Sexuary 2024 - Electric Play

 Now electric play isn't new to us either, but over the years I've picked up several TENS units and some additional attachments that we'd never used.  So before Jackie came in I prepared the room pulling out the violet wand and several TENS units with attachments.  

I had a Wartenberg wheel, with a electric component to it (you attach an electric pad to the body for the circuit).  

I also had a set of nipple claps that create a circuit.  I tried them on myself, and at a 3 out of 20, they were pretty intense.  So wasn't going to be cranking those up. For reference, it's always best to try things on yourself before ever trying them on someone else.  You should know what they are going to feel, and know what to expect before they are in a sub space and something brings them out. 

I also set up the violet wand and had everything ready.  I brought Jackie into the room blind folded and put her on our chaise lounge, which is covered in a white fur we got for Sexuary 2024.  

I started with the Wartenberg wheel, and got the blood flowing several places, her thighs, her breast, her belly, and her sides all had the sting of the wheel and the buzz of electricity running through it. 

I then started with the violet wand with the U attachment.  this I ran around her breast, over her belly and so forth.  When I switched to the comb, I put on the nipple clamps and started with some low voltage.  I then started with the comb and varied the voltage on the nipples.  At 3 I noted she had gotten a bit intense so after a bit there I turned off the TENS unit. 

Now here is where a mental game comes in.  I continued with the violet wand and then turned the nipple clamps back on at a 1.  Jackie jumped and tears started streaming.  I asked her if she was "red" and she nodded yes.  I quickly removed everything.  In her mind she heard me click up to 3, and down the three, but up and downs don't sound different, so she thought she was at least at 6, and then when I turned it back on had gone up again.  Mentally we were at least at a 7 or better.  Let me tell you the mind is more powerful than anything we could do, even it it's not reality, if your brain is there, it's as good as happening. So that ended our session. 

On a side note, I admonished Jackie for not calling "red" herself.  The trust in these situations is the Top will protect the bottom, and in this case I did, but part of that is the trust the bottom will also let the Top know when they are in a bad place.  I get Jackie explained she was trying to work through it, but I could tell she wasn't going to, so I called it.  

If you're the Top and you don't protect your bottom, that's abuse.  Now mind you there are different tolerances for everyone, and what Jackie enjoys would be abuse to someone else, and others might have been just fine with the nipple shock.  That's why communication, and knowing your bottom is so important.  Remembering the number 1 job of any Top/Dom is the safety of the bottom/sub.  There is nothing more important!

So tonight, wasn't necessarily a win, but next time we break out Jackie will know that the clicking isn't always as relevant as she did this time. And she'll be receptive because I took care of her. 

Dane

Sexuary 2022 - TENS/Wartenberg Wheel - Day 3

 Sexuary Day 3 started out with an email to Jackie - 

I love that, while not always, you know how to exude your sexiness.  Other women are envious of you and the attitude you carry when you are ‘in the zone’.  I love watching you when you realize you are as sexy as I see you all the time. - 143

Please remember to send me a (or more) sexy pictures of you today….also that 1 day during the month you’ll let me know before we play that today will be an ass day (I’ll move thing around after that day and have an empty space to fill at the end). 

Jackie DID send me several great pictures of her posing on the bed after her shower this morning.  Have I mentioned how much I LOVE seeing pictures of Jackie in all sorts of dress and undress? It gets me hard and makes me want her every time I see these pictures and I love that she's agreed to 28 days of them (and I'm hoping there are a lot more in my future).  

After she took a long bath and smoked a little I took her too the back room blindfolded and put her on the bed.  Originally it wasn't my intention, but since there was a freshly shaven pussy I had to eat it up before anything else.  I love eating up a freshly shaved pussy.  

I then flipped Jackie over and bent her over the edge of the bed.  I put an electric pad on her thigh and then turned on the TENS unit.  I had purchased a new toy, a Wartenberg Wheel attached to the TENS unit.  It was fantastic.  She preferred it about a 5 (out of 15) but even at a 5 I could see her jump and her skin tighten up.  She came easily as I fingered her and then when I thought she was very ready I put the TENS unit down and finished us both up. 

Again the pleasure/pain things comes in.  Here some electricity and sharp objects come into play all at once, it's a great combination.  

It's only the 3rd day of Sexuary, and still plenty of time for you to do your 'something different with your significant other! Go for it!! And we'd love to hear your stories too!

Dane

Sexuary 2015 - TENS / Electricity

So it's Sexuary and you want to go outside the box a bit.  How about using that TENS unit?  We first discussed it in Sexuary 2013 in an article here, and again when I purchased our first attachment here.  Some of it went very well, some not so well for us.

But what is electricity play?  It's just that, using electricity to help with or cause orgasms or just feeling good sensations.  A TENS (Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation) unit is a medical unit used to help patients with muscle issues in their back, arms and legs (I'm sure almost any place).  TENS machines works by sending stimulating pulses across the surface of the skin and along the nerve strands. The stimulating pulses help prevent pain signals from reaching the brain.Tens devices also help stimulate your body to produce higher levels of its own natural "Endorphins".  If you put those pulses in just the right places, well what you could get is an orgasm.

The electricity will flow from 1 pad to the other, so you want everything in direct line of where those spots you want stimulated are.  Common electrode placement for penises is on the underside of the shaft, with one pad near the head of the penis and one at the base. Alternatively, for testicular enjoyment, place one pad on the top of the scrotum and the other on the bottom. For vaginas, a pad on either side of the clit or opposite sides of the vaginal opening can feel wonderful. A pad on each side of the anus is also an option. Keep in mind, the jelly-like pad adhesive is very sticky and works best on smooth skin. It’s best to shave first if you’re working with a very hairy area.

You can also find attachments for your TENS units like the Penis straps or anal plugs and if you look you'll find more. The one caveat I'll give on these is to use LOTS of medical gel.  It's cheap and worth every drop you put on the unit.  Otherwise you'll feel sparking instead of a nice current.  Nothing like having a your penis strapped down and sparks biting into it.  Read the directions!!! I didn't at first and was very disappointed at the outcome.

Now there are other devices that use electricity The Violet Wand is probably the most famous.  It's not cheap (about $200), but do you really want the cheapest model when you're talking about sending electricity through your body?  This wand is made to run over yourself or someone and kind of acts like a plasma ball we had growing up, except you are the other side of the electricity with no glass in between.  I've never experienced them first hand but have spoken with people who have and everyone loves these jewels.  


So first question, does it hurt?  The only time I've ever had a painful experience is when I used an attachment with no gel.  Otherwise I could crank up the medical unit full blast (slowly of course) and had a great sensation.  When we use them on Jackie she'll need a breather from her orgasms.  They are intense and continuous until she turns off the unit once they start.  Take it slow, and gradually increase your power till you find that sweet spot.

Will you always orgasm?  While Jackie has always been able to orgasm I've never been able to cum with the TENS unit.  I have however had great sensations that have almost brought me there.  I'm still working on placement, but I still recommend trying it.

Can you use a TENS during sex?  Both of you might be wearing 1 set of pads, or just the act of each of you having a set of pads while having sex will cause extra stimulation and will mimic suckling on your clit, testicles, or anus during intercourse can take your lovemaking to new heights.

So if you have that TENS unit in the closet from a bad back, then break it out and try it for other purposes.  If you are thinking about some sort of electrical play, then Jackie and I recommend going for it!!!  One of the great things about TENS units is they are just as good for single play as for with a partner.  So whether Sexuary is about "ME" time or "US" time it's a great way to go.

Got some other scoop on electric play that makes you go over the top?  Share it here for everyone to learn.  Recommendation on a specific type of electric toy?  Or just what you've found works or doesn't work please share so others can learn!.

Hope your Sexuary 2015 is going well!!!

Dane

Our Toy Chest

1 of the 2 drawers of toys we have

We've alluded to the fact we have some toys in our arsenal.  It's an ever growing toy chest.  Of course some break over time, but the good ones are quickly replaced, the ones not used just get chucked.  Of course Sexuary, was a good excuse to purchase a few more items for the toy chest, but we regularly look at new toys to have fun with.  .

Now I know that there are some guys that are intimidated by toys.  I guess they think if she got use to a dildo or a vibrator that she'll have no use for a fleshy cock any longer.  And yet every woman I've ever spoken to about this will tell you that a vibrator will only get you so far.  After a while they need a flesh and blood cock to really satisfy them.

So why do we bother with toys then?  Well when used right it will aid in making the experience even better.   They can help you 'pretend' you are doing things you might not want to experience with another person, like double penetration.  They can 'warm her up' when that might take a bit more effort than desired.  They can keep the mood while you slow down a bit.  I can think of two reasons to that woman have told me they like their clits vibrated while other things are being done.  Sometimes anal is easier if Jane is distracted and while being fisted the distraction makes it all easier.

We have remote control eggs.  That's right eggs.  You insert them (you pick the place) and the partner has the remote and turns it on at their will.  It can be fun to be at Outback and as you go to bite into that baby back rib that vibrator goes off.  It can make an interesting dinner.  After warming up like that who wouldn't have a sizzling time when they got home (hell, sometimes we can't even make it home).

We have paddles, whips, ropes, nipple clamps, and straps for the days we'd like to go down that road.  And while we're still experimenting with some of the limits and likes and dislikes we have the tools we need when we're in the mood.

We have various vibrators from $4 bullets to a $120 Bodywand.  We've had Rabbits and Beyond 2000's that have the multiple vibrations at the same time, one for inside and one for the clit. The harder it vibrates the happier Jackie is.

Dildos? Oh yeah, we have a variety of those too.  Glass, rubber, plastic are all in the toy chest to be played with. Little ones, and huge (fist size and bigger) ones all are in our drawer. No matter what mood we might be in we have the right size and material.  Oh you didn't know material could make a difference?  Take a glass one that can be cooled or heated to change the effect.  The rubber one that will bend and hit spots.  Yeah, material can really change up what's going on. 

We have butt plugs, anal beads, enema bags, and other anal oriented toys for both Jackie and myself.  I even surprised Jackie with "Ponytail" the other day when we were playing.  Jackie has acquired 2 strap-ons.  One just a nice dildo, and one a double sided vibrator so she gets pleasured as she is using it on me.  If the mood is there and you want to play a bit with an ass then we have the proper tools to do that.

Small vibrators that go on your fingers or tongue are also in our treasure chest.  Guys you want to give an extra kick as you're licking on her, have a small vibrator strapped to your tongue.  Both her nipples and clit will enjoy the extra stimulation.  Jackie might use the one wrapped around her fingers as she runs over my ass or as she runs her hand over my cock.

A TENS unit, Speculums, blind folds, gags, feathery boas, soft swatches of cloth, candles made for using on dripping, and of course bricks of batteries to keep everything going all fill the 2 drawer chest.

We have male masturbators.   Places to lube up and slide in and out of.  Sometimes it gives her a break.  Sometimes it's just to get me started.  Sometimes when she's gone it gives me something to do.  Over the years we've purchased vibrating ones, small ones, disposable ones.  There's always one or two in the drawer, even though they aren't used to often. 

Oh and lubes, we have lubes by the gallon.  Hot and spicy, flavored, synthetic, water based, oils, and more.  You need them for most of the toys, though you have to be careful as some of the rubber toys can be ruined by some of the lubes.

For those who have only one or heaven forbid no toys, we recommend you save a couple of bucks and start working on your collection.  We budget our toys like most budget their Starbucks. It's an important part for us so we save up so we can get what we want when we want them.  Maybe you're not into some of the things we like to play around with, that's ok, but surely you could use some extra stimulation on occasion.  What guy wouldn't want to walk into his gal with a vibrator thrashing on her clit and as he walks in she screams for him to get over there and finish her off.  Or to feel a second 'cock' as you slid in?

So I guess what I'm saying is while not everyone needs enough toys that need to be carried by a caravan of elephants like Jackie has, we both think that they have made a great improvement in our sex lives and how we play.  Want some suggestions then ask Jackie or I and we'll give you some ideas.  Have a question on a particular item then ask and we'll see if we know.

Most toy stores that we go to have 2 things that we like.  First of all the 'new style' store isn't a dark dingy place but a well lite place where other women work and are willing to recommend toys after finding out what you like.  They'll let you put in batteries and see how the toy works before you take it home and play.  Some vibrators just aren't worth a plug nickle, so best to know before you pay for them.  Second is that often times there is a 'ladies' or 'couples' day where you can get your toys at a discount.  If you're going to purchase a toy and can save 10% or 20% why wouldn't you?  And of course you can always shop online, but I highly recommend you find one with reviews before you purchase.

Got a particular toy you like best?  Let everyone know here in the comments.  I'll tell you Jackies favorite is her Bodywand.  She loves the punch that thing has and as long as I don't forget to recharge it (then her favorite toy is the paddle) after her second usage it keeps her going.  The new models will  let you plug in if the batteries dies though.  Me?  I'm kinda partial to the fist.  Not something we use every day, but oh my what a job it does.

Dane

TENS Unit Play

So over the last couple of days we've broken out the TENS unit.  We tried it back in Sexruary (see our post) and really had a good time with it.  I felt like I needed something that would wrap and stay around my penis better if it was going to make me cum.  The pads we had didn't stay affixed well enough to provide all the juice I thought it should.  But Jackie was able to orgasm using the TENS unit and over all the experience for both of us was pretty fun and we wanted to come back to it.

So last week we broke out the TENS unit, made Jackies toes curl and had a great night of sex.  Woo hoo...we love anything that will make our time together better.

Sunday we were at Megaplex, in Austin, and while going through the toys we came across the Zeus Penis Band for TENS units.  We checked it out and decided it would work with our TENS unit and so we got it.  YEAH!!! So of course that night we broke it out to play with it.

OMG TURN IT OFF!!! OUCH! OUCH! OUCH!  Now mind you there are NO instructions what so ever in the box.  No instructions on how to put it on (though it appears pretty self explanatory, I'd like to know where the best positions for the contacts are).  So we put them on and I started turning the device on and it freakin hurt.  This felt like it would spike and spark at random and actually hurt. I mean turn the damn thing off quickly hurt. Remind you I was able to turn it all the way up with the pads, so I'm ok with the 'tingle' you get from the TENS unit, but not this. At 20 I was cringing and turning it off.

So the next day I do some look up and find some reviews on Amazon.  First the couple that somehow succeeded said that you "MUST" use conducting gel, and to quote them, "LOTS of it".  One even warned that it would dry and start to sting/shock before you were finished most of the time.  Every review but one, I can only imagine someone from Zeus put it up, was a 2 out of 5 star with exactly the same issues I had.  So I'm torn between buying a couple of tubes of conducting gel and taking a chance again, or writing it off as a bad toy purchase.  Note these weren't cheap at over $50 for them.  I loved the idea of them, but the real life application was not pleasurable and not what I was expecting.

I'm ok now, I don't think any permanent damage, though that night was over quick and the next day I still had a tingle for 1/2 a day.  I'm really disappointed because I really wanted the anal probe too, but no way in hell I'd get one of those after my experience I had Sunday night.

So if any of you guys have tried a TENS unit successfully I'd love to know what you did to make it work.  I still love the TENS unit, I just want a better success for my efforts.

Dane

TENS, Electricity

This was saved for last because we don't know the repercussions and I wanted time to recuperate.  I would like you to use the electricity/TENS on me.  Maybe we can find an anal probe, or see how they use it on a cock and nipples.  I will leave it up to you if you'd like to try the same thing that day or save it for another day.  This will be our last official day of Fetish Sexuary, so along with the electric you have free reign for ANYTHING you'd like to try on me. 

So Jackie has this TENS unit from when she hurt her shoulder years ago.  We've kept it around, lost it, found it, lost part of it, found it, lost it, found it...you get the drift.  But I know that electricity can be a huge turn on for some, and very orgasmic for others.

Being a bit of a country boy I know that to get the seed from a bull, you stick an anal probe in and turn it on, and seaman will come flowing out.  I'd never seen it done on a guy before Sexuary, So wasn't sure how it would work.  But we were willing to try it.

We even watched a couple of videos where a guy came using a TENS unit and a girl went orgasmic with one.  They were pretty hot and Jackie and I had a great round of sex after watching those videos.  

So we break out the unit and Jackie decides to go first.  Now anyone who knows Jackie knows she's not the overly adventurous type and it really surprised me she went first.  So we put 1 set of pads on her and started it up.  At first there wasn't much you could tell or see.  She could feel it, but it wasn't all there.  So we put a second set of pads on, further south, and bingo she started to vibrate a bit more.  I could see her clit start to appear and her lips were definitely swelling.

She played with the controls till she got where she wanted and then closed her eyes and let it flow.  I could see her react much the same as if I had her favorite vibrator on and was waiting for her to gush any second.

When she'd shuttered enough she cut the controls and just tried to catch her breath.  I reached in and she was definitely wet.  Not drenched as she can get but wet.  She said it was not the most monumental but definitely orgasmed a couple of times.

Then was my turn.  We started with one set of pads and turned it on.  At first I didn't think it was working, then I hit level 4....5....6...7...OMG every time I went up a level it was like someone squeezed the head of my cock a bit tighter.  But it wasn't going to make me cum.  So we added a second set of pads.  I could barely feel them even though I was all the way up to max on those (60) and about a 30 on the one attached to my head.  But still no real, going over the top sensation.

So Jackie moved the pads around.  This time I was feeling it all over.  From the bottom of my sac to the top of my cock I could feel it vibrating.  It pretty quickly took me to the edge.  That feeling you get right before you cum.  I had both controls at max setting of 60.  It was right there....I waited...I could feel the urge.....it was sooooooooooo close.........but after a few minutes it just wasn't going to cum.

We finished me off quickly.  I'll try it again.  It wasn't painful at all.  It was uncomfortable at times, and I'm sitting here tingling still an hour later, so not sure how long that will last.  I enjoyed watching Jackie get off and liked the feeling, just couldn't get that release I needed with it.

Today was day 28 for us.  Jackie has to leave at 5:30 in the morning for some training so we started 1/31 instead so we could get our 28 days in.  I'll follow up with another post on a wrap up.  Additionally we'll be going back and trying the fetishes we had to forgo for one reason or another and we'll post our adventures there.  So while Sexuary is officially over with for us (ok, we still have pillow talk tonight but the sex is over unless Jackie is going to be overly generous and surprise me), we'll be updating our blog here and there as we live out Sexuary in our day to day lives.  Follow along.  Leave us a comment.  Tell us if there was something you tried because we brought it up.  Tell us you did something this Sexuary that made a difference in your relationship,because bottom line that's what this exercise was all about.

Dane

TENS/Electricity...the thought was scary, yet exciting at the same time.  Something you are told not to play with yet really want to...well this is the safest way to play with it without getting totally fried.

We watched a few videos, have looking at 100's of toys.  Wondering all the what if questions.  I knew I already had a TENS unit a medical grade one, so we didnt want to go and buy one.  However when the month started I wasnt sure where it was.  We hunted for several days until finding the box that it was still packed in.  So we got it out and left it alone.  Scared to let the lion out of that cage.  Well until today, I had an appointment out of town this morning, so I was on my drive home when I was thinking about it, it got me stirring, did I want to go first? Or should he? I decided to go first in case I needed time to rest and get myself under control. We started with 2 pads, and I had them turned up to 40 and while I could certainly feel it, it wasn't taking me to the place I wanted to go.  So we added another 2 pads. Now this took me where I wanted it go.  Looking back I probably could have taken it higher however I knew I would be gone until Saturday at a conference in which I could not be uncomfortable in(if ya know what I mean) so after it got intense, I laid back and let it do what it was supposed to do, and it did.  While I didn't squirt like I am known to, it did take me into a multi-level orgasim that I could feel from my neck to my toes.  It also went into my "we ARE going to do this again" list! I think practice is needed to get the best orgasim, so will try again!

Next was Dane, I helped get his pads on, one set at a time, he leaked a good round or two of pre cum but never really had a mind boggleing shoot cum all over.  I think for him we will need to try again too, you have to get the pads in the right place or they do nothing and we were quickly running out of time before the kids got home from school. Even though he didn't finish with the TENS until he did finish, and it was pretty intense.

Did I mention this is going on my "do this again" list...There are several things on there from this month.  I can't believe this was the last day, we made it...while we had 2 days that not much if anything happened, I am still calling it 28 days!! WE nailed our list, and nailed each other ;) WE talked and talked and talked...well you get the picture.  We discovered new things, old things, things we liked and things we didn't, but we did it. 

I am doing a happy dance...happy dance....loud music(even if its just in my head) we did it...(insert Dora"WE did it, WE did it..." song here) lol

Keep following though, we aren't finished.  We are going to keep blogging and keep doing....We will go back to our every 3 days calender(which was another Sexuary goal) and I will go into that at another time.  We will keep communicating and keep smiling, and I will get a jersey or tshirt with "28"on it and not care whose name it is, but I will know what "28" is about...

Jackie