Ever since our first Sexuary that we went out on a limb and started trying 'kinky' stuff, anal fisting on me has been 1 of my absolute favorites. Honestly Jane has confided that there is something about having her hand and wrist deep in my ass that's pretty hot for her too. It's one of those that not only gets me off, but has a long lasting calming for me. It will embrace my entire body and release all the tension from the top of my head to my toes.
This year, once again, life tried to get in my way of this favorite of favorite nights. It's hard make sure your sex life is a number 1 priority, and that's part of what Sexuary is about, putting it back as a priority in our relationship. But instead of saying 'fuck it' because it got late and because Jackies day had started with her throwing up from migraines, we made it happen. I did NOT regret it.
We tried some new lube we'd been recommended for fisting, J-Lube. Gotta tell you, if you want to deal with cold stringy cheese that will create a spiders web of lube then this stuff will work. One container will make a ton of lube, but so far we're not impressed. So Jackie quickly switched back to our favoirte for this Elbow Grease. In fairness to J-Lube I did read where you can microwave it ahead of time and it will change that 'snottiness'. We'll try that another time when I can premix it earlier in the day.
But Jackie caressed my asshole into opening up after a little work and sure enough she reached in and hit that spot. There is NOTHING like when someone hits that spot deep inside of me.
So a few "FAQs" that we always get:
1) Yes, I always take about an hour ahead of time and 'clean out'. Multiple flushes of enemas until I'm getting clear fluid. Sometimes that's 45 minutes, sometimes that 90 minutes, but it's well worth the time for me. And while I actually get off a little on enemas, I'll admit the 90 minute times are a lot.
2) Yes, we use TONS of lube. If you think you've used enough you're probably only 1/2 way there. This is an ass, and it's not self lubricating and normally you're not putting large objects in it, so LOTs of lube is probably an understatement.
3) Yes, sometimes it will still make a bit of a mess. But I keep a towel under me, a towel on the side for all the toys to sit on, and a towel for Jackie to use to wipe anything she needs. Even if it's just the mess of the lube it requires a bit of preplanning to prevent a mess.
4) Does it hurt? I'll admit there is 1 point right before her hand slides completely in that stretches me to my limit. It's a bit uncomfortable and a twinge of pain...but my mind knows that little bit of pain is about to bring a lot of joy. And honestly it's only the first time her fist goes in. After that she can go in and out without any problem. Once her hand has been in there my muscles relax and you could drive a Mac truck in there I think.
5) After effects? This is the odd one to me, honestly, except for the entire body euphoria, within 5 minutes of us finishing up, my ass feels nothing out of the ordinary. NOTHING! It doesn't hurt, it doesn't tingle, it's like it never happened. Now we only do this every 6 - 12 weeks, so there's been no other side effects either. Ok, honestly I'd do it more often, but it is a lot of work.
This time Jackie surprised me by taking a couple of pictures with her hand deep in my ass. She knows how much I love pictures, and I didn't ask, she just did it. Gotta love a partner who surprises you like that!
You know when we started, I already loved anal play, but let's face it fisting brings it to a whole other dimension. It was out of the box and definitely a 'kink' play for us. AND if you read through the 2013 blog, it didn't 'just happen'. It took us several times before my ass accepted it and her knowledge of what's back there allowed it to happen. But we went there and tried it and today it's definitely top of my list.
So get out there, try SOMETHING different. You don't have to stick a hand up someones ass, though if you do bravo to you. Maybe some finger play in an ass is a new and fantastic sensation. Maybe just touching all over your partners body is different. But go there and try it! Do something different and get out of that rut.
Dane
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