Ok, I know this is a repeat, but i think it will take a few times this month to stretch my ass to fist. Once we've acchieved it we might change a couple of the future ones. I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites. You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard. If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.
While you're on my backside I'd like you to vary it some, push me as much as you can in what ever you decide to do that day, here's a couple of ideas:
1) The hot oils on my genitals
2) Spank my ass, I'm talking really spank it. If you'd like to use a paddle or something like that please do. I'm even ok if you want to use the whip or something on my back. A whelp or 2 (or 10) is ok for this month.
3) You can use clothes pins on my sack, or penis, or where ever you'd like
4) One of the days you might cuff me(I have a pair of handcuffs, I just need to make sure I have the key)
5) Each day you can decide if you want to tie me down, gag me, blindfold me, etc. or just bend me over.
6) I know we'd have to move bring stuff downstairs, but it might actually be easier for you to bend me over the sofa arm and attacking me.At least once or 2x *hint hint*
So today was day 2 of the anal/fisting on me. Jackie added a vibrating egg underneath her strap on so that she would get some good vibs too. I never expected that I would feel those vibrations as well as I did too. I'll be modifying her her strap on with a pocket so she can add her egg when we play in the future. .
She tried some new positions for her that sent me over the top quickly. Amazing what a good prostate massage will do for a guy. It didn't take me long to scream that I was there and was definitely well satisfied with the session.
Unfortunately I've found no matter how much lube we use, and we apply it very liberally, the motion will eventually get to me more than the trying to stretch me will. So it's easier to try to fist me first then have her use her strap on on me then it is to go the other way around. Now the burn goes away quickly (within an hour) and honestly it feels amazing as it 'calms down' so I don't mind, but we weren't able to try fisting today.
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Oh, and did I mention that she took me up on #2? First she spanked me with her hand, then a ping pong paddle we bought for the occasion. OH MY! She would swat my bottom then kiss where she spanked. It was the truest sense of pleasure and pain. The fine line between Ouch that !@#$$% hurts and OUCH that feels !@#$% fantastic. She said my bottom was nice and red before she bent me over and had her way with me. I just know it was hot. Giving her control like that was great!
We tried several new things this afternoon and we both enjoyed it. On the excitement scale it ranked right up there off the chart. It was new. It was different. It was mutually enjoyable. That's just a small benefit to what this Sexuary is all about for Jackie and I. Are you doing something to help you make a change in your relationship? We're 1/3rd of the way done with Sexuary, don't wait do something today!
Dane
Man what a day...it just seemed to go on and on and on. I really thought we might not get to play today. I have been battling a headache for 2 days. I have managed to push through them and while I get some relief for an hour or so they do come back with a vengence.
I normally I tell Dane, to be ready when I get home from work, and be ass up waiting for me. Today, I told him to get ready but he did not have to be ass up. I swear I was waiting forever but in reality it was only a few minutes. I was anxious, even though he thought I was not "into it" I really was, I just wasn't sure what I was supposed to do while waiting. He usually has stuff all set out that he wants to me use, or hints on what he wants to do to him. I really was like a fish out of the water. I floundered around, going through our toy drawer, looking and shuffling around trying to "feel the right thing". I took out some things and put them on the side table, went and strapped on my dildo, got some new batteries for a new egg I had just gotten.
I just had this urge to come up behind him and play with him with him on his side. He had a nice butt plug in and man was it hot! There is NOTHING that beats giving him a nice ass fuck...I decided to just try some new things, I spanked him with my hand and then asked him if he would like me to use the paddle. OMG it was awesome, as I spanked him and he would shiver with pleasure, I would get a good whack then bend down kiss and caress and bite where I just spanked...It sent me OVER the edge...OH my...I know he wanted me to try and get that fist in him but damn I just really really did I say really wanted to ram that ass! And boy did I! Between my egg and my orgasm it was a night I would not forget. My body hasn't let me forget either, I have sore muscles that I had no idea I had that reminded me all day long the great play session we had yesterday.
Jackie
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Friday, February 8, 2013
Oils and Massages
Normally I would post our calendars explanation here, but because of crazy scheduling we had to move the Dom/sub to next week and come up with another one that wouldn't take all day and wouldn't wake up the kids. So Jackie came up with rubbing oils on me and giving me a mini massage.
I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday. !@#$% Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday. I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday. So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around. Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can". Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved. After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday. Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.
So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom. It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.
I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me. I've had lots of massages but never with oils.
First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect. I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that. She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation. Pretty cool!
I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me. She teased certain areas as she passed by. She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot. Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body. I love that intimate touch. It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that. I love anytime Jackie caresses me. The oils are just a bonus. The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus. Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.
Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great. At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep. Who could want any more than that?
Dane
Man what a day. We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way. I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit. I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day. So I thought about it all day. I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.
I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged. I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body. I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.
I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together. It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)
Jackie
I actually remembered on Tuesday evening why I had scheduled Dom/sub on Wednesday. !@#$% Because of doctors appointments we slid it to Thursday. I knew better, I was scheduled for working all day on Thursday. So Jackie assured me we'd try it, we'd just move it around. Then Thursday I'm looking at the schedule and going, "ahhh..I'm not sure we can". Jackie with a clearer mind than I asked if we could give up oral day for it and the problem was solved. After the 'flexible' day I had during the Superbowl I was good with loosing next Tuesday. Honestly Superbowl was exactly what Oral Day was suppose to be anyway, so I was really good with it.
So at 10:45 we finally make it up to our bedroom. It's been a day of life really trying to interfere with our Sexuary plans! But we did finally make it up to the bedroom.
I laid down and Jackie figured out which of the scented oils she'd use on me. I've had lots of massages but never with oils.
First thing I notice was that it had a warming effect. I asked her if the oils were like KY warming jelly or if all of them heated like that. She thought most would bring the blood to the surface and create a heating sensation. Pretty cool!
I shut my eyes and let her hand rubbed all over me. She teased certain areas as she passed by. She rubbed from top to bottom and straddled my legs as she rubbed my chest. All exciting, all desirable, and very hot. Want to know what I find the hottest? Just the fact her hands are on my body. I love that intimate touch. It doesn't have to be Sexuary for me to like that. I love anytime Jackie caresses me. The oils are just a bonus. The fact that is was day 8 of a 28 day experiment was just a bonus. Any day she wants to rub her hands on my chest and whispers she loves me is a great day.
Of course she finished off with attention to a special area and it was great. At midnight we snuggled up and went to sleep. Who could want any more than that?
Dane
Man what a day. We were supposed to do one thing, but life just gets in the way. I struggled all day with a headache and was a bit worried that extra stimulation would really set me into a deep pit. I needed something to relax me and help us with our 8th day. So I thought about it all day. I looked at our calender off and on all day trying to figure out what we could move around to still get what we had missed back on.
I decided tonight that I would touch him. I got out our massage oils and decided on a scent that I could sleep with all night. Its really hard to figure out since I have allergries out the wazoo. I chose one and begane rubbing his chest just back and forth, He asked me if it was a warming type oil, I told him no just the blood coming up to the skin as I massaged. I worked myself up and down his body, watching his stress level of the day slowly work out of his body. I could also feel my headache melt away, I don't care if was the essential oils or what but I did have a least a few minutes of relief.
I ended the night rubbing and massaging him in that special place finishing together. It wasn't an over the top but its what we both needed to end a stressful day. It certainly made for a peaceful night of sleep :)
Jackie
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Podophilia (Feet)
Start with the wonderful feet. Suck on them, maybe slide my cock through your toes and definitely between your feet…with oils maybe to help it slide, massage them..just all things feet. Might be interesting if you can think of things with my feet, though i'm not sure how that would work (other than maybe sucking toes and massaging). Start with stocking??? If so will they have a hole i can tear?
Just incase you're keeping up with the calendar and noticed it changed some it's because of doctor appointments and work, so we moved feet to today. All the days will be done, we just have to adjust for life
So feet is one of those new fetishes that we've delved into just a bit. I've rubbed Jackies in a manner of foreplay, I've sucked on her toes. She's rubbed my cock while I'm busy between her legs with one of her feet. It's been interesting. It's never been orgasmic, but it's been a bit exciting. So we put it on the calendar to explore it a bit more. What are the things other people do with feet that we could?
Jackie doesn't normally wear any hose so we purchased a pair at Walmart for her. The first thing I have to say is there have got to be hose that feel better on skin than those! Jackie said she's never had any, but those were a bit rough on the skin. Don't they make them in silk and other materials that a woman would want to wear? Okay I wouldn't expect them to cost $5 for 2 pair, but really! I'll have to put that on the need to find out more about list unless one of our readers want to enlighten me.
I did enjoy rubbing her legs some, and before hand I rubbed some oils on her feet which I enjoyed.
I slide myself between her feet in various manners, and rubbed her feet in the stockings. I did eventually take a pair of scissors and cut the toes out and suck on them. I put oils on them and slide between her toes and feet in various angles and foot configurations.
The mechanics of it felt ok, but Jackie just didn't seem to be getting anything out of it, so I didn't stay terribly long there. She had receives some new non-piercing nipple rings and we moved to there and eventually finished up.
Jackie felt bad that I was disappointed in the foot thing. Yes, I was a bit disappointed because I've spoken to people to have true foot fetishes and to them it's like "OMG it just doesn't get any better than that", and I wanted to experience some of that. And while it's by no means my biggest thing, I can definitely appreciate a foot. But the thing I pointed out to Jackie last night is that we have several things on our list we've never tried, and I don't have a clue if we're going to like it or not. That's part of the reason we're doing this. On top of that if everyone in the world like the feet play it wouldn't be called a fetish. Many of the things we have scheduled are really fetishes that either they do something for you or they don't. This one didn't for Jackie and that's okay. Really, it's okay!
What I am seeing though is that Jackie has found a new attraction to her nipples. We ordered some new nipple clamps that came in yesterday and she immediately went and put them on, and also wore them last night. She love the different sensation she got when I paid them attention. It seems this whole last week she's had a new found appreciation for her nipples. I'm good with that. :) And really isn't that part of what we set out to do this month? Find new things we like and don't like?
We're 1/4 of the way through Sexuary and still running strong. Podophilia wasn't a hit out of the park, but it was still time I spent with Jackie and that's always a good time.
Dane
Foot day,...I was a bit worried about it. I know we had had some success before. I am not sure why tonight, I just was not there. I don't know if it was the hose( I never wear them). I don't know if it was the what if's, or the unfamiliarity of it all. I have heard all the stories and how many people love feet. I have played some with Dane with my toes and my feet, but really it was by accident. He has had some times that my feet and my toes turn me on. I don't know why last night it was just not there. I know we tried several positions with my feet but when one foot just doesnt bend as it should its hard. I could go on and on however I will not. I hope we can try again because who knows what would happen.
However so far this month, we have tried a lot of things. One thing I have discovered are nipple clips. I am enjoying them so much I am almost positive that I will be getting my nipples pierced in March. I would get them done now but I don't want to be sore for the rest of this month. I had begun to think I had lost all feelings in my boobs and nipples but this is beginning to really turn me on.
So the challenge this month is to do something with your partner...anything...well Dane and I have a calendar of stuff to do, and we might bomb one thing but that is NOT going to stop us from going on to the next. Somethings we will have to retry because how many times in life do you try something one time and fail miserably so you have to try again! That is what this about...Learning new things, trying new things, and finding out what you and your partner like or don't like....try try and keep on trying..that what we are doing...
Jackie
Just incase you're keeping up with the calendar and noticed it changed some it's because of doctor appointments and work, so we moved feet to today. All the days will be done, we just have to adjust for life
So feet is one of those new fetishes that we've delved into just a bit. I've rubbed Jackies in a manner of foreplay, I've sucked on her toes. She's rubbed my cock while I'm busy between her legs with one of her feet. It's been interesting. It's never been orgasmic, but it's been a bit exciting. So we put it on the calendar to explore it a bit more. What are the things other people do with feet that we could?
Jackie doesn't normally wear any hose so we purchased a pair at Walmart for her. The first thing I have to say is there have got to be hose that feel better on skin than those! Jackie said she's never had any, but those were a bit rough on the skin. Don't they make them in silk and other materials that a woman would want to wear? Okay I wouldn't expect them to cost $5 for 2 pair, but really! I'll have to put that on the need to find out more about list unless one of our readers want to enlighten me.
I did enjoy rubbing her legs some, and before hand I rubbed some oils on her feet which I enjoyed.
I slide myself between her feet in various manners, and rubbed her feet in the stockings. I did eventually take a pair of scissors and cut the toes out and suck on them. I put oils on them and slide between her toes and feet in various angles and foot configurations.
The mechanics of it felt ok, but Jackie just didn't seem to be getting anything out of it, so I didn't stay terribly long there. She had receives some new non-piercing nipple rings and we moved to there and eventually finished up.
Jackie felt bad that I was disappointed in the foot thing. Yes, I was a bit disappointed because I've spoken to people to have true foot fetishes and to them it's like "OMG it just doesn't get any better than that", and I wanted to experience some of that. And while it's by no means my biggest thing, I can definitely appreciate a foot. But the thing I pointed out to Jackie last night is that we have several things on our list we've never tried, and I don't have a clue if we're going to like it or not. That's part of the reason we're doing this. On top of that if everyone in the world like the feet play it wouldn't be called a fetish. Many of the things we have scheduled are really fetishes that either they do something for you or they don't. This one didn't for Jackie and that's okay. Really, it's okay!
What I am seeing though is that Jackie has found a new attraction to her nipples. We ordered some new nipple clamps that came in yesterday and she immediately went and put them on, and also wore them last night. She love the different sensation she got when I paid them attention. It seems this whole last week she's had a new found appreciation for her nipples. I'm good with that. :) And really isn't that part of what we set out to do this month? Find new things we like and don't like?
We're 1/4 of the way through Sexuary and still running strong. Podophilia wasn't a hit out of the park, but it was still time I spent with Jackie and that's always a good time.
Dane
Foot day,...I was a bit worried about it. I know we had had some success before. I am not sure why tonight, I just was not there. I don't know if it was the hose( I never wear them). I don't know if it was the what if's, or the unfamiliarity of it all. I have heard all the stories and how many people love feet. I have played some with Dane with my toes and my feet, but really it was by accident. He has had some times that my feet and my toes turn me on. I don't know why last night it was just not there. I know we tried several positions with my feet but when one foot just doesnt bend as it should its hard. I could go on and on however I will not. I hope we can try again because who knows what would happen.
However so far this month, we have tried a lot of things. One thing I have discovered are nipple clips. I am enjoying them so much I am almost positive that I will be getting my nipples pierced in March. I would get them done now but I don't want to be sore for the rest of this month. I had begun to think I had lost all feelings in my boobs and nipples but this is beginning to really turn me on.
So the challenge this month is to do something with your partner...anything...well Dane and I have a calendar of stuff to do, and we might bomb one thing but that is NOT going to stop us from going on to the next. Somethings we will have to retry because how many times in life do you try something one time and fail miserably so you have to try again! That is what this about...Learning new things, trying new things, and finding out what you and your partner like or don't like....try try and keep on trying..that what we are doing...
Jackie
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
Anal, Dildos, Fisting
I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites. You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard. If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted. In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking. Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.
So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work. I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it. I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist. We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.
Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing. Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience. It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful. I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes. And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is. The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter. So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes. It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?
In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some. It seemed to help today. While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring. I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be. I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum. Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation. There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off. My prostate thanks her.
You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom. I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it. So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so.
Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries. Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet? If not why not? Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing. What we are doing this month is totally out of our box. To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly. So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere. Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!
Dane
I love this day...I am not sure why but I do. We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck. I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it. This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him. We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there. NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress. I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times. Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in. We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT. I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.
Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing. We are really pushing limits and pushing each other. You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!
Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me, Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...
Jackie
Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie
Japaneese ropes, blind fold, feathers and nipple clamps to start. Of course there will be dildos, fire (wax) or ice, or various other unrelenting actions while you're tied down. (done to Jackie)
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
So today was about sensations. Either taking them away or enhancing them. It was something we've done before (or similar) and I know it's something Jackie and I both enjoy. This is not something that has to be a lot of expense to do. A blindfold is about $4 - $5 if you look around. A bucket of ice. A candle. A piece of rope (though we do have some alternatives for the rope), a feather, a silk shirt, whatever is around use it.
In our case we found a velco mattress cover, on clearance, that you can strap someone down to the bed with. In the past I've used ties that are out of style and I no longer wear, we have some Japanese ropes (very soft ropes that tie easily), and the tie to a robe. It doesn't matter and honestly the knots don't have to be that great, it's the idea of a bit of restraint to take away their ability to just take control.
The blindfold is to take away an entire sense. If you take away the sight it's like your skin becomes more sensitive and the anticipation of what is about to come heightens your senses. If you don't have a blind fold, then use a towel or something to cover their eyes.
I had everything I wanted on the ironing board by the bed. Then I met Jackie at the door and blindfolded her. I removed her clothes and put on a silk kimono she had (again going for sensations and the silk on her skin). I then strapped on the cuffs to her arms and ankles and walked her upstairs to be where I then strapped her to the velcro holders for our new sheets.
After that she let me have total control for an hour or so. My job was to set her over the top with sensations. A cheap piece of cloth we picked up a couple of weeks ago was used to drap over and slide over her body. A boa to tickle her. Wax from a candle dripped on her breast. Ice rubbed over her nipples. Her nipple clamps we used both on her nipples and on her clit (something new she thought of and wanted to try). Then once I had her upper body over stimulated I used her glass dildo that I had been setting in ice on her, then one of her old favorites a Beyond 2000 (kind of like a Rabbit).
Ok, so we had a good time and she was extremely stimulated and just took her over the edge. The new sheets got a great christening. I then got to reap the benefits of that stimulation. While it wasn't necessarily new to us, we did use several new props and it was several fetishes and a great time.
The piece of cloth was super soft so tingled as I dragged it over her body time and time again. The boa was new and she liked that too. The sheets were new, and we paid 1/2 price for those and they are worth at least that much. We used the nipple clamp as a clit clamp which Jackie told me she loved. All of these things to enhance what we've already done.
So what could you do to stimulate your partner? Look around, you've got several things in your house that would work. Plan something today that will either enhance sensations or take them away. Either way you can have the time of your life.
I want to add here that last year we did 14+ days, every other day. We alternated who was 'in-charge' of the day. There were some great days, but honestly there were days we struggled to get through the act of the day, and by the end of the month both of us were out of ideas and it almost got to 'ok here we go, let's get this over with.' This year we've planned every day out. We've actually spent about $100 in props and things to aid us. Admittedly I've lavished Jackie with a drawer full of toys over the years so dildos and vibrators we have plenty of. But we're on day 5 and I can honestly say I've looked forward to every day so far and we seem to be a lot more at ease.
Look I know sex can be spontaneous and a fantastic time that way. I'm certain some of the best sex I've ever had was just spontaneous. But we live in some pretty stressful environments, and then to have to 'preform' for our partner and always bring an A game spontaneously is a lot to ask for. I'm thinking out loud here, but one of the things I think I'm seeing is that we not only need to make plans for (write it in our schedule) to have sex so that our partners know they are important enough that I'm not going to schedule anything during our special time, but that we actually should be planning WHAT we are wanting to do. Make that 1/2 the fun of the sex, the planning. I can't tell you how much fun Jackie and I had when were were planning for this month. All anxiety aside about the quantity of sex and the pushing the limits, the planning and especially the preparing for this month was fantastic and some of the best spontaneous sex we've had came from that.
I think when the guys take that kind of time with their partners that they get to remembering how special you really think they are. That we wear rose colored glasses when it comes to our partners that don't allow us to see so many of their flaws that we know are there, but don't give two flips about, just as they don't care about those flaws in us. I don't know a guy in a decent relationship that doesn't consider their spouse sexy, and hot as hell. That we fantasize about doing lots of things to our partners that they may never know about because we're to afraid to tell them in fear of being judged. But it's them we're fantasizing doing those things with. Ok, we have the occasional "put your favorite movie star or model here" fantasy, but we also know those are never going to happen. A fantasy of spanking my wife's ass till it's red just might and will always be more powerful than those other ones. But if we don't TELL our partners that, and tell them regularly how hot and sexy they are, they quickly forget. The best way to tell them though is through actions AND words.
I'm certain when this is over we'll have some mundane sex in our lives, but I'm also sure that Jackie and I will start planning more sex sessions, maybe once a week or every other week that will be over the top. After all there are still more things on that fetish list that we never even looked at. It might be as simple as Jackie whispering in my ear "Day 6 all over again" and I'll know that I'm about to bend over and she's going to ride me me hard with her strap on. I'll be hard all day thinking about it and OMG will I ever be excited when I she touches me.
Dane
Let me start out by saying WOW WOW WOW...this day really had me excited. I like the mixture of pleasure and pain. I knew of all the things we had bought for this day and couldn't wait to feel all the things on my skin. I played with the nipple clamps off and on all day, I swear they were connected to my clit..I was super excited. Which is really unusual because my nipples and boobs are generally not a big turn on for me.
So the afternoon started with some anxiety. I was nervous yet excited. I wondered if this would push my soft or hard limits. I really did not want to have to use our safe words because that is what this month is about. Pushing our limits and finding new things we are ok with, things we love, or things that we know are NOT ok. So Dane met me at the end of our staircase, where he proceded to blindfold, undress me, put on a silk robe, and put my wrist and ankles in straps to get ready to be tied down.
I had known that Dane had spend part of the morning getting the room ready. However I really did not want to know what was coming. I wanted to feel, hear, smell what was going to happen. He knew this too. He walked me upstairs, blindfolded. I already knew the count for stairs and could feel as we went up on the banister where we were. He then took me and strapped me down. He told me how at any time I could release myself. that he made it that way so I felt I had reached my hard limit it was a safe place. It takes alot of trust...I mean A LOT of trust to know that your partner will not harm you. That your partner knows your safe words, and is willing to listen when you say ok enough is enough.
My afternoon started with this amazing soft material just being caressed on me. It moved on to a little pain, nipple clips that can be adjusted to my comfort level. To more softness, via boa, some other soft things...ice, heat, soft...he just kept alternating with the different types feelings. It was pretty amazing...He then got out different toys that just set me totally off the deep in. I then was unhooked and we finished off with a nice finish for both of us. It was an amazing and thrilling day...I sit here thinking I wonder if we could take something off calender and have another day like this. This day will definitely go into my "I have to do this again" book.
Monday, February 4, 2013
Being Flexible
So today was suppose to be "Vincilagnia (tied up), Blindfold, Nipple clamps, & feathery things on Jackie", but after the events of last night and the fact we could have better no kids time (read Jackie could stream louder if she wanted to) on Monday instead of today, and massages would be tonight. We just thought it would be better overall for both of us.
We like massages. Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years. Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner. Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex. Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it. I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them. And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.
I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better. I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.
We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady. We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys. We also found some non-piercing nipple ring The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it. You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys. The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert.
Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings. Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight. First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points. A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes. Then next score was hers. Next would be mine. Then hers. Didn't matter which team scored, just a score.
I love oral sex! I love to receive and give oral. I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much. I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times). But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.
YEAH!!! 7 points scored first! Damn I'm a lucky guy. Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much. Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown. While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.
We had fun. We both got some much needed relief. And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night. Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.
We have 4 days down, 24 days to go. We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship. It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.
What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting. Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps. Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going. Make up your own game. I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance. Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.
Dane
Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc. However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do. I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be. So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day. And part of this month is open communication. I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.
I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages. They are very relaxing for me to give them. I know how much Dane loves them. I really had intended to give him one. I am not sure why I changed the game again.
So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story. One of our favorites is Megaplexx. Its not your average toy store. Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing. This is great store. The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced. Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them. I really wanted to see them on. I wanted to see how easy they would be. The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car. We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay. I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again.
I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score. We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE. We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him. I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score. I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all. So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes. I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close. I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me. I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth. I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy. Today though I was OK with him playing with me. I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs. I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him. I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going. I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened. I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day. FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.
Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to. If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)
So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start. We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track. We will talk and communicate more than we ever had. We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!
Jackie
We like massages. Jackie went to massage therapy school and I've given several massages using the massage table we have over the years. Massages are one of the best (could be) non-sexual ways to be intimate with your partner. Even before we'd break out some lotion and just rub each other. When I'm giving a massage the physical contact is exciting to me, even when I'm not expecting any sex. Ok, honestly sex is not normally what you're looking for after a relaxing massage, and if I'm wanting extra sex, that is not the way to get it. I normally offer a massage to Jackie if I just want my hands on her body - I want that physical touch. And who doesn't want to relax to a great massage with their partners hands all over them. And of course done right you could go from relaxed to stimulated in a short period of time.
I had a rough morning with what I figured was a case of blue balls, a severely tender right testicle all morning, an figured by Monday it would be better. I also figured that I would be next to impossible for Jackie to get me off today because of it.
We did go by an adult store on our travels home, and had a great time visiting with the sales lady. We needed to get another butt plug, and were looking for some other jewels for Jackies drawer of magic toys. We also found some non-piercing nipple ring The staff were great and we had a good time. Now I know that you can order all toys online now, but there is something about holding one and feeling it before you buy it. You want to know you're going to like it, especially for the price of many of the good toys. The places we visit are not the dark seedy places, but well lit, very clean, cater to women, and most of the employees are women who know how to talk to you about what you're looking for without making you feel like a pervert.
Now I'm going to add here that while driving down the road Jackie decides to pull out her nipple and put on one of the nipple rings. Oh my! Then she tells me she'd like to play our own game for Superbowl tonight. First score she'll suck on me for how ever many minutes that the teams scored in points. A touch down and extra point is 7 minutes, a field goal 3 minutes. Then next score was hers. Next would be mine. Then hers. Didn't matter which team scored, just a score.
I love oral sex! I love to receive and give oral. I'm sure there are times that Jackie is like "alright already, just stick it in me already", but I really and truly love oral that much. I love receiving it, but I can count on my hands the number of times a woman has been able to make me cum via oral (thankfully Jackie is a majority of those times). But I don't ever count on cumming that way, even though I love the feeling of it. So back to the story.
YEAH!!! 7 points scored first! Damn I'm a lucky guy. Then 3 points, though I extended it another 3 minutes because I was enjoying it that much. Lucky me the Ravens scored another touchdown. While going Jackie turned enough for me to finger her while she was going down on me, and drenched me as she came several times hard. The buzzard went off and damn I was close and Jackie knew it and she continued on instead of stopping, Oh my! There went a load and a half that had been brewing for 2 days.
We had fun. We both got some much needed relief. And while it was not what was on the calendar we were flexible enough to know when the schedule wasn't going to work and honestly we had more 'out of the box' fun watching the football game between turns that, playing with the nipple rings, and oral that we got the relief, not just orgasms but relief we needed after last night. Honestly we were so into our own game that we missed the first field goal, and wouldn't have continued on if we have finished up right before the kick-off.
We have 4 days down, 24 days to go. We showed that while we have a plan, our personal needs override our plans, and flexibility is important in a relationship. It was a wonderful game we played and a great way to be intimate.
What game can you play with your partner that would be different and exciting. Ok, just thinking if you're a NASCAR fan maybe the number on the car in the lead at the 1/2 way mark is an indication of what you're going to do. You know right down a position or thing for each of the 43 drivers and then let fate take a hand in your fun. Or who evers driver is in the lead at the 10th lap gets something special for the next 10 laps. Just make it up, no real rules, it's about time together and doing something that will keep the flames going. Make up your own game. I don't know many guys that would pass up an opportunity like this given the chance. Jackie did a great job today of making that happen.
Dane
Today was supposed to be be a day of being tied up,nipple clamps, ropes, feathers etc. However the kids were to be back today and it was just not something I felt we needed to or could do. I also had had a horrible day the day before and I really needed caressing and not to be over stimulated like I knew that this day planned would be. So I asked if we could switch our massage day with Vincilagnia day. And part of this month is open communication. I did not tell him the whole thing, I just told him I would like to change the days.
I did go to massage therapy school about 10 years ago, I never got certified but will still from time to time give massages. They are very relaxing for me to give them. I know how much Dane loves them. I really had intended to give him one. I am not sure why I changed the game again.
So anyway, we had a few other things to pick up at the adult toy story. One of our favorites is Megaplexx. Its not your average toy store. Its got a great toy selection, great movie selection and some private movie viewing. This is great store. The staff is really helpful, our girl probably spent about 15 mins with us trying to find a new strapon or one that has a pocket so I can enjoy some stimulation while giving Dane a great ass fuck. We also looked at paddles, cat-o-nine tails, handcuffs and also some non piercing nipple and clit rings. I have debated for year about getting my nipples pierced. Wondering if that would help me with the fact that sometimes I have NO stimulation in my breast, some days I do but I thought maybe the nipple piercing would help. Our girl showed us several so we got them. I really wanted to see them on. I wanted to see how easy they would be. The thought really got me wet. So once we checked out with our stuff, we went out to the car. We had not driven a block with I went way out of my comfort zone, I just pulled down my shirt and whipped out my boob(I thought Dane might crash LOL) I quickly put it on to see if I liked it or if it would stay. I tried to put my boob back in bra, but it came off quickly so I just put it away and giggled at the rise in Dane's pants. He said he could tell it would be a day of teasing again.
I then asked about the game. Maybe we could give and receive oral according to the score. We really weren't for any team so I just thought a score was a SCORE. We would set a timer for however long depended on field goal, touchdown, or whatever. Of course he went for it. So first time was 7 minutes and I went down on him. I swear that 7 mins was forever, and we were really into it that we dint even hear the next team score. I knew that he was already suffering from blue balls from the night before so was a bit worried that getting him all worked up would not help that at all. So second score 3 points gave me 3 minutes of him down on me, he then gave me a 3 minute advantage...I took it ;-) Next touch down, he got 7 more minutes. I sucked on him and could tell he was getting so close. I was up on my hands and knees and let him play with me. I dont usually since I usually don't have him cum in my mouth. I love to give him blowjobs then finish him off with him nice and tightly in my pussy. Today though I was OK with him playing with me. I get so freaking excited while giving him blowjobs. I know I creamed all over him several times while I was sucking on him. I could just tell it wouldn't be longer when bam the timer went off, I just couldn't let him hang, so I kept going. I even asked him to help me and then for him to tell me when he was about to cum and I would let him cum in my mouth. And that is just what happened. I swear he has cups full of cum ready to cum out this time! There are times when he blows that I barely get a taste. Not today...damn it was a lot..I think it was a great day. FYI: We spent most of the day looking at adult toy websites looking for non piercing nipple and clit clips and I bought a few...There is a lot of power of looking at toys and finding just the right one...I am not sure why but it was super excited about the whole day.
Oh my thoughts have worked through the other night to and I am much better with it to. If you had asked me to swing on sat again I would have said NO WAY, but I am not totally against it now.(just thought you might like to know)
So day 4 done, and day 5 is about to start. We are going to be able to make it I am sure, we might have more times to be flexible and times we will stay on track. We will talk and communicate more than we ever had. We will grow closer...How will you get closer to your spouse? What can;you do to spice up your life? Be flexible,be resourceful, give your time but just do something!!!!
Jackie
Sunday, February 3, 2013
Swingers Club / Couple Swap
So Jackie and I had many years back spoken about swinging. We've actually gone as far as setting up a profile on sls.com and met a couple of couples over the years for dinner or drinks. We've enjoyed the company of 2 guys and one of them we've liked so much that we've had him in our bedroom 4 or 5 times over the last 4 years. But we've never gone all the way with another couple.
I should probably state that when we first started talking about this years ago we set several ground rules. No one local. We live in a small town and didn't need rumors. No playing without the other. This wasn't about cheating, but sharing. If either of us didn't care for someone they were out, no questions, no pressure. A free and willing mutual yes or it was by default a no. Last Jackie would make any arrangements between couples, ladies and swingers clubs and I would handle any guys.
We've fantasized about another couple for years, and we've talked about "omg if they would swing", but we've never actually met a couple that we knew would swing that we were comfortable with. So there's been several nights after a night of teasing we'd go back to our place to finish off.
We've also fantasied about going to a swingers club. Maybe you can be more of a fly on the wall until you're comfortable. Part of our concern has been that both of us are big. We both run in the mid 250's and in the swinging life style 'hwp' (height weight proportional) is a norm, and larger people are not always welcome.
So we started out by planning on going to one of these clubs. The Riverside Ranch Resort is well far away from us, and their advertisements had several appealing things in them. So we dropped them an email asking a few questions and sadly never got a response. So Jackie called them to get the information she wanted and whomever was on the other end was not very accommodating. I could tell on the phone and even more when she hung the phone up that she was not happy. They are a nudist colony that accommodate swingers, and didn't have many answers about the swinging. Ugghhhh Plan 1 out the window.
It wasn't 15 minutes after that though that we got a message from a couple 100 miles away that wanted to meet us. We thought it was a bit of fate as we rarely get messages from sls. They were interesting enough that we decided to fill the slot with a visit to them. Both Jenny and I chatted with her. Jenny chatted several times, me once for about 10-15 minutes just to get a feel. We both felt comfortable so dinner was planned.
Dinner went ok, but Tammy was very quiet. She had warned me she would be. Mich was talking and we had plenty of conversation. We had pre-arranged that we'd go back to their place if things went ok and we did.
When we got back Tammy got a little sick and I think both Jackie and I thought it was all over. But we stuck around and chatted and Tammy started feeling better and eventually we decided we would go upstairs together. We decided to start we'd go into separate rooms to get more comfortable, then we'd come together on the king bed and play some together.
It was not hot teenage, OMG I've got to have you right now sex. I didn't know Tammy well enough to know exactly what she wanted and fumbled around a bit till we got some things going. She had given me some hints when we chatted about some of her likes and I tried to oblige.
At one point I had to go into the other room to get condoms and quickly spoke with Jackie who rolled her eyes some...not a good sign.
Eventually we did come back together and we paired up with our partners. Then Jackies stomach got heartburn so bad we had decided to call it a night.
Afterwards she told me her guy would go soft every time they tried to put on a condom. So she didn't really get satisfied. I was the first time he'd try to go all the way with someone other than his wife and I"m not sure if it was anxiety or what, but it didn't work out.
So we get back to our hotel and take our showers and get into bed. I've not cum, she's not been satisfied. Not quite the situation we were hoping for. In addition Jackie is feeling bad about the situation, 'guilty'. Both Jackie and I had cheated on our previous spouses, and she told me she felt worse now then when she cheated on her ex. Now remember we have had 2 other guys join us (individually, not together), so it's not like she hasn't had other cock in her since we've been married. I asked her if she thought I was jealous or was she jealous? A little bit. She several times mentioned Michs scent was in her and she didn't like it, and when we crawled into be she took a deep whiff of me and sighed a little and said that's the scent she was wanting in her nostrils. We talked, and I calmed her down enough so she rolled over and I spooned her and we went to sleep. I think 3 or 4 years ago I would of been jealous, but I wasn't. I was sharing one of my most precious gifts as was she and I was ok. I really hated though that she didn't enjoy herself.
I'll be honest I think we went without enough spark, trying to fit it in because we'd had several failed attempts. We kind of did that with the first guy. The second was 100x better. So I don't know if we'll ever try a couple swap again. Not because I wouldn't try or want to, but because I'd never want Jackie to feel bad about anything we do. So I'll let her process and we'll talk some more about it. I'm betting her writing here will be therapeutic even and then we'll decide. We may even put in here what we decide later in the month.
So all in all day 3 was down, 25 more to go. We knew some would be hotter and more exciting than others. This just surprised me a bit that it wasn't a better experience for both of us.
Dane
Oh, I know today will be hot....ropes and clamps and feathery things Oh My! But more on that tomorrow.
Swingers club/couple swap...
The thought really had great potential for us. I was really looking forward to it. We had some success with a 3some and one person we have had back 3-4 times! So I was ready to get into the couples thing. Sure I worried all the what ifs...you know what if they don't find me sexy, what if my husband lost his erection...what if they don't find him attractive ...what if what if what if... so I am not sure if I was doomed but this time I decided I was game.
We have been member of sls since 2009. We met with other couples but never played. I looked into a club or resort. I even emailed/called one resort to ask questions and they were rude about the whole thing. So I went back to sls and thats when we got a email from Tammy and Mich. We began talking. Setting up a meeting for supper. Sent a few pictures.
If there was a little spark I wanted to go for it.
We met up with the couple at an awesome restaurant ate supper I had a couple of drinks(I call it liquid encouragement)and left to go to their house. As we walked in she got sick, so we just figured we would just hang out for our beer and head back to our hotel. She began to feel better and after a couple more beers, Dane got the show started and ask her to go upstairs..Mich and I followed shortly.
We got upstairs and began to undress, and lay down. He would ask questions and caress me. He had an armpit fetish.....I really tried to get into it. Even though there were not alot of sparks...After a lot of petting and rubbing(way too hard for my liking) and him eating me out, I was just trying to get it finished with, however every time he would move into place he would go soft...I know it wasn't about me but still hurt my ego. We tried several times before he said well while they had swapped before he had not actually had intercourse with anyone just blow jobs until he came. Now I pride myself in great blow jobs...I always say a BBW HAS TO BE GOOD AT ONE THING TO MAKE THE GUYS CUM BACK..But there is nothing like a cock going in and out of my pussy! It usually gets me very excited when I am giving a blow job. It makes my pussy drip. However while I know that is part of getting worked up, I was there for sex. I wanted sex, I wanted to cum...It just wasn't going to happen. Mich got up and went and got them from the other room and they moved on the bed, Dane and I went to the floor. By this time I was so frustrated with the whole then, then I started to have the worst heartburn I have ever had, to the point I wanted to cry. I asked for us to leave. I just couldn't handle being there anymore. We dressed and left.
On the way home, I had a smell in my nose that was physically making me sick. It was not my husbands smell. It was not a dirty smell, it was a smell that was unfamiliar, a smell that I had to get off me NOW! I was ready to get back to hotel to scrub myself down. I didn't want Mich smell on me, I didn't want to remember where or how he touched me...I was in full panic mode. I don't know what rape feels like or smells like or sounds like, but in my head it almost seemed like this might be what I was turning this into. Let me be clear, I DID NOT DO ANYTHING I DIDN'T WANT TO DO OR ASKED FOR> I know I was NOT raped. However the reaction I had to this, reminded me of the stories I have heard from ladies. No reason why I would have this feeling, again its NOT what happened. I could have stopped at any moment, and I did. I also felt guilty, which is unusual because I had cheated on my ex multiple times, I had been the mistress in one relationship, and I NEVER once felt guilty or had any of the feelings that I had to deal with last night.
This is why I loved my husband, why I am glad he is so mine...all mine...he let me have these emotions, let me talk about these emotion and let me smell him over and over until I relaxed knowing his smell would and did calm me. Our communication level really rose last night, he let me know what it was OK to have my feelings, to feel what I was feeling and did NOT push me into anything but a loving strong cuddle last night. I am not sure I would have been able to do anything last night with him. Maybe I should have but I just did not feel worthy or able.
So long story short, we met a couple, tired it, and as of this moment I am not sure we will try it again with a couple or just try to find a single female to met with. Who knows...
I do know this, I love my husband even more today that I did yesterday! I am so glad he knows my body and what I need to be excited and happy..
So we are down 3 days with 25 more to go....More hard and soft levels to push. That is what this is about. Its out of our box...but there is nothing that relieves me more than our box of love while we might be pulling a leg over the sides of the box our hearts are still right in the middle safe and secure..
I should probably state that when we first started talking about this years ago we set several ground rules. No one local. We live in a small town and didn't need rumors. No playing without the other. This wasn't about cheating, but sharing. If either of us didn't care for someone they were out, no questions, no pressure. A free and willing mutual yes or it was by default a no. Last Jackie would make any arrangements between couples, ladies and swingers clubs and I would handle any guys.
We've fantasized about another couple for years, and we've talked about "omg if they would swing", but we've never actually met a couple that we knew would swing that we were comfortable with. So there's been several nights after a night of teasing we'd go back to our place to finish off.
We've also fantasied about going to a swingers club. Maybe you can be more of a fly on the wall until you're comfortable. Part of our concern has been that both of us are big. We both run in the mid 250's and in the swinging life style 'hwp' (height weight proportional) is a norm, and larger people are not always welcome.
So we started out by planning on going to one of these clubs. The Riverside Ranch Resort is well far away from us, and their advertisements had several appealing things in them. So we dropped them an email asking a few questions and sadly never got a response. So Jackie called them to get the information she wanted and whomever was on the other end was not very accommodating. I could tell on the phone and even more when she hung the phone up that she was not happy. They are a nudist colony that accommodate swingers, and didn't have many answers about the swinging. Ugghhhh Plan 1 out the window.
It wasn't 15 minutes after that though that we got a message from a couple 100 miles away that wanted to meet us. We thought it was a bit of fate as we rarely get messages from sls. They were interesting enough that we decided to fill the slot with a visit to them. Both Jenny and I chatted with her. Jenny chatted several times, me once for about 10-15 minutes just to get a feel. We both felt comfortable so dinner was planned.
Dinner went ok, but Tammy was very quiet. She had warned me she would be. Mich was talking and we had plenty of conversation. We had pre-arranged that we'd go back to their place if things went ok and we did.
When we got back Tammy got a little sick and I think both Jackie and I thought it was all over. But we stuck around and chatted and Tammy started feeling better and eventually we decided we would go upstairs together. We decided to start we'd go into separate rooms to get more comfortable, then we'd come together on the king bed and play some together.
It was not hot teenage, OMG I've got to have you right now sex. I didn't know Tammy well enough to know exactly what she wanted and fumbled around a bit till we got some things going. She had given me some hints when we chatted about some of her likes and I tried to oblige.
At one point I had to go into the other room to get condoms and quickly spoke with Jackie who rolled her eyes some...not a good sign.
Eventually we did come back together and we paired up with our partners. Then Jackies stomach got heartburn so bad we had decided to call it a night.
Afterwards she told me her guy would go soft every time they tried to put on a condom. So she didn't really get satisfied. I was the first time he'd try to go all the way with someone other than his wife and I"m not sure if it was anxiety or what, but it didn't work out.
So we get back to our hotel and take our showers and get into bed. I've not cum, she's not been satisfied. Not quite the situation we were hoping for. In addition Jackie is feeling bad about the situation, 'guilty'. Both Jackie and I had cheated on our previous spouses, and she told me she felt worse now then when she cheated on her ex. Now remember we have had 2 other guys join us (individually, not together), so it's not like she hasn't had other cock in her since we've been married. I asked her if she thought I was jealous or was she jealous? A little bit. She several times mentioned Michs scent was in her and she didn't like it, and when we crawled into be she took a deep whiff of me and sighed a little and said that's the scent she was wanting in her nostrils. We talked, and I calmed her down enough so she rolled over and I spooned her and we went to sleep. I think 3 or 4 years ago I would of been jealous, but I wasn't. I was sharing one of my most precious gifts as was she and I was ok. I really hated though that she didn't enjoy herself.
I'll be honest I think we went without enough spark, trying to fit it in because we'd had several failed attempts. We kind of did that with the first guy. The second was 100x better. So I don't know if we'll ever try a couple swap again. Not because I wouldn't try or want to, but because I'd never want Jackie to feel bad about anything we do. So I'll let her process and we'll talk some more about it. I'm betting her writing here will be therapeutic even and then we'll decide. We may even put in here what we decide later in the month.
So all in all day 3 was down, 25 more to go. We knew some would be hotter and more exciting than others. This just surprised me a bit that it wasn't a better experience for both of us.
Dane
Oh, I know today will be hot....ropes and clamps and feathery things Oh My! But more on that tomorrow.
Swingers club/couple swap...
The thought really had great potential for us. I was really looking forward to it. We had some success with a 3some and one person we have had back 3-4 times! So I was ready to get into the couples thing. Sure I worried all the what ifs...you know what if they don't find me sexy, what if my husband lost his erection...what if they don't find him attractive ...what if what if what if... so I am not sure if I was doomed but this time I decided I was game.
We have been member of sls since 2009. We met with other couples but never played. I looked into a club or resort. I even emailed/called one resort to ask questions and they were rude about the whole thing. So I went back to sls and thats when we got a email from Tammy and Mich. We began talking. Setting up a meeting for supper. Sent a few pictures.
If there was a little spark I wanted to go for it.
We met up with the couple at an awesome restaurant ate supper I had a couple of drinks(I call it liquid encouragement)and left to go to their house. As we walked in she got sick, so we just figured we would just hang out for our beer and head back to our hotel. She began to feel better and after a couple more beers, Dane got the show started and ask her to go upstairs..Mich and I followed shortly.
We got upstairs and began to undress, and lay down. He would ask questions and caress me. He had an armpit fetish.....I really tried to get into it. Even though there were not alot of sparks...After a lot of petting and rubbing(way too hard for my liking) and him eating me out, I was just trying to get it finished with, however every time he would move into place he would go soft...I know it wasn't about me but still hurt my ego. We tried several times before he said well while they had swapped before he had not actually had intercourse with anyone just blow jobs until he came. Now I pride myself in great blow jobs...I always say a BBW HAS TO BE GOOD AT ONE THING TO MAKE THE GUYS CUM BACK..But there is nothing like a cock going in and out of my pussy! It usually gets me very excited when I am giving a blow job. It makes my pussy drip. However while I know that is part of getting worked up, I was there for sex. I wanted sex, I wanted to cum...It just wasn't going to happen. Mich got up and went and got them from the other room and they moved on the bed, Dane and I went to the floor. By this time I was so frustrated with the whole then, then I started to have the worst heartburn I have ever had, to the point I wanted to cry. I asked for us to leave. I just couldn't handle being there anymore. We dressed and left.
On the way home, I had a smell in my nose that was physically making me sick. It was not my husbands smell. It was not a dirty smell, it was a smell that was unfamiliar, a smell that I had to get off me NOW! I was ready to get back to hotel to scrub myself down. I didn't want Mich smell on me, I didn't want to remember where or how he touched me...I was in full panic mode. I don't know what rape feels like or smells like or sounds like, but in my head it almost seemed like this might be what I was turning this into. Let me be clear, I DID NOT DO ANYTHING I DIDN'T WANT TO DO OR ASKED FOR> I know I was NOT raped. However the reaction I had to this, reminded me of the stories I have heard from ladies. No reason why I would have this feeling, again its NOT what happened. I could have stopped at any moment, and I did. I also felt guilty, which is unusual because I had cheated on my ex multiple times, I had been the mistress in one relationship, and I NEVER once felt guilty or had any of the feelings that I had to deal with last night.
This is why I loved my husband, why I am glad he is so mine...all mine...he let me have these emotions, let me talk about these emotion and let me smell him over and over until I relaxed knowing his smell would and did calm me. Our communication level really rose last night, he let me know what it was OK to have my feelings, to feel what I was feeling and did NOT push me into anything but a loving strong cuddle last night. I am not sure I would have been able to do anything last night with him. Maybe I should have but I just did not feel worthy or able.
So long story short, we met a couple, tired it, and as of this moment I am not sure we will try it again with a couple or just try to find a single female to met with. Who knows...
I do know this, I love my husband even more today that I did yesterday! I am so glad he knows my body and what I need to be excited and happy..
So we are down 3 days with 25 more to go....More hard and soft levels to push. That is what this is about. Its out of our box...but there is nothing that relieves me more than our box of love while we might be pulling a leg over the sides of the box our hearts are still right in the middle safe and secure..
Saturday, February 2, 2013
The Calendar and Fetish List
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| Our Sexuary Calendar |
So when we say we made a calendar with every day on it we really meant it. This excel spreadsheet was our working document for everything. First page was all the fetishes listed, then the individual cut downs, then finally the calendar.
For every day we had a link, and the link would take us to a note on what in general the day was about. You can see the first 2 entries at the bottom. These entries are pretty much what we worked with after the general ideas were set. Specifics on what could or couldn't be done. Jackie had some things she'd like to try within a category so she'd write them down. I'd say "I'd love to ,,,,,," and she'd either ok it or not. It was our negotiation of sorts.
Now remember this is from a couple who couldn't do 7 days in a row the 3 years ago. I still am wondering how the hell we are going to come close to 28, and if we don't it won't be the end of the world. But for this month we are going to get to try some things that we've either really liked or never tried but have wanted to. No judgement allowed between us for our fantasies. You either have or you don't have that fantasy or fetish. Though some you probably don't realize you have, because you've never tried it.
I use to have a friend that was big time into feet. I never understood her fetish for feet. Then one day I decided to suck on Jackies toes. OMG I get it now! I don't want it every day, but I understand how someone could be turned on by someone elses feet.
Some of the things we are planning are outside of society norms. We have experienced others in our bedroom (aka swinging), and 2x during Sexurary we plan on doing it again, once with another couple and once with a guy that we've visited with over the years. With any luck I'll get my ass fisted. We'll play Dom/sub for 2 days. We'll go out in public and have sex. Things we want to try and our partner is ok with giving it a try too.
There are times I think we should do something like this for the other 11 months of the year. Put on our calendar a couple of special days that we go outside the box so we have to make an effort to do something special (note not normal) for our partner. We would plan it and make it happen. Obviously not a 28 day calendar, but 2 or maybe 3 days a month that something special is there to look forward too.
It means for this month every day I'm thinking about Jackie. Either what can I expect from her, or what can I give to her to make this day special. 28 straight days. 1/12th of the year. And that's just 1 month.
Over the years we've gone up and down. Over the last 3 or 4 years it's been a steady climb up, because we know how important intimacy is within our relationship. It's not always perfect, and rarely goes as planned., but we still keep climbing, and we do it together. But I don't want you think that just one day we said 'hey, let's screw a month straight'. It didn't happen like that. It was cuddling. Then petting. Some sex, some masturbation, some, 'hey let's try this' and before we knew it our sex life was healthy again. So much so that our teenage boys cringe at times just thinking about it. "la la la la la la" is what we get if they even think we're talking about sex.
I remember my dad telling me once, 'your marriage isn't about the sex, but a lack of sex is a good indicator of a marriage that is hurting'. Damn I hate to admit it but the old man was right sometimes.
So make your calendar. Fill in 1 or more dates, only you can decide what the right number is, but then plan it and go through with it. Make it happen! Start that change! Go now...what are you waiting for?
Dane
PS - Below I've give you our original list we started with. There are some duplicates and some things just way off the wall for us, but we started here. Sorry for the going outside the box for format, but that's how they copy and pasted, and we wanted to share it with you. The 'definitions' some have are from the websites I grabbed them from, not our definitions.
| Abasiophilia | People with impaired mobility[3] |
| Ablutophilia | Baths or showers |
| Abrasion | |
| Acomoclitic | Hairless genitals (see gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia) |
| Acousticophilia | Aroused by sounds |
| Acrophilia | High places |
| Acrotomophilia | Amputee partner |
| Acrotomophilia | People with amputations[4][5] |
| Actirasty | Exposure to the sun's rays |
| AGALMATOPHILIA | Fetish involving statues, mannequins, and immobility. No Uncle Bob- this doesn't include Auntie May. Ya…har har har. Ugh. |
| Agalmatophilia | Statues, mannequins and immobility[6] |
| Agalmatophilia/Pygmalionism | Statues/manikins or immobility |
| Age play | |
| Agonophilia | Pseudo-rape, pretend struggle or wrestling play as a form of foreplay |
| Agoraphilia | Sex in public places |
| Agrexophilia | Excitement from knowing that others are aware of a persons sexual activities |
| Algolagnia | Pain, particularly involving an erogenous zone; differs from masochism as there is a biologically different interpretation of the sensation rather than a subjective interpretation[7] |
| Algolagnia/Algalagnia | Love of pain |
| Allorgasmia | Fantasizing about someone other than one's partner |
| Allotriorasty | Partners of other nations or races |
| Alphmegamia | Older men |
| Altocalciphilia | High heels (see retifism) |
| Alvinolagnia | Stomachs (see partialism) |
| Amaurophilia | Partner who is unable to see them during sex, blind/blindfolded sex partner |
| Anaclitism | Activities or items one was exposed to as an infant |
| Anal plug (public, under clothes) | |
| Anal plugs (large) | |
| Anal plugs (small) | |
| Anal sex | |
| Anasteemaphilia | Taller or shorter partners |
| Androidism | Robots with human features |
| Andromimetophilia | Trans men[3][8] |
| Anililagnia | Attraction by young men to older women[9] |
| Animal roles | |
| Anophelorastia | Defiling or ravaging a partner |
| Antholagnia | Floral scent |
| Aphephilia | Being touched |
| Apotemnophilia | self-amputee |
| Name change (legal, permanant) | Having an amputation[4][10] |
| APTEMNOPHILIA/APOTEMNOPHILIA | APTEMNOPHILIA= Being aroused and/or excited by amputees. This could be a win/win situation, I guess. APOTEMNOPHILIA= erotic interest in being or looking like an amputee. WTF? Seriously- you know that's fucked up, right? |
| Arachnephilia | Spiders |
| Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) | |
| Aromas | |
| Asphyxiation | |
| Asphyxiophilia | Self-strangulation |
| Asphyxiophilia | Asphyxiation or strangulation[4] |
| Asthenolagnia | Weakness/being humiliated |
| Attraction to disability | People with one or more physical disabilities.[11] |
| Auctioned for charity | |
| Audiophilia | Recorded sound |
| Autagonistophilia | Exposing naked body or genitals to strangers while on stage, while being photographed |
| Autagonistophilia | Being on stage or on camera[12][13] |
| Autassassinophilia | Being in life-threatening situations[4] |
| Autoandrophilia | A biological female imagining herself as a male[14][15] |
| Autoasphyxiaton | |
| Autoassassinophilia | Staging one's own murder |
| Autoerotic asphyxiation | Self-induced asphyxiation, sometimes to the point of near unconsciousness[13] |
| Autogynephilia | A biological male imagining himself as a female[16] |
| Autonephioplia | Diapers |
| Autonepiophilia | The image of one's self in the form of an infant.[12] |
| AUTONEPIOPHILIA ( Infantalism) | Sexual pleasure derived from dressing as (or imagining oneself as) an infant. Ladies- use your own 'men' jokes here. It's just too easy. |
| Autopedophilia | The image of one's self in the form of a child.[17] |
| Autoplushophilia | The image of one's self in the form of a plush or anthropomorphized animal.[17] |
| Autovampirism | The image of one's self in the form of a vampire.[18] |
| Autozoophilia | The image of one's self in the form of a plush or anthropomorphized animal.[17] |
| AVISODOMY | Sex with a bird. That's just fowl! |
| B | |
| Ball stretching | |
| Bara | |
| Bathroom use control | |
| Beastiality | People who have sex with real live animals. I won't even mention farm boys and cows. My willpower astounds me. |
| Beating (hard) | |
| Beating (soft) | |
| Being bitten | |
| Being serviced (sexual) | |
| Belonephilia | Pins/needles/sharp objects |
| Bestiality | |
| Biastophilia | Violently raping their victims |
| Biastophilia | Rape of an unconsenting person; see also consensual rape fantasy[4] |
| Blindfolds | |
| Blood | |
| Bondage | |
| Bondage (heavy) | |
| Bondage (light) | |
| Bondage (multi-day) | |
| Bondage (public, under clothing) | |
| Boot worship | |
| Branding | |
| Breast whipping | |
| Breast/chest bondage | |
| Breath control | |
| Brown showers (scat) | |
| C | |
| C&BT | |
| Cages (locked inside of) | |
| Caning | |
| Castration fantasy | |
| Catheterization | |
| CATHETEROPHILIA | A sexual perversion in which the necessary condition is that a catheter or other foreign body (e.g. swizzle stick, garter snake) be inserted in the urethra. Uh- good luck with that. |
| Cattle prod (electrical toy) | |
| Cells/Closets (locked inside of) | |
| Chains | |
| Chamber-pot use | |
| Chastity belts | |
| Chauffeuring | |
| Choking | |
| Choreophilia | Dancing to orgasmic release |
| Chores (domestic service) | |
| Chremastistophilia | Being robbed or held up[12] |
| Chrematistophilia | Having to pay for sex or having a sex partner steal from them, being robbed |
| Chronophilia | Partners of a widely differing chronological age[12] |
| Chrysophilia | Gold or gold colored objects (see timophilia) |
| Claustrophilia | Being confined in a small space |
| Clothespins | |
| Cock rings/straps | |
| Cock worship | |
| Collars (worn in private) | |
| Collars (worn in public) | |
| Competitions (with other subs) | |
| Coprolalia | Using obscene language or writing |
| Coprophagia | |
| Coprophilia | |
| Coprophilia | Feces; also known as scat, scatophilia or fecophilia[1][19] |
| Corsets (trained waist reduction) | |
| Corsets (wearing casually) | |
| Coulrophilia | Clowns |
| Cross-dressing | |
| Crurophilia | Legs |
| Crush | A crush fetish is when one becomes sexually aroused when usually someone of the opposite sex crushes objects, food and sometimes small animals or insects with/under their foot. Bizarre- right? |
| Crush fetishism | Seeing small creatures being crushed or being crushed |
| Cuffs (leather) | |
| Cuffs (metal) | |
| Cutting | |
| D | |
| Dacryphilia | When one is aroused by tears or sobbing. In other words- an asshole. |
| Dacryphilia | Seeing their partner cry |
| Dacryphilia | Tears or crying[20] |
| DENDROPHILIA | Sexual interest in trees. Hippy Pervs. |
| Dendrophilia | Trees or fertility worship of them |
| Dendrophilia | Trees[4] |
| Diaper fetishism | Diapers; considerable overlap with paraphilic infantilism[21] |
| Diapers (soiling) | |
| Diapers (wearing) | |
| Diapers (wetting) | |
| Dilation | |
| Dildoes | |
| Doraphilia | Skin, animal fur, or leather (see hyphephilia) |
| Double penetration | |
| Dracophilia | Dragons and serpents |
| Dysmorphophilia | Deformed or physically impaired partners (see teratophilia) |
| E | |
| Ecouteurism | Listening to others having sex without permission |
| EDERACINISM | Sexual pleasure derived from [the thought of] tearing out sexual organs by the roots. Pedophiles- you are Strongly Encouraged to develop this fetish and then follow through with it. Go on- rip it out by the roots, we'll wait. |
| Electricity | |
| Electro | |
| Electrophilia | Electricity |
| Emetophilia | When someone is aroused by vomiting or observing others vomit(When emetophiles put emetophilia into practice by actually vomiting, especially on a partner, it is called a Roman shower, after the supposed (but mistaken) belief in the frequent induction of vomiting at Roman feasts). I presume they hang out in bars and colleges. |
| Emetophilia | Vomit[3] |
| Endytophilia | Partners who are clothed |
| Enemas (for cleansing) | |
| Enemas (retention/punishment) | |
| Enforced chastity | |
| Eproctophilia | The sexual attraction to human flatulence, mainly heterosexual males attracted to female flatulence. This is a thing? Really? I just can't see it. Must be a Dominatrix thing. In that case- You Go Girl! |
| Erotic asphyxiation | Asphyxia of oneself or others[22] |
| Erotic dance (for audience) | |
| Erotographomania | Writing love poems or letters |
| Erotophonophilia | Lust murder |
| Erotophonophilia | Murder[4] |
| Examinations (physical) | |
| Exercise (forced/required) | |
| Exhibitionism | Showing genitals in public |
| Exhibitionism | Exposing one's genitals to unsuspecting and nonconsenting others[1] |
| Exhibitionism (friends) | |
| Exhibitionism (strangers) | |
| Eye contact restrictions | |
| F | |
| Face slapping | |
| Fantasy abandonment | |
| Fantasy gang-rape | |
| Fantasy rape | |
| Fear (being scared) | |
| Feederism | Erotic eating, feeding, and weight gain.[23] |
| Fetishism | An inanimate object |
| Fisting | pretty easy to figure out |
| Fisting (anal) | |
| Fisting (vaginal) | |
| Flame play | |
| Following orders | |
| Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...) | |
| Foot fetishism | Attraction to feet[24] |
| Foot worship | |
| Forced bedwetting | |
| Forced dressing | |
| Forced eating | |
| Forced heterosexuality | |
| Forced homosexuality | |
| Forced masturbation | |
| Forced nudity (around others) | |
| Forced nudity (private) | |
| Forced servitude | |
| Forced smoking | |
| FORMICOPHILIA | Sexual interest in being crawled upon or bitten by small insects. Itchy…Itchy-Itchy-Itchy!!!! |
| Formicophilia | Sex play with ants |
| Formicophilia | Being crawled on by insects[12][25] |
| FORNIPHILIA | Form Of Bondage In Which A Human Is Used (Or Incorporated Into) A Piece Of Furniture. Examples Include: Human Drafting Tables, Human Lazy Suzanns, And Human Shelving (Ikeaphilia anyone?). |
| Forniphilia | Turning a human being into a piece of furniture[26] |
| FROTTEURISM | Rubbing against a non-consenting person to facilitate sexual stimulation- otherwise known as 'Riding The Bus/Subway'. |
| Frotteurism | Rubbing one's genitals against or fondling the body parts of a non-consenting person |
| Frotteurism | Rubbing against a non-consenting person[1] |
| Full head hoods | |
| Furries | Furries are people who dress up in animal costumes and take on the persona of that animal. Sometimes full-on sex occurs, but often two or more furries engage in a behavior called “yiffing” (dry-humping or other sexualized interactions). Would saying, “Get Stuffed” be considered an insult or a compliment, I wonder? |
| G | |
| Gags (cloth) | |
| Gags (inflatible) | |
| Gags (phallic) | |
| Gags (rubber) | |
| Gags (tape) | |
| Gas masks | |
| Gates of Hell (male) | |
| Genital sex | |
| GERONTOPHILIA | Sexual preference for the elderly (uh-ya… particularly the filthy rich ones, right?). |
| Gerontophilia | Partner whose age is that of different generation |
| Gerontophilia | Elderly people[27] |
| Given away to another Dom (perm) | |
| Given away to another Dom (temp) | |
| Golden showers | |
| Gore | |
| Gun play | |
| Guro | |
| Gymnophilia | Nudity |
| Gynandromorphophilia | Transsexual or transgender women [3][28] |
| Gynelophilous | Sight/touch of pubic hair (see acomoclitic, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia) |
| Gynemimetophilia | Male impersonating a female |
| Gynemimetophilia | Transsexual or transgender women [3][29] |
| H | |
| Haematomania/Hematolagnia | Blood |
| Hair pulling | |
| Hairbrush spankings | |
| Hamartophilia | Committing acts you consider to be sinful |
| Hand jobs (giving) | |
| Hand jobs (receiving) | |
| Haptephilia | Becoming extremely aroused by being touched |
| Harems (serving w/other subs) | |
| Harmatophilia | Sexual incompetence/mistakes |
| Harnessing (leather) | |
| Harnessing (rope) | |
| Harpaxophilia | Being robbed or burglarized (see chrematistophilia) |
| Having clothing chosen for you | |
| Having food chosen for you | |
| Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) | |
| Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus) | |
| Hebephilia | Generally early pubescent children[30] |
| Heterophilia | Attraction to, fetishization, or sexualized idealization of heterosexuality and/or people who are "straight-acting," especially by non-heterosexual people.[31][32][33] |
| Heterosexuality | |
| HIEROPHILIA | Sexual attraction to religious or sacred objects (e.g. masturbation with a cross). See The Exorcist . |
| Hierophilia | Sacred objects |
| High heel wearing | |
| High heel worship | |
| Hirsutophilia | Armpit hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hyphephilia, pubephilia, trichophilia) |
| Hobos | |
| Hodophilia | Traveling |
| Homage with tongue (non-sexual) | |
| Homeovestism | Wearing clothing emblematic of one's own sex[34][35] |
| Homilophilia | Hearing or giving sermons |
| Hoods | |
| Hot oils (on genitals) | |
| Hot waxing | |
| Housework (doing) | |
| Human puppy dog | |
| Humiliation (private) | |
| Humiliation (public) | |
| Hybristophilia | People who have committed crimes, people who are cruel/outrageous |
| Hybristophilia | Criminals, particularly for cruel or outrageous crimes[12][36] |
| Hygrophilia | Body fluids or moisture |
| Hyphephilia | Touching skin, hair, leather, fur, or fabric/specific fabric (see acomoclitic, doraphilia,gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, pubephilia, trichophilia) |
| Hypnotism | |
| Hypoxyphilia | Sexual arousal from the limiting or withholding of oxygen |
| Ice cubes | |
| Immobilization | |
| Including others | |
| Infantilism | |
| Infantophilia | Pedophilia with a focus on children five years old or younger, a recently suggested term that is not in general use[37] |
| Initiation rites | |
| Injections | |
| Interrogations | |
| Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage | |
| K | |
| Kainotophilia | Change |
| Kakorrhaphiphilia | Failure |
| Keraunophilia | Thunder and/or lightning |
| Kidnapping | |
| Kinesophilia | Exercise |
| Kleptophilia | Stealing |
| Kleptophilia | Stealing; also known as kleptolagnia[3] |
| Klismaphilia | Sexual arousal from introducing liquids into the rectum and colon via the anus (for example: enemas). I get the feeling adult diapers feature prominently in myriad fetishes…. |
| Klismaphilia | Being given an enema |
| Klismaphilia | Enemas, either giving or having[3] |
| Kneeling | |
| Knife play | |
| Knismolagnia | Being tickled |
| Knissophilia | Incense |
| Kopophilia | Exhaustion |
| Lactophilia | Breast milk[38] |
| Leather clothing | |
| Leather restraints | |
| Lectures for misbehavior | |
| Licking (non-sexual) | |
| Lingerie (wearing) | |
| LIQUIDOPHELIA | Arousal Contingent Upon The Submersion Of One's Genitals In Liquid. I'm staying out of public swimming pools from now on. |
| Liquidophilia | Immersing genitals in liquids[38] |
| M | |
| Macrogenitalism | Large genitals |
| Macrophilia | Giants |
| Macrophilia | Giants, primarily domination by giant women or men[38] |
| Manacles & irons | |
| Manicures (giving) | |
| Masochism | Being dominated/humiliated |
| Masochism | Suffering; being beaten, bound or otherwise humiliated[1] |
| Massage (giving) | |
| Massage (receiving) | |
| Mastigophilia | Punishment |
| Mechanophilia | Cars or other machines; also "mechaphilia."[39][40][41] |
| MECHANOPHILIA/MECHAPHILIA | Sexual attraction to cars or other machines. Basically- men and their cars. Enough said. |
| Medical scenes | |
| Medical tables/surgery | |
| Megalophilia | Large objects |
| Menophilia | A person with menophilia gets sexually excited at the sight, smell or taste of a menstruating woman. Bloody sick if you ask me. |
| Menophilia | Menstruation[38] |
| Merinthophilia | Being bound |
| Metophilia | Another person's face |
| Metrophilia | Poetry |
| Modeling for erotic photos | |
| Morphophilia | Particular body shapes or sizes[13] |
| Mouth bits | |
| MUCOPHILIA | Sexual pleasure related to mucus (e.g. the consumption of). You would've been in Heaven here when I had the flu. I was a mucus factory. On second thought- Fucking EW!!!! |
| Mucophilia | Mucus[38] |
| Mummification | |
| Mysophilia | Filth/foul odors/decaying material |
| Mysophilia | Dirtiness, soiled or decaying things[3] |
| N | |
| Name change (for scene) | |
| Name change (legal, permanant) | |
| Narratophilia | Discussing sex with others |
| Narratophilia | Obscene words[3] |
| Nasophilia | Noses/nose (see partialism) |
| Nasophilia | Noses[38] |
| Navel fetishism | Sexual attraction to navels - either their own or someone else's.[42] |
| Necrophilia | The sexual attraction to corpses. Gee- I wonder if they seek employment within the undertaker/morgue fields? |
| Necrophilia | Corpses[1][3][43] |
| Neophilia | Anything new |
| Nipple clamps | |
| Nipple play/"torture" | |
| Nipple rings (piercings) | |
| Nipple weights | |
| Normophilia | Acts considered normal by their religion/society |
| Nyctophilia | Darkness or night |
| O | |
| Objectophilia | pronounced emotional desire towards specific inanimate objects[1] |
| Ochlophilia | Being in a crowd |
| Oculolinctus | Licking their partner's eyeball |
| OCULOLINCTUS (Worming) | Erotic pleasure stemming from the licking of someone's eyeball. What? How do you even? Wha? How would you even go there in the first place?! |
| Oculophilia | Eyes (see partialism) |
| Odaxelagnia | Biting/being bitten |
| Odontophilia | Tooth extractions/tooth fetish |
| Olfactophilia | Smells[3][12] |
| Ophidicism | Reptiles |
| Oral/anal play (rimming) | |
| Orgasm control | |
| Orgasm denial | |
| Outdoor scenes | |
| Outdoor sex | |
| Over-the-knee spanking | |
| Ozolagnia | Powerful scents |
| P | |
| Pain (medium) | |
| Pain (mild) | |
| Pain (severe) | |
| Paraphilic infantilism | Sexual arousal based on dressing or being treated like a baby, also known as autonepiophilia[12] or "adult baby syndrome";[44] considerable overlap with diaper fetishism[21] |
| Parthenophilia | Sex with virgins |
| Partialism | Specific parts of the body(see alvinolagnia, nasophilia, oculophilia, podophilia) |
| Partialism | Specific, non-genital body parts[1][3] |
| Pecattiphilia | Sinning/guilt |
| Pediophilia | Dolls |
| Pedophilia | Prepubescent children, also spelled paedophilia. Often confused with hebephilia, ephebophilia, and pederasty.[1][45] |
| Pedovestism | Dressing like a child[46] |
| Peodeiktophilia | Exposing one's penis[4] |
| Persona training (in scene) | |
| Personality modification (RL) | |
| Phallophilia | Large penis/large penis fetish |
| Phobophilia | Fear/hate |
| Phone sex (commercial provider) | |
| Phone sex (serving Dom) | |
| Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) | |
| Phygephilia | Being a fugitive |
| Pictophilia | Inability to become aroused without pictorial pornography |
| Pictophilia | Pornography or erotic art, particularly pictures[3][12] |
| Piercing (permanent) | |
| Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) | |
| Piquerism | Sexual gratification through penetration of another person, most commonly by stabbing or cutting the body with sharp objects.[47] |
| Plastic surgery | |
| Plushophilia | Stuffed toys |
| Plushophilia | Sexual attraction to stuffed toy animals (Plushies).[48] |
| Podophilia | Feet (see partialism) |
| Polyiterophilia | Sex with a series of partners |
| Pony slave | |
| Prison scenes | |
| Prostitution (actual) | |
| Prostitution (public pretense) | |
| Psychrocism | Cold/ice |
| PSYCHROPHILIA | Arousal is contingent on contact with extremely cold objects or watching others freeze. This is Nothing like when someone just enjoys chewing ice cubes. I'm just sayin'- for someone else…. |
| Pubephilia | Pubic hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, trichophilia) |
| Public exposure | |
| Punishment Scene | |
| Pussy worship | |
| Pussy/cock whipping | |
| Pygmalionis | Rubbing one's body against a statue/statue/manikins |
| Pygophilia | Contact with the buttocks |
| Pygophilia | Buttocks[49] |
| Pyrolagnia | Watching fire |
| Pyrophilia | Fire or its uses in sex play |
| Pyrophilia | Fire[50] |
| R | |
| Raptophilia | Committing rape, possibly consensual rape fantasy[12] |
| Religious scenes | |
| Restrictive rules on behavior | |
| Retifism | Shoes (see altocalciphilia) |
| Rhabdophilia | Being flagellated |
| Riding crops | |
| Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.) | |
| Rituals | |
| Robotism | Robots in sex play |
| Rope body harness | |
| Rubber/latex clothing | |
| S | |
| SACOFRICOSIS | The Process Of Making A Hole In One's Pocket In Order to Facilitate Public Masturbation (“You wash those pants before I put them in the laundry!”). |
| Sadism | Dominating/mistreating/humiliating one's partner |
| Sadism | Inflicting pain on others[1] |
| Sadomasochism | |
| Saline injections | |
| SALIROPHILIA | Fetish Involving the soiling or dirtying of one's desire, usually an attractive person. Ok, ya'll need some diapers from the Autonepiophiliacs. |
| Salirophilia | Ingesting human sweat or saliva (fluids with a salt content) |
| Salirophilia | Soiling or dirtying others[3] |
| Saran wrapping | |
| Scarification | |
| Scatophilia | Obscene phone calls |
| Scopophilia | Being stared at oneself |
| Scratching - getting | |
| Scratching - giving | |
| Sensory deprivation | |
| Serving | |
| Serving as a maid | |
| Serving as art | |
| Serving as ashtray | |
| Serving as furniture | |
| Serving as toilet (feces) | |
| Serving as toilet (urine) | |
| Serving as waitress/waiter | |
| Serving orally (sexual) | |
| Serving other doms (supervised) | |
| Serving other doms (unsupervised) | |
| Sexual deprivation (long term) | |
| Sexual deprivation (short term) | |
| Sexual fetishism | Nonliving objects[1] |
| Shaving (body hair) | |
| Shaving (genital hair) | |
| Shaving (head hair) | |
| Siderodromophilia | Trains |
| Sitophilia | Using food |
| Skinny-dipping | |
| Sleep deprivation | |
| Sleepsacks | |
| Slutty clothing (private) | |
| Slutty clothing (public) | |
| Somnophilia | Fondling a stranger in their sleep |
| Somnophilia | Sleeping or unconscious people[3][12] |
| Spandex clothing | |
| Spanking | |
| Spectrophilia | An image in an mirrors/sex with spirits |
| Speculums (anal) | |
| Speculums (vaginal) | |
| Speech restrictions (when, what) | |
| Spitting | |
| Spreader bars | |
| Standing in corner | |
| Sthenolagnia | Muscles and displays of strength[38] |
| Stigmatophilia | Marking one's own body/inserting foreign objects into it |
| Stigmatophilia | Body piercings and tattoos[4][38] |
| Stocks | |
| Straight jackets | |
| Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) | |
| Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) | |
| Strap-on-dildos (wearing) | |
| Strapping (full body beating) | |
| Supplying new partners for Dom | |
| Suspension (horizontal) | |
| Suspension (inverted) | |
| Suspension (upright) | |
| Swallowing feces | |
| Swallowing semen | |
| Swallowing urine | |
| Swapping (with one other couple) | |
| Swinging (multiple couples) | |
| SYMOROPHILIA | Arousal due to witnessing or staging disasters such as car accidents (as seen in the movie Crash ) |
| Symphorophilia | Arranging a crash/disaster/explosion |
| Symphorophilia | Witnessing or staging disasters such as car accidents[4] |
| T | |
| Tampon training (in ass) | |
| Tantalolagnia | Teasing |
| Taphephilia | Being buried alive |
| Tattooing | |
| Teasing | |
| Telephone scatologia | Obscene phone calls, particularly to strangers; also known as telephonicophilia[1][12] |
| TENS Unit (electrical toy) | |
| Teratophilia | Deformed or monstrous people (see dysmorphophilia) |
| Teratophilia | Deformed or monstrous people[51] |
| Thesauromania | Collecting women's clothing |
| Thlipsosis | Pinching |
| Thumbcuffs (metal) | |
| Tickling | |
| Timophilia | Gold or wealth (see chrysophilia) |
| Toucherism | Touching an unsuspecting, non-consenting person with the hand.[52] |
| Transformation fetish | Depictions of transformations of people into objects/other beings |
| Transvestic fetishism | Wearing clothes associated with the opposite sex; also known as transvestism[1] |
| Transvestophilia | A transvestite sexual partner[12] |
| Trichophilia | Hair (see acomoclitic, gynelophilous, hirsutophilia, hyphephilia, pubephilia,) |
| Trichophilia | Hair[38] |
| Triolism | Three-party sex |
| Triple penetration | |
| Tripsolagnophilia | Massage |
| Troilism | Couples |
| Troilism | Cuckoldism, watching one's partner have sex with someone else, possibly without the third party's knowledge; also known as triolism[13][53] |
| U | |
| Uniforms | |
| Urethral sounds (metal rods) | |
| Urolagnia | Urination, particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on. Also referred to as "water sports"[1][3][12][13] |
| URSUSAGALMATOPHILIA (Plushophilia) | Sexual interest in teddy bears. Stay the fuck away from my teddy! |
| Urtication | Stinging nettles stimulating the skin |
| V | |
| Vaccinophilia | Being vaccinated |
| Vaginal dildo | |
| Vampirism | Attraction to or involving blood[54][55] |
| Verbal humiliation | |
| Vibrator on genitals | |
| Vicarphilia | Hearing stories about other people's lives |
| Video (recordings of you) | |
| Video (watching others) | |
| Vincilagnia | Being tied up |
| Violet Wand (electricial toy) | |
| Vomiting | |
| Vorarephilia | |
| VORAREPHILIA | Vorarephilic Fantasies commonly revolve around devouring others whole, or being swallowed whole by a mate (remember Armin Meiwes? Read his story HERE ) |
| Vorarephilia | Fantasies about being swallowed alive |
| Vorarephilia | The idea of eating or being eaten by others; sometimes swallowed whole, in one piece[56] |
| Voyeurism | |
| Voyeurism | Watching others have sex |
| Voyeurism | Watching others while naked or having sex, generally without their knowledge; also known as scopophilia or scoptophilia.[1][13] |
| Voyeurism (watching others) | |
| Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) | |
| Water torture | |
| Waxing (hair removal) | |
| Wearing symbolic jewelery | |
| Weight gain (forced) | |
| Weight loss (forced) | |
| Whipping | |
| Wooden paddles | |
| Wrestling | |
| X | |
| Xenophilia | Strangers |
| Yaoi | |
| Yuri | |
| Z | |
| Zelophilia | Jealousy |
| Zoophilia | Animals[1][3][12] |
| ZOOSADISM | Sexual pleasure derived from inflicting pain on animals, or seeing them in pain. Basically- they're assholes who NEED to die Immediately. Preferrably as painfully as possible. Then spend Eternity in Hell being raped by the biggest demon imaginable. |
| Zoosadism | Inflicting pain on or seeing animals in pain[57] |
| Zwischenstufe | Person of the same sex |
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