Sexuary 2023 - Dice Play

 So Jackie's day and she choose to play our dice game.  Over the years several of our dice have gotten unreadable (that happens when lubricant gets on them), and we only had a few left. *mental note order more sets, they are cheap on wish and the like*  In our game we add a regular die that we roll with so that we know how many minutes we are going to do what ever to where ever for.  

In her version, since it was 'my day' I only rolled the action die, and she rolled the action and location die.  I got to choose the location on whatever I rolled.  She would have to take whatever location she rolled.  

I definitely interpreted a kiss to be a french kiss on my cock. Sounded far to me. 

She got neck twice.  Once I choked her some the other time I rubbed her neck. 

We played with the dice for about 30 minutes as a warm up for even more fun. 

Now we've played this game for halftime of a football game, or to break the ice, or just to get things warmed up.  It's a simple, fun game that can have a lot of fun, especially if the dice are with you and get get those good rolls.  

Dane

Sexuary 2019 - Kickoff and a Challenge

 So Sexuary 2019 is about to begin on Friday.  I don’t know it it’s 6 or 7 years of us celebrating Sexuary, but it’s been a few.  A couple of them have been flops.  Most of them have been not only fun, but enlightening.  We’ve found new things that we enjoy sexually.  We allow each other to explore and not be judgmental.  It’s definitely opened our eyes to other things out there that we never would of found if Sexuary didn’t exist. 

So what was Sexuary about?  It was about doing something different.  For some it’s about having sex this month.  For others it’s exploring strange new ideas.  We started with every other day for a month with a different ‘kink’ every time.  Then came the great 28 days of sex, with 28 different kinks.  Some of those we still practice, some we’ve written off, but we at least tried them.

So our challenge to you is in Sexuary, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT!!! Make time for a real date and sex afterwards if that’s something you don’t do generally.  Buy a new toy and wear it out.  Read through our blog and find a list of ideas that cost nothing or VERY little.  Cornstarch for silky smooth caressing.  A pair of dice for a game of what to do and for how long.  Some ice.  Getting it on in the living room instead of the bedroom.  Or you can go extravagant and plan a weekend away, hit a burlesque show and fuck like bunnies all weekend. Whatever it is you don’t do, try it!

For us, we’ve got our days lined up.  Nineteen of twenty-eight days are scheduled with fun and adventures.  It’s not the most we’ve scheduled it’s not the least…but we’ve added more rope play (this is a new this last year for us).  Ropes and suspension are now part of our repertoire. 

So go….NOW, go and figure out what you’re going to do this Sexuary.  Surprise your significant other and just make plans that will freak them out because they don’t know who this person they are talking to is…but they love it anyway and are going to take advantage of it. J ….What are you doing still reading this blog? Go…..and have a GREAT Sexuary 2019!!!

Sexuary 2017 - Recap

So while our Sexuary 2017 didn't exactly end the way we planned due to outside forces, it was still a fantastic Sexuary.  Why?  Well let me recap it and explain.

First, Jackie and I remembered that the best of sex doesn't start in the bedroom, but starts when you say "good morning love."  You know that time when you're cuddling a bit and rubbing your hands on each other to get the day started.  Maybe even a word of encouragement of how fantastic last night was or how much you're looking forward to tonight.  That's the best sex, the sex that has time to build up to a crescendo over the day till you can't hardly wait any more.

Second, we remembered that there are things teenagers know that somewhere along the way we have forgotten and I can't for the life of me figure out why we ever allowed ourselves to forget.  Jackie and I made out.  You know she sat in my lap and we kissed and I groped, she groped, and we kissed...I got hard, she got wet...we kissed and groped some more...oh yeah it was hot.  And we did this over and over again throughout Sexuary, and often times we knew there would be no sex afterwards and I still would do it again and again and again it was so hot.

According to this old adage we made it to each base several times over the month of Sexuary while making out.  We made it to first base almost every day and 2nd base was pretty regular too.  From there is just all depended, but regardless we were connected and it just made me desire Jackie even more during the day.  I really did have day dreams about spending time with her, and I honestly believe that's mainly because of the making out we did this month.

Third, sex should be more than just hot and heavy, it should be fun and adventurous.  We've known this forever.  Things like the dice we have we bought years ago for us to have fun during sex.  We've played other games over the years and blogged about it, like the football game that you get 1 minute of oral for every point your team scores that quarter, or by how much you're ahead.  I guess if we did baseball or soccer we could do 5 minutes per point, or come up with your own rules, but have fun with it.

We had a date night where there were remote control toys and car sex (oh my) involved.  We seriously just had fun with our sex and it's all things we use to do, or dream about doing as teenagers and somewhere along the line forgot to bring the fun into it.  I get it, life gets into the way and we have to make time for some of it to happen, especially when that happens shouldn't it be fun and not just a chore to have sex?  Oh and did you catch the date night part?  Yeap, we had it scheduled and somehow it got over scheduled, but we decided to cancel the other plans and go on our date.  How often do we as couples put ourselves last and the date night gets canceled?  Sometimes we have to remind ourselves the most important thing in our life is our partner and we have to make them the priority.  Together we can conquer the world, so let's make sure we stay strong in our relationship and make sure our partners know we make them a priority.

Last, and this is one of the things we strive for ever Sexuary, is we introduced new things to our bedroom.  New positions for us.  New games to play.  New toys.  New making out.  All of these things should follow us for the rest of the year, but for us Sexuary is that time where we go out of our way to make it special and be open to new and sometimes 'strange' ideas.

This Sexuary we were interrupted by a breast cancer scare, a biopsy, a parent that got real ill, still with a teenager in the house (can you read drama?), a new job, an older job that has some issues, Jackie hurting herself at work, on top of every day life.  And no things didn't always go as planned for us.  For those who don't know we actually make a calendar of events for every day of Sexuary, it takes the pressure of coming up with things on the fly to make it great.  And so there were days the events got canceled.  There were days we modified events.  There were made up days that we didn't count on.  But what I'm saying is that we live normal lives.  Shit gets in the way.  We could of easily made up 28 days of excuses to NOT have Sexuary this year and no one would of blamed us.  We didn't.  We had early morning sex at times to avoid the day.  We had tired sex at time when we could of gone to sleep.  We made out regardless of what shit the world was throwing at us that day.  We made the effort, and honestly this was one of the best Sexuaries we've ever had.  We're not porn starts that live this life and it's our job, we're normal people that enjoy the closeness sex can bring a couple of people when you go the extra mile for each other.

I'm sure we'll be posting off and on throughout the year.  Little things we do or find out between now and next Sexuary.  We generally schedule a mini Sexuary sometime during the year too.  But for the most part, Sexuary 2017 is wrapped up and that means this blog will be dormant for a bit.  You can always comment on one of our post if you like, ask us questions or email us.  We're pretty open about anything sexual we've tried.

Dane

Sexuary 2017 - Dice Game

As part of our sexual fun we have 2 sets of dice with different body parts and different things to do to those body parts.  Lick, Tease, Kiss, Suck, Blow, and Players Choice are all on these dice, with Ear, Toes, Nipples, Neck, Privates, and Bum on the body parts die.  Now the rules we played by today was the person who was up rolled the dice and the other person decided which combination of dice they wanted to be used on them.  We also used a regular die to decide how many minutes we'd do it for.

First I think we'd put the body parts we want on the dice.  If you're more into the S&M scene some of these were more appropriate, but for just general play some of them are not.

Second, take the other dice (the actions ones) and put things down you want to do or have done to you.  Now if you really want to make is interesting add a wildcard (these had a "?" on them) or add at least 1 thing you always wanted to try, but are just a bit skittish of....now you're leaving it up to lady luck as to whether or not you try something new. I REALLY encourage this part. 

 

In case you haven't figured it out yet you can take any 2 dice and put your own things on them.  Actually we really liked the idea of having a choice, so 2 sets of dice, 2 for body parts and 2 for action items.  A sharpie can fix them up, sticky labels can fix them up, you can write a paper with what 1 - 6 stand for each roll.  But there's no reason you can't do this yourself.  

If you're just one that doesn't want to do it yourself, a quick search online for sex dice game shows several sets of them for $5-$10 a set.  Actually found 3 different sets on gearbest.com for less than 2 dollars a set. 

Third,  I would add 4 minutes to whatever was rolled if you use 1 die, so you have a minimum of 5 minutes and maximum of 10.  Now you can play with 2 dice, or even 3 if you wanted to extend the rounds.   We played 3 rounds before we 'finished' up the morning, but you can do any number of rounds or roll dice to decide the number of rounds.  

One last thing, I put my dice in a baggie with our lube and the lube wiped out most everything it touched.  Not sure what was in the lube, but it didn't like the writing on the dice.  So store them separately.  

In our goal for more teasing, more touching, more intimacy this game played right into our needs.  Hope it helps you and your significant other. 

Dane

Jane here...while I will agree with Dane on most of the things above, I personally don't think you should add the 4 minutes to the time on the die if only using one.  The whole idea is to tease, touch and play..so just take what you roll and go for it.  It can be a pretty intense 1 minute!  We have had these dice in our drawer for a year or more and never got "around to it" .. I would definitely get a set try it, work it to your likes, change things up, let it spice up your sexual life. 

It was pretty hot for us today, is all I can say..

Sexuary 2015 - Ordinary Items Used As Toys

Ok so it's Sexuary 2015 and you've haven't got an extra $75 or $100 or $200 dollars for a new sex toy, and the batteries are dead in your old ones but you want to have some extra fun in the bedroom, so what do you do?  Look around the house it's full of fun toys that can be brought into the bedroom for some excitement the next time you play.

Kim Bainger in 9 1/2 Weeks

Let's start with the simplest of stuff.  I remember the scene with Mickey Rourke and  Kim Basinger in 9 1/2 Weeks where a single ice cube and made millions of teenagers cream there pants as he ran it down over her lips and
body.  The ice can be used on either sex and lots of fun can be had.  Now I generally get a small bowl and a hand towel to go with it if I'm planning something like that, but yes, an ice cube found in your freezer can be a great addition to your sex toys.

I  know that not everyone wears ties like they used to, but I think most men have a tie or 2 in the closet.  Instead of leaving it in the closet, use it in bed.  Tie someone up and make them squirm (maybe with the ice cube from above), before taking it to the next level.  If you don't have a tie, use a belt.  Honestly you don't have to tie them to tight, it's more about the idea of being constrained than the actual constraint. 

Ok, not every house had cloths pins anymore, but for a dollar or so you can have more than you will ever need to play with.  As nipple clamps, on the scrotum, I've seen them in a row on the thighs or sides, or ear lobe or ...well you get the idea, if you can pinch it you can put a cloths pin on there.  So why? It's not only the pinching sensation, but the rush of blood once you remove the pin that is part of the adrenaline rush.  Oh a little trick I've learned is that a dime, penny or nickel placed by the spring can lessen the clamp.  So if your cloths pin is too much to be placed on the nipple, just put a dime there and see if that is better, if not try a penny or a nickle.Simple adjustment and you can still use the cloths pins.

While we purchased a piece of cloth for the next, a fluffy robe or a fluffy blanket could be used for feeling and texture once the person is blindfolded or maybe you want to just wrap it around your hand and gently rub. I like taking Jackies favorite cloth and spreading it over her and slowly sliding it down her body giving her goose bumps.  But in this case it's about the texture when they can't see.  

Have you priced a good paddle lately?  Yeah they aren't cheap by any means, but the paddle in our drawer is nothing more than a ping pong paddle.  The sides are lifting up and there's a couple of spots a bit worn, but that just gives it character.  A new one is only a few bucks, and I promise, as I speak from experience here, a good wallop with that will do the trick just fine. By the way, a good wooden spoon from the kitchen can do just as good of a job too. Oh and if you're into role playing and one of you is a student, a good hardback book could be your next paddle.

Got a feather boa or some feathers from some school project?  I will say not all feathers are created equal, but if you have something soft like that use it.

Don't have a blindfold to use?  Just take a t-shirt and fold it and tie it in the back or a scarf from her closet.  The idea is to deprive the 1 individual from a sense, that of sight, so anything will work.  Though blindfolds are pretty cheap if you look around.

Certain candles can be used in the bedroom too.  Dripping the wax can be very pleasure/pain enjoyable.  Not all candles are equal for this.  Soy and paraffin candles burn cooler and are easier to remove later.  Avoid most other candles as they can burn the skin.  I found a great article on wax here if you want more on it.

Two dice could be a great start for the night.  Each number on 1 die is a place on the body and the other die represents what you're going to do with it (lick, rub, kiss...come up with your own ideas here).  After a few rounds I'm thinking you won't need the dice any more.  And of course strip poker is always a way.  Another way is that the winner gets to take off a piece of clothing and the loser has to pay 2 minutes attention to that spot, or something to that effect, be creative here.

We play games with sports too.  Superbowl was 3 minutes of being eaten or blowjob for every touchdown scored.  In years past (when we didn't have company) that was due immediately upon scoring.  Made the game a lot more interesting for us and as the game came to a closer, we came too.  

Basketball can be how many points difference between quarters.  Even NASCAR can turn into a game where you pick a driver or team and winner gets xy and z. The difference between places at the 1/2 point and/or the end could be the number of minutes something happens.  If your driver/team wins you get bonus time. 

What we're saying is just because you can't drop a chunk of change at the adult toy store doesn't mean you are stuck with a boring sex life.  PLAN out a night with your partner where all the items used aren't meant to be used for sex, but you do it anyway.  They will be impressed you were thinking about them that much and the extra excitement can lead to so extra fun play.

Do you have a household item you use in your sex play?  Share it here so others can enjoy it too.  Get with your partner and plan out something together, sometimes the planning is as much fun as the doing.  Make this the Sexuary that you have a great Ah Ha moment with your partner and part of that is playing with everyday ordinary objects as sex toys. 

On this Valentine day, the 1/2 way point of and high holy day of Sexuary, find some way to make a difference in your relationship.  It doesn't take a lot of money to have a great time using toys in the bedroom.

Dane