Sexuary 2024 - Masturbation

I hate it that life gets in the way of our Sexuary celebration every year, but because of it we learn to adapt.  This year Jackie got a new job, so things that were planned for the first full week got delayed, on this day, the 6th day of Sexuary 2024, Jackie had a meeting right after work, and I had a meeting at 630 - 730.  

So when I left Jackie I told her when she got in from her meeting, she needed to shower, and then when I got home I wanted her masturbating, and well on her way to her orgasms.  

When I walked into the house I could hear Jackie moaning and her vibrator doing it's job.  Jackie had done as she was told and was well on her way to her orgasm.  I quickly stripped and spread her legs as I went down and aided the vibrator with my tongue.  

Now I've heard people say,"you're married, you shouldn't masturbate," or "I should be enough for her," or something stupid like that.  If it works, and you both enjoy it, DO IT! It excites me to see Jackie excited.  I know her favorite toys get her excited and with my aid, she'll get even more excited.  And movies are great, but movies with popcorn are better.  Don't be afraid of using toys to make things better. Doesn't mean she doesn't like your dick, and most women I have talked to will say that the vibrators will do in a pinch, but dick is what they want, but both are over the top good (note, I know that doesn't apply to all women, so no hate mail please).  

So if my options are no sex, or jump start sex and have a good time, I'm going for the jump start, and having Jackie start without me was a great way to do that. 

When it's not Sexuary, there is nothing like walking into the house and hearing Jackie masturbating, knowing she's expecting me to run in there and join her, SHE'S asking for sex, and you can bet I'm going to join her ASAP every time!!!

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Jackie Tops 3rd Time - Day 23

Lol…I do mean that in sooooo many ways.  Seriously I’m sad that tonight is the last night till who knows when.  I’d really like this to be a monthly or at least every 6 weeks.  Spanking, anal play, cbt, whatever it is, it’s sexy as hell when you take control on occasion.  -143

Jackie hit a homer last Wednesday with her night, and she knocked it out of the ball park tonight.

She started by having me wear a butt plug from lunch till time to clean out.  I like having a butt plug in, an have done so for up to 8 hours now that I've found one that fits well and stays in.  

I then cleaned out while Jackie was out, and had finished right before she got home, so I was on the bed, my ass up in the air ready for her to do with me what she wanted. 

She stared with some fingers stretching me out, then a couple of toys.  When she went to fist me it just wasn't going to go.  

One of the things we've found out about the ass, is it just needs times to stretch, and when it hasn't been stretched in a while it takes even longer.  It's been forever since Jackies fist made it's way in my ass, and today it took extra time to stretch me out.  I have a large pyramid shape dildo she wound up using on me to continue to stretch me, in and out.  

Finally I moved just a bit and Jackie was able to slide the dildo hand into my ass.  It took just a bit, but then it just slid right in.  Then she pulled it out and I said one more time and without knowing she slide her fist right in.  My ass has been loosened enough and we took the time that her fist just slid right in.  

As she was in there, she kept her fist on my prostate and before long I had a full body orgasm.  Not just a bit of cum that shot out of my cock, but my body tense and released in a total and complete orgasm.  When Jackie pulled out I just laid there in complete content.  Eventually I moved up in the bed and Jackie put the covers over me and I just laid there in the moment. 

There is no orgasm like when Jackie can fist me.  I don't know why but there's not.  

Keys to anal fisting? LUBE!!! There is never enough lube, so don't skimp here. Take your time.  The rectum WILL stretch, but it doesn't like to be just ripped open.  It wasn't to be played with, slowly and continuously played with till it's finally ready to allow whatever in you want.  Though I have found I do have some limits...not much but some.  While there is going to be a point you'll have to get past...for me it's that last 1/4", but if you can take a deep breath and make it past there, there is glory on the other side.  It will push you to your limits, but wow... just wow. 

Dane

Sexuary 15 - Hot Tub - Day 15

 I have no doubt I’ve done more things sexually (different things) than 99.9% of the men I know.  I know that because of you I get more sex that the same 99.9%.  That time you spend with me means so much to me.  The fact you continue to make sure “WE” are good, even when sometimes it’s not really your thing, means everything to me.  The fact I feel more and more connected to you after every time we have sex, play a scene, or I see you squirm in orgasm, makes that even more worth it to me.  – 143

How is it that you can be IN water and yet be dry?  Several times we've played in pools and or hot tubs and Jackie gets very dry and makes it hard (no pun intended) to enter or enjoy sex.  How is that?  

But that was my task to over come.  My solution? PINK Silicon lubricant. This stuff is amazing and we use it every day.  

So once we hopped in the pool We got the bubbles going and then I let Jackie know this was where we were playing this day.  

The weightlessness in the water helps her some.  I was able to lubricate myself and slide underneath her and we played that way for a bit.  Then we tried several other positions ending up with Jackie leaning over the edge of the hot tub doggie style.  

I had also brought a bullet out for Jackie to use on her clit while we played.  These $10 toys are great to have around and are water proof too.  The one I brought out was only about 1 1/2" long with a fresh AA battery in it and did the job.  These are great to keep in the car, her purse, and sly places you might want to surprise her clit with some vibrations.  We have at least a half dozen of them. 

So the little hot tub I purchased 18 months ago finally made it to sexuary, we played outside (yes, neighbors could have just watched us through the fence if they wanted) and of course they could hear us too.  It's not like we were trying to be quiet.  There is an extra thrill in that exhibitionism that makes the sex that much more exciting.  

So sex in the hot tub, exhibitionism, toys, over all a great experience and something we'll do again!

Dane
 

Sexuary 2021 - Misfit Toys

So if you're a 'toy collector' like Jackie and I am, you're always looking for new toys to play with.  We've literally spent thousands on toys over the 15 years, and that's not counting the rope or equipment (like the spanking bench or St Andrews Cross) that we've spent.  But as you do that you gravitate to toys that you like the best, or toys you KNOW will get you off almost every time. So what happens is you wind up with a stack of toys, that might be just fine, but you never use anymore.  

So periodically we go into the drawers and pick out one or more of the toys to play with. Tonight is was out night to visit the land of the misfit toys and grab a couple of them out.  The pictures I have in here are about 30% of the toys we have, and for the most part are in the, never or rarely used piles. Some of them have gotten a bit loud, some just don't vibrate enough, some are just not for every day use, but all of them just sit more than they get used. 

 

I changed the batteries in several of the older vibrators and even brought out a masturbater toy just in case. While one or two of them did OK on Jackie, we wound up getting out her good of faithful Bodywand to finish her off.  There's a reason it's old reliable, it works for her! 

We do periodically toss out old, broken toys, or toys we know will just never make it off the bench, but not that often.  So, yeah, we literally have a dresser and a filing cabinet full of toys.  But if we want to show somebody something, we probably have one to show them, and it's pretty rare that there is just a totally new toy. 

Some of the things we look for is 1) vibration, if it's doesn't steam roll for a vibration, we know it's not going to work for us, 2) what is it's power source.  We've found plugged in toys last longer and they never die in the middle of having fun.  Now a days the usb charged ones aren't bad.  They last longer then they use to, but you do have to keep them charged, even if you don't use them all the time. 3) Purpose.  We know Jackie likes clit stimulation more than internal.  That's a personal preference.  So we gear more to those that are for clit or anal stimulation (more for me than her). But those things have taken us a long time to figure out.  

How about breaking out your old vibrators and giving them a try? Maybe you'll remember why you got them in the first place. 😆

Dane

10000 Views and Review of OurSexuary Blog

Well today was a benchmark day for our blog.  While this blog was never about the number of views we got, it's pretty cool when something you are doing is being enjoyed by so many.  Today we hit over 10,000 visitors.  Thanks for everyone who reads our blog and especially those who have subscribed to it.  We've tried to make it an honest and open discussion on our sexual encounters, especially those things that might fall well into the kink zone by 'normal' standards. 

So what have we seen? 

First of all the anal post are a hit.  Combined the Anal Fisting post on November 14, 2013 is the most popular, with Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3) and Anal, Dildos, Fisting all in the top 5 most viewed blogs.  Guess my ass getting reamed and how we've accomplished it was more interesting than I thought it would be. Since then we've gone bigger and I can honestly say a fist is by no means the biggest things Jackie has put in my ass.  

 

The Dildo on the far left is Jackies strap-on, almost as big as the fist dildo.  The second one over...now that's a monster. This Deep Dickin Derek 12 Inch Dildo has a head stretches my ass more than any other thing ever has.  Over 3" across and over 2 lbs of 'cock' feels amazing as Jackie abuses my poor ass.  The black Doc Johnson Anal Plug is also 3" across at the base and is not going to just slip out of any ass.   The rest...well those are either warm ups or just for funs. Though I have to say Jackie has gotten pretty damn good using that paddle on me. She can make my ass sting all day with her swats.  Hurts so good!!!  (for reference the toys are laying on a full size ironing board).

So what else are people interested in?  Swingers Club / Couple Swap is also in the top 5.  It was a less than stellar night for us in our first couple / couple swap.  But it was an honest accounting of the nights events and the emotions that we went through that night.

Last on the top 5?  The Calendar and Fetish List, it was basically what started the blog.  Our 28 days of kinky sexperiment for Sexuary was a challenge to select.  The list of kinks was almost overwhelming, and then to narrow it down to 28 different things to try?  It was daunting.  But we did it and Sexuary was on!!! Not our first Sexuary, but definitely our most challenging.  If you want to know about different kinks this list is as complete a list of kinks as I've ever seen.  We combined several list to cum (pun intended here) with one big kinky list.

So keep sharing our links, giving us feedback, asking questions.  We'll be honest about anything we've tried sexual, and without a doubt we've done a heck of a lot more than most...for good and bad. We've learned not to judge for someones kink, though not all kinks are for us.  But even the ones not for us doesn't mean we can't appreciate them, or understand most of them (though some are a bit beyond our understanding).

Thanks for the 10,000 visits!!!

Dane