Sexuary 2023 - Romantic Day 4 - Sensations

 

On the 4th week or I started out by sending Jackie to get her nails and feet done.  This is a treat for Jackie that I know she loves and makes her feel special.  It's not an 'us' thing, but it's a treat for Jackie and makes her know I was thinking of her.  

Afterwards we did our annual sensations play.  I cover her eyes and laid her back in bed and started.  I'd pulled out a dozen or so things we've collected over the years and had them handy. 

I start with a soft piece of cloth that we use as a seat cover for our rope play and run it down the length of her body.  It sends the goosebumps starting.  

I took a glass dildo that had been sitting in ice water and splashed it on Jackie. 

I run a wartenberg wheel over her, I'd purchased a new rubber glove that had 'tentacles' all over it.  I'm certain it had an odd feel as I ran it over her body. 

A rabbits fur we picked up at Tandy Leather for $5.  

Corn starch is extremely soft as you toss it on skin and slide your hands over it.  

Then came the wax.  The first drop did NOT go where I was wanting it.  I was aiming for around her nipple area and it dripped down the candle and hit her shoulder area.  This was an area with no corn starch, and just not where I was aiming.  We both took a deep breath and started over.  I generally hold the candle at shoulder height so that the wax has a bit of time to cool before it hits the skin. 

We also recently purchased a 3D printed plastic 'knife'.  It will not cut, but feels like it will.  It will also scrap the wax off of skin and bed sheets when you're done.  I used that to draw on Jackie's skin.  The knife cost us $10 at TKF, so I'm assuming you can find them for that or less if you look around. 

Soft, smooth, sharp, cold and hot are all sensations that can be used in sex, and on special occasions you can use them all at once to heighten the senses before playing further.  Hope this gives you some new ideas for fun in the bedroom that doesn't have to break the bank but is a lot of fun. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Anal Fisting

 So one of the things I learned at TKF this year was that I was probably over doing it while trying to clean out my ass for anal play.  I've been taking an hour or more, to clean out for anal play and particularly fisting.  We learned that a couple of fleet enemas would be enough for what we were wanting to do.  Why is this important? Well first of all it only takes 15 minutes or so to run a couple of Fleet enemas through instead of the hour or so.  But more importantly it's not near as stressful on my bowels since I'm using a fraction of the water, yet Jackie says I'm just as clean as before.  This is a major game changer for me. 

So Jackie told me to get ready and we were going to try another ass fisting.  

At about 3:30 I did one Fleet, and then about 5:30 I did 2 more quick rounds and was done.  

I went ass up into the bed and Jackie put on the latex gloves and started lathering up the lube.  Using some of the techniques she learned at TKF she started working on opening up my ass.  After a while she grabbed a stretching dildo and worked it in.  When she was finished her hand went right into my ass, and after a few seconds a massive body orgasm hit me. There is just something about being massaged from the inside like that, that no other way can compare to.  

I get it, it's not for everyone.  There is definitely some stretching that has to be done, and there is a moment where it's a bit uncomfortable, but then....then OMG.  If you look through this blog you'll see where it didn't happen the first time for us, it didn't even happen the 2nd or 3rd time.  And even now we can have days that we can't make it, that's just part of anal play.  But if you're looking for something to fel amazing and push your limits, maybe anal fisting is what you're looking for. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Canvas Picture Art

 So a couple of weeks ago I went online and purchased a canvas with a picture of Jackie that I had taken during Sexuary 2021. She was laying on the bed with one of my shirts on and just looked hot in it.  It was a black and white picture and the canvas was a 36" x 12" canvas that I have the perfect space for in our bedroom.  

I went to https://www.canvasworld.com and ordered the picture.  I showed up about 4 days later.  I was very impressed with the quality of the picture and the speed in which I got it.  I did have to decide between the one, two, or three canvas pictures.  For this I decided 1 was enough, but I will probably go back at another time and order more from them with multiple canvases 

So Tuesday night came around and we had dinner with some friends.  When we got home I broke out the canvas I had ordered.  I asked Jackie to take her acrylics and paint part of the painting to highlight.  I should of taken a bit more care on the pictures, as really the only place to paint was her lips.  I would of loved to of had her fingernails too, but her hands were folded in the picture. 

She painted her lips and I have put the picture up in our bedroom already. It's cool to have the black and white painting with the red lips looking over our bed now. I love it and love that Jackie was able to put her personal touch on it. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Oh Well

Do you see a repeating theme when I tell you that things, even planned things, don't always work out the way you plan them?  So if you don't make an effort I don't know how any couple ever have sex.  So Jackie and I are getting ready to go to Texas Kink Fest (will be in the next post) and have plans to take lunch together so we can get a quickie in.  This is not something we do very often, so it's different for us. Unfortunately I needed Jackie to get a few things done for TKF before I left.  I was leaving on Wednesday and she was coming the following day with our neighbor.  If it wasn't 100% needed I'd of thrown her in bed for lunch, but I absolutely needed her to do something for me before I left. 

 So this day was a bust.  A goodbye kiss was about the best we could do. 

 I'll admit I was very disappointed.  I get very excited when we are going to play and very disappointed when something comes up that it doesn't happen.  Over the years I've had to caution Jackie against promising something sexual and not delivering because it really does hurt.  This was just one of those times though that nothing could be done. 

 Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Breast Art

Once again the plans for Monday just weren't going to happen, so I decided to switch Monday and Tuesday's schedule for tonight.  

One of the things I have tried to plan this Sexuary is art projects.  While I'm not creative at all, Jackie loves arts and crafts.  So I've tried to tie Sexuary to her craftiness.  This week I decided to make plaster of Jackie's breast for her to paint any way she'd like.  This was an idea I got from a breast cancer page https://diaryofadetour.com/making-a-breast-cast/ 

On the day of this we put down the sheets we've used for the painting, and I slathered her up with Vasoline.  Then I started putting the strips of plaster on her.  The first one got all crinkled up and I had to pull it apart.  After that I got the hang and started putting the strips on, going multiple ways and spreading them out.  At one point, the entire plaster was starting to slide off of Jackie.  She had to hold it up while I finished it up. 

Now when we finished, there were some thin spots.  Jackie went back the next day and added a few more strips of plaster to firm it up and fill in the soft spots. Now I'm just waiting for Jackie to paint it.  I'll update it in here when she's done. 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Change of plans again

Once again the best laid plans of mice and men come to pass.  Recently we'd met a couple that we've really gotten to know and like.  We've even play around a bit, a bit more than teasing, but not near enough to satisfy any of us. So we were looking forward to playing with them this Sunday and satisfying some appetites that have grown since our last encounter.  

Sadly one of them got sick while traveling and we couldn't get together.  Another plan by the wayside. 

So I break out the floggers and put Jackie up against the St. Andrew's Cross.  Little did I know that something that day had triggered Jackie and she needed a release, a release she gets sometimes through pain.  This day was one of those days.  

After a series of abnormally rigorous flogging for Jackie, she was able to release, the release she was looking for.  

It's interesting to me that even though I didn't realize she needed such a release, I chose one of the best ways to give that to her this night as an alternative to what was planned.  Instinct? Reading body signs and just not realizing it?  I just know that today I was able to give Jackie what she needed when she needed it, and why? Because we stepped out of the ordinary to the extraordinary with our sex life, with trusting each other and because we make each other our priorities.  

What have you done in your relationship to make your partner your priority, to try something different, so push your boundaries? 

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Rope Play

 On Friday Jackie's sister was coming to spend the night for a big day the next night  We had a bit of time between getting off of work and her family showing up.  I decided it was a good day for some rope play.  

I was able to create a harness and cupcake tie (tie the breast up so they flare a bit at the end) and laid her on the bed and started making out with her.  Unfortunately, because of her new implant she wasn't able to stay in that position roped up for long.  We had to stop and untie her before we could continue on. 

I will admit, that threw me off having to stop like that and then start back up.  Jackie persisted and We made the night work, but it's something I'll have to remember.  The implant in her back is new, so still having to figure that all out.  

If you're interested in roping, there are great youtube videos.  One of my favorite sites is crashrestraint.com. You can look on Fetlife and find a local roping group too, that's how Jackie and I got started.  

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Choking

Over the last year or so Jackie and I have delved into choking and breath play as part of our sex life. It's different for us, and the rush to Jackie's brain when the blood and air start to flow puts her into a very special place we can't achieve otherwise. 

Mind you we are careful, I'm always counting and knowing where she is, and while we've pushed her, shes never blacked out while playing.  

 

In the past though she would panic at times, making it more difficult especially when we were doing breath play.  So tonight I calmly told Jackie I wanted her to focus on staying calm...fade if she could... but not to panic.  

There are times I hold her jugglers and count, and then when I release after about a 30 count, the blood will rush back into her head.  Normally there is no panicking when I do that. It's when I hold her nose closed with one hand and cover her mouth with the other that she sometimes panic.  But I asked her to just hang with me.  If she had to tap my hand.  If I was very close to where I wanted to be I would count out loud for her so she knew there would only be a could of seconds left. 

 

In the past we've worked up to a count of about 45, but I knew if I could keep Jackie calm she'd go much longer.  The longer the hold, the bigger the rush afterwards.  The first time after talking and calming her we made it to 60 seconds without any problems.  On the second attempt at about 54 seconds she tapped my hand and I counted out 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and then let her breath and she held with me.  The third and final time I could tell about the same place she was about to panic but she held it to the full 60 count.  

 

After each time I whispered words of affirmation on how well she was doing. She was into such a space we had to pause for a few minutes to let her come back to earth before moving on.  

 

It's different.  It's not for everyone, but it is something we enjoy, and the thought of Jackie just fading out for a minute is extremely exciting for me personally.  

Dane

Sexuary 2023 - Kick Off - Romance

Sexuary 2023 - Romance

 

 The last 6 months or so have been rough for Jackie and myself.  Jackie has had 3 surgeries and 1 of them has affected her sexually, the other two have helped her back and pain caused, but it's been a long road to recovery.  This is life.  One day while playing one night and having to stop because of her back issues, we were talking and she mentioned she things her body needs to relearn so many things.  This led me to opening Seuxary 2023 with a romantic day.  A back to basics approach to things.  

 

 Sometimes we get so caught up on the next great adventure that we forget that getting here is part of the fun, and oh, by the way we had a great time then too.  

 

 So this morning I had to run to the store and picked up a bouquet of flowers.  Little did Jackie know that was the start. I sent a message that dinner would be at 5:30.  Now mind you we're empty nesters, and unless we are going out to eat, we generally just nibble on something and not really eat a dinner.  Tonight there was going to be dinner.  

 

 While Jackie occupied herself I set the table with the flowers and a candle.  I brought out the real plates (normally we are paper plates only), and threw dinner in the oven.  I picked her up a chicken parm, and a pesto salmon for myself.  I also made salads with homemade blue cheese dressing, and stuffed mushrooms for appetizers.  We ate to music in the back ground and the candle light flickering across the table.  

 

 I then gave her 30 minutes to go partake in her 420, and then come back in.  We kissed a little but then I led us to the shower where I washed her hair, and kissed on her while in the shower.  When we got out I brushed her hair for her until it was totally unknotted and  nice and soft.  

 

 We headed to bed where I took my time kissing on her and licking all over before slowly and purposefully taking her.  It was full feeling and full of contact.  I could tell by her actions that the plans for tonight had hit a nerve and done the job I was hoping for.  

 

 Sexuary 2023 is off and running and while each weekday has a 'theme' of sorts, the weekends are a hodgepodge of events.  This year I'm going in a totally different direction then in the past.  There are new things coming up, and some totally out of my zone, but I know that Jackie will love them.  

 

 When was the last time you took the time to plan a date, or an evening with your significant other?  Made sure they knew you thought them important in your life.  I wrote this in a group I belong to today, and I know it's easy to overlook:

"While we love Sexuary in February, it just didn't work out that way this year, but our relationship deserves a conscious, purposeful month of making sure we are number one to each other and we keep ourselves out of the ruts that life so easily slides us into."

 

  Hope if you're a regular reader of our blog you follow along this month, comment if you'd like and most importantly, do something outside of your norm to make sure your partner knows they are still number 1 for you!

Dane

As you all know Sexuary in February just couldn’t happen due to other things in life. So, we talked about what we should do…So now here we are May 1^st.

I have told Dane, in years past that it causes me too much anxiety to know what’s going on the calendar for the month.  So, while we talked about ideas, I left the planning to him.  So, leading up to the month, I have seen several packages come in that were not in Dane’s normal shopping habits.  I have seen paint, brushes, canvas, and other “artsy crafty” type things.  So that is what I have known thus far.  I had some things that he asked me to do before the month started.  My mind has been thinking for over a week on what was going to happen.  I told Dane that I felt like it was waiting for Christmas morning.  I just can’t wait to see what he has planned for us.

That leads us to day one.  I am told supper is at 5:30. While I went and took a nice hot bubble bath, had a glass of wine, and read part of a great book.  He cooked a fancy meal.  I say fancy since we don’t normally use real plates, bowls and such.  (We compost all our paper plates and goods) Next came a shower, a nice washing of hair and then he combed it out. I cannot tell you the last time he did that.  Dane really pulled out the stops for the night and it took me to the place I needed.  He touched, licked, scratched all the right places. I was feeling so nice.

 It’s been a long time; our date nights have begun to include others and we need to get back to us.   This was the perfect start to Our Sexuary….

Jackie