Years ago the blog that got us to start Sexuary (www.welcometomybrain.net), and ultimately this blog, talked about a backyard bar-b-que. Yeap, anal sex was the topic of the day. Now it’s no secret that I love to be fisted. I love things in my ass even. But not everyone has that same burning passion (pun intended) to have their ass played with.
The deal is I LOVE anal sex as much as I love receiving anal. Jackie on the other hand is more so-so on it most of the time. There are occasions over our time together she’s literally told me “fuck me in the ass NOW” and I being the loving partner that I am have obliged her. Who am I to tell her no to any request, especially a request like that? But those request come pretty rare. And a day dedicated to anal play on Jackie is even rarer. Those are Sexuary type days.
So what are some of the things when it comes to anal sex for us? Well first of all we go through a lot of lube. Nope, not enough, keep going and then add more just in case. You’ve almost got enough lube now. A LOT of lube is require so that you don’t tear anything in there. This isn’t a self-lubricating vagina. And that means that my fingers are doing a lot of work before I ever enter her. I’ll make sure not just 1 but a couple of fingers can comfortably slide in and out before I try to penetrate her. This whole time we’re kissing or making out relaxing and getting her a bit built up. If your partner isn’t relaxed, this will never be enjoyable!
So one of the other things Jackie likes is for us to get out one of her vibrators and she’ll play with it on her clit while I’m getting her ready. This will help relax her and not think as much about the anal play about to happen. Then and only then does the anticipated fun get to start. I love the feel of sliding in her ass. Even though her vagina is extremely tight (will push me out often as she orgasms) it’s a very different feel and I’m sure the taboo and the fact it’s not every day makes it even more exciting for me.
Now the other thing is most of the time I don’t cum right away. And before we get to the full fledge bar-b-que I will try to be conscious and we will finish me off another way. I want to get to visit that bar-b-que stand another day, and so don’t want to burn it to the ground. Seriously, I ask Jackie if she’s still ok often, and any hesitation I pull out and we go another route. I get it, honestly the fisting is actually easier on the burning than the rubbing sensation for a fuck in your ass. A hard dildo fuck on my ass will start to burn after a while, and I’ve never had that sensation with a fist in my ass. So be considerate as to how long you’re in your partners ass.
Take aways? If you want to put some meat on the bar-b-que, make sure there is LOTs of bar-b-que sauce so it’s enjoyable for everyone, work up to it, and make sure you’re prepped a head of time, and then never over cook your meat in the pit.
Give it a try. Maybe you just play with your finger in your partners ass for a couple of days at first. Maybe it won’t ever get there. But if the stars align, there could be a tasty meal in your future!