her sense of touch to create a very erotic scene (read here).  It was a very good scene for us and one we've repeated with variations several times over the year.  That sense of touch is very powerful, especially when it's unexpected. 

So one of the things Jackie and I will be working on this month is touching.  Different places..... different textures...... different temperatures....... different positions while touching ...all working on the sensation that just allows you to feel. 

For the first day of Sexuary I happened to be up with her.  The kids were gone so I made the trip and got us a hotel room.  When coming out of the shower I noticed the bottle of lotion.  I snagged it and brought it to the bed without her noticing it.  So when we started playing I used it to give her a mini massage.  When I went to enter her I went a way I rarely go and it gave a different feeling for both of us.  By the spot in the bed and the muffled screams from Jackie I'd say it was a success. 

Oh I have plans for several other days of touching this month.  Pieces of soft material, ice, candles, clothes pins, maybe even a paddle or two.  All very different sensations, all very happy results when it comes to our bedroom.  But most take a few minutes of planning to pull them off.  I know Jackie deserves that from me, doesn't your partner deserve that from you?

Hope Sexuary is going well for you!  Do something different.  Do something out of your box.  Do something that will surprise the hell out of your partner and make a memory.

Dane

PS - for me, I've purchased a few toys that I can't wait for Jackie to use on me. Oh my shuddering just thinking about them.