Sexuary 2017 - Still Anal Fisting

So this isn't a new topic, actually it's the most view topic on our blog, and that's anal fisting (Anal Fisting and Anal, Fisting, Toys (Day 3) .  So we have to believe that there are others out there who'd like to try it but don't know where to start or are afraid of what will happen or just find it taboo and want to know more.  So we're going to talk about it again.

First of all it's on our 'regular' list of things to do.  Normally every 3 - 6 weeks we have a good ass fucking on me.  Normally Jackie will start with her fist and unlike several years ago it now only takes her a couple attempts and her fist will slide right into my ass.  She's learned the art of great lubrication (we still use Elbow Grease for lube on my ass), how to start with a couple of fingers and quickly stretch me out to accept her whole fist.  We're now to the point she's working on getting a second hand in at the same time.  She can get up to her knuckles on the second hand, but haven't quite made it past there.

In addition we've added new toys to the arsenal.  Pre-Sexuary I purchased several new dildos to play with, 2 of them are VERY large (3" diameter).  OK, so for right now I've met my match.  Those 2 will NOT go in.  One was a fist that Jackie just couldn't get started, the other was bullet shaped, but again, not really a point of any kind and just never could get it started to get in.  The others I purchased were great.  Larger than what I had (2.75" diameters)  and really did a great job.  Also I purchased 1 with the vacumlock system on it and got a handle (and an attachment for her strap-on) that Jackie liked.  She's complained in the past how hard some of the bigger dildos are to manage.  The handle helped today.

I do still take the hour before we play and make sure I'm well cleaned out down there for Jackie.  After several rinsing and what I expel is clear then I go lay ass up in the bed ready for Jackie to come take care of business.

I will have several orgasms while Jackie is in me, rubbing my prostate from inside.  Not necessarily cumming, but definitely orgasms.  Eyes rolling, body shaking, OMG orgasms.  It's something I've only experienced while she's rubbing my prostate. And after the fact I'm fine.  I swear within 5 minutes of being done, while I have that post orgasmic chill, my ass doesn't hurt at all.  Even afterwards it never bothers me in any way shape or form.  It feels great.  I'm pretty sure it has to do with LOTS of lube and Jackie taking her time to stretch me every time.

I won't lie, the first several times we ever tried it just didn't seem like it was going to go.  Jackie stopped when I asked, and we never gave up.  Finally after several days, over several months, of trying it finally made it. Now we never have an issue and we always have a great time. 

Hope this helps, comment below with questions or other suggestions if you'd like.

Dane

Sexuary 2015 - Sex Toy Myth Buster

So before we get started with Sexuary 2015, I felt like maybe we should go over some myths about sex toys.  There are plenty out there and if we’re going to talk about how they can make your sex life better, we should understand what they can and can’t do. 

Myth – Toys are for just for lonely women

Fact – The adult sex toy industry is over $15 billion a year industry.  That would be a lot of lonely women. Let’s face it I remember a day when if you wanted to get a sex toy you had to pull up to the back side of a brick building that looked non-descript that was at least 50 miles from your home, and put on your sunglasses to walk into a poorly lit area and quickly grab a toy before someone you knew pulled in and recognized you. It’s the way it was.  Now between internet sales and brightly lit stores that cater to women and couples there is no reason not to have sex toys.  There are now parties that are hosted at homes so it’s more personal, and the days of the seedy sex stores are all but gone.  The sex stores today are nice, clean, well lit businesses that cater to women in a lot of respects. 

It’s estimated that in the 70’s only about 1% of the women had sex toys, today over 50% have them.  Shows like Sex In The City and the Rabbit toy used have made sex toys more socially acceptable.

Oh, and let’s not forget the men side to the industry.  Yeap, toys are for men too, and as more and more men are talking about it more and more are trying them, both on their significant others and on themselves.

Myth – Sex toys will stretch me out and I won’t be able to feel my partner or will be too loose for him. 

Fact – A sex toy small or large is not going to permanently stretch you out.  Your muscles in the vagina will get looser over time hence the Kegels and keeping the muscles in shape. But the toys are not going to cause that stretching any more than having sex with a large guy is going to stretch you.   I found several references to Betty’s Barbells that can assist you in your Kegels if you’re interested.  You might look up vaginal barbells or Betty's Barbell if you want some more info.  But bottom line is a big fat dildo/vibrator isn’t going to ruin you for a man.

Myth – I’ll be electrocuted if I use my vibrator in the shower.

Fact – The reason they make waterproof vibrators are to protect your investment in the vibrator.  The moisture getting into the battery compartment will ruin most vibrators.  The small amperage and voltage used in vibrators could if conditions were just perfect, a complete circuit out of the battery compartment you could possibly, maybe, get a small zap like a light switch in the winter.  So basically you’d have to submerge the vibrator to cause a circuit. But conditions would have to be perfect and the zap would not in any way be life threatening.  For the record most ‘waterproof’ vibrators have a rubber ring between the battery compartment and the top or plate that encloses it.

You still need to make sure the battery compartment is dried out or your vibrator is waterproof if you don’t want to ruin your vibrator after playing in the shower.

Myth – No real man would use a sex toy with his partner

Fact - A recent survey by the University of Indiana's Kinsey Institute shows that 45 percent of American men have used vibrators in partner sex at least once. One in 10 has done so in the past month. So the ‘real man’ thing is out the window.  Look in cars we put superchargers to make the engine run better.  In sports we train with weights to go longer or higher or whatever.  Sometimes it just makes the sex better when we’re outside of our norm or have some add-ons.  But if I’ve heard it once I’ve heard it a dozen times, “a vibrator just isn’t the same as a cock, and sometimes a girl just needs a good cock fucking.” A vibrator doesn't say "I love you" or make dinner or take her to the movies when it's all done either. So have no fear guys, it might get her through the moment, even a long spell, but bottom line most women still want you in the end…the toys, they just put the spice on the meal.

Myth – Sex toys are just for women

Fact – Most sex toys can be used on both sexes.  A vibrator or dildo doesn’t know the difference between a vagina and a rectum.  Prostate or Perineum stimulation from a vibrator can be extremely pleasurable for a male.  Whips and paddles don’t care the sex of the flesh they land on.  A butt plug doesn’t care the sex it finds, it just wants to squeeze between some ass cheeks and firmly plant in an asshole.  Guys have several places that can be stimulated by adult toys.  And that doesn’t even cover the ‘pocket pussy’ or similar devices that help him masturbate. So no, sex toys aren’t just for women.

And just because we’re talking about men and toys, I’m going to make the clear statement here, NO you are not gay because you like your prostate stimulated.  It means you’re opening up to another way to have an amazing orgasm.  The fact that to reach that part is through your ass is just an engineering design issue, but does not mean you are gay. 

Myth – Good sex toys cost a lot.  

Fact – We’ve found toys for less than $10 that was on our favorite list.  We’ve found toys that cost over $100 that were junk.  We’ve picked up very good toys over $100 and crap less than $25.  It really depends on the toys and what you want.  Generally, not always, the quality of the toys material and it’s life expectancy of a higher price toy is better, but that doesn’t make it a better toy. This week we posted a picture of our toys, and someone pointed out we have a $4 ping pong paddle in our collection.  Damn fine toy it is!!! Everyone has their own personal preference on toys, so if a $10 toy hits the spot right, then that’s the toy for you.  We’ll talk about the different parts of toys at another time, but make sure if at all possible you try any electronics before you purchase it, or if you’re getting it online that you can return it if it’s a real dud.

Myth – If I use vibrators I won’t be able to have an orgasm with a man later on.

Fact - No, not true. Sometimes women use vibrators to learn how to give themselves orgasms and can then better explain to their partners how to make them have an orgasm. Sometimes it will help get a woman 'warmed up' easier than other methods. But the one doesn't exclude the other.

Per a Brown University study most women orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and not vaginal stimulation and many would never have an orgasm with just intercourse no matter what the guy did. 

Hope these facts help us move into Sexuary with an open mind about toys and their use in the bedroom (or where ever you might us them).  

If you have another question or heard something about sex toys please ask below or send a messge to us. 

Remember if you'd like to join us for this years Sexuary Play Time Facebook group you have just a couple of more days to find us and join in the upcoming fun.  You can lurk in the shadows or be in the middle of the conversation, there is no pressure to be in the middle of anything in the group.  But if you want to have full access you must join before Sexuary starts.  

Dane

Anal, Dildos, Fisting (Day 2)

Ok, I know this is a repeat, but i think it will take a few times this month to stretch my ass to fist.  Once we've acchieved it we might change a couple of the future ones. I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites.  You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard.  If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.

While you're on my backside I'd like you to vary it some, push me as much as you can in what ever you decide to do that day, here's a couple of ideas:
   1) The hot oils on my genitals
   2) Spank my ass, I'm talking really spank it. If you'd like to use a paddle or something like that please do. I'm even ok if you want to use the whip or something on my back. A whelp or 2 (or 10) is ok for this month.
   3) You can use clothes pins on my sack, or penis, or where ever you'd like
   4) One of the days you might cuff me(I have a pair of handcuffs, I just need to make sure I have the key)
   5) Each day you can decide if you want to tie me down, gag me, blindfold me, etc. or just bend me over.
   6) I know we'd have to move bring stuff downstairs, but it might actually be easier for you to bend me over the sofa arm and attacking me.At least once or 2x *hint hint*

So today was day 2 of the anal/fisting on me.  Jackie added a vibrating egg underneath her strap on so that she would get some good vibs too.  I never expected that I would feel those vibrations as well as I did too. I'll be modifying her her strap on with a pocket so she can add her egg when we play in the future.  .  

She tried some new positions for her that sent me over the top quickly.  Amazing what a good prostate massage will do for a guy.  It didn't take me long to scream that I was there and was definitely well satisfied with the session.

Unfortunately I've found no matter how much lube we use, and we apply it very liberally, the motion will eventually get to me more than the trying to stretch me will.  So it's easier to try to fist me first then have her use her strap on on me then it is to go the other way around.  Now the burn goes away quickly (within an hour) and honestly it feels amazing as it 'calms down' so I don't mind, but we weren't able to try fisting today. 
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Oh, and did I mention that she took me up on #2?  First she spanked me with her hand, then a ping pong paddle we bought for the occasion.  OH MY!  She would swat my bottom then kiss where she spanked.  It was the truest sense of pleasure and pain.  The fine line between Ouch that !@#$$%  hurts and OUCH that feels !@#$% fantastic.  She said my bottom was nice and red before she bent me over and had her way with me.  I just know it was hot. Giving her control like that was great!

We tried several new things this afternoon and we both enjoyed it. On the excitement scale it ranked right up there off the chart. It was new.  It was different.  It was mutually enjoyable.  That's just a small benefit to what this Sexuary is all about for Jackie and I.  Are you doing something to help you make a change in your relationship?  We're 1/3rd of the way done with Sexuary, don't wait do something today!

Dane

Man what a day...it just seemed to go on and on and on.  I really thought we might not get to play today.  I have been battling a headache for 2 days.  I have managed to push through them and while I get some relief for an hour or so they do come back with a vengence. 
I normally I tell Dane, to be ready when I get home from work, and be ass up waiting for me.  Today, I told him to get ready but he did not have to be ass up.  I swear I was waiting forever but in reality it was only a few minutes.  I was anxious, even though he thought I was not "into it" I really was, I just wasn't sure what I was supposed to do while waiting.  He usually has stuff all set out that he wants to me use, or hints on what he wants to do to him.  I really was like a fish out of the water.  I floundered around, going through our toy drawer, looking and shuffling around trying to "feel the right thing".  I took out some things and put them on the side table, went and strapped on my dildo, got some new batteries for a new egg I had just gotten.  
I just had this urge to come up behind him and play with him with him on his side.  He had a nice butt plug in and man was it hot! There is NOTHING that beats giving him a nice ass fuck...I decided to just try some new things, I spanked him with my hand and then asked him if he would like me to use the paddle.  OMG it was awesome, as I spanked him and he would shiver with pleasure, I would get a good whack then bend down kiss and caress and bite where I just spanked...It sent me OVER the edge...OH my...I know he wanted me to try and get that fist in him but damn I just really really did I say really wanted to ram that ass! And boy did I! Between my egg and my orgasm it was a night I would not forget.  My body hasn't let me forget either, I have sore muscles that I had no idea I had that reminded me all day long the great play session we had yesterday.
Jackie

Anal, Dildos, Fisting

I know we've done this before, but it's definitely one of my favorites.  You strap on a dildo and fuck my ass hard.  If you'd like you could add a firm and solid beating of my ass with a paddle or crop or what ever you decide it would be a good day for it.

Ok, so I don't know when it started...a year or two ago I guess, but somewhere along the way I got the fantasy to be anally fisted.  In the mean time Jackie told me how she'd like to strap on a dildo and give me a good ass fucking.  Seems like a match made in heaven...almost.

So over the last year or so every 3 or 4 months Jackie will get a whim and tell me to be ready when she gets home from work.  I know that means to leave the strap on downstairs and have my ass in the air with something in it.  I will start about 30 minutes ahead of time and work on a small to large dildo so that when she gets home she can start with the really large dildos or her fist.  We get sooooo close but have yet to manage to get either her fist or one of the fisting dildos we have in me.

Now if you know anything about fisting it's really a work up to thing.  Lots of lube, easy going, and most of all lots of patience.  It doesn't matter if you're talking vaginal fisting or anal it takes all three to be successful.  I have several times fisted a woman vaginally, so I know a bit of what it takes.  And while everything 'springs' back into place, the more you do it, especially in a shorter period of time, the more receptive the orifice is.  The every 3 - 4 months we've been at it haven't really been close enough to matter.  So we've scheduled 6 times in 2 weeks with the understanding if I reach my goal, we'd change the rest of the days to other fetishes.  It was actually Jackies idea to put that many days in the schedule, so who was I to refuse her?

In preparation for one of the future days I've played several times over the last 2 weeks with a large butt plug to open me up some.  It seemed to help today.  While Jackie was pushing she made it past the knuckles on the first anal ring.  I couldn't quite handle the final push but was further than we've ever gotten before. There were a couple of times I though I might just be able t make it, but it just wasn't to be.  I feel like in the next time or two we have a great chance of meeting my fetish fantasy, especially since they are so close together, including back to back days at the end of next week if we don't succeed before that. And after the fisting attempts Jackie slides her temporary cock in my ass and pounds away until I'm about to cum.  Yes, it will get me that excited just by the anal stimulation.  There have been times there will be a puddle of precum under me before she'll let me finish off.  My prostate thanks her.

You'd think I would barely be able to walk after playing, but honestly I have this great feeling coming from my bottom.  I think if it could purr we'd be hearing it.  So we'll see if we succeed in the next week or so. 

Six wonderful days of pushing our boundaries.  Like I said yesterday the preparedness has made the entire week easy on us and so freaking enjoyable. Have you gotten into the Sexuary game yet?  If not why not?  Again, you don't have to do anything like we are doing.  What we are doing this month is totally out of our box.  To say we're pushing the limit is to put it mildly.  So if laying next to your partner and just rubbing on them quietly is what is pushing your limits, then try it! But doing nothing will get you nowhere.  Start today to make advances in making your relationship better!!!

Dane

I love this day...I am not sure why but I do.  We have done this day several times already, and love this day! There is something powerful and exciting in tell Dane to be ready for an ass fuck.  I can see it in my head all day long leading up to it.  This time we have decided to push the limit and try to fist him.  We have tried before using my hand, and a few different toys to get there.  NO luck, we could get it partially but just had not made any progress.  I know its probably because we dont play like this very often(even though Dane loves a good ass fucking, he craves it sometimes). so this month its on there several times.  Yesterday was an incredible day, I came home from work and his ass was up in the air, filled with a nice size butt plug and there is something about that site, it is breath taking! I crawled up behind him and pulled it out, and got out on the toys we have that is shaped like fist and I really trying to slowly work it in.  We had a bit of success, as it went in more than it has before. Let me tell you it was HOT.  I think I creamed myself while doing this to him!
It was a very exciting day.  

Have you ever looked at your box? Is there something there that you do on a regular basis? Can you spice that up just a little? Thats what we are doing.  We are really pushing limits and pushing each other.  You know what the best part is, and when we are all snuggled in bed each night and we talk about the day, what we liked, what we didn't, what we could change, do we want to do this again? I think if anything its really opened the door to communication and what is wrong with that!

Oh we are on day 7 and we have both been like wow its day 7 already...Its flown by super fast already..Today we have flipped a couple day around due to some doctor apps for me,  Wonder how the the foot fetish day will be...

Jackie