tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274463954977704733.post8852205245644711406..comments2023-05-21T20:19:08.103-05:00Comments on Sexuary - Our Daily Journal: Swingers Club / Couple SwapJackie and Danehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08495839483777696267noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274463954977704733.post-35714273467431777402013-03-20T20:01:51.038-05:002013-03-20T20:01:51.038-05:00I love that you shared your story. I can relate i...I love that you shared your story. I can relate in man ways. When my husband and I started swinging, the first couple of times were completely unsatisfactory to me. The men of the two couples we tried couldn't get hard at all. At first I felt bad, but then I was just over it. It takes "special knowledge" for my lover to make me cum anyway, and these guys just were not hitting it. Since then, we have discovered that screening is everything. We both chat with the couples, and we both must be attracted to our potential partners. If not, it's game over.<br /><br />And I have found that even if they seem great at first, sometimes you still have to say "No way in hell," and count your losses. I steer clear of anyone pushy or someone that has to use a pill to get it going. But it's almost like dating. You get a LOT of losers (you don't necessarily sleep with all of them) and eventually you find a keeper. That's the couple you can have both a friendship and a sexual relationship with.<br /><br />Hope you guys didn't get too burned on trying! If it goes well, it can be AMAZING!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785547004817899919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2274463954977704733.post-66407479636399251592013-02-04T10:16:53.160-06:002013-02-04T10:16:53.160-06:00Wow. I really appreciate your vulnerability and h...Wow. I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty with this blog. <br /><br />And just so you know: most of the swinger/poly people I know (men) could not get it up/keep it up the first time they had penetration with someone other than their wife. Sometimes it happened for quite a while. A few men have a issue with it off and on. It happens all the time, and has nothing to do with the other woman. <br /><br />Throw in using a condom, which many men don't have to use with their wives, and it just further complicates it all. Their brains can mess around with being horny just like a woman. <br /><br />I hope you don't think I'm pushing you to try swinging again. That is not why I'm commenting. I can tell that it was a negative experience for you for other reasons. I just wanted to make sure you were not obsessing over the "why" of what happened. Because I'm a woman and I know how hard we can be on ourselves. You are gorgeous, sexy and fucking HOT. <br /><br />I don't think Dane would be writing all of this stuff if it weren't true.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com