Sexuary 2024 - Masturbation

I hate it that life gets in the way of our Sexuary celebration every year, but because of it we learn to adapt.  This year Jackie got a new job, so things that were planned for the first full week got delayed, on this day, the 6th day of Sexuary 2024, Jackie had a meeting right after work, and I had a meeting at 630 - 730.  

So when I left Jackie I told her when she got in from her meeting, she needed to shower, and then when I got home I wanted her masturbating, and well on her way to her orgasms.  

When I walked into the house I could hear Jackie moaning and her vibrator doing it's job.  Jackie had done as she was told and was well on her way to her orgasm.  I quickly stripped and spread her legs as I went down and aided the vibrator with my tongue.  

Now I've heard people say,"you're married, you shouldn't masturbate," or "I should be enough for her," or something stupid like that.  If it works, and you both enjoy it, DO IT! It excites me to see Jackie excited.  I know her favorite toys get her excited and with my aid, she'll get even more excited.  And movies are great, but movies with popcorn are better.  Don't be afraid of using toys to make things better. Doesn't mean she doesn't like your dick, and most women I have talked to will say that the vibrators will do in a pinch, but dick is what they want, but both are over the top good (note, I know that doesn't apply to all women, so no hate mail please).  

So if my options are no sex, or jump start sex and have a good time, I'm going for the jump start, and having Jackie start without me was a great way to do that. 

When it's not Sexuary, there is nothing like walking into the house and hearing Jackie masturbating, knowing she's expecting me to run in there and join her, SHE'S asking for sex, and you can bet I'm going to join her ASAP every time!!!

Dane

Sexuary 2024 - All Day Sex

Periodically, even when it's not Sexuary, we'll have a day of sex.  I mean sex 4, 5, maybe even 6 times in the day.  Now this might seem like it's a wham bam type thing, but for us, that means every time we walk into the bedroom, it's going to be 100% different.  

We had just run some errands, so I wanted to start the day with a quickie.  I gave Jackie a couple of options, and a 10 minute blowjob was how we started the day!  What a great start to the day.  No, I didn't finish, but I knew there was a lot more to come, and I'll take 10 minutes of my cock in Jackie's mouth any day of the week!  

We were done about noon, so I told Jackie to be bent over the bed at two.  

At 2 sharp I walked into the bedroom and Jackie was waiting.  I set my alarm for 20 minutes, it was the first go around, and I didn't want to wear her out.  So I scrapped her back with my nails, I swatted her with one of my floggers (a serious thudder), and then I went to work on her.  Jackie went crazy after all the prep.  When my alarm went off, I pulled out and told her we'd pick back up at 4.  

During our break, I texted her asking if she wanted anything particular? "Some more sensation play and breath play" was her response.  So I went and prepared.  I pulled some balls I had gotten from Wish, and pulled a robe tie and some lube and put it under my pillow.  

When we started I started rubbing the first one over her belly and thighs.  I wound up with one under one of her breast and pressed, hard.  She reacted very favorably to it.  I started with my hand on her throat, something we do regularly, and when I released, I ran the balls hard in places.  

I placed a couple of balls between her thighs and then went to holding her nose and mouth a couple of times, again, she reacted well.  I put a couple of the big balls underneath Jackie's sides and had one under each breast, and then started to choke her with my robe.  She tapped out and I immediately let go.  I was ready to stop, but she wanted to continue with the balls.  

So I continued, and fingered her while playing with the balls.  Eventually I had enough and went for my pleasure.  When we were both done, the 20" circle of cum underneath Jackie was proof that session 3 was successful.  

"At 6:30, be leaning over the bed, with your ass cheeks spread," where the marching orders I gave as I left the room and let her rest some.  She deserved some rest after that session.  

Ok, she was a minute late, and her cheeks were spread, but she did make it to leaning over the bed and I placed her hands on her ass cheeks to spread them.  I then started to insert the anal vibrator I recently got for her and have used once before.  She started creaming almost instantly.  I was fisting her as I was changing the settings on the vibrator periodically.  "Go deeper" as she pushed back against my hand, sliding me as far as I could go inside her.  

After she came down from an extreme stream of orgasms, I flipped her onto the bed and then went in myself, leaving the vibrator in place.  The end of the bed, and the floor were soaked from her.  Her eyes were still in the back of her head and I could tell she was ready for a breather.  So I pulled the plug out, and just slowly slid over her.  

After a minute, I was able to slowly slide into her ass, and fuck her to another couple of orgasms.  After my 30 minute timer went off I stopped and we spooned for a bit.  We were waiting for a phone call sometime that night, so I told her right after that we'd finish for the night.  

I'll explain the rest when we get to bed."  Now I know in her researching now to be a Femme Dom, she'd been watching some porn, and had gone down some rabbit holes in fascination on a couple of topics.  Normally we're not big into porn, but it's not 'forbidden' in our house, just not something we've really gotten into.  So while she was outside enjoying herself, I sent a text, "I want you to find a 15 - 30 minute porn video and send me the link.  I want it to be something you've been watching (not necessarily that you've watched, but in one of the categories you've watched, and looks interesting to you."  She sent back this link.  The Femme Dom uses a vacuum bed to control her sub. After our call we went to bed.  I gave her 2 options, to assist me in masturbating, or we would just both masturbate while watching the movie together.  She wanted to finish the night with a bang too, so we both got what we needed and started the movie.  

We finished the night with multiple orgasms and quickly went off to sleep!  What a wonderful way to celebrate the 3rd day of Sexuary though. Sometime you just need a day of sex, I mean a day that sex is the center of everything, and you're constantly looking forward to 15 minutes from now because you know you're going to be back at it.  I can tell you that when we do this for non-Sexuary weekends, it's calming to me for days.  It gives me a sense of belonging, and knowing that our relationship is in a great place, and that we will go the extra for each other to make sure the other knows we are here for each other. About the only thing that would of made the day better was we didn't have anything else to do, and it was raining outside, so you never really wanted to get out of bed.  

It's only Day 3 of Sexuary, are we giving you any ideas of what you might bring into your sex life to get you out of a rut? I hope so, but even more so I hope you'll act on it and start something new with your parnter this Sexuary!

Dane 

Sexuary 2021 - Sensations

 If you've read through our blog you know this is a favorite for Jackie and I.  It's taking things in your house, and/or that you've collected and use them on your blindfolded partner.  The sensation of heat, cold, hard, soft, wet, dry, pain, and pleasure all in one session. In preparation  I put a couple of towels on the bed and pulled out all the supplies I'd use tonight.

So I started the night by really working Jackie up, kissing and rubbing all over her.  One of the best aphrodisiacs out there is touch...and lots of it. After I got Jackie all wound up I put a blindfold on her and put cuffs on her after I moved her to the middle of the bed. 

Her favorite cover was tossed over her and I gently pulled it down to her feet.  The softness of this blanket can send chills down your body.  It was the first of the sensations. 

Next came fire.  As I lit one of my fire sticks I then gently rolled it over Jackies body over and over again.  I whip it around some areas, running it back and forth. I walked to the other side of the bed when Jackie "ouched...something bit me on the ankle." I looked down and one of the towels had an alcohol burn running by her leg.  I quickly put out the fire on the towel.  Just goes to show you when play with fire, you must at all times be careful and prepared.  I continued with the fire till I was done and Jackie had a warmth all over her skin. 

A small flogger made Jackie jump as I gently slashed it against her legs, belly and bottom of her feet.  

I took Jackies nipple clamps and started to place them on her. In the past I've put them on and then tighten them down all the way. Today, fully opened Jackie was pulling on her ropes and acting like I ws pulling her nipples off. The only thing we can think of is now she's had her nipples pierced and that's caused a different sensation for her. 

I took clothespins and  put them on her labia and left them there.  I put a 3rd on the one nipple that I couldn't get the clamp to stay on. 

Next was the violet wand and wartenberg wheel.  The shock of the wand and then the needles of the wheel add to the sensations over her body. 

I slowly pulled the clothespins and nipple clamp off of Jackie and watched as she felt the blood rush back to those parts. You could hear her sucking air as each one was removed 

A little cornstarch for smoothness over her body came next. 

I brought her to mutliple orgasm using her bodywand vibrator then I climbed on her and brought her to more.  

We laid there, me gently rubbing on her after we were finished up. It was a great night and another great Sexuary night. 

Sensation, especially when heighten by blindfolding and tied up, can be very erotic and very sensual.  Might be something you'd like to try with your significant other. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Teddy, Hair Pulling and Heavy Petting

Ok, I'm a nudist. I love to be naked and I love seeing Jackie naked too, but sometimes, a little sexy something to wear is just freaking hot.  So tonight I asked Jackie to put on something sexy for me, and she didn't disappoint me. She was hot in her blue number that she wore for me.

Now Jackie over the years has had both very short hair and longer hair, but she has the longest hair she had since we've been together.  There is something about pulling on her hair while we're kissing, or while she's bent over the bed that will keep me hard all night. Jackies moans and reactions always lead to harder pushing from me. 

So between the heavy petting and the hair pulling we had a good night.  You know most of us how dated and grew into the relationship had periods where heavy petting left us well ready (and maybe a bit frustrated).  But it's still a very effective way to raise the libido a couple of notches...but we either forget that or we just move onto other things as we get more comfortable with each other sexually.  One of the lessons we repeated learn in Sexuary is that a lot of the things we've done are great things, we just forget about them and need to bring them back into our sex lives.  Petting is one of those things. 

So another day of Sexuary is in the books, and more orgasms are in the books with them. Till tomorrow!

Dane

Sexuary 2020 - Choking / Erotic Asphyxiation

 

We know it's not Sexuary, but that doesn't deter our desire to keep learning. During our planning of Sexuary 2020, one of the things I had come up with was choking aka Erotic Asphyxiation or EA for short.  Remember 2020 was the year that Jackie didn't know what was coming before it happened.  We just did it.  But the day that choking was on the calendar I decided I needed to talk to her first.  This isn't your ordinary kink, there are even more potential hazards then normal involved.  So I decided to let her know and see what she thought.  Her response was to pass on it that night, but to keep it around and let's try it another day.  

 Well we have since tried it a couple of times.  We have never gotten to the point that Jackie has passed out, but we have definitely constricted air flow and also blood flow.  She will go into a hyper sensitive mode, and while she won't fight me on it, she will fight herself.  "How can something I know is so wrong feel so good?" is her comment.  It will send her entire body on red alert and my touch will send her over the edge time and time again. 

Now as always I did lots of research, after all I didn't want to hurt Jackie permanently. Websites like Healthline and  askmen were where I started.  I also recommend watching the safety video at sexplations or watts the safe word.  I watched several others, but this will get you the general Idea.  Education is key here as you literally have the life of someone in your hand.

Now our play is more cutting blood flow to the brain with holding her arteries.  We have also restricted air flow by choking, but the after effects were a little longer lasting than we desired.  The blood flow to the brain restriction is just as good, and the rush when the flow resumes is powerful. Jackies orgasms during this play are extremely powerful and plentiful.  And while it's not something we'll use all the time, it is definitely in our bucket of tools to use when we want to take orgasms up a notch in the future. 

Dane

Sexuary 2018 - Ropes

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Sexuary 2017 - Still Anal Fisting

So this isn't a new topic, actually it's the most view topic on our blog, and that's anal fisting (Anal Fisting and Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3) .  So we have to believe that there are others out there who'd like to try it but don't know where to start or are afraid of what will happen or just find it taboo and want to know more.  So we're going to talk about it again.

First of all it's on our 'regular' list of things to do.  Normally every 3 - 6 weeks we have a good ass fucking on me.  Normally Jackie will start with her fist and unlike several years ago it now only takes her a couple attempts and her fist will slide right into my ass.  She's learned the art of great lubrication (we still use Elbow Grease for lube on my ass), how to start with a couple of fingers and quickly stretch me out to accept her whole fist.  We're now to the point she's working on getting a second hand in at the same time.  She can get up to her knuckles on the second hand, but haven't quite made it past there.

In addition we've added new toys to the arsenal.  Pre-Sexuary I purchased several new dildos to play with, 2 of them are VERY large (3" diameter).  OK, so for right now I've met my match.  Those 2 will NOT go in.  One was a fist that Jackie just couldn't get started, the other was bullet shaped, but again, not really a point of any kind and just never could get it started to get in.  The others I purchased were great.  Larger than what I had (2.75" diameters)  and really did a great job.  Also I purchased 1 with the vacumlock system on it and got a handle (and an attachment for her strap-on) that Jackie liked.  She's complained in the past how hard some of the bigger dildos are to manage.  The handle helped today.

I do still take the hour before we play and make sure I'm well cleaned out down there for Jackie.  After several rinsing and what I expel is clear then I go lay ass up in the bed ready for Jackie to come take care of business.

I will have several orgasms while Jackie is in me, rubbing my prostate from inside.  Not necessarily cumming, but definitely orgasms.  Eyes rolling, body shaking, OMG orgasms.  It's something I've only experienced while she's rubbing my prostate. And after the fact I'm fine.  I swear within 5 minutes of being done, while I have that post orgasmic chill, my ass doesn't hurt at all.  Even afterwards it never bothers me in any way shape or form.  It feels great.  I'm pretty sure it has to do with LOTS of lube and Jackie taking her time to stretch me every time.

I won't lie, the first several times we ever tried it just didn't seem like it was going to go.  Jackie stopped when I asked, and we never gave up.  Finally after several days, over several months, of trying it finally made it. Now we never have an issue and we always have a great time. 

Hope this helps, comment below with questions or other suggestions if you'd like.

Dane

Sexuary 2015 - Sex Toy Myth Buster

So before we get started with Sexuary 2015, I felt like maybe we should go over some myths about sex toys.  There are plenty out there and if we’re going to talk about how they can make your sex life better, we should understand what they can and can’t do. 

Myth – Toys are for just for lonely women

Fact – The adult sex toy industry is over $15 billion a year industry.  That would be a lot of lonely women. Let’s face it I remember a day when if you wanted to get a sex toy you had to pull up to the back side of a brick building that looked non-descript that was at least 50 miles from your home, and put on your sunglasses to walk into a poorly lit area and quickly grab a toy before someone you knew pulled in and recognized you. It’s the way it was.  Now between internet sales and brightly lit stores that cater to women and couples there is no reason not to have sex toys.  There are now parties that are hosted at homes so it’s more personal, and the days of the seedy sex stores are all but gone.  The sex stores today are nice, clean, well lit businesses that cater to women in a lot of respects. 

It’s estimated that in the 70’s only about 1% of the women had sex toys, today over 50% have them.  Shows like Sex In The City and the Rabbit toy used have made sex toys more socially acceptable.

Oh, and let’s not forget the men side to the industry.  Yeap, toys are for men too, and as more and more men are talking about it more and more are trying them, both on their significant others and on themselves.

Myth – Sex toys will stretch me out and I won’t be able to feel my partner or will be too loose for him. 

Fact – A sex toy small or large is not going to permanently stretch you out.  Your muscles in the vagina will get looser over time hence the Kegels and keeping the muscles in shape. But the toys are not going to cause that stretching any more than having sex with a large guy is going to stretch you.   I found several references to Betty’s Barbells that can assist you in your Kegels if you’re interested.  You might look up vaginal barbells or Betty's Barbell if you want some more info.  But bottom line is a big fat dildo/vibrator isn’t going to ruin you for a man.

Myth – I’ll be electrocuted if I use my vibrator in the shower.

Fact – The reason they make waterproof vibrators are to protect your investment in the vibrator.  The moisture getting into the battery compartment will ruin most vibrators.  The small amperage and voltage used in vibrators could if conditions were just perfect, a complete circuit out of the battery compartment you could possibly, maybe, get a small zap like a light switch in the winter.  So basically you’d have to submerge the vibrator to cause a circuit. But conditions would have to be perfect and the zap would not in any way be life threatening.  For the record most ‘waterproof’ vibrators have a rubber ring between the battery compartment and the top or plate that encloses it.

You still need to make sure the battery compartment is dried out or your vibrator is waterproof if you don’t want to ruin your vibrator after playing in the shower.

Myth – No real man would use a sex toy with his partner

Fact - A recent survey by the University of Indiana's Kinsey Institute shows that 45 percent of American men have used vibrators in partner sex at least once. One in 10 has done so in the past month. So the ‘real man’ thing is out the window.  Look in cars we put superchargers to make the engine run better.  In sports we train with weights to go longer or higher or whatever.  Sometimes it just makes the sex better when we’re outside of our norm or have some add-ons.  But if I’ve heard it once I’ve heard it a dozen times, “a vibrator just isn’t the same as a cock, and sometimes a girl just needs a good cock fucking.” A vibrator doesn't say "I love you" or make dinner or take her to the movies when it's all done either. So have no fear guys, it might get her through the moment, even a long spell, but bottom line most women still want you in the end…the toys, they just put the spice on the meal.

Myth – Sex toys are just for women

Fact – Most sex toys can be used on both sexes.  A vibrator or dildo doesn’t know the difference between a vagina and a rectum.  Prostate or Perineum stimulation from a vibrator can be extremely pleasurable for a male.  Whips and paddles don’t care the sex of the flesh they land on.  A butt plug doesn’t care the sex it finds, it just wants to squeeze between some ass cheeks and firmly plant in an asshole.  Guys have several places that can be stimulated by adult toys.  And that doesn’t even cover the ‘pocket pussy’ or similar devices that help him masturbate. So no, sex toys aren’t just for women.

And just because we’re talking about men and toys, I’m going to make the clear statement here, NO you are not gay because you like your prostate stimulated.  It means you’re opening up to another way to have an amazing orgasm.  The fact that to reach that part is through your ass is just an engineering design issue, but does not mean you are gay. 

Myth – Good sex toys cost a lot.  

Fact – We’ve found toys for less than $10 that was on our favorite list.  We’ve found toys that cost over $100 that were junk.  We’ve picked up very good toys over $100 and crap less than $25.  It really depends on the toys and what you want.  Generally, not always, the quality of the toys material and it’s life expectancy of a higher price toy is better, but that doesn’t make it a better toy. This week we posted a picture of our toys, and someone pointed out we have a $4 ping pong paddle in our collection.  Damn fine toy it is!!! Everyone has their own personal preference on toys, so if a $10 toy hits the spot right, then that’s the toy for you.  We’ll talk about the different parts of toys at another time, but make sure if at all possible you try any electronics before you purchase it, or if you’re getting it online that you can return it if it’s a real dud.

Myth – If I use vibrators I won’t be able to have an orgasm with a man later on.

Fact - No, not true. Sometimes women use vibrators to learn how to give themselves orgasms and can then better explain to their partners how to make them have an orgasm. Sometimes it will help get a woman 'warmed up' easier than other methods. But the one doesn't exclude the other.

Per a Brown University study most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and not vaginal stimulation and many would never have an orgasm with just intercourse no matter what the guy did. 

Hope these facts help us move into Sexuary with an open mind about toys and their use in the bedroom (or where ever you might us them).  

If you have another question or heard something about sex toys please ask below or send a messge to us. 

Remember if you'd like to join us for this years Sexuary Play Time Facebook group you have just a couple of more days to find us and join in the upcoming fun.  You can lurk in the shadows or be in the middle of the conversation, there is no pressure to be in the middle of anything in the group.  But if you want to have full access you must join before Sexuary starts.  

Dane