Sexuary 2023 - Upper Harness Roping

 

We've really been working on rope.  We use to do rope every week for date night on Mondays, and somewhere along the way it's been dropped.  Oh occasionally we'll do a quick tie, but we use to do lots of suspension and all the ties that goes with it.  So we're a long way from where we were.  

Friday after dinner we broke out the ropes and started a harness.  Last time I had put to much pressure where Jackie had surgery. So this time I made sure that there would be no pressure there. 

I put on a top harness and then came down to her belly and did a few more wraps.  

Now, when I put her on the bed, the bottom ropes all gathered up on her belly, but the upper ropes all stayed put.  It was very distracting to me and a bit disappointing.  After a few minutes of playing I pulled Jackie up to pull the ropes off.  

She enjoyed the ropes, I was frustrated.  

It means I need to practice more on my ties and stays to keep ropes in place. Jackie would actually maybe start a weekly zoom/online session where were work with others to teach and learn.  Maybe, we'll see. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Choking again

So during TKF we learned a way to choke that will within about 5 -10 seconds send a person out cold.  It's a bit scary, especially at first, but it's been added to our toolbox of things to try.

I spoke with Jackie before we started.  It was her call, but I wanted to continue to push her.  I really wanted to make her black out, and I wanted to work on her breath play too.  

Normally I lay beside Jackie when we do choking/breath play, but tonight I sat behind Jackie in the bed.  She wanted to make sure if she blacked out, that I would be able to hold her up.  

We started with breath play.  This month we've been working on Jackie controlling her reaction when she gets to the end of her limit.  In the past she would swat at me and try to pull my hand off, or something of the sort.  Now she can tap my hand or let me know.  If I'm close to my count I'll start to softly count out loud so Jackie knows how much longer we have and she'll hold tight and let me finish.  We're up over a minute. 

Now what does Jackie get out of this?  She gets a head rush that is incredible.  She goes to a space that is very peaceful and comforting.  

After playing 3 times with breath play, Jackie decided to allow me to black her out one time.  So I did.  She slowly came back too, and again she was in a very peaceful place.  

When we were done we laid there for a long time as Jackie drifted in and out of subspace. 

May you find the way to get in and out of subspace, it's a great place and only those willing to live on the edge will find that kind of space. 

Dane
 

Sexuary 2023 - Anal Fisting

 So one of the things I learned at TKF this year was that I was probably over doing it while trying to clean out my ass for anal play.  I've been taking an hour or more, to clean out for anal play and particularly fisting.  We learned that a couple of fleet enemas would be enough for what we were wanting to do.  Why is this important? Well first of all it only takes 15 minutes or so to run a couple of Fleet enemas through instead of the hour or so.  But more importantly it's not near as stressful on my bowels since I'm using a fraction of the water, yet Jackie says I'm just as clean as before.  This is a major game changer for me. 

So Jackie told me to get ready and we were going to try another ass fisting.  

At about 3:30 I did one Fleet, and then about 5:30 I did 2 more quick rounds and was done.  

I went ass up into the bed and Jackie put on the latex gloves and started lathering up the lube.  Using some of the techniques she learned at TKF she started working on opening up my ass.  After a while she grabbed a stretching dildo and worked it in.  When she was finished her hand went right into my ass, and after a few seconds a massive body orgasm hit me. There is just something about being massaged from the inside like that, that no other way can compare to.  

I get it, it's not for everyone.  There is definitely some stretching that has to be done, and there is a moment where it's a bit uncomfortable, but then....then OMG.  If you look through this blog you'll see where it didn't happen the first time for us, it didn't even happen the 2nd or 3rd time.  And even now we can have days that we can't make it, that's just part of anal play.  But if you're looking for something to fel amazing and push your limits, maybe anal fisting is what you're looking for. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Canvas Picture Art

 So a couple of weeks ago I went online and purchased a canvas with a picture of Jackie that I had taken during Sexuary 2021. She was laying on the bed with one of my shirts on and just looked hot in it.  It was a black and white picture and the canvas was a 36" x 12" canvas that I have the perfect space for in our bedroom.  

I went to https://www.canvasworld.com and ordered the picture.  I showed up about 4 days later.  I was very impressed with the quality of the picture and the speed in which I got it.  I did have to decide between the one, two, or three canvas pictures.  For this I decided 1 was enough, but I will probably go back at another time and order more from them with multiple canvases 

So Tuesday night came around and we had dinner with some friends.  When we got home I broke out the canvas I had ordered.  I asked Jackie to take her acrylics and paint part of the painting to highlight.  I should of taken a bit more care on the pictures, as really the only place to paint was her lips.  I would of loved to of had her fingernails too, but her hands were folded in the picture. 

She painted her lips and I have put the picture up in our bedroom already. It's cool to have the black and white painting with the red lips looking over our bed now. I love it and love that Jackie was able to put her personal touch on it. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Romance Part 3

 

So in case you've missed it, on Mondays I've tried my best to be a bit more romantic.  Not so much kink, but over an above with loving gestures to show Jackie how much I appreciate her and love her even after over 18 years together.  

I was working closing up TKF and was going to be home much later than I originally thought I would.  But I had a plan and was going to keep it up.  

I ran to the store before she got off of work and got some flowers and was looking for a piece of chocolate cake when I ran into some chocolate dipped strawberries dipped in milk chocolate and brought them back to Jackie.  I took Jackie out for a nice steak dinner and then we came back.  

When we went to the bedroom, I rubbed Jackie's feet with lotion and then started on her back before we went any further.  

Afterwards we tried a different position that led to even more different fun and before you knew it we were laying in each others arms, all content and very close.  While we enjoy kink and kinky things, the romance of each others touch is just as exciting and satisfying as all the extra stuff we try so often.  

Don't forget the romance in your relationship, and this year for Sexuary 2023, I have made it a priority to bring it back for Jackie and I. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Texas Kink Fest

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Sexuary 2023 - Oh Well

Do you see a repeating theme when I tell you that things, even planned things, don't always work out the way you plan them?  So if you don't make an effort I don't know how any couple ever have sex.  So Jackie and I are getting ready to go to Texas Kink Fest (will be in the next post) and have plans to take lunch together so we can get a quickie in.  This is not something we do very often, so it's different for us. Unfortunately I needed Jackie to get a few things done for TKF before I left.  I was leaving on Wednesday and she was coming the following day with our neighbor.  If it wasn't 100% needed I'd of thrown her in bed for lunch, but I absolutely needed her to do something for me before I left. 

 So this day was a bust.  A goodbye kiss was about the best we could do. 

 I'll admit I was very disappointed.  I get very excited when we are going to play and very disappointed when something comes up that it doesn't happen.  Over the years I've had to caution Jackie against promising something sexual and not delivering because it really does hurt.  This was just one of those times though that nothing could be done. 

 Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Romance

 So while this was supposed to be on Monday, in keeping with my calendar, it just couldn't happen.  Work, not feeling great, and not able to get things setup just made it where I had to swap days.  But that didn't help on Tuesday.  Things were still hectic, so I had to modify the plans again. 

Instead of making dinner I wound up taking Jackie out to dinner to some place that is around us but we'd never been to.  It was relatively early, so there were just a few of us in the restaurant. It was nice and we were able to talk and enjoy dinner, except for a CEO calling me because they'd lost their phone. I was able to push it off to a co-worker, and get back to Jackie.  

When we came back we took things slowly, lots of kissing and taking things slowly. Real slowly.  

We've gotten into some ruts, and one of them is hoping right into things and not take time with sex.  While we do often go out, even there we get into ruts and go to the same 5 places over and over. We have to have special time, special places to make sure there are days that are special 

When was the last, non-occasion that you truly did something special for your significant other?  Took them some place special? It's one reason we have Sexuary to  remind us to do these things. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Breast Art

Once again the plans for Monday just weren't going to happen, so I decided to switch Monday and Tuesday's schedule for tonight.  

One of the things I have tried to plan this Sexuary is art projects.  While I'm not creative at all, Jackie loves arts and crafts.  So I've tried to tie Sexuary to her craftiness.  This week I decided to make plaster of Jackie's breast for her to paint any way she'd like.  This was an idea I got from a breast cancer page https://diaryofadetour.com/making-a-breast-cast/ 

On the day of this we put down the sheets we've used for the painting, and I slathered her up with Vasoline.  Then I started putting the strips of plaster on her.  The first one got all crinkled up and I had to pull it apart.  After that I got the hang and started putting the strips on, going multiple ways and spreading them out.  At one point, the entire plaster was starting to slide off of Jackie.  She had to hold it up while I finished it up. 

Now when we finished, there were some thin spots.  Jackie went back the next day and added a few more strips of plaster to firm it up and fill in the soft spots. Now I'm just waiting for Jackie to paint it.  I'll update it in here when she's done. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Change of plans again

Once again the best laid plans of mice and men come to pass.  Recently we'd met a couple that we've really gotten to know and like.  We've even play around a bit, a bit more than teasing, but not near enough to satisfy any of us. So we were looking forward to playing with them this Sunday and satisfying some appetites that have grown since our last encounter.  

Sadly one of them got sick while traveling and we couldn't get together.  Another plan by the wayside. 

So I break out the floggers and put Jackie up against the St. Andrew's Cross.  Little did I know that something that day had triggered Jackie and she needed a release, a release she gets sometimes through pain.  This day was one of those days.  

After a series of abnormally rigorous flogging for Jackie, she was able to release, the release she was looking for.  

It's interesting to me that even though I didn't realize she needed such a release, I chose one of the best ways to give that to her this night as an alternative to what was planned.  Instinct? Reading body signs and just not realizing it?  I just know that today I was able to give Jackie what she needed when she needed it, and why? Because we stepped out of the ordinary to the extraordinary with our sex life, with trusting each other and because we make each other our priorities.  

What have you done in your relationship to make your partner your priority, to try something different, so push your boundaries? 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Needle Play - Shadow Pictures

 So this day was going to be busy before we ever started out.  I would be out of the house by 530 in the morning and then meet Jackie about noon for a family gathering, in another town.  We'd be home late so I knew we couldn't plan any long term Once we got home though, I had some plans before we'd play. 

You see, I'm supposed to get a picture a day from Jackie.  While I like the sexy pictures, I wanted pictures of her feet, eyes, breast, sexy poses, maybe in lingerie, what ever she wanted to send me. A friend of mine had sent me a link to taking shadow photos.  I had tried them and pretty cool, so I wanted to try them with Jackie.  

The idea is you put a flashlight between the person and the wall and then take a picture without flash from the other side.  So we experimented with Jackie and the results were amazing.  To see the instructions I followed go here - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRwCmYeX/ 

But after taking pictures, t was time to move onto the next part, needle play. We decided to do a mandala of sorts.  While I'm not a perfectionist with needles, I'm getting much better aligning them for designs.  This design used 5 different size needles from 27 gauge and bigger.  

This design took about 30 minutes to do.  When I was done I always allow Jackie time to just live in the moment.  After a couple of minutes she asked me to come press on them.  After about 90 seconds of putting pressure on the needles with my hand spread wide, I let go again, and again, I sat on the bed and allowed her to be in the moment, where ever she goes in times like these. 

After a bit she was ready to have the needles removed.  One at a time (I've learned the lesson of trying to do more than one at a time) I pull them out.  In this case from the largest to the smallest.  This is part of the process and as such, part of the mental state that Jackie achieves     through needle play. When I'm done I cover her with a weighted blanket and darken the room.  Music plays in the background, and I lay back on the bed and wait till Jackie has fully gone through her subspace and comes back to Earth.  

Another day of Sexuary 2023 is done, and we've tried something new.  

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Rope Play

 On Friday Jackie's sister was coming to spend the night for a big day the next night  We had a bit of time between getting off of work and her family showing up.  I decided it was a good day for some rope play.  

I was able to create a harness and cupcake tie (tie the breast up so they flare a bit at the end) and laid her on the bed and started making out with her.  Unfortunately, because of her new implant she wasn't able to stay in that position roped up for long.  We had to stop and untie her before we could continue on. 

I will admit, that threw me off having to stop like that and then start back up.  Jackie persisted and We made the night work, but it's something I'll have to remember.  The implant in her back is new, so still having to figure that all out.  

If you're interested in roping, there are great youtube videos.  One of my favorite sites is crashrestraint.com. You can look on Fetlife and find a local roping group too, that's how Jackie and I got started.  

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Choking

Over the last year or so Jackie and I have delved into choking and breath play as part of our sex life. It's different for us, and the rush to Jackie's brain when the blood and air start to flow puts her into a very special place we can't achieve otherwise. 

Mind you we are careful, I'm always counting and knowing where she is, and while we've pushed her, shes never blacked out while playing.  

 

In the past though she would panic at times, making it more difficult especially when we were doing breath play.  So tonight I calmly told Jackie I wanted her to focus on staying calm...fade if she could... but not to panic.  

There are times I hold her jugglers and count, and then when I release after about a 30 count, the blood will rush back into her head.  Normally there is no panicking when I do that. It's when I hold her nose closed with one hand and cover her mouth with the other that she sometimes panic.  But I asked her to just hang with me.  If she had to tap my hand.  If I was very close to where I wanted to be I would count out loud for her so she knew there would only be a could of seconds left. 

 

In the past we've worked up to a count of about 45, but I knew if I could keep Jackie calm she'd go much longer.  The longer the hold, the bigger the rush afterwards.  The first time after talking and calming her we made it to 60 seconds without any problems.  On the second attempt at about 54 seconds she tapped my hand and I counted out 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and then let her breath and she held with me.  The third and final time I could tell about the same place she was about to panic but she held it to the full 60 count.  

 

After each time I whispered words of affirmation on how well she was doing. She was into such a space we had to pause for a few minutes to let her come back to earth before moving on.  

 

It's different.  It's not for everyone, but it is something we enjoy, and the thought of Jackie just fading out for a minute is extremely exciting for me personally.  

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Anal Play

 I love ass play, there is no secret in that.  But sometimes no matter what we want it just isn't going to happened.  This day I cleaned out and when Jackie started in I had a sharp pain happen.  It felt like a cut on the inside and to say it was painful would be an understatement.  Unfortunately it hurt so bad that I didn't want to do anything else till to late in the evening.  

It's part of Sexuary for us.  Every year we have a day or two that just don't happen the way we plan them.  Sometimes it's illnesses, sometimes it's attitudes, sometimes it just doesn't happen.  Today was one of those days, but at least we tried. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Kick Off - Romance

Sexuary 2023 - Romance

 

 The last 6 months or so have been rough for Jackie and myself.  Jackie has had 3 surgeries and 1 of them has affected her sexually, the other two have helped her back and pain caused, but it's been a long road to recovery.  This is life.  One day while playing one night and having to stop because of her back issues, we were talking and she mentioned she things her body needs to relearn so many things.  This led me to opening Seuxary 2023 with a romantic day.  A back to basics approach to things.  

 

 Sometimes we get so caught up on the next great adventure that we forget that getting here is part of the fun, and oh, by the way we had a great time then too.  

 

 So this morning I had to run to the store and picked up a bouquet of flowers.  Little did Jackie know that was the start. I sent a message that dinner would be at 5:30.  Now mind you we're empty nesters, and unless we are going out to eat, we generally just nibble on something and not really eat a dinner.  Tonight there was going to be dinner.  

 

 While Jackie occupied herself I set the table with the flowers and a candle.  I brought out the real plates (normally we are paper plates only), and threw dinner in the oven.  I picked her up a chicken parm, and a pesto salmon for myself.  I also made salads with homemade blue cheese dressing, and stuffed mushrooms for appetizers.  We ate to music in the back ground and the candle light flickering across the table.  

 

 I then gave her 30 minutes to go partake in her 420, and then come back in.  We kissed a little but then I led us to the shower where I washed her hair, and kissed on her while in the shower.  When we got out I brushed her hair for her until it was totally unknotted and  nice and soft.  

 

 We headed to bed where I took my time kissing on her and licking all over before slowly and purposefully taking her.  It was full feeling and full of contact.  I could tell by her actions that the plans for tonight had hit a nerve and done the job I was hoping for.  

 

 Sexuary 2023 is off and running and while each weekday has a 'theme' of sorts, the weekends are a hodgepodge of events.  This year I'm going in a totally different direction then in the past.  There are new things coming up, and some totally out of my zone, but I know that Jackie will love them.  

 

 When was the last time you took the time to plan a date, or an evening with your significant other?  Made sure they knew you thought them important in your life.  I wrote this in a group I belong to today, and I know it's easy to overlook:

"While we love Sexuary in February, it just didn't work out that way this year, but our relationship deserves a conscious, purposeful month of making sure we are number one to each other and we keep ourselves out of the ruts that life so easily slides us into."

 

  Hope if you're a regular reader of our blog you follow along this month, comment if you'd like and most importantly, do something outside of your norm to make sure your partner knows they are still number 1 for you!

Dane

As you all know Sexuary in February just couldn’t happen due to other things in life. So, we talked about what we should do…So now here we are May 1^st.

I have told Dane, in years past that it causes me too much anxiety to know what’s going on the calendar for the month.  So, while we talked about ideas, I left the planning to him.  So, leading up to the month, I have seen several packages come in that were not in Dane’s normal shopping habits.  I have seen paint, brushes, canvas, and other “artsy crafty” type things.  So that is what I have known thus far.  I had some things that he asked me to do before the month started.  My mind has been thinking for over a week on what was going to happen.  I told Dane that I felt like it was waiting for Christmas morning.  I just can’t wait to see what he has planned for us.

That leads us to day one.  I am told supper is at 5:30. While I went and took a nice hot bubble bath, had a glass of wine, and read part of a great book.  He cooked a fancy meal.  I say fancy since we don’t normally use real plates, bowls and such.  (We compost all our paper plates and goods) Next came a shower, a nice washing of hair and then he combed it out. I cannot tell you the last time he did that.  Dane really pulled out the stops for the night and it took me to the place I needed.  He touched, licked, scratched all the right places. I was feeling so nice.

 It’s been a long time; our date nights have begun to include others and we need to get back to us.   This was the perfect start to Our Sexuary….

Jackie

Sexuary 2023 - Delayed

 For anyone looking here to read our annual blog in "Sexuary" we have to apologize.  Jackie had back surgery and we are delaying this year's Sexuary till May.  We hope you'll still celebrate Sexuary and push yourself to try something new this year that is outside your routine.  

Dane and Jackie

Sexuary 2022 - Mushrooms

 Recently Jackie and I were in Jamaica where Mushrooms are legal.  At the dispensary where we were staying they had micro doses of Mushrooms, and we purchased some. 

Jackie tried it first, a small piece of chocolate.  When nothing happened she took the second half of the micro dose.  Honestly it didn't do much for her till she smoked some pot with it.  Then she felt a sharpness of things going around. Sex was exhilarating and  things just seemed to be very clear and sharp for her.  Her orgasms where intense and it wasn't a bad experience.  Nothing spectacular, but definitely a bit of benefit to it. 

A couple of days later we had a 3 piece bar.  The back of it said take one piece or "Dancin Time" for clarity, energy awareness and giddiness. Take 2 pieced or "Cruise Control" for a sense of connectedness, hilarity, fractals, and altered perception.  Take the full bar, all three pieces or "Patoo Full Flight" for ego dissolution and visuals *safe environment recommended*

So we're sitting and Jackie is smoking before we got the day going and went back into the room for something.  In that time I decided I was going to try the same one piece Jackie had tried twice now with minimal effects.  

Now mushrooms take about an hour to hit and works best if you're on an empty stomach.  I hadn't eaten since the night before so it was the perfect time. 

 We went down to the pool and I wasn't really feeling anything.  I was enjoying the company and we were making out when things started to hit.   I noticed that when my eyes were closed I could make out all kinds of sounds.  When I looked things were clear and crisp.  

The longer I waited the more I wanted to keep my eyes closed.  I felt at peace and clear.  Jackie would talk to me and I would nod.  Eventually she told me she thought we should go to the other pool, I agreed, but never moved.  She again suggested we go somewhere else and I again agreed, but again never moved. Finally she realized I was never going to move.  She said, 'let's go" and led me out of the pool.  

I remember watching the palm fronds were shimmering in the wind and I could watch each frond shake and light streaks following each frond as it shimmered.  Along the way I was just following Jackie as she held my hand.  All of a sudden I noticed she wasn't holding my hand, but I was following the sound of her squeaky shoes that sounded like the tree frogs we heard each night there.  "Follow the tree frogs" was my thought.  

I remember when we got to the room, I could focus on the music, but nothing else. I was traveling through colors and sounds.  Jackie said I made a primitive growl.  I remember not being able to talk and was trying to communicate with her, and to some extent it worked.  I couldn't feel my body except where Jackie was touching me.  My hand was just there when she'd touch me, not connected to any arms, just my hand checking in.  There were places she could touch that would make me shake like a dogs leg when you scratch there belly.  

I know I was out for about six hours.  There was some funny moments we still laugh about, like her having to help me go pee.  But all in all it was a fantastic experience for me, both sexually and mentally. 

While I only took one piece, my tolerance being as low as it is obviously was the same as three full pieces. So I was glad I was in a safe place, and I would never take mushrooms without Jackie being there to take care of me, but I can't wait till I can try them again. 

On another note, on her third attempt, Jackie ate 2 full pieces (twice what I had taken) but no real results except when she added pot with it.  She then got to a good level one, but never got to experience what I did.  

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - In the Aftermath Needing a Reset

 

Even when you conscientiously put sex into your life, there are lulls, rough spots, and routines that just seem to drift into play.  Jackie and I are no more immune from those than anyone else.  During those times we'll take a day or a weekend to reset things.  We'll have a mini Sexuary of sorts. 

 This was the case a week or so ago.  Seemed we were a bit out of sync, things were getting 'normalized' and we needed to shake things up. So after breakfast we hit the sack for a first round of sex.  Good and satisfying, but was even more satisfying was when I told her the entire day, 2 hours after we finished I expected her in the bedroom and ready for another round of something.  I let her know that round 2 would include anal play and if she needed to do something for that please do. 

 Two hours later we were back at it.  Scratching, and some of her favorite impact devices followed by my spending a good time in her ass and both of us having huge orgasms.  "You've got 2 hours from now to be ready" I reminded her.  

Two hours later I had the ropes ready and I tied her up and let her spend a bit of time in her subspace before attacking her mouth first and before going down and finishing up inside her. "Two more hours" I again reminded her.  

I gave her an option this time.  She decided she wanted some needle play.  Again, after her design was done I gave her an orgasm or two and then let her drift into subspace for a bit.  Afterwards we masturbated and both were finished for the day.  

By then, it was well after 8 and we were done for the day.  But in the mean time my blood pressure dropped several points as I became more and more content with life.  Our closeness again closed in and "WE" were in a good place.  

Yes it took some effort on both of our parts.  Yes we were both pretty worn out after 4 or 5 hours of sex throughout the day.  Yes it was worth every bit of it!!!

 Sometimes you really have to just mix it up to reset everything and that's exactly what we did.  You can do something similar.  Maybe it's 2x today ...maybe you do it like we did every 2 hours after we finished... come up with your own, but do something to get out of that rut.  It's only July and a long way till Sexuary comes back around, but every day can be sexuary when both of you are willing to work together to make it that way. 

 Dane 

Sexuary 2022 - Final Day Of Sexuary - Day 28

Today is the last day of Sexuary, it really saddens me.  I love how close we come together during this month every year.  This year though, I wanted to remind you that you are the whole package.  You’re smart, you’re kind, you’re loving, you’re sexy, you’re a great mom and the best wife.  You’re the real deal, and for that I’m eternally grateful.  I love you, and hope you’ve enjoyed these daily messages. -143

I hate the 28th of February.  It's the last day of Sexuary and it really saddening.  But knowing that means I had big plans for the last night.I wanted to end it like we started it with the floggers and more, but up it a notch....ending with a bang of sorts. 

Jackie got all prepared and I led her to the bedroom blindfolded and put her on the St. Andrews Cross.  I ran my fingernails over her skin to bring the blood up to the surface, and ready for a good flogging.

I started to flog Jackie and was going well.  "Color?" ..."Geen to yellow"...so still good. I used the Dragons Tail, and then Thors Hammer and when I  asked the color again, things weren't right.  Jackie was crying but said things were ok....I gently swung the floggers a couple more times then I went and pulled her off the cross.  I didn't feel right about the situation, and my number 1 job is her safety, both physically and mentally.  

I don't know what has happened the last two times we've had impact play, but I know right now she's not in the frame of mind for it.  She's not sure why either when I talk to her.

So we snuggled in bed for a while and ended Sexuary with a poof instead of a bang.  It happens.  And if you are thinking of doing things outside of the norm, days like this are going to happen.  The best laid plans of mice and men as it were.  You have to be ok with those things happening.  I'm not saying happy about it, but ok.  It's no ones fault if someone hits a wall or is triggered, and you have to respect that.  You also have to allow for proper aftercare and reassurance that things are ok.  

So while Jackie and I have a couple of other things planned, this was our Sexuary 2022.  The good, the bad and the ugly of it.  It's the real us.  The experimenting, the trying new things.  The playing with things we like, but don't break out very often, most of the time because of the effort it takes to make them happen.  It refreshes our memory of what each other likes and doesn't like.  It teaches us the new taste we've acquired over the last year.  It makes us make each other a priority, in a world that wants to pull us in a thousand different directions.  That's what Sexuary is for us.  

We hope you've enjoyed our Sexuary 2022 blog.  I'm sure as we do exciting and new things throughout the year we'll post here and again, but for the most part Sexuary is when we do our most posting.  We'd love to hear your feedback, either in the comments or email us.  

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - Dice - Day 27

 I know I don’t tell you thank you enough for all the little things you do …I know we swap off dishes and wash and all… but I notice and appreciate when I know you’ve done it.  - 143

This day was going to be jammed packed and both of us running errands in different cities and getting back latter in the evening.  While Jackie thought she'd be home about 7, I figured it would be closer to 8 or maybe even 9. That and the fact we had played all day the day before, and had a fairly good week, I didn't want anything over the top.  

So I explained to Jackie I had 2 dice.  One had a few words on it, suck, kiss, touch, blow, lick and a ?.  The other was just a regular die with 1 - 6 dots on it.  My idea was to roll both of them and the other person would tell us where they wanted that done on them. 

We got into bed and started and there was a bit of confusion on who did what after the roll, so we decided the person that rolled GOT what they rolled and the other person had to do that for the number of minutes rolled on the other die.  We also decided we'd do 5 rounds this time and we'd alternate who would start each round....so basically you got 2 turns in a row before the other person would roll.

This simple little game wound up being a great time by both of us. I don't think either thought it would be as fun as it was. We both really tried to make the other feel as good as we could, and we both succeeded in doing just that!! Both of us picked things unexpected, which made it even better. This simple little game was fun and definitely something we'll do again. 

So this was something you could figure out with just regular dice, or a deck of cards, or anything.  Just nice and simple game to play.  

Dane