Sexuary 2024 - Electric Play

 Now electric play isn't new to us either, but over the years I've picked up several TENS units and some additional attachments that we'd never used.  So before Jackie came in I prepared the room pulling out the violet wand and several TENS units with attachments.  

I had a Wartenberg wheel, with a electric component to it (you attach an electric pad to the body for the circuit).  

I also had a set of nipple claps that create a circuit.  I tried them on myself, and at a 3 out of 20, they were pretty intense.  So wasn't going to be cranking those up. For reference, it's always best to try things on yourself before ever trying them on someone else.  You should know what they are going to feel, and know what to expect before they are in a sub space and something brings them out. 

I also set up the violet wand and had everything ready.  I brought Jackie into the room blind folded and put her on our chaise lounge, which is covered in a white fur we got for Sexuary 2024.  

I started with the Wartenberg wheel, and got the blood flowing several places, her thighs, her breast, her belly, and her sides all had the sting of the wheel and the buzz of electricity running through it. 

I then started with the violet wand with the U attachment.  this I ran around her breast, over her belly and so forth.  When I switched to the comb, I put on the nipple clamps and started with some low voltage.  I then started with the comb and varied the voltage on the nipples.  At 3 I noted she had gotten a bit intense so after a bit there I turned off the TENS unit. 

Now here is where a mental game comes in.  I continued with the violet wand and then turned the nipple clamps back on at a 1.  Jackie jumped and tears started streaming.  I asked her if she was "red" and she nodded yes.  I quickly removed everything.  In her mind she heard me click up to 3, and down the three, but up and downs don't sound different, so she thought she was at least at 6, and then when I turned it back on had gone up again.  Mentally we were at least at a 7 or better.  Let me tell you the mind is more powerful than anything we could do, even it it's not reality, if your brain is there, it's as good as happening. So that ended our session. 

On a side note, I admonished Jackie for not calling "red" herself.  The trust in these situations is the Top will protect the bottom, and in this case I did, but part of that is the trust the bottom will also let the Top know when they are in a bad place.  I get Jackie explained she was trying to work through it, but I could tell she wasn't going to, so I called it.  

If you're the Top and you don't protect your bottom, that's abuse.  Now mind you there are different tolerances for everyone, and what Jackie enjoys would be abuse to someone else, and others might have been just fine with the nipple shock.  That's why communication, and knowing your bottom is so important.  Remembering the number 1 job of any Top/Dom is the safety of the bottom/sub.  There is nothing more important!

So tonight, wasn't necessarily a win, but next time we break out Jackie will know that the clicking isn't always as relevant as she did this time. And she'll be receptive because I took care of her. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Sensations

 If you've read through our blog you know this is a favorite for Jackie and I.  It's taking things in your house, and/or that you've collected and use them on your blindfolded partner.  The sensation of heat, cold, hard, soft, wet, dry, pain, and pleasure all in one session. In preparation  I put a couple of towels on the bed and pulled out all the supplies I'd use tonight.

So I started the night by really working Jackie up, kissing and rubbing all over her.  One of the best aphrodisiacs out there is touch...and lots of it. After I got Jackie all wound up I put a blindfold on her and put cuffs on her after I moved her to the middle of the bed. 

Her favorite cover was tossed over her and I gently pulled it down to her feet.  The softness of this blanket can send chills down your body.  It was the first of the sensations. 

Next came fire.  As I lit one of my fire sticks I then gently rolled it over Jackies body over and over again.  I whip it around some areas, running it back and forth. I walked to the other side of the bed when Jackie "ouched...something bit me on the ankle." I looked down and one of the towels had an alcohol burn running by her leg.  I quickly put out the fire on the towel.  Just goes to show you when play with fire, you must at all times be careful and prepared.  I continued with the fire till I was done and Jackie had a warmth all over her skin. 

A small flogger made Jackie jump as I gently slashed it against her legs, belly and bottom of her feet.  

I took Jackies nipple clamps and started to place them on her. In the past I've put them on and then tighten them down all the way. Today, fully opened Jackie was pulling on her ropes and acting like I ws pulling her nipples off. The only thing we can think of is now she's had her nipples pierced and that's caused a different sensation for her. 

I took clothespins and  put them on her labia and left them there.  I put a 3rd on the one nipple that I couldn't get the clamp to stay on. 

Next was the violet wand and wartenberg wheel.  The shock of the wand and then the needles of the wheel add to the sensations over her body. 

I slowly pulled the clothespins and nipple clamp off of Jackie and watched as she felt the blood rush back to those parts. You could hear her sucking air as each one was removed 

A little cornstarch for smoothness over her body came next. 

I brought her to mutliple orgasm using her bodywand vibrator then I climbed on her and brought her to more.  

We laid there, me gently rubbing on her after we were finished up. It was a great night and another great Sexuary night. 

Sensation, especially when heighten by blindfolding and tied up, can be very erotic and very sensual.  Might be something you'd like to try with your significant other. 

Dane

Sexuary 2021 - Electricity

 

 

Ok, truth be told we started a day early this year.  Jackie is having to miss a day to help her family out, so we decided to start Jan 31st.  I have to tell you I'm excited about some of these more than others. We all have our favorites right?  Well I drew Electricity play for day one, and was a bit disappointed.  Was hoping to start with a bang.  OH MY was I ever wrong in doubting.  

 

Ok, it started out a bit rough. I couldn't find the violet wand, the TENS unit battery was dead, the gloves I have will shock me, but not anyone I touch, and just over all I was in a bit of a panic.  After a deep breath I remembered where the wand was (it's sad when you have so many toys you have them all over the place. 😂)  So finally I'm set, and just waiting for Jackie to get ready. When she gives me her all ready,  I walked Jackie in the room while blindfolded and laid her on the bed.  I tied her arms up to the headboard with some rope and a simple knot, then I started with the electric wand on her.  Whoops...even on the lowest setting, the attachment (the lower right attachment) was zapping just  bit to much.  I quickly replaced the attachment with the comb attachment.  That did the trick.   Now while stroking her with the wand and rubbing her gently to get her started. 

After a couple of minutes I spread Jackies' legs and started with her favorite vibrator. BINGO!! Yeap, I got the right combination going.  She almost immediately started arching her back and orgasm after orgasm hit her.  I ran the wand over her chest, her arms, her thighs, her belly, her sides, just everywhere I could reach, all the time keeping her vibrator well planted on her clit. 

After she called for mercy, and after she had plenty of orgasms, I asked her if she was done.  She let me know she was ready for me to finish things up.  I kindly obliged her. The excitement of having watched her orgasm so many times quickly brought us again to a quick finish.  Whew!!! 

So again, wasn't my first choice and yet was a fantastic night.  Something we don't do very often, and no real reason why.  This is why we had it on the list, because we get in our ruts and forget we like all the other things too.  

So do you have a plan for this Sexuary?  Sexuary 2021 is just started and you have plenty of time to get started.  Remember, try something outside of your box. Something you wouldn't normally do  Heck just spin the wheel above and go for it.  

Dane

 

Its day one...the thoughts of all that I had put in the jar...I also know he has put some in the jar...and to be honest after we talked neither remembered who put this one in.  

So Dane drew the electricity tab....Of course I don't know this.  I am just told that I need get extra high...So extra high it is...

I came up to let him know I was ready....for what I don't know.  He blind folded me and took me to the bedroom.Once there I was centered on bed and hands tied to headboard.

There are so many thoughts going thru my head, then zap..squeal....zap squeal...zap squeal and try to move away.  It takes a few more zap squeal and try to move away before he changes tips. 

This turned out to be a great time.  I really floated in and out of the clouds.  I constantly had to tell myself to refocus or reground.  I wish I could find the words to describe what I was going thru....so I would give the violet wand a 5 ***** review!

Jackie

Sexuary 2020 - Playing with Sparks

So electricity is nothing new to Jackie and I. It is not a front shelf item, but it is something we breakout from time to time.  When I think of paincentric electricity definitely fits into that category.  There is a working through the pain that brings you to a pleasure that won't be reached otherwise.

This time though our rules changed a bit. In the past the person receiving the electricity has always been in control of the device.  You control the power, and most of the time you even dictated where and how long it would go on an area.  In our paincentric experiment I took that away from Jackie.

The beauty of electricity is it doesn't just stay where you put it, but it travels through the body.  The initial spark will tantalize the area, it can hurt so good!

We happen to have a professional TENS unit, but we also have a Violet Wand (knockoff) and a new Therapy Pen. 

Wish link
This little device is powered by 1 AA battery, and kicks a nice punch. For about $6 from wish you can have one too. When you have your hand on your partner and touch them with the pen you'll feel the electricity, no matter how far away your hand is. While I don't feel anything until about level 5, Jackie felt it at 1, so sensitivity is an individual thing. We never got to 9 last night.

Additionally, years ago we purchased an electric wand.  It's not a true Violet Wand (brand name) but does a great job. These start about $40 on Amazon.  They are WONDERFUL! Different attachments do different things. The experience you can create with this little device would definitely add to any spanking bench or St Andrews Cross. 

Amazon Link


Afterwards Jackie mentioned she'd like to pull this one further to the front of the list than it has been in the past. So I think it went over well.

On a side note, I also broke out a spreader bar for the first time.  It wasn't necessary for the play we were doing, but it was a great time to introduce something new.  They went over well actually. Better than I thought. I have other plans for it over the month, and now know she won't freak out over having them put on.

Where are you at on your Sexuary? Any plans? It officially starts in 2 days, so you still have time to plan something, ANYTHING different for next month.  Be it 1x or 29 times, do something out of your box!

Dane

Playing with Sparks...so I do not know what we are doing each day, Only Dane does.  This being said I knew that this would be a great night of play.  I started the evening with a margarita, a hot bath and an edible that I had made....Hot baths always mean a good clean shaved pussy afterwards...So after I ate the edible I got way over heated and quickly got out of the bath and got to my chair to cool off.  I had a pretty good buzz going as I sat there.  After about 30-45 mins I told Dane I was good to go.  

I thought I still had my buzz going but it wasn't long after getting into the leg spreader that he began tonight's session. I had been blindfolded so I couldn't see anything.  I heard a click click click as something came on. My mind going thru the roller deck of sounds...nope not this toy....nope not this one...well I never would have guessed it since it was a new one. He stroked it up and down...It was an electric pen type thing..I could tell it was a small head and not the violet wand.  While it wasn't painful, it did not get me to the edge like we had hoped.  He switched to the violent wand again it was great but never really got me to the edge.  Even his normal touching never got me to the edge. It was then that we both realized I was no longer high.  We did stop and lay together and talk about all that had happened this night, going thru the "thorns and roses" of the evening.  We did go later and finish up, after all this is Sexuary and its about both of us enjoying ourself.

While we haven't always played while I was high, we specifically know that it helps me with the Anixety of the unknown.  That while I don't want to be so high that I can't function, I do like the euphoria that makes my nerves on fire.  I love it really to be honest.  So this night was a bit of a let down due to that, but only due to that.  We discussed that I don't want this electricity s to go into the "back of the closet"  I would like to revisit it, both high and not...Jackie

  

Sexuary 2015 - TENS / Electricity

So it's Sexuary and you want to go outside the box a bit.  How about using that TENS unit?  We first discussed it in Sexuary 2013 in an article here, and again when I purchased our first attachment here.  Some of it went very well, some not so well for us.

But what is electricity play?  It's just that, using electricity to help with or cause orgasms or just feeling good sensations.  A TENS (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) unit is a medical unit used to help patients with muscle issues in their back, arms and legs (I'm sure almost any place).  TENS machines works by sending stimulating pulses across the surface of the skin and along the nerve strands. The stimulating pulses help prevent pain signals from reaching the brain.Tens devices also help stimulate your body to produce higher levels of its own natural "Endorphins".  If you put those pulses in just the right places, well what you could get is an orgasm.

The electricity will flow from 1 pad to the other, so you want everything in direct line of where those spots you want stimulated are.  Common electrode placement for penises is on the underside of the shaft, with one pad near the head of the penis and one at the base. Alternatively, for testicular enjoyment, place one pad on the top of the scrotum and the other on the bottom. For vaginas, a pad on either side of the clit or opposite sides of the vaginal opening can feel wonderful. A pad on each side of the anus is also an option. Keep in mind, the jelly-like pad adhesive is very sticky and works best on smooth skin. It’s best to shave first if you’re working with a very hairy area.

You can also find attachments for your TENS units like the Penis straps or anal plugs and if you look you'll find more. The one caveat I'll give on these is to use LOTS of medical gel.  It's cheap and worth every drop you put on the unit.  Otherwise you'll feel sparking instead of a nice current.  Nothing like having a your penis strapped down and sparks biting into it.  Read the directions!!! I didn't at first and was very disappointed at the outcome.

Now there are other devices that use electricity The Violet Wand is probably the most famous.  It's not cheap (about $200), but do you really want the cheapest model when you're talking about sending electricity through your body?  This wand is made to run over yourself or someone and kind of acts like a plasma ball we had growing up, except you are the other side of the electricity with no glass in between.  I've never experienced them first hand but have spoken with people who have and everyone loves these jewels.  


So first question, does it hurt?  The only time I've ever had a painful experience is when I used an attachment with no gel.  Otherwise I could crank up the medical unit full blast (slowly of course) and had a great sensation.  When we use them on Jackie she'll need a breather from her orgasms.  They are intense and continuous until she turns off the unit once they start.  Take it slow, and gradually increase your power till you find that sweet spot.

Will you always orgasm?  While Jackie has always been able to orgasm I've never been able to cum with the TENS unit.  I have however had great sensations that have almost brought me there.  I'm still working on placement, but I still recommend trying it.

Can you use a TENS during sex?  Both of you might be wearing 1 set of pads, or just the act of each of you having a set of pads while having sex will cause extra stimulation and will mimic suckling on your clit, testicles, or anus during intercourse can take your lovemaking to new heights.

So if you have that TENS unit in the closet from a bad back, then break it out and try it for other purposes.  If you are thinking about some sort of electrical play, then Jackie and I recommend going for it!!!  One of the great things about TENS units is they are just as good for single play as for with a partner.  So whether Sexuary is about "ME" time or "US" time it's a great way to go.

Got some other scoop on electric play that makes you go over the top?  Share it here for everyone to learn.  Recommendation on a specific type of electric toy?  Or just what you've found works or doesn't work please share so others can learn!.

Hope your Sexuary 2015 is going well!!!

Dane